My parents, ... Options

[Morutea]

Hello all,

It is my first post :)

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks.

[moninja]

this doesn't go here. -> lounge?

it would help if you supported them. they're growning old and the last thing they want to do is die/worry about you when they can worry about themselves because no one is there to help them. o_o

[*mona lisa*]

Moved to Relationships.

Kids are expensive. I would owe it to them for providing me with basic needs, i.e. clothes, food, shelter, as well as a home, family, and an education. All of that costs money. In general, the elderly need to feel loved otherwise they wither away. They supported you all these years; it would be a token of appreciation if you (general you) supported them when they need it.

[tropicalchic]

I don't think you have too but I know I will defiantly help my parents out when they need and want it.

[*Infinite.*]

I would feel as if they ever needed anything then I could be there to support them. I suppose I would. Although anyone that does anything for me I feel that I should do something for them..

[_sarcastic_]

they've supported me for 16 years already and aren't complaining so i don't feel that i owe them, but i feel that i will need to support them next time when i'm older and have a steady job or maybe whenever they need me.

[LostinaJungle]

I don't think you should feel like you 'owe' it to them.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't help them, but it shouldn't be about who owes what.
What they did for you when you were younger they did because they loved you. Now, if they need your help, it should be out of love, too, not just because you feel you owe it to them.

That's how I feel about it, anyway.
Maybe I'm all wet...