he dumps me and explains with lousy excuses..., is it bs or the truth? Options

[muffingirlsays]

My bf and I met last year, in a school club (Model UN). He was a delegate and I was a researcher and apparently I had been 'mean and apathetic' to him, thus intriguing him. We started talking - like friends - this year and we've gotten closer. He told me a lot of things and we shared similar ideas. He has never lied to me and he really cares. But two weeks before we broke up he was oddly distant to me and always deep in thought. We barely hugged or talked about things.

I dont know if I'm over reacting or not, but he (who's lasted only two months) dumps me saying that he feels that we dont 'match' anymore. He was going to give me an explanation, but I sort of demanded him to tell me.

me: I need to know. tell me.
him: ...well, this is hard for me too...
me: ...you're breaking up with me.
him: ...*hesitates* ... *nods*

I ask him online (because we really dont have time to talk; five minute MAX) to go into detail about WHY he broke up. He starts to tell me that he wasn't of any use to him and then says that he was a distracting to me. I see right through that and demand (again with the demanding) that he tell me the truth. So he says... "we've been drifting off" and that he thinks we're better off as friends. But the thing is... we really HAVE been drifting off. Before we started dating - we didnt really know much about one another - we were talking about spontaneous topics. and when we started dating it's been...strained. He tells me it's overkill to say that dating is like being handcuffed to the wall of a dungeon. I bought his explanation... for five minutes. until I realized that he's been giving me a list of excuses so far. This could've been another excuse. I tell him that I felt he was making up excuses and he says "get over it, it's done - -;; I'm still trying to forget it." And he also added that he was feeling confused and lost.

I confront him about it the next day, and he just nods, saying that he was telling the truth. and the thing is... my friend - who i am never trusting again - just blabbered my story to the school and now so many people know. (help me with this too girls x__x;; )


so what do you think - was he bsing or telling the truth?

thanks in advance

[Simba]

Moved to Relationships

[Comptine]

i hate to break it to you but no one ever has to give a good reason for breaking up. sometimes, things just happen. he probably was telling the truth. yeah, it might just seem like an excuse to you but i think you're looking for some super dramatic reason that he's doing against his will or something.

sometimes things just don't work. 'drifting apart' is a very vague but people can feel if a relationship isn't going to work.

you broke up and you don't think his reasons are good enough. you need to let it go and move on. you're reading too much into it. after awhile, you'll be perfectly fine and meet someone new.

[_sarcastic_]

^i agree..
he could be telling the truth, who knows?
i don't think think that you should be dwelling on it any longer...
forget about it and move on..

[*a painefull euphoria*]

i think he was being honest when i broke up with you beacuse he felt you guys were drifting apart.

[Stalwart Steve]

If you are still wondering, it's probably because you wouldn't put out.

[show_me]

Spread a rumor that his dick was small and couldn't get up!

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Relationships can end pretty weird,
I recall my last ex turning cold on me
for a few weeks and ending the relationship.
I was fine at first but then with bits that happened afterwards,
Jebus did it unraveled and became a mess.

I found out the reason after
a bit of arguing and some tears a month or so later..
Not that it changed how we feel about each other though
let's just say we don't even talk anymore because
how often arguements break out when we do.

It probably isn't the same case for you,
but it might be best to move on even if the
reason why he broke it off with you was lousy!

[FoxLucky]

Relationships are hard. I guess he didn't feel that you guys could sustain one, and no matter whatever 'reason' he had... I would let it go. I wouldn't waste anymore time on it, as hard as that is to do...

[***Lucy**]

i hate to break it to you but no one ever has to give a good reason for breaking up. sometimes, things just happen. he probably was telling the truth. yeah, it might just seem like an excuse to you but i think you're looking for some super dramatic reason that he's doing against his will or something.

sometimes things just don't work. 'drifting apart' is a very vague but people can feel if a relationship isn't going to work.

you broke up and you don't think his reasons are good enough. you need to let it go and move on. you're reading too much into it. after awhile, you'll be perfectly fine and meet someone new.

I totally agree.

Btw, I think u should try to find out why ur friend did that. It was so mean of her.

[*mzkandi*]

Not too sound rude or anything but take your ex-boyfriend's advice and get over it. I know that it's hard but it's for the best if you simply move on. Continuing to cling on him for answers will make you look desperate and pathetic. I've seen too many girls do this and it's sad to watch. Whether he is bs'ing or telling the truth, it really doesn't matter at this point because one thing is clear ; he doesn't want to be with you.