freshman and senior?! Options

[-sincerely]

i think that's kinda weird/wrongish if a freshman liked a sr/visa versa/they were together.
can i have opinions?
i know there's been posts like this, but this is like.. in particular.. know what i mean?
anyway. opinions?
like, i'm fine with a 3-4 age difference, but i think that fresh-senior is A LOT. like 25-29 is okay, etc. but yeah.. you get the idea.

ps: sorry i have not been posting lately.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all.
I just don't think that a senior would really want to go out with a freshman..

And some of the upperclassmen might think that it's weird.

I don't think that the age difference is that much.. I just think that seniors wouldn't want to go out with freshmen.

[Anna-x-chan]

I dated a senior. He doesn't feel theres anything wrong with it.
And I heard he still likes me, LOL.

[Stefanny]

Well a (guy) friend once told me...

"When you're a freshman, don't date anybody older than a sophomore because they'll probably expect sex."

[laniegirl31691xx]

to be honest, i think its fine. i don't get how like 14 and 17 is weird to you. like. its like any other 3 differences between ages. ya know?

[QueenAkahsa]

I don't think the difference is that big.
Actually, I find it normal.
I've seen 16 year old girls with 35 year old guys, so.. yeah.

[alysaphobia]

a lot of the seniors at my school expect sex or do stuff like drinking on the weekends so i don't think the whole situation would be ideal for a freshman. but given that the senior doesn't push the freshman to go further than she wants (assuming the freshman is a girl) i guess it could work out.

[Anna-x-chan]

I don't know what schools like for everyone else but I go to Long reach, 14-15 years old is Freshman and seniors, there the same age here. I guess my schools different..?

[EddieV]

I dated a freshman while I was a senior, didn't last that long though...

[layli]

I think everyones kind of right, but it really all depends on who you're dating. I mean, some seniors might expect sex and others might not. If you think about it, if you date a freshmen, they could expect sex too. Its all based on the person. For example, I'm dating a senior, but I'm a sophmore, so its less difference, but pretty much the same because my high school has no freshmen, so technically the sophmores are referred to as the "freshmores". LOL. But anyways, we were really good friends before so it pretty much feels like theres no age difference at all, and he doesn't pressure me into doing anything I don't want to.

Yepp, but it all depends.

[gr00vyswordsman]

I don't know what schools like for everyone else but I go to Long reach, 14-15 years old is Freshman and seniors, there the same age here. I guess my schools different..?

which state is this :) just curious :)

[Anna-x-chan]

which state is this :) just curious :)

Maryland.

[Stefanny]

I've seen 16 year old girls with 35 year old guys, so.. yeah.

That's illegal here :]

[*sofakinglazy*]

Can't like freshmen? Damn...

[*suddenly she*]

I think everyones kind of right, but it really all depends on who you're dating. I mean, some seniors might expect sex and others might not. If you think about it, if you date a freshmen, they could expect sex too. Its all based on the person. For example, I'm dating a senior, but I'm a sophmore, so its less difference, but pretty much the same because my high school has no freshmen, so technically the sophmores are referred to as the "freshmores". LOL. But anyways, we were really good friends before so it pretty much feels like theres no age difference at all, and he doesn't pressure me into doing anything I don't want to.

Yepp, but it all depends.

huh. at our school, freshmen who repeat the grade are freshmores.
but whocares

[-sincerely]

i guess i'm the only one who kinda finds it weird... i mean, one person just started their high school career, the other one is ending it and going off to college...

[angelrevelation]

that'd be odd... but there's nothing particularly wrong about it. i just wouldn't expect a senior to be attracted to someone who isn't (probably) as physically, emotionally or socially mature.

[magicfann]

i've gone out with seniros :OOOFjioajsdklfjcxzl

[HakunaMatata]

That seems perfectly fine to me, unless you're saying a freshman in high school and a senior in college, that would be weird, but I see nothing wrong with a freshman and a senior liking each other or going out.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

I think when you look at numbers it isn't a huge deal, but it's something that I've thought to be weird. I know every person is different and that 14 and 15 compared to 17 and 18 isn't that huge of an age gap, but I think maturity wise it's a pretty big gap.
I mean, Freshmen are fresh out of middle school, they're still young. I know plenty of 14 and 15 year olds and maturity wise I think they're much different than 17 and 18 year olds.
In my opinion, I don't see why a senoir would want to date a Freshmen, mainly because of agendas, Freshmen are just starting their high school career and seniors are getting ready for college and being on thier own in the world.

