gf AND bf?, I don't think its right. Options

[pikimoo]

A lot of people at my school think it's okay to have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. And a lot of them do. I just don't think it's right. Isn't it just the same thing as cheating??

[LiNHy POO]

whoa that doesnt happen in my school!!!! never happen with me b4... i dont care.. there business not mine..

[visualfusion]

Well, it's basically the practice of polygamy... which is illegal, once in the marrage stage... so why should it be legal in the bf/gf stage?

[Winter]

That's wrong. That's cheating. Who's wanna get into a weird relationship with 3 people anyway?

[craziplaya21]

i dont care. it doesnt matter as long as its consensual

[xquizit]

Bwahahaha. That's cheating, maaayn.

[177emories]

i think thats alright

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

if it's okay with all of them and there is no lying about the relationships who cares ..

[cmgchica717]

See I dunno, I would say it is considered cheating but then if they all consent to it who cares so I guess I am nuetral on the matter, and I guess I can say I lean more to Its their business not mine

[hybrid]

Doesn't really matter. But I think it would be better to love one person. That way, no one feels jealous or anything.

[xrachx]

Well if a girl is bisexual..the guy usually wouldn't mind the girl having other girls (as long as they're not guys) because a lot of guys find two girls a turn on. That's just my opinion..
However, if the person wants to be taken seriously I guess she/he should just stick to one person.

[Snickerz]

i don't have too many bisexual friends (that i know of), most are either heterosexual or homosexual, but i could see problems escalating from someone having both a b/f and a g/f as far as jealousy, time, attention, affection, intimacy, etc. is concerned ... but to be honest, it's nobody's business but theirs, so more power 2 ya

[expoised]

that wouldn't be fair, its like a straight person going out with 2 guys or girls at the same time.

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

i think its wrong too. i mean how is it different?? but yea my bi-sexual friend he has a g.F and a b.F. i just shake my head at him. its called cheating thats whats it called.

jackie

[pikimoo]

melissa,Jun 4 2004, 11:31 PM] that wouldn't be fair, its like a straight person going out with 2 guys or girls at the same time.

^ thats what I thought. Even with consent.. no.

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

Swapping spit and other bodily fluids with more than one mate is ewww i think. (Cheating)

[xmyapologies]

woah.. i think whatever.. let them do whatever they want.. but thats scary to me cuz i dont have any of these situations at my school

[inn0centmarianne]

whoa that is messed up. that never happens at my school, maybe in highschool? But I never even heard about anything like this going around, I would consider that cheating, doesnt matter if its boy boy girl boy girl girl, still cheating, having more than one person that you "love" at the same time, yup, not right.

[GothpunkGClover]

what does it matter, as long as they aren't trasnmitting aids all over the place, and they want to do what theyr doing, its theyr problem..polls like this are offensive..no im not gay or w.e i just don't see the point.

[islandkiss]

I chose no.. but I really don't care.

[Yemmerz]

...that sounds like some strange kind of pimpin goin on there

[tinababy143]

no because its cheating on both of them with each other..haha..if that made sense

[Mr. Psychotic]

That's wrong. That's cheating. Who's wanna get into a weird relationship with 3 people anyway?

shoot if i got into a relationship with 2 girls and they were both hot....
thats all im going to say!
::walks away::

[LatinaLady]

i say it is cheating becasue lets forget about the gender

person a is going out with c and b
its still cheating unless person c and b dont mind then thats just stupid

[queen]

i dont care. it doesnt matter as long as its consensual

yepp.. if all three parties don't have a problem.. well then let them have their kinky little relationship hahaha.. however, in most other situations, at least one of the three parties would NOT be all right with it.

[justdream08]

they can do what they want with their life, its not our problem to care, unless you are one of those people

[JessJR1022]

Isn't it just the same thing as cheating??

hmmm.... I agree

[angel-roh]

I D0NT THINK IT`Z RIGHT...THAT`Z JUS GAY..GEZ WHAT IS G0ING 0N THIS EARTH? S0 MANY PPLS WH0 ARE TURNING BISEXUALS, GAY, LESBIANS...GEZ WHATS UP WITH THAT? MAN THATS JUS BAD NASTY... AND HAVING A GF AND A BF AT A SAME TIME IS JUS MESSED UP... MAN THAT SHUD BE LEGAL L0LS!! THAT`Z REALLIE GR0SS F0R HAVING A GF AND A BF AT A SAME TIME..EWW... MAN THAT PERS0N MUSTVE HAVE N0 LIFE 0R S0METHING. WAT A L0SER!! WAT`Z G0ING T0 HAPPEN IN THE FUTURE? PRESIDENT BUSH GETTING GAY MARRYING A GUY DUMPING HIS WIFE. GEZ WTF?! L0LS... MAN THIS W0RLD IS G0ING UPSIDE D0WN!! GEZ
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[hurricane_x]

whoa that doesnt happen in my school!!!! never happen with me b4... i dont care.. there business not mine..

my thoughts exactly.

