Drunking, Drugs, whatnot, . Options

[orgasm]

Okay... first things first.

I've never done drugs, I've never smoked, I've never even been TEMPTED to try any of that shit. The only times I drink is when I'm with people I'm comfortable around, and even then, it's just a Pina Colada or a Strawberry Daquiery. Thus, I've never gotten drunk.

Ever since I turned thirteen, I've told myself I wouldn't ever cross that line and do something stupid like that. And I haven't.

But at the same time, so many of my friends have said the same thing and over the past 4-5 years, I've seen them change into people I don't even recognize.

I still want to be friends with them, but why can't they respect me when I say I DONT want to go to a certain party because I know there'll be beer, I'll know there'll be people I don't want to associate myself with, and I know they'll be doing things that they'll regret the next morning...

Nooo, they find it necessary to pressure me to the point where I just snap and tell them to get off my back. And then they get offended.

[OhMyAnniee]

Maybe you should make some more friends?
Find some people you're comfortable around.
I mean, I know people that drink but I don't hang out with them alot.
It's just too weird for me because I really don't like people who drink.
Once in awhile I hang out with them and talk but I usually do that at like a football game or something, you know?

[orgasm]

I got that the first time around...

I DO have other friends, but these are people I've known for years... They're still my friends and I can't just drop people like that. That's not the type of person I am. They're not BAD people... they just make some stupid decisions that I don't agree with..

[mznikki]

either tell them how you feel really and see how they react, or try and find a new group of friends that will respect your choice of not doing something stupid. A lot of my firends, many of them i've known since i was in elementary school drink and a few do drugs, and they all know my poisiton on it and respect my decision and they don't pressure me to do anything i don't want to or push me too far ...because they are my real friends. and real firends don't pressure u to do things you really really don't want to do. they should understand your feelings and be more respectful of it.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Drunking, haha.

You can't change their decisions. If they really mean that much to you, and you don't want to hang out with people that will stay sober and un-smoked up, then there's not much you can do, now is there. As long as they understand you don't, even if they keep pressing the issue and you keep saying no then there shouldn't be problems, unless they start teasing you and making you feel bad, then you need to set them straight and tell them you simply do not do those things and if they get offended tell them to get over themselves, they don't run you.

[_sarcastic_]

just don't hang out with them so much, hang out with your other friends.
you're just asking for trouble if you try to change their minds, let them be, it's their choice, their life.

[Gigi]

If your friends can't respect your own choices and try to pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do and that completely goes against your morals, then these aren't your friends. No reason can excuse that: it doesn't matter how long you've known them for or if they're good people in other aspects.

Try seriously talking with them about it, and if they're good friends, they will at least attempt to listen to you. If they still can't realize how important this is to you, drop them; and quick. Well, they're not willing to respect your choices...why should you respect them? Stop hanging out with them. Eventually the peer pressure will catch up to you. I know it sounds brutal, and I know that you've known them for forever, but you'll regret it even more if something happens to you that you wish you had never done.

[BeautyInATragedy]

This is what's happening to my friends.. and also me. I suggest you talk to them. If they are real friends, they will respect you.

[Trinie]

hey if you don't feel comfortable then dont go. they are you "friends". so they should definitely understand that you don't wanna go to parties and get drunk and what not. my bestfriend is actually like that too. he is a little younger than me. i try to pressure him going to certain parties with me, but when he doesnt wanna go, i dont push him.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I went through this. :-[ It is hard. I have been dealing with my drug habits and my drinking habits. I have finaly stoped. I don't tend to start up again. So what do I do. I don't hang out with my friends anymore.

I have been drug free for 2 months and 5 days.. Score for me.

[NoSex]

Your friends sound pretty lame. You may want to start searching for new ones.

[elaboratedream]

dont ditch your friends.
i'm guessing that they have their good qualities too. otherwise you wouldn't be hanging out with them, would you?

why would you have a problem going to the parties if you know you're not even tempted to do those things? so what if other people are doing things there. I have plenty of friends who go to parties with drinking, smoking, and sex and dont do any of it.

most friends (i say most, there's always the possibility that your friends aren't included in this) won't force people to actually [i]do[\i] things like that. but if you're consistently refusing to even go to parties with them, its no wonder they're getting a little offended.

If you dont think you can control yourself, then go ahead, ditch your friends.
but if you're really that secure in your convictions, hanging out with them shouldn't be a problem.

and you spelled "drinking" wrong in the title.

[DORKalicious]

just keep telling them that you want nothing to do with that stuff, be real serious and stern about it. eventually they'll get the message that those aren't your beliefs.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

just keep telling them that you want nothing to do with that stuff, be real serious and stern about it. eventually they'll get the message that those aren't your beliefs.

Agreed. That should work And if they don't listen say... " HEY.. stfu and listen to what the f**k I am saying BITCHEZ! LIKE CHA."