Just my thoughts.

[-sincerely]

I think when you look at numbers it isn't a huge deal, but it's something that I've thought to be weird. I know every person is different and that 14 and 15 compared to 17 and 18 isn't that huge of an age gap, but I think maturity wise it's a pretty big gap.
I mean, Freshmen are fresh out of middle school, they're still young. I know plenty of 14 and 15 year olds and maturity wise I think they're much different than 17 and 18 year olds.
In my opinion, I don't see why a senoir would want to date a Freshmen, mainly because of agendas, Freshmen are just starting their high school career and seniors are getting ready for college and being on thier own in the world.

Just my thoughts.

thought appreciaited [sp?].
:D
i love getting opinions on this, though.
because my friends think that my other friends bro likes me.
he's a sr.
i'm a freshman.
i mean, some freshman, like myself, are mature, but.. yeah. anyway.
i love reading everyone's opinions on this.

[priyas]

not a problem.

my friend is 14----freshman.
her bf is 17----senior.

its not a big deal.

[-sincerely]

not a problem.

my friend is 14----freshman.
her bf is 17----senior.

its not a big deal.

i'm just saying, for the freshman, wouldn't it be weird to go home to your mom/dad/whoever, and be like, "oh yeah, i'm going out with a senior."

[alysaphobia]

well yeah, there is a good chance your parents might disapprove.
but given the guy is genuinely a "good guy" for you, i'm sure your parents would be cool with it once you bring him over to your house to meet them and let him prove himself.

[-sincerely]

well yeah, there is a good chance your parents might disapprove.
but given the guy is genuinely a "good guy" for you, i'm sure your parents would be cool with it once you bring him over to your house to meet them and let him prove himself.

well, he's my friends brother... i think he's just trying to be nice, but my two other friends, who i keep updated, thinks otherwise.

[shortiiex]

i use to think the same thing
i was a freshman last year, so i was 14..and 14 feels really young..a senior is turning into an aldut..i thought 14 years old are too imature to peopel who are about to go into college

[demolished]

Age is just a number, no ?

[*Infinite.*]

I don't see any problem in having a relationship or even liking someone when theres a 3-4 year old difference. One of my friends asked me the other day if he would be considered a pedofile for liking someone 3 years younger because some girl said he would be Believe me no where near it. Don't worry about what others think and if you or anyone wants to be in a relationship with anyone that they know and care for then go for it.

[-sincerely]

thanks. :D

[sarangxai]

I have alot to say about this.

A relationship between a 14-15 year old freshmen (generally female) and a 17-18 year old senior (generally male) makes my eye twitch. This type of relationship is somewhat accepted because people think both are in high school, so it isn't a big deal.

First off, I must say that it is easy to spot a 14 year old girl out. No matter how "developed" she is, you can still approximate her age. A 17-18 year old, hoever, has gone through the crucial states of puberty and is already looking like an adult. Therefore, it is very odd that a nearly grown male would be attracted to a little girl in the middle of puberty.

The freshmen is just starting her teen years and ready to explore hs, while the senior's childhood is pretty much over, for it is time to start a new chapter in his life. This is why a relationship between a 17 and 20 year old is more ok. The younger person in this case is transitioning into the same phase as the older person. You do not have that kind of emotional closeness between a 14 and 17 year old. They are at two different stages in their lives and those stages will not cross for ahilw. Therefore, the snioer who is pretyt much an adult is trying to date a CHILD... not just a girl that is younger than him.

I know there are senior guys who are trying to get with freshmen to get something, but it's equally alarming if the guy actually believes that he and someone who has just entered her teen years are both equal, physically and emotinoally. Do not use that "Oh, she's mature for her age." I've heard this too many times. A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do. Instead, they will understand their age and realize they should not be entering such a relationship. There's real maturity for you!

So in conclusion: a 14 year and 17 year old does not equal a relationship. It is a crazy mess with a child and an adult. It most likely won't work.. unless.. the guy is still emotionally immature, which isn't a good thing. The older person, if mature, would realize that he should not be talkin gto somebody that young.

The end.

[Spazzzmatic]

At my school, there are a couple of freshman-senior relationships. It's not so weird because often, the freshman is pretty mature while the senior is kinda immature. I guess they kinda balance each other out.

