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How do u be with somebody but not fall in love?
Spec_R
post Nov 29 2006, 05:22 AM
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Exactly what the title asked.
Is there any ways on how to be with somebody but not fall in love with them?
I am giving my ex a second try on our relationship. I lost a lot of amont of feelings for her but still have a little bit of love. But I'm afraid that she will hurt me again so is there any ways to be with her but not fall in love? Any suggestion, tips, advices...? thanks =)
 
 
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post Nov 29 2006, 05:27 AM
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Why would you want to be with someone but not fall in love?
 
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post Nov 29 2006, 05:39 AM
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^ Yeah. It doesn't make sense.

And you can't help not falling in love. Whatever happens, happens.
 
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post Nov 29 2006, 05:58 AM
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I will eventually....
Just don't want to give her my trust 100%.
and if I fall in love and she does that again....i will get hurt at the end
it's crazy, isn't it?
 
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post Nov 29 2006, 01:50 PM
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QUOTE(Spec_R @ Nov 29 2006, 5:58 AM) *
I will eventually....
Just don't want to give her my trust 100%.
and if I fall in love and she does that again....i will get hurt at the end
it's crazy, isn't it?


then why are you even with her? realtionships are based on trust and communication. Obviously you dont trust her because you guys havnt communicated enough about what she did to you. Dude why did you even go out with her if you didnt want to love her? You are rushing into the realtionship, before you guys go back together again you should have waited and given her time to gain back your trust.
 
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post Nov 29 2006, 05:08 PM
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It's either you love the person or don't love the person =/ it's a harsh world. There's no in between otherwise...it's pointless. Atleast in my perspective. Find another girl whom you trust 100% and who trusts you 100%. Take care
 
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post Nov 29 2006, 06:13 PM
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if she f**ked you over the second time then more than 85 percent chance shell do it again

drop the bitch plain and simple and find a person you CAN love and trust all the way
 
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post Nov 30 2006, 01:23 AM
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why be with her if you can't trust her?
 
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post Nov 30 2006, 02:48 AM
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you can love somebody and not be with them, but you really can't be with them and not love them. Feelings develop....whether you want them to or not. I tried to do what your title suggests....by being "together" with a close guy friend of mine but promising myself that I'd never develop any kind of feelings for him past a friend....the ending of that? We're together now because I fell for him and he had feelings for me too.

If you don't want to end up falling for her again, don't even think about giving her a second chance. You can always love her in your heart. And just cuz you love her, doesn't necessarily means that you have to be with her. =]
 
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post Nov 30 2006, 03:24 AM
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"Loving someone is giving them the ability to break your heart, but trusting them not too."

Either learn to trust her one-hundred percent or break up with her. And by you not trusting her, it isn't only hurting the relantionship. It's hurting her too.
 
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post Dec 2 2006, 05:03 PM
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Ditto the second post. It seems contradictory to be with someone but not want to fall in love. I mean, if you're in a relationship, hopefully you love/are in love with them.
 
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post Dec 2 2006, 05:07 PM
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hmm. Don't get close to the person.
Which is gay because if you want to be with the person then you have to get to know them.

I'm sorry. There is really no way. Love is complicated. Maybe just be friends with her.
 
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post Dec 3 2006, 12:50 PM
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my advice.
if you don't want to fall in love, what's the point? that's totally not fair on her part, and if you guys do get back together you'll just end up loving her again. crazy.gif
 
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post Dec 3 2006, 01:39 PM
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never give anyone a second chance if you truly want to be happy. it's not worth it.
 
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post Dec 3 2006, 10:44 PM
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I have heard of people getting back with their ex's, only they don't get to attached to them. For example, I guess they don't let their girlfriend/boyfriend become their top priority. But I always believed in second chances, but you do whatever you think feels right.
 
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post Dec 4 2006, 02:58 PM
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I'm pretty much in the exact situation..
idk what to do..its hard not to..
 
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post Dec 4 2006, 03:44 PM
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I'm bitter. If someone hurts me I cut off all communication!
 
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post Dec 5 2006, 05:49 AM
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you guys are right. not even worth giving 2nd chance.
 
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post Dec 5 2006, 05:57 AM
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Everyone's worth giving a second chance.
 
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post Dec 6 2006, 12:21 AM
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Bone her!
 
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post Dec 9 2006, 12:31 AM
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QUOTE(showme @ Dec 5 2006, 9:21 PM) *
Bone her!
 
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post Dec 9 2006, 01:15 AM
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QUOTE(Spec_R @ Nov 29 2006, 2:58 AM) *
I will eventually....
Just don't want to give her my trust 100%.
and if I fall in love and she does that again....i will get hurt at the end
it's crazy, isn't it?


dont go out with her - simple as that.
 

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