[june_]

no, thats basically just allowing a straight guy/girl have 2 bfs/gfs

[pikimoo]

they can do what they want with their life, its not our problem to care, unless you are one of those people

Okay... you're all saying 'it's their business'

But what if YOU were one of the people in that relationship?

[BurstinStarzz]

...that sounds like some strange kind of pimpin goin on there

haha yeah it does...i think it is wrong...i am sorry but being bi is almost like being gay and if God had intended on having the human race gay he would have made Eve a man!

[simplysweet259]

couldnt that still be considered cheating?

[SarahxJoy]

I think it's okay if someone is bisexual and all. Heck, I have a bi friend. But having both a gf and a bf at the SAME time...isn't right. Pick one people!

[T00000]

A lot of people at my school think it's okay to have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. And a lot of them do. I just don't think it's right. Isn't it just the same thing as cheating??

it's not the same thing as cheating because it's like having a mom and a dad at the same time- imbalanced people haha

[morgs8384]

hrmm i really dont see how this is viewed as not cheating.. lol.. maybe its just me.. i can be dense like that =/

[ichiban]

Um okay, that's a bit strange .. but ..

*No comment

[JlIaTMK]

A lot of people at my school think it's okay to have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. And a lot of them do. I just don't think it's right. Isn't it just the same thing as cheating??

what?! thats cheating.... all because ur bi it doesnt mean u have two relationships at one time.... bi just means that ur attracted to both sexes.... thats the oddest thing ive heard in a while

[JlIaTMK]

haha yeah it does...i think it is wrong...i am sorry but being bi is almost like being gay and if God had intended on having the human race gay he would have made Eve a man!

not all ppl believe on god.... and not all ppl r homophobes

I D0NT THINK IT`Z RIGHT...THAT`Z JUS GAY..GEZ WHAT IS G0ING 0N THIS EARTH? S0 MANY PPLS WH0 ARE TURNING BISEXUALS, GAY, LESBIANS...GEZ WHATS UP WITH THAT? MAN THATS JUS BAD NASTY... AND HAVING A GF AND A BF AT A SAME TIME IS JUS MESSED UP... MAN THAT SHUD BE LEGAL L0LS!! THAT`Z REALLIE GR0SS F0R HAVING A GF AND A BF AT A SAME TIME..EWW... MAN THAT PERS0N MUSTVE HAVE N0 LIFE 0R S0METHING. WAT A L0SER!! WAT`Z G0ING T0 HAPPEN IN THE FUTURE? PRESIDENT BUSH GETTING GAY MARRYING A GUY DUMPING HIS WIFE. GEZ WTF?! L0LS... MAN THIS W0RLD IS G0ING UPSIDE D0WN!! GEZ
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ppl arent turned gay they're born gay

[sutsami09]

I consider having a gf n a bf cheating. Nobody deserves been cheated unless you aloud them to.

[i ami_am]

i think its cheato

[bbyxstac3y]

well iph there biosexual wat can yoo say
i mean yoo can disrepect wat they are and wat not
and iph since they like both sex y should we judge who
they should go out or not? right? well i mean sure
its kinda like cheatin but if they told each other about it
i guess there could be an agreement abotu it

[bad_girl]

yeah it's ok if ur gf is just a friend but if.. um yeah. then i dont think u should have both.. it'd be like two-timing. wouldn't it!?

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a heart is not a play thing, a heart is not a toy; but if u want it broken, give it to a boi...
if it wasnt supposed to heart ..it wouldnt b called a crush

come to my site..

[lilxroxy]

that is cheating in a way..but it`s their buisiness, not mine.

[*tyedyefroggy*]

Where its not my place to say what they can or cannot do. I dont have a problem with that, just as long that g/f isnt me lol

[HelloSunshine]

See I dunno, I would say it is considered cheating but then if they all consent to it who cares so I guess I am nuetral on the matter, and I guess I can say I lean more to Its their business not mine

i aggree totally with you

[*AngelicEyz00*]

yeah... isn't that cheating... kinda??

[ANG33ZY]

No. That's cheating.

[sheddingtears]

that is like cheating and if my bf was bi and he did that, i would really be disappointed.

[sammi rules you]

if they don't care, go ahead.

i wouldn't be ok with it.

[*Weird addiction*]

no its not right,its called cheating!!