[hojax]

I think when you look at numbers it isn't a huge deal, but it's something that I've thought to be weird. I know every person is different and that 14 and 15 compared to 17 and 18 isn't that huge of an age gap, but I think maturity wise it's a pretty big gap.
I mean, Freshmen are fresh out of middle school, they're still young. I know plenty of 14 and 15 year olds and maturity wise I think they're much different than 17 and 18 year olds.
In my opinion, I don't see why a senoir would want to date a Freshmen, mainly because of agendas, Freshmen are just starting their high school career and seniors are getting ready for college and being on thier own in the world.

Just my thoughts.

exactly.


in the real world...once you're done growing up and such...years dont make that big of a difference because once you hit a certain age...you stop maturing....

saying a senior dating a freshman isnt weird is like saying an 8th grader can date a 5th grader (if you're looking at age difference alone)

i find it odd...and almost pathetic (considering all the seniors i know that date freshman)

that's like...dating someone a year younger than my little brother...strange.


sorry if that was harsh? but yah know...opinions differ...

[mouse_3k]

the main reason why a senior is with a freshmen is to get easy ass...enough said

[pandamonium]

the main reason why a senior is with a freshmen is to get easy ass...enough said

if they were "ridiculously good looking" lmao ahha.

[-sincerely]

the main reason why a senior is with a freshmen is to get easy ass...enough said

rofl. what if they were ugly?

[technicolour]

i think that's kinda weird/wrongish if a freshman liked a sr/visa versa/they were together.
can i have opinions?
i know there's been posts like this, but this is like.. in particular.. know what i mean?
anyway. opinions?
like, i'm fine with a 3-4 age difference, but i think that fresh-senior is A LOT. like 25-29 is okay, etc. but yeah.. you get the idea.

ps: sorry i have not been posting lately.

Uhm. A freshman/senior relationship is a 3-4 year age difference.

And...Robbi is right. I have read this thread, so i'm not merely replying for the hell of it. I agree with her.

[***Lucy**]

When I was 13 my ex-bf was 15 to 16..
It wasn't weird.. But I know what you mean..
I think it depends on the people.

[-sincerely]

Uhm. A freshman/senior relationship is a 3-4 year age difference.

i knew that.

what if you are the one who's a freshmen and a senior?

(because i am) ahhhhh

wait, you're a freshman and a senior at the same time?

[*Uronacid*]

Yeah I really don't find anythign wrong with that... but if I did I would be kind of a hypocrit...

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Here, if you're a senior and you're 18 and you started dating a 16 year old, let alone a 14 year old, you're considered a sexual preditor, and you'll be on the list of pedophiles for the rest of your life. Right beside a child molester. To me, that's not worth it.

I do agree with the saying age is only number (which shouldn't be used in defense), but maturity wise a 14 year old shouldn't date an 18 year. It's just not right. Maybe if it wasn't anything too serious, but still. 14 year olds are still young KIDS. When I look back at when I was 14 I wasn't at all ready for a relationship with and ADULT. Don't be naive.

[sarangxai]

Oh, please, half of you in this thread have no idea what you're talking about, so shut your traps and spare me the bullshit.

First of all, I am, in fact, going out with an eighteen year old (18 going on 19 this November) and I am fifteen (turning 16 this December.) I started going out with him when I was a freshman and he was a senior.
I dare you to tell me that that is not also the case with guys the same age as a girl, especially in those immature stages in freshman year. Ask anyone. The rates for sex are getting younger and younger, so don't give me that. In my case, most of the guys I know who are older are more mature about these things and don't ask for sex until their girlfriends (same age, older, OR younger) are ready.

In contrast, the younger boys speak openly about dumping a girl if she doesn't put out.

Excuse me, what's the difference there?
What are you talking about? Who are you to make these laws and who should and should not be making these commitments? Are you implying that for one to be mature, one has to be past a certain age? You need to get a serious reality check and take a look at the world around you.

"A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do."

I assume you are talking about the usual : Sex, alcohol, drugs.
It is all in the choice of the person. A fifteen year old girl could have had sex, done dope, and drink at a weekly rate. Another girl of the same age could be also drinking weekly with her friends, had sex, but hasn't touched drugs in her life.

It is all a matter of CHOICE. The line on who drinks or who fcuks or who does drugs has become thin and stretched out.

I could go on and quote other people but this will take way too long.

---

Corey and I have been going on for a long time. One year, and about eight months if you don't count the break we took because of an argument. We've gone way past that stage where it's just you know, a relationship. The reason that I got back together with him is because I know it's something special, not just a stupid high school thing.

I'm in the eleventh grade and he's in college, studying Business Management. He has a car and I see him every day except the weekends. We study together, we eat together, we do everything together.

