New bf & ex Options

[brthtkrsmlfkr]

Okay, I don't know what I should do. A couple of months ago I was dating this guy and we had one of those on again off again relationships. I really liked him & he was the first guy to take my breath away, to be corny. We broke up after a while because I was scared to let him in. We were still friends and hung out and everything. That was about two months ago. Now about three weeks ago, he came over and we hung out. We ended up in a tickle fight, ending with me on top of him just kinda staring at him. Later that night, I told him I still had feelings for him and he told me he had given up on me and liked someone else. So basically, I was crushed.

Then like a month ago, I started talking to one of my ex's friends who I had a class with last year. We started to like each other and started dating about a week ago. Now, he's a really nice guy & I know he would be very good for me. He's polite, cares about me, and really likes me. But he doesn't give me butterflies or take my breath away. And I don't think I'm completely over my ex.

Every night when I'm trying to sleep I end up thinking about my ex and all the fun times we had. Just everything about him. I try really hard to not think about him because I feel bad since I have a bf and all. I've stopped talking to my ex and I've stopped going to his myspace and everything. I'm trying really really hard to get over him so I can have a good relationship with my boyfriend.

I just don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about my ex. I'm getting no sleep at night because he's all I can think about. I really miss him. And I can't tell my bf because it would crush him and start so much drama.

So, what do I do? Try really hard to forget my ex or tell my bf & just be single so I can work everything out?

[*a painefull euphoria*]

keep trying to forget your ex.
and move on with your bf.
and see how that goes along.
if that fails then you may have to be single for a while.

[OhMyAnniee]

Ah, at first I thought this was going to be like those "I'm so happy but now my ex told me that he loved me." Phew.

Anyways, maybe you should ask your ex why he gave up on you? You really shouldn't go back to your ex seeing that it was on/off, and that would just leave both of you stuck.

I think there is a slight chance that you're comparing this new guy to your ex? To all your 'happy times'?

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Sounds like you're having a tough time there.
Time heals many wounds, if you truely do like
the guy you're currently with,
give it a bit of time and try to enjoy
your time with your current boyfriend,
I'm sure if you're with the guy and like the guy eventually
most of the feelings and memories of your ex will fade away..

I can't say for sure but give things a try. It's only been a week,
that's probably why you're still a bit hung up on the last guy.

Good luck to you dearest, hope you find a solution to your problem!

[me1issaaaa]

That kind of how it was with me. I was in a pretty long relationship with my ex, and I was devistated when we broke up. We started talking again and almost picked things back up a month or two later, but then I met my current boyfriend. I ended things completely with my ex, because I was afraid of him hurting me again, and I started dating my current boyfriend. For a while I wasn't sure if I was over my ex, and it lasted a while. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and I'm very, very happy with him. I'm glad I didn't get back with my ex, because I know things would never have worked out a second time. The only thing I regret is how I started things with my boyfriend so soon after getting out of a relationship... I wish I would have waited a little longer, but things worked out how they were supposed to, I guess. We're going strong and we're both very happy with each other.

Idk if that helped, but... either way, I know what you're going through. Take your time... don't rush anything if you're not completely sure that's what you want to do, but you said your ex is over you, so... just try and focus on moving on. I hope this new relationship isn't just a rebound.

Good luck. (Sorry this is kind of hard to understand, it's pretty late and I'm beat.)

[y0urelectrikk]

I was in the sameeee exact situation about a month ago.
fortunitly for me, something happened between me and my ex.. and he took me back.
but if your sure your ex doesn't like you.. you should just keep trying to forget him.
Spend more time with this new guy. Over time you'll forget your ex, even if you feel like you never will.. you will.

[lilJdawg]

I was in the same situation that you're in. Is he your first love? I guess you should try to keep on forgetting about your ex and try to move on with your new boyfriend. You have to realize that your new boyfriend won't be the same as your ex. Stay strong!

[SimplicityGirl]

Um..well you're not being very fair to your boyfriend then. You're not loving him with your whole heart if you're still thinking about your ex. Not to try to sound rude, but how would you like it if you're in a relationship with a guy who still thinks a lot about his ex girlfriend? You would feel like he's not putting his whole heart into the relationship...which is what you're doing.

Get over your ex. No matter how hard that is, do it. Especially if he has no feelings for you whatsoever. Dwelling on the past won't bring him back to you, nor it will make you forget him and move on. Being single might help speed up this process.

[asung88]

break up with both of them, and get with a guy who gives you butterflies and all that jazz. I sound homo but whatever. Do as you wish. If I was in your shoes but vice versa, I would do what I suggested.

[Intercourselyts]

^Shes not with two guys though The guy that gives her the butterflies is her ex boyfriend, and she doesn't know if shes over him and shes going out with 1 guy at the moment which is friends with her ex.

I would highly suggest just telling your boyfriend the truth, tell him you need to tell him something and tell him your confused because you don't know if you still have feelings for your ex boyfriend or not and if your truly over him. And that you need to work it out on your own and in other words break up with him and get over your ex or just figure everything out on your own or well you can have help of course too.

I wouldn't stay in the relationship though, its a bit rude in a way to have feelings for someone and then be in a relationship with someone else. Some people will end up assuming things that aren't true.

[GREASEbaby]

talk to your bf about it.
if he really knows you, eventually he'll figure it out.
and it's better to tell him yourself and work it out calmly instead of him figuring it out, he'll be heartbroken most likely, and i know you don't want that.
so talk to him. if he understands and helps you out, then he's probably a really good guy.if he doesn't, drop him.