shy...., sigh Options

[gOODpIRATE]

guys i have a major problem. i am REALLY SHY.

SUPER SUPER SUPER SHY. it's like im afriad to wave hi to people because i'm scared or looking stupid, plus other things you can imagine a shy person doing.

how can i just come out of my shell and let everyone see how funny and stupid (<haha) i am?

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Well, when you said you don't want to wave hi to people because you think you'll look stupid made me think that you're insecure. Trust me, I used to be really shy. I still kind of am. But as I became more comfortable with myself and what's around me I also became more outgoing. I've said hi to people in the halls at school and they didn't even hear me, I guess it's just one of those things you shrug off.

The one thing I think that makes a person outgoing is confidence, and people who have confidence are more comfortable with themselves. I still have a lot of trouble talking to people I don't know and I get really shy when I'm not familiar with the people and things around me, but you'll never know if you don't put yourself out there. You need to challange yourself to be more outgoing.

[kimmytree]

I have the same problem. I'm not as bad as I used to be. I think most people slowly grow out of it.

The main thing that has helped me is realizing that when I do something that makes me look stupid, like stutter or something, most people dont catch it. Most people dont realize all the little mistakes like you do about yourself. Its kinda the same thing with appearence.

Just make yourself realize that you're just like everyone else. Everyone makes little mistakes sometimes, like when it comes to socializing. Dont be so critical of yourself.

What is it that you have a hard time with? Knowing what to say to someone? Or having the courage to go up to someone and start talking?

[angelrevelation]

i'm slowly growing out of my shyness... i kind of realize that even IF you may look stupid for a moment (if at all) people forget about it a second later, because it happens all the time.

as for waving, why would that look stupid?

[magicfann]

dont be shy - touch their dirt

[demolished]

Wave like ... it's nothing. Wave like ... no one is there.

[*a painefull euphoria*]

you have to gain confidence in your self before you can get out of shyness.

i used to be like that

[misoshiru]

Well, maybe you should try something new every day. Say, for example, make a goal that for tomorrow, you'll say hi to 3 people or something like that, and then slowly build up from there.

[redpeony]

pick up some hobbies. join some clubs, meet people. i know it's difficult. but concentrate on developing yourself and knowing what you stand for, and you'll blosson. trust me. =)

[Simba]

I'd say, get more involved in community type things. Or after school stuff. Get out where the people are more often.

Moved to Relationships

[saywhat_sayme]

I guess you have two options.

1. You can slowly come out of your shell. Like get a little bit more real with how great you are wih your friends and then gradually build up with people who aren't your friends and you get to know better.
2. You can kinda just burst out. If you're brave enough, you can just take a leap and make yourself break out of your shell. People are more likely to notice you if you do this.

[layli]

you know what quote,
"If you ask a question you're only stupid for five minutes, but if you don't your stupid forever." or something like that, im not sure the exact quote.

just think of it this way.
if you're outgoing, you'll just feel dumb for like five minutes, and then itll be more comfortable, but if you just stay shy, it'll lead to you feeling worse about yourself.

i duno if that made sense. but yea. my sister said that to me on the first day of school, it helped me, lol. i used to be shy too.

[Mr. Slowjamz]

pick up some hobbies. join some clubs, meet people. i know it's difficult. but concentrate on developing yourself and knowing what you stand for, and you'll blosson. trust me. =)

i agree with your statement .

[tropicalchic]

I've been down that road, absolutly hated it. I couldn't talk to anyone with knowing them well and for a long time first, it sucked. I'm a lot better now, still shy but at least people know what my voice sounds like.

I think I started to improve when I became more confident about who I was. I tried different things like swimming, dancing and soccor. I sucked at it but atleast I got to know more people.

[seremela_culnamo]

I'm still shy, but people said I was a lot more opened back in grade 9 when I took drama. I guess it's true 'cause when you're on stage and around crazy people, you just follow on with the flow, especially when you have others encouraging you. But now that I'm in first year University..

[JTHMjulia]

I've always been the odd one of my family, and for a while, I was really shy, because I didn't want people to think I was wierd. I wanted to fit in. I think it was after I joined marching band that I actually came out of my shell more. I can act like my wierdo self, and people won't mind...sometimes...they actually join in. If you met me today, you wouldn't know I was ever shy. I'm about as wierd and different as they get, but people still hang out with me.

joining a group or club or something helps bunches that way you can meeet people with the same interests as you...it should help...

:)

[*My Cinderella.*]

You're low on confidence. The key to getting rid of shyness is to first be content with yourself. One way to boost your confidence is to dance on the dance floor at any wedding. My confident meter definately went up. If you're too shy to say hi to someone, just catch their eye and smile--and wait til they wave to you.

[MrStrife]

so how do you gain confidence then?

[*Uronacid*]

You have to just get over feeling stupid, and do some stupid things and learn that it's not so bad...