The relationship is actually GOING somewhere. It's not stuck in that high school stage.
So now, you fools.
Think first before making stupid judgements like that. I totally contradicts your opinions on who is mature and who isn't.

Peace out, bitches.

Um.. no, I'm sorry, but you're assuming things. There are 14 year olds that are like "Oh, I'm mature for my age" therefore I think I should go date an 18 year old guy and be able to understand a relationship. Believe me, you have no idea how much a person's mentality changes from the moment they enter high school to the time they leave.

Maturity isn't all about age, that's true... but age is a part of it. There is no way a 14 year old can have that much life experience.

I wasn't even talking about sex, drugs, etc. That would be like me saying that every person older than 14 or something does that kind of stuff. There are just some things that come with adulthood that are impossible to understand when you're younger.

You're still young and when you're older, you might be able to understand more. I'm not saying that when you're older, you'll think I'm right and you're wrong, but you will be able to understand why people's opinions are they way they are.

Btw, you're not really displaying your "maturity" very well be cursing at people who don't agree with you.

[sarangxai]

Yeah, there is a gray area and I've been there before too. I wasn't naive and nothing happened.

In my original post, alot of it was about the older guy in the relationship. I know someone who dated a 14 year old when he was 17 and I completley respected that because he understood she was quiet a bit younger than him. He knew he had to be the adult at times, because she couldn't no matter how mature she was for her age.

A relationship can work under those circumstances, but people have to realize those circumstances are there. It's just annoying when a 17 year old thinks a 14 year old is his exact same age.

[Laughsalot]

it's only a 3 yr difference...14yr old girl and a 17 yr old guy. nothing wrong with that. but yeah i do think he would expect "more" from you. right now i'm only interested in 17 yr old boys. and i'm 14. i personally think it's hot.

[-sincerely]

thanks for the opinionsss.

[blurrr]

well a 4 yr difference isnt that bad when your 25-29 but when ur 14 and 17 ur at different maturity levels n stuff...but yea age diff doesnt always hafta get in the way...im in a relationship with someone 10 yrs older than me

[-sincerely]

well a 4 yr difference isnt that bad when your 25-29 but when ur 14 and 17 ur at different maturity levels n stuff

that's what i meant at the beginning of the topic.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Then again, not everyone lives in the middle of nowhere, do they? ( xD )

I'd like to ask you the same favor. Please don't be naive.

14 year olds are not kids. Nor are they adults, but they are definitely not children.

What is so wrong about going into a relationship with a sound mind, a mature mind, a mind that knows the consequences of what could happen? Sure, there's the case of the 13 year old who meets a 20 year old man and finds it "cool" to go out with an older man with a car, and thus, gets raped. Not every single girl (or guy for that matter) at age 15-16 (the age that is being argued here) is that stupid and that naive.

Just like everywhere else, caution must be taken.

Anyone can THINK that they are mature. But, if most people who are 17 or 18 look back to when they were 14 I'm sure they're going to think that they're more mature now than they where then.
For the most part, girls who are 14 shouldn't even be in a serious relationship with a guy who is 17 or 18 (or their own age). That's just my opinion. They're both on two way different levels.

If you say that 14 year olds are not kids, even that they are "young adults" they shouldn't be dating an adult.

For the most part a 14 year old's idea of a relationship is much different than an 18 year old's idea of a relationship.

[*sofakinglazy*]

For the most part, girls who are 14 shouldn't even be in a serious relationship with a guy who is 17 or 18 (or their own age)

Lol, No.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Wait, I was talking about serious relationships. Like sex. 14 year olds shouldnt be having sex, even with kids their own ages. That's my big part with a 14 year old dating a 17 or 18 year old is that "serious" factor.

Anyone can be dating and not doing anything sexual with each other. That's not what I meant. Hell, I first kissed a guy when I was in second grade... but it's not like we were down each other pants.

Most people assume adults want to be in serious relationships, which isn't always the case, but for the most part it is true. Don't tell me an 18 year old boy doesn't think about sex... unless he's extremely religious and was brainwashed by his parents.

[Mschamgirl]

no cuz AGE IS JUST A NUMBER unless the dude is younger then u we have a problem

[sarangxai]

The point is, not all 14 year olds are ready to make decisions like that even if they think they are.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Mhmm, I respect everyone elses thoughts and views, but I'm glad I expressed mine.

[xourzestt]

Didn't i reply to this??... I wrote down a really good plan.... Did you guys delete it?

