Akward silence |
 Dec 9 2006, 11:45 PM
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Ever had any akward silences with the person you like? I have a LOT. Sometimes, it seems like he doesn't want to say anything at all. I start a conversation on AIM, he says the "o"s and "lol"s and nothing else. Then when I'm done, there's a period of no talking. is there any way i can break that silence? Maybe get him out of his shell and say something different once in a while? I just don't want to feel like im the one that has to do everything.
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| *WHIMSICAL 0NE* |
Dec 9 2006, 11:49 PM
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Erm, maybe you guys just don't click? I hate when that happens. It happens with my friends sometimes but I have some ADD tendencies so I guess it keeps things interesting. When my Add tendencies aren't happening I usually just ask open ended questions. Lots of times if you don't know a guy that well he doesn't like you to keep rambling about small things. I guess you try the whole opened ended thing. Like you mention something and then say "What do you think about that?" "Do you like that?".... yeah...
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Dec 9 2006, 11:50 PM
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. Group: Member Posts: 3,264 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 761 |
Say something random. Something really, really random.
I have problems like that too on AIM, but that's 'cause I really, really dislike IMing people, but I talk a lot on the phone. 
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Dec 10 2006, 02:19 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
don't just ask questions or say stuff that only requires him to say 'o' or 'lol' etc. talk about stuff that maybe he can relate to even more like his favorite things or w/e then he'll start getting more interested in what it is you guys talk about.
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Dec 10 2006, 02:25 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,388 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,129 |
I used to like a guy that would alwayssssssss do that.
It got me pissed. So I'd be like "Do you say anything else?!?!" That brought the convo a little up. But then it went back down. Just... ask who he likes or something. Something that will make him curious. |
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| *krnxswat* |
Dec 10 2006, 05:33 AM
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He's just apathetic and indifferent to you.
He doesn't find you interesting. At all. Perhaps, in large, bold, big size font, you should write "PUSSY" or "ANAL SEX" or "I SCREWED YOUR BROTHER LAST TIME" context would catch his attention. ..for about .01 seconds. But atleast you had his attention for that .01 second, right? Probably more than you did before and ever will. |
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Dec 10 2006, 07:08 AM
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look for the stars as the sun goes down Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,963 |
maybe he's just not interested in you.
that happened to me before. well actuall no not exactly.the guy i liked talked to me normally. liek he talked to me alot. but i knew he was just a freindly guy. aand that he wasn't really interested in me. so i just found another guy. |
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Dec 10 2006, 07:12 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Dec 10 2006, 6:33 PM)  Perhaps, in large, bold, big size font, you should write "PUSSY" or "ANAL SEX" or "I SCREWED YOUR BROTHER LAST TIME" context would catch his attention. ..for about .01 seconds. But atleast you had his attention for that .01 second, right? Probably more than you did before and ever will. Oh yes. That's the best you can do. |
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Dec 10 2006, 11:15 AM
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 CB's Forum Troll Group: Member Posts: 926 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,142 |
it means he does not have his careface on
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| *a painefull euphoria* |
Dec 10 2006, 11:21 AM
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that happens alot on aim.
QUOTE Perhaps, in large, bold, big size font, you should write "PUSSY" or "ANAL SEX" or "I SCREWED YOUR BROTHER LAST TIME" context would catch his attention. ..for about .01 seconds. But atleast you had his attention for that .01 second, right? Probably more than you did before and ever will. try that. it might work |
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Dec 10 2006, 06:12 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 486,704 |
Well, that happens to me.. like how other people are saying. maybe you guys just dont click. or its just. hes doing something, i mean.. i say Oh and LOL alot and dont really talk cause im kind of buys.
You should ask him some questions about himself. thats what i do.. then we became close. :P i Really thik you should get to know him alot better, then he'll be curious about youa nd ask you. then yeah lol.. |
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| *x1227x* |
Dec 10 2006, 06:16 PM
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QUOTE(krnxswat @ Dec 10 2006, 2:33 AM) He's just apathetic and indifferent to you. He doesn't find you interesting. At all. Perhaps, in large, bold, big size font, you should write "PUSSY" or "ANAL SEX" or "I SCREWED YOUR BROTHER LAST TIME" context would catch his attention. ..for about .01 seconds. But atleast you had his attention for that .01 second, right? Probably more than you did before and ever will. lol i agree with that. it might actually work. i've had awkward silence, but after it, i just start talking about a topic that he's interested in. 
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Dec 10 2006, 06:29 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 78 Joined: Oct 2006 Member No: 475,956 |
yea that sucks i still havent found an anwser to it, its a very weird feeling
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| *yrrnotelekktric* |
Dec 11 2006, 01:01 AM
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a good question to ask is how his day was(ask what he did.)... and what he plans on doing tomorrow, etc.
personal questions always work. If you don't know already, ask about his siblings..if he has any, etc! 
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Dec 13 2006, 09:23 PM
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 Bonjour Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,449 |
just be like, wth is your problem yo???? you never talk to me, GEEZ.
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Dec 14 2006, 02:31 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 108 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 127,064 |
wow i've had that problem before, it totally sucks, but yea he could be just doing homework or something and maybe doesn't feel like talking. I wouldn't worry too much about the AIM convos, if it happens when you're talking to him in person, then try harder to open him up, and ask questions about him and stuff
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Dec 14 2006, 03:31 AM
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 Xscape Group: Member Posts: 68 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,014 |
Say something completely random, if you do it correctly, you'll go from topic to topic. Like from handball to terrorists. Don't ask how it got there, it just "happend".
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