[xj_liana_tx]

that's a interesting situation, well i guess it's ok when the person's gf and bf are ok with it.

[heyyfrankie]

no, that's called cheating.

[WishfullDreamer]

not at the same time!!! thats like a straight guy having 2 gfs!!! and THATS definately not ok...

[*Azarel*]

Look up polyamory.
I do believe it's fine for that, if polyamory is in play and such.

[Fatality]

Alright.
Here's my 2 cents.

It's fine if both the girlfriend and boyfriend of that person know about eachother and are ok with it. If not then it is cheating if you continue to date both of them.

The. End.

[177emories]

isn't that kinda liek CHEATING? how can you have 2 significant otehrsa... u can have a gf and THEN a bf or vise versa but not both at the SAME time... thats sooo cheating...

[lyin_in_wait]

i say if your in a relationship with a person STAY WITH THAT PERSON and when your finished move on to the next person

[sheepy]

er thats kinda wrong cus tech. its cheating right??

[xxslithr0atxx]

that's effing weird.

WHYS EVERYONE TURNING GAY & BIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE OMGOSHHHH WE WERE CREATED STRAIGHTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

[lulu424]

[elaboratedream]

unless your partner agrees, its the same thing as cheating.
but I suppose if they all agree to it, its the same thing as an open relationship.

[AnnahhbeL]

if they allow it.
i mean, if theres honesty and trust going on, who cares?

[NgocQuyen]

haha i don't think its right...but..then again..i really don't care...just so long as i'm not in the triangle...

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

i think thats alright

If it's a bisexual emo guy with a girl and another guy...I think it's alright as long as I can watch

[*Programmer*]

ey it's there choice doesn't matter what you think...

[imm]

It's basically cheating...two "significant others." ><;

[Levy2k6]

i forgot the name for having multiple love parteners.. i saw it on Montel.. it was really interesting

it's basically like 3 girls and 3 guys and they are all married and they all love each other. they all like "love" each as in, they all care about each other emotionally and physically.. the guys dont get together but they love each other and what not.. i though it was pretty weird and cool.. lol

[full:O:beans]

NO!! what the hell? how can someone date two people at the same time? I would never go out with someone that's going out with someone else...that's jsut so wrong! it doens't make any difference wether they're bi or not! just gross

[*Zatanna*]

I don't think we're right to say what's right for anyone else.

[Hell-Rell]

yeah....it's called "Pimpin"

[FoxBandCutie08]

As long as everyone is ok with it and everyone knows then I don't see it as being a big problem, it all depends on how you like you relationship to be.

[KissMe2408]

Man...
Talk about the drama..
Having a girlfriend AND a boyfriend?
I mean a boyfriend is hard enough, and then you add a girlfriend as well, and boy i'm sure it gets annoying lol.

Do I think it's right? No, not at all.
I don't get a lot of people, but apparently lots of people think it's perfectly normal, so....

[*Intercourse.*]

No, not at all. I think its just as bad as cheating, end of story.

[*Uronacid*]

Well, it's fine if everyone is open and honest and they don't care, but eventually I think it's going to lead to problems. If I was dating a bi-sexual I would feel like they were cheating on me.

[tokyo-rose]

No, it's not right. It doesn't matter what your orientation is. You should never see two people at once.

[tnt518]

They are bi sexual, so it means the best of both worlds. As long as both relationships are not serious, then why not have both the same time. So many hetersexuals do it, just choose to lie or hide it

[cupcakex]

I remember a few kids at my school were doing this, and in almost every case, someone, or all three ended up hurt.
I probably wouldn't do it, but it's not up to me what others do.

[ifonlyyouknew]

Nope.
My boyfriend is bi. He doesn't have a boyfriend though.
I'm bi as well and I just have him.

[pinacoolada]

I'm sorry, I don't think it's right
It's kind of selfish to the boy and the girl they're dating. Relationships mean commitment to just one person, and if they're not satisfied with just a bf or a gf, then I think that's not good. Especially if their bf and gf are committed to just them.

[alysaphobia]

no. regardless of sexuality, i think it's wrong to date more than one person at a time; boyfriend or girlfriend.

[elaboratedream]

It seems most everyone who's posted is very much against the idea of having a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time... My question is, if everyone involved consents to it, what's the problem? Now, if not everyone in this multiple person relationship knows about the other members, I can understand the problem with that, but why is just the idea of anyone being with multiple people so wrong to you?

I'm not saying I support multiple person relationships or even think they're a good idea, I'm just wondering. I mean, most of you also commented that you've never so much as known someone who has been in one of these relationships. So how can you make judgements?