[*StanleyThePanda*]

^ I highly doubt it was deleted. Maybe you just forgot to "add reply", and you left the page or something?

Anyways, I agree with Robbi.
I mean, yeah maybe some arent mature enough, but that doesnt mean that all 14yr olds arent.
And it really isnt your place to judge if they are or not.

[n_Oodles]

exactly.
in the real world...once you're done growing up and such...years dont make that big of a difference because once you hit a certain age...you stop maturing....

saying a senior dating a freshman isnt weird is like saying an 8th grader can date a 5th grader (if you're looking at age difference alone)

i find it odd...and almost pathetic (considering all the seniors i know that date freshman)

that's like...dating someone a year younger than my little brother...strange.
sorry if that was harsh? but yah know...opinions differ...

I agree with you completely.

[Allycat]

I really dont have any problems with a freshman and a senior having a relationship. Many of you are claiming that it's wrong because they are not emotionally on the same level. In many cases this may be true, but there are still exceptions. If two people are truly in love, even if they are a freshmen and a senior, it doesn't matter. OK.. So, maybe they aren't exactly on the same emotional level, this is true. It IS also true that some freshmen (14 and 15 year olds) can be mature too. Just because there is such an age difference doen't mean that the senior guy will want the freshmen girl JUST so he can get in her pants. Beleive it or not, SOME guys are different. Some 14 and 15 year old girls are much worse then guys that are 17 or 18. (at leat around were i live) So don't even say that the only reason a senior would like a freshmen is to get in her pants. Maybe three years is a large differnce at such a young age as a freshman, but as long as it's not a too much of a pyhsical relationship, then i beleive that it is perfectly ok.
And if i didn't then that would've made me a hypocryte........

[sarangxai]

I just think a 14 year old still looks like a kid, so I don't see how an almost grown guy can be attracted to a little girl.

Anyways, it's just my opinion.

[preciousbabyrae]

well, it pretty much depends on how much they know each other. it's okay if they known each for like more than 1 or 2 years or something but if they recently met then most likely the senior would just cheat on the freshman or visa versa.

[Mikael]

This post has been edited for security reasons.

[nightacer-x]

sorry but what's the age gap between a freshman and senior? sorry we don't use such terms in singapore lol so i've totally no idea. books don't give much clue either lol

[-sincerely]

freshman is 14 and 15 year olds. senior is 17 and 18 year olds.

no cuz AGE IS JUST A NUMBER unless the dude is younger then u we have a problem

so not true.

[nightacer-x]

mm if that's the case it think it's alright? lol

[sarangxai]

well, it pretty much depends on how much they know each other. it's okay if they known each for like more than 1 or 2 years or something but if they recently met then most likely the senior would just cheat on the freshman or visa versa.

I would find it odd if a junior in high school was spending his time getting to know girls in middle school.

[*x1227x*]

i think that's fine but it really depends if it's a really really commiting relationship. [:

but,
if you're a freshman, you probably wont have a maturity level of a senior like your boyfriend. but you can also be mature for your age.

so i guess it just depends but i say that dating a senior/freshman when you're a senior/freshman is okay.

[xmusic]

lmao. as long as they arent cousins im completely fine with that x].

but really. 14 and 17. its a 3 year difference. and they're both highschool students am i correct? sure the older one is more mature by 3 years but honestly i think all highschool students are the same. there are a selected few who are actually mature while the rest all act about 12. and as for the age gap. he's 17 and she's 14. so its nothing illegal. they're safe for a year. but once he turns 18 they better not have sex for a year unless he wants her parents sending his ass to jail :x. but hey! if they "love" each other let them be. its what they want right? so yes :]

[slipper]

that's what i meant at the beginning of the topic.

yah, i guess it's different when you're at those ages.

[sarangxai]

lmao. as long as they arent cousins im completely fine with that x].

but really. 14 and 17. its a 3 year difference. and they're both highschool students am i correct? sure the older one is more mature by 3 years but honestly i think all highschool students are the same. there are a selected few who are actually mature while the rest all act about 12. and as for the age gap. he's 17 and she's 14. so its nothing illegal. they're safe for a year. but once he turns 18 they better not have sex for a year unless he wants her parents sending his ass to jail :x. but hey! if they "love" each other let them be. its what they want right? so yes :]

In some states it still wouldn't be legal for them to have sex. Law makers were aware that not all people under 18 are the same. If you're under 18 and you have sex with someone 3 years or more younger than you, that is still considered illegal in some states.

