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[pickmeup]

so there was this guy at my school. he plays varsity waterpolo (so hotbod) :) , and he was dating my friend for about 3 days. but they were "seeing" eachother for a bit beforehand. while they were dating, he lost interest in her bc she was too much for him, but she was the one that broke it off with him. then unknowingly that they broke up, i asked her for his sn and IMed him online, thinking we were just friends. i never really notice him until then. then he starts flirting with me, and then we start seeing eachother 4 days after we started talking online. we talked about EVERYTHING there was to talk about. it was really nice, we clicked so quickly. i thought everything was perfect then a week after we started seeing eacother, he breaks it off because he " doesnt want a gf at the moment " and that he needed "time to himself bc he's been seeing so many girls " i guess i could believe him, but then again i dont. i feel like its my fault and that i sort of drove him away. idk. im just confused. i realize im not gunna wait for him, but if we were to get back together, idk if i should.

should i? what do you think my problem was?
=(

[KielReese]

Ummm 1,000,000 people here will all say that its definitely not your fault and in 4-7 days you couldnt of possibly done ANYTHING to drive him away. Its all on him, no biggie. If I hooked up with someone in just 4 days and they said that they needed a break cause they've been seeing too many people, i'd be like how does it feel to be a playaaaaa.

And to me it sounds like your a killer sweetheart cause of the whole youd wait for him but dont wanna thingy. I will say this, there is some man out there looking for a girl just like you, so keep your eyes open. And never look to busy for love. Cause it could be knockin at the door.

[*Infinite.*]

Eh, honestly I wouldn't worry about it and you shouldn't blame it on yourself. Just accept his opinion and trust him if you want its up to you. I think it sounds believable that hes been with a lot of people by the sounds of it, and it sounds like you guys are kind of young since hes going around have 4-5 day relationships, theres plenty of other people out there, and eventually you'll find someone that wants to be in a relationship just as much as you, and i'm sure theres plenty of other guys out there that you can get along with.

[-sincerely]

Ummm 1,000,000 people here will all say that its definitely not your fault and in 4-7 days you couldnt of possibly done ANYTHING to drive him away. Its all on him, no biggie. If I hooked up with someone in just 4 days and they said that they needed a break cause they've been seeing too many people, i'd be like how does it feel to be a playaaaaa.

agreed.

[OhMyAnniee]

Notice that you mentioned that he has a hotbod.. so most girls would immediately think that & so he probably gets alot of girls?

If they were dating for 3 days and he lost interest in her in 3 days and broke off with you in 4 days.. he's not that type of relationship kind of guy.

[pickmeup]

well just because he has a hotbod, doesnt mean i like him because of it. i honestly didnt even notice his bod til after we started talking. i didnt know he was even playing waterpolo til he told me. eh. idk. im fine that we're not together now, its just when i see him online, i have an urge to IM him and say hi. usually i ask him if hes okay and such, and i feel like that mightve annoyed him. i worry a lot. but im not clingy. just, insecure. yanno? honestly. i think im okay with us not toether. but i DO miss him.

we didnt do anything btw. =)

[*Pl-dot-lS*]

If you two didn't rush things, you would've been better off. 4+ days of talking " about EVERYTHING " WON'T equate to a healthy relationship. So if you're asking what you've done wrong, that's probably it.

[tokyo-rose]

I don't think you really did anything wrong. Maybe he just didn't want to have a girlfriend because he was on the rebound from a previous relationship (even if that was only 3 days long). Also, he sounds kind of sketchy if he sees so many girls and then starts officially dating them. It makes things too complicated. You're better off without him.

[pickmeup]

i think i AM better off without him. but if we DO start talking about getting back together, and get to that point, should i get back with him..?

[DORKalicious]

he plays varsity waterpolo (so hotbod) :)

haha.

i think if you start talking about getting back together you should. but only if he seems like he's really serious about having an actual relationship with you.

[evaleen]

If he wanted to get back with you, then you need to make sure about a few things.


1) Make sure you want to get back with him.
2) He has to be sincere in some way. I know guys now adays lack sincerety but if he seems pretty serious, that may be a good sign
3) Get a little background on his other relationships. Don't be too nosey about, but if the guy has a reputation of going out with girls for no more than 4 days, then he's a NO NO.

That's all my brain can storm up at the moment. Sorry. But yeah, don't wait on him. If he asks you out, great. If he doesn't, then it's cool, right? To me, it looked like a little fling. It lasted only 6 days.

For now, think about other things than him. Don't worry about it.