I have been in a three person relationship, and I dont really think it was a good idea. I mean, I enjoyed it while it lasted... apart from all the problems with one person paying too much attention to one over the other... and crap like that. It was fun. But I still dont think it was worth it. It ended up ruining the relationship I had with my bf before we added the gf on. which is sort of ironic cuz I agreed on the three person relationship partially to try to keep him from leaving me.

I really dont think they're a good idea, but if you want to be in a multiple person relationship and everyone involved consents to this (genuinely consents... not meaning they agree out of fear that they'll lose their bf/gf if they dont agree) then whatever, its their lives, they can do whatever they want.

[SimplicityGirl]

^ agree.

If it's what they want, and are truly happy with it, then what's wrong with it? It's not quite cheating now is it, if both the gf and the bf knows about the existence of the other. Isn't cheating only when you HIDE the other relationships from your bf/gf?

I say if they can handle the consequences, and if the relationships aren't too serious, then why not? Dating IS about having fun, and if being in a 3 person relationship makes it fun, then what's wrong with that? Also, dating is also about experimentation...which is what they're doing right now? So I don't see what's all the fuss is about.

[y0urelectrikk]

uhh.. thats a little weird. No I don't think that is right. how can they be fine with that??

[niciDOOM]

i had a girlfriend
but everyone thought we were
bestfriends. this guy asked me
out and i still continued with the
girl i had and him. nothing
wrong... as long as they know.

[*mishyerr*]

It's not cheating if they all agree to it. Then it's called a 'threesome.'

[*The Markster*]

I don't think it's right at all, in spite of whether it's serious or not.
Seems like a pretty selfish act.

[breakingdawn]

Well, if all three of them know what's going on and it's okay with it... Well I guess it's their choice.

[danifibble]

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[oRe0_c00KiE_cAkE]

that wouldn't be fair, its like a straight person going out with 2 guys or girls at the same time.

i agree...

[Kim3rz]

i agree...

There's nothing wrong with that in my book.
I for one have been in a relationship like that and it's called polygamy. All three of us were all involved with each other.

But polygamous relationships don't work for everyone and I really don't think it could become a long-term thing either. I mean it was a good experience and all but now i'm just working on settling with just one person.

[lostgrl16]

if all three involved know about it and are ok, i see no problem.

maybe its just me, but ive been in situations where i wouldnt just be datin one guy. i mean they didnt know about each other, but at the same time, none of us wanted a serious relationship either. maybe ill sound old for sayin this, but i understand that at a younger age, all relationships are takin seriously, and i was like that too. but once i was older, i continued to take all of them seriously, until they started lettin me know, they arnt as serious as me. its basically how seriously those involved take the relationship, if they call it that at all. datin to me, is just seeing people, to be involved is to be exclusively seeing him/her. thats just my opinion

[faysiiee-x]

i think it's just wrong and exactly like cheating

[*Monochrome.*]

Ok first the f**k all.

Being f**king bisexual does not mean you f**king HAVE to have a boyfriend and girlfriend.

That is jsut some filthy stereotype.
This topic is outrageous.Sorry if im overreacting but im so sick of this f**king stereotype.

[lostgrl16]

Ok first the f**k all.

Being f**king bisexual does not mean you f**king HAVE to have a boyfriend and girlfriend.

That is jsut some filthy stereotype.
This topic is outrageous.Sorry if im overreacting but im so sick of this f**king stereotype.

i dont think they meant this as a stereotype. i think it was generally accepted to act that way at his/her school and the person asked our opinion. i actually never even heard of a stereotype that says bisexual people have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend, both at once.

[z3nn1]

A lot of people at my school think it's okay to have both a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. And a lot of them do. I just don't think it's right. Isn't it just the same thing as cheating??

LOL damn your school seems fun j/k

back to the topic:

I think it's all about the bi getting their "cake" as they say. Which I do not agree with. Stick to one, plus too much emotional drama people ask for there.. and I honestly can't see how that would work, either the guy and the girl of the bi would feel at competition if they ever "share" the bi.

[skillxz]

Wtf? As in a guy that is homosexual, yet 'strait' too, and has a bf and a gf and vice versa with a girl?

No, that's never right, Not at the SAME TIME That is. Do it by all means separately.

[broken inside]

I would cheated on if I had a gf who wanted to date a guy whille dating me...I wouldn't shun anyone else for doing it though...

[Lanochka]

See I dunno, I would say it is considered cheating but then if they all consent to it who cares so

Ditto. I think if the person is sneaking behind the backs of the bf&gf then it's cheating. But if the bf&gf knows the person is dating both of them and they're ok with it, then I guess it's alright. Whatever floats their boat.