[radhikaeatsraman]

Meh. If a senior floats your boat, go ahead. Ain't my problem.

[-sincerely]

Meh. If a senior floats your boat, go ahead. Ain't my problem.

i wasn't say one 'is floating my boat.'
i just want people's opinions on the situation.

[radhikaeatsraman]

^I was speaking generally. The 'you' wasn't directed towards any particular person, haha.

[*My Cinderella.*]

I don't think its a big deal.

[-sincerely]

^I was speaking generally. The 'you' wasn't directed towards any particular person, haha.

heh. sorry.

[angelrevelation]

I think it's kind of like... If a 30 year old and a 50 year old date? Their stages in life are definitely different, but if they don't mind the older one being the wise one and the younger one being kind of inexperienced, it could work.

I don't think ALL seniors are out for only sex...

[-sincerely]

^ same. there are some mature ones who wouldn't do that to a freshman.

[preciousbabyrae]

I would find it odd if a junior in high school was spending his time getting to know girls in middle school.

well acutally it wouldn't odd. because you'd never know if they were just friends then then the girl went to high school and hung out with him and they probably grew feelings for each other now than before.

[-sincerely]

^ yeah, true. it's like a you-can't-jump-to-conclusions-thing.
not saying you were jumping.

[sarangxai]

well acutally it wouldn't odd. because you'd never know if they were just friends then then the girl went to high school and hung out with him and they probably grew feelings for each other now than before.

Yeah, that's true, but I don't see how a junior in high school could get to be friends with someone in middle school. I guess, it'd be possible, but if I was still in high school and one of my guy friends told me he was friends with a girl in middle school, I'd be like .

[-sincerely]

Yeah, that's true, but I don't see how a junior in high school could get to be friends with someone in middle school. I guess, it'd be possible, but if I was still in high school and one of my guy friends told me he was friends with a girl in middle school, I'd be like .

eh, that's not bad. kinda.. i consider somebody wayyy older than me my friend.

[*a painefull euphoria*]

Well a (guy) friend once told me...

"When you're a freshman, don't date anybody older than a sophomore because they'll probably expect sex."

anyone in that teenage age group u can expect for some guys to expect sex.

[shorty373]

so yeah ok sweet_suicide your kinda...take that back you ARE really on my nerves!! i can tell you have no idea what you are talking about!! see i'm a senior/freshman relationship and well quite frankly i see nothing wrong with it!! see we met in a class a school that was mostly older people so yeah the younger ppl had no choise to talk to the older ones...well any ways we got to knop each other and we just clicked. and he doesnt push for sex...as a matter of fact i told him before hand thati just wasnt ready for that and we were both a-o-k with it!! see let me help you out just a little hun...most freshmen guys are way more ready to have sex, and are willing to push for it because they haven't had it yet and they feel as though it is something that they have to do!!(which is so LAME !!). trust me i kno them and that is all they talk about...like 90% of my friends are guys!! i think some times it wont work but if you really love each other then it can...see just because it is difficult doesnt mean you should give up!!
and before you say any thing about this...i know you are intitled to your own opinion but you dont have to shut others down every chance you get!!**your mind is like a parachute...works best when it is open **
so to any one who is in/ wanting to be in a senior/freshman relationship- it is a challenge but it can happen--i know first hand!! but is rather difficult but have fun...it is not your fault that you wernt born sooner or them later some things you cant control...but what is ment to be will be!!

[youlovejade]

well i am a freshman but i still feel immature compared to a senior even though i drink, i've done drugs (pot, coke, ecstacy), but i'm pretty much beyond all that now. and i'm a virgin.

i am interested in a guy that is also interested in me, and he is a senior. we already both quit drugs TOGETHER, but he isn't a virgin and i am. i intend to keep m virginity, too because i think it is empowering, but other than that i feel more mature than my age and even people in their 30's see it. i hate to fall into that catergory that people keep talking about. the "i act older than i am" bullshit, but i guess its inevitable for me to not be considered that.

the senior guy sees my maturity in me as well, and i believe that is why he is attracted to me. we are so simular in the way we think, so it might work out, but i really can't be sure. both of us are afraid of relationships because i know i am too young for a serious relationship, and he has had bad relationships in the past and now he sort of thinks all girlfriends want to use him for sex, so i am almost sure that he won't pressure me into anything like that, not that i would give in.

what i am trying to say is it really depends on the people that are dating. the maturity level is VERY extreme in my opinion, but that could help both people grow.

