Help ?, It might sound lame. Options

[bby cakesx]

Okay okay. I need help. Usually, I'm not the kind of girl that's up for love and cry over a broken heart. My friends know that I hate HATE listening about their boy problems like 'Why doesn't he like me?!?!?'. If someone breaks my heart, I would be the person that would be like 'oh well' and move on. Yet, if that's my philosophy, why can't I get over this?

A few months ago I met this guy from his best friend. His best friend had a crush on me, but I had a crush on him. In the end, he asked me out. I said yes. We went out secretly because if his best friend found out, it wouldn't be pretty. Plus, I'm not the kind of girl that shows off her girlfriend. We went out for 2 months and a few weeks, and he ended because he was scared that his best friend would find out. I was heartbroken and cried for like three hours straight. A week later, his friend got over me and we started to go out again. The next week, I ended it. It didn't feel the same. Like our feelings faded. At the time, it was fine. I was okay & thought I moved on. A few days ago, I thought about the times we were together. Now I completely miss him. I can't ask him out again because, I know he's already fallen for another girl. I can't get him out of my head. Or the times we were together. I definately want to move on, because I know if I keep thinking about it.. I'm going to get hurt more. Yet, I can't.
Help ? I can't go to my friends or family because remember it was a secret relationship.
I know. It's lame. It annoys me too.
Yes, I know. It's my fault that I let him go. Yadadada... at the time, it felt nessessary.
Thanks<3

[showstopper!]

Just stick with your philosophy and move on.

[OhMyAnniee]

^ Agree. You need to move on. You can't stay in the past.

[MyEverLastingHop...]

I also agree.

But, just something to think on, shouldn't he be willing to be with you no matter the cost?
If I were in the situation, I would put in my all. If the best friend found out, so be it. You can't choose who your attracted to, you are not to blame and neither is he.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Was he your first? By first I mean your first relationship.
If he is that might explain why you feel the way you do at the moment.

I know from my own experince as well as from others..
The first relationship is always one that is
the hardest to forget and or move away from.
Memories of the first stick onto a person more then others I believe..
I was fortunate to have a lovely person for my first and the memories
left behind from being with that person was kept and cherished.

Errrm okay back to the point before I daze off.
If he is your first, do give it some time.
What makes you happy besides him?
Take up a past hobby that you
poured your heart into and adored.
Hang out with friends and have a laugh..
Don't force yourself into falling for another guy even though for
some people it remains the easiest way to get over a person..

Cry it all out if needed and think over it
so you can try to stable yourself down. It's not your fault
that your feelings don't come out the way you want it to.
I'm sorry I'm not too much of a help
but I hope things work out for the best dear.

[MyEverLastingHop...]

Oh, I never thought of that.

First REAL relationships are usually hard to get over. Most people feel lost or very emotionally distressed.

On another matter, why do you think your feelings faded?
Could it maybe be because your relationship was more fun, being a secret, then when you guys realised you could both be free with your relationship, you lost interest?

[bby cakesx]

He's my third boyfriend, but I'm pretty sure it's like my first REAL relationship. Because the last two, I didn't care THIS much when we broke up. I really fell hard for this kid, didn't I. unconfirmed_existance, thanks. You helped a lot. So did everyone else!