rejection, still be friends like before? Options

[sprezzatura]

Whenever there is a guy friend liking me, and if I reject him, there is this sense of guilt in me that I couldn't do anything to him afterwards but to avoid him. I feel mean for doing so, is it possible to be friends like before? Everytime after rejection, I don't dare to look at him in my eye or else my guilt would be too overwhelming for me to reach out. He still reaches out, but I keep taking a step backward and I just intuitively be mean and blunt to him.

Any suggestions on how to reconcile after rejection?

[Stefanny]

Hmm...This is a very interesting topic XD

Anyways, I don't think that everything could be exactly the same. Unless the guy is like not sensitive at all or something. But yeah, you could definately be friends again. Just like say that you don't want to ruin your friendship with them and would rather stay friends. They'll probably understand.

[_sarcastic_]

tell him you hope that the both of you would just be friends.

my best guy friend told me he liked me, but i liked some other guy, i rejected him and from that day on he hated my guts

[alysaphobia]

i guess it depends on your relationship with the guy before he asked you out. if you guys were close friends and you explained you just wanted to be friends, there'd probably be a period of awkwardness. but yeah, if you guys wanted to stay friends it probably would work out.

i get how you feel though... recently, a guy i barely knew asked me out and positively sulked about it after i rejected him. we didn't stay friends because i got really annoyed at how he began sending me 329423904 text messages, IMs and in general, kept trying too hard to be best friends with me. i just needed a ton of space from him and he still doesn't get the message. i guess we used to be friends but now i feel the harder he tries the more i dislike him.

[***Lucy**]

I think it's extremely difficult.
Put yourself in his place for a moment. If u liked your best friend you told him and he rejected you, wouldn't u feel sad? of course yes.
The thing is that afterwards it's difficult to remain friends because he'll be probably feeling so akward when he's with you and he knows that u know that he likes you.

So..I dunno..

But don't be mean with him, act nicely. The last thing he needs is you being mean towards him

[QueenAkahsa]

Pity is not a solution, in my opinion.
And what I see you feel is pity towards the guy who is rejected.
I've always found that to be for the weak, your guy will move on, to another girl and such.
If he doesn't want to talk to you afterwards, he won't, right?
If he does, you shouldn't feel, at all, guilty.
It all comes from the brain :P

[beautiousmistake]

he probably doesn't think you're feeling guilty...in fact, he's probably feeling a little stupid himself.

[*a painefull euphoria*]

things will be akward for a while untill he moves on
or sometimes it wont really work out.

[tokyo-rose]

I think you should give him a few days to feel better, then try to start talking like normal again. Just because you don't your guy friends that way doesn't mean you should end the friendship because you feel too guilty to look at them. Eventually they will stop liking you and find another girl to pursue.

[pinayprincess]

same... but now, we are friends... we arent close, but we say hi, bye etcetc... all i know is that when that kind of situations happen, there will eventually be a time where we talk sooner or later

[KielReese]

A true friend will never care....ever. They would be grateful to still have you in any way, shape or form.

A normal friend....will usually stop talking or try again and again.

Good luck, I hope you find that he's a true friend

[Watttt]

i dont know..my name is griffin...in case this is someone i know. anyway you could be friends again..you said he was being very friendly to you..i guess that means hes trying to be friends again. it really depends on the guy