[-sincerely]

he doesnt push for sex...as a matter of fact i told him before hand thati just wasnt ready for that and we were both a-o-k with it!!

that's good.

[SkittleyDoo]

It's fine but from what I've noticed before, it rarely ever works out because the two people are in really different points of their life.

[sarangxai]

so yeah ok sweet_suicide your kinda...take that back you ARE really on my nerves!! i can tell you have no idea what you are talking about!! see i'm a senior/freshman relationship and well quite frankly i see nothing wrong with it!! see we met in a class a school that was mostly older people so yeah the younger ppl had no choise to talk to the older ones...well any ways we got to knop each other and we just clicked. and he doesnt push for sex...as a matter of fact i told him before hand thati just wasnt ready for that and we were both a-o-k with it!! see let me help you out just a little hun...most freshmen guys are way more ready to have sex, and are willing to push for it because they haven't had it yet and they feel as though it is something that they have to do!!(which is so LAME !!). trust me i kno them and that is all they talk about...like 90% of my friends are guys!! i think some times it wont work but if you really love each other then it can...see just because it is difficult doesnt mean you should give up!!
and before you say any thing about this...i know you are intitled to your own opinion but you dont have to shut others down every chance you get!!**your mind is like a parachute...works best when it is open **
so to any one who is in/ wanting to be in a senior/freshman relationship- it is a challenge but it can happen--i know first hand!! but is rather difficult but have fun...it is not your fault that you wernt born sooner or them later some things you cant control...but what is ment to be will be!!

How do you know how I have no idea what I'm talking about?

I'm quiet a few years older than you and I have been called mature my whole life, but as I look back at when I was 14/15... there is just too much I did not know simply because that is such a young age, where I was just becoming a teen. That is true for every person. No matter how mature you are, it won't add on any years to your life.

When I was a freshmen in high school, I so called "dated" older people. They did not use me in any way and we are all still on ok terms today. However, there is a reason why such relationships are debated about over and over again.

The physical and emotional aspects are far off, even if they do not always appear to be so. I'm not trying to convince people to believe what I believe, but I am trying to get the 14/15 year olds to realize that there are still many years of learning to go through.

[Lamar]

You know you should do what your heart desires because thats what makes you special!

[shorty373]

How do you know how I have no idea what I'm talking about?

I'm quiet a few years older than you and I have been called mature my whole life, but as I look back at when I was 14/15... there is just too much I did not know simply because that is such a young age, where I was just becoming a teen. That is true for every person. No matter how mature you are, it won't add on any years to your life.

When I was a freshmen in high school, I so called "dated" older people. They did not use me in any way and we are all still on ok terms today. However, there is a reason why such relationships are debated about over and over again.

The physical and emotional aspects are far off, even if they do not always appear to be so. I'm not trying to convince people to believe what I believe, but I am trying to get the 14/15 year olds to realize that there are still many years of learning to go through.

[font=Times New Roman] mmk well let me see did i ever say i was mature for my age...NO. although i kinda am. see i kno that we are not the same b/c he is older than me...i'm also aware that we aren't on the same level. but what i do kno is thatwhen were together it is as if nothing else matters. and it is not the 14/15 year olds at fault...you say we have a lot of learning to go through still and i 100% agree with you, but if an older person likes us then we cant help that so it is not just us!! you should address both parties in a relationship

[sarangxai]

[font=Times New Roman] mmk well let me see did i ever say i was mature for my age...NO. although i kinda am. see i kno that we are not the same b/c he is older than me...i'm also aware that we aren't on the same level. but what i do kno is thatwhen were together it is as if nothing else matters. and it is not the 14/15 year olds at fault...you say we have a lot of learning to go through still and i 100% agree with you, but if an older person likes us then we cant help that so it is not just us!! you should address both parties in a relationship

I respect completley what you're saying and I realize the older person is in it too. Alot of times, it's the older person that has more issues though.. haha

It's just a bit annoying to hear a 14 year old elevating themslelves to the maturity of someone who is 25 or something.

[-sincerely]

^ it would be 14 and like 17.

[laurie_]

There's really nothing wrong with it.. I guess.
I [am a freshmen] & was kind of with a senior at the beginning of the year..
but it didn't quite work out because of our differences.

I don't think that age should become a barrier in any situation.
If you really like someone, who they are or what they are wouldn't matter.

Well a (guy) friend once told me...

"When you're a freshman, don't date anybody older than a sophomore because they'll probably expect sex."

Not all Juniors/ Seniors are sex pervs.

[femmefatale4160]

I don't think the difference is that big.
Actually, I find it normal.
I've seen 16 year old girls with 35 year old guys, so.. yeah.

Um, ew. That's what we Yankees like to call illegal.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

I think it depends on the people involved really..
Age shouldn't really matter too much with a 4 year difference.

My sister and her current boyfriend used to be boyfriend and girlfriend
sometime in high school, she was a freshman and he was a senior..

It lasted until sometime past their first year in college
when my sister decided to make some foolish mistakes..
But they're back together now (after at least 10 years of seperation)
and they seem pretty happy even with the mess of trouble that
happened during the 10 years of being away from each other.

[brokenxwingsx]

I suppose it could work, but it's very unlikely. Think about it. What's a freshman to do with a person that's at a totally different point in their life? Just starting high school and almost moving onto the next phase of one's life is kind of hard. At a different age, it's fine. Like 24 and 28 or something. But..it's a little weird in hs.

Most seniors just want to get in young girls' pants anyway.

[-sincerely]

^ not all.
and there's still probably some stuff they share in common.

[xmoon_lightx]

I htink yu should get to know the guy more b-4 yu actually date him b/c who noes how they really are like? =]

[shorty373]

well here i am to swallow some pride and admit defeat. senior and frosh relationships are oh so complicated!! sure the person is so great adn you love them with all your heart, but that isnt always enough...trust me i wish more than anything that i could say that it would be enough but i cant truthfully say that. see i was in a senior/frosh relationship until today and well right now things pretty much suck!! before you date an older guy make sure of a few things that you can talk to each other(not the prob. for us) you know them pretty well(still not our problem) and that your parents are okay with it...if they are not at least make sure you will be able to see them some where besides school(this is where the problem occured). so today started our christmas break...because we exemted finals so we dont have to come next week!! but that ment 3wks without seeing each other!! i was really worried, i know he goes to parties and stuff with his friends and i was scared he might cheat on me or maybe just stop liking me(even though he swore he never would, 3wks is just a long time). so please before you get involved or attached make sure you meet all of these requirements!! because i feel horribly crappy and like part of me died

and that is with a clean break up!! see i waited till the last second. it was after the bell rang to go home!! we were about to part in the hall and i was like do you want to break up over the holiday and he was like if you do and i was like well we wont be able to see each other and he was like the thought crossed my mind to and he goes but i dont want it to ruin our friendship and i was like yeah me either so we promised we wouldnt and we agreed to break up we hugged goog bye and i didnt honestly want to let go... im starting to think that breaking up was a huge mistake and i cant take it back!! it hurts really bad because i still think i love him

well that's all i've got sorry it was such a long sad story i just had to tell it !! and to any one who wants a senior frash relationship i hope with all my heart it works and that you will be happy...some one deserves to be

[-sincerely]

^^^^ i'm sorry.

[drummergirlmarim...]

i think its possible but thinking deeply here: the age difference between a 14 and 17 yr old and the age difference between a 25 and 29 yr old is the exact same. but thinking logically,a 15 and a 29 yr old basically has the same maturity as the other. but a 14yr old has yet to experience things in life, and a 17 yrs old person would have some more of that experience and therefore be a bit more mature. thats why i think it'd be possible, but the 17 yr old would soon get tired of the immaturity of the 14 yr old and they'd break up pretty early into the relationship. this happened to my guy friend and he and his ex gf was only 2 years apart. 8th grader and sophmore in hs. and + that this guy thats a college freshman likes me and i think hes too mature and stuff for me. so similar situations. hope it helps?

[satisfied-tom]

from my point of view, i wouldn't care how old the person was. personality counts the most! take my friend for example. hes a guy (sophomore) and hes going out with a girl (senior). i am also a sophomore and i went to homecoming with a junior. its all about personality. not age. but then again, seniors can take advantage of a freshmen.

[eugene87]

geez some of you are starting to give me a complex! I was a 17 year old male senor last year who began dating a 15 year old freshman. (We're two and a half years apart). We dated for 4 months, broke up for about 8 months, and are now back together again. Im currently a freshman at a community college and she's a sophmore. I resent the fact that most people would assume I just want sex, because both of us are still virgins by choice... Do I still constitute as a craddle robber?

[Laughsalot]

i never really thought about the guy's point of view. but i do wonder. does it seem harder for guys to stay virgins then for girls? i always thought that it was harder for them..but maybe it's not true? cuz my grandma did say that females demand more from sex than guys do. i'm not sure though