you're not fat..., "yes i am" Options

[angelrevelation]

i don't think there's a topic on this...

i've always felt that your expectations for yourself are always going to be more then for friends.

in this case, weight. some of my friends say they're fat, and i dont think they are. but when i look at myself (and i know i'm skinnier then them) i think I'M fat. it makes me feel hypocritical, because it's like *i* have to be really skinny to be pretty, while my friends don't. maybe it's just perception?

discuss maybe?

[ANG33ZY]

I think the same thing sometimes.. :\

[*salcha4u*]

Girls are insecure.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

^ Yeah, definitely.

There's this girl in my dance class who says she's fat, but she's not. She's like inbetween skinny and average. She always calls herself fat. It gets annoying.

[mytangerine]

i'm skinny & i know it, i don't go saying "i'm fat" just for complements from people. that is dumb.

[jenniez618]

hmm well i don't think that i'm fat or skinny, i'm just average, but some say that i'm skinny.

[*This Confession*]

I think i'm average, although people say i'm skinny, but most people I know are extremely short so I can look skinnier than them.


This happens to everyone, just change the subject and ignore it.

[AngelinaTaylor]

If a skinny girl says that she's fat over and over again, tell her "Yeah, you're fat. It's disgusting". She'll stop :)

[*This Confession*]

^I do that all the time


Sometimes they don't stop though and just agree and then move to someone new.

[Serendipity]

Either they're insecure or trying to get attention/compliments. It annoys me.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

I think it's just something that we do and don't really notice it a lot. Well, we don't notice when our friends who are bigger than us get annoyed.
I'm not blaming the media, but I think it has a good bit to do with the average woman's insecurities. I mean open a magazine and the women are like 5'7 90lbs.
But the reason we react to our friends who say negative things about themselves is probably because we care about them. When you care about someone you look beyond that and so I guess in a way you don't like them saying bad things about themselves.


...Ok, my rant is over.

[*x1227x*]

well i have high self esteem so i never really call myself fat unless im just joking. but i admit that i sometimes can have too much high self esteem and that i sometimes do have a big stomache.

[demolished]

I had a normal-ish/chubby-ish friend who called himself skinny.
i told him, " what the hell, you're not skinny. i'm skinny. look at my arms! they're like sticks"



Seriously.

[*Funkadelic Kiss*]

It's funny when people sugarcoat. "Oh, you are not fat - you are skinny". I saw someone say that to a girl that was 180lbs .

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

^ That's not right. It's misleading people.

I know this girl that's more than 200 pounds and she says that she's 110. Like, WTF?

Girls are just too self-concious.

[demolished]

But, people dont have the courage to say, " you're f**king fat, go on a diet".

so, why not say " oh, you're skinny" or "you're fine".



Yeah. i know. it's dishonest. There are people that doesnt like to hurt others.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

I don't hurt others..
I just say "Oh, quit worrying.. You're fine." or "You're normal."

And it's not really that dishonest either.

[demolished]

You cant called an overweight person, "fine" or "normal".

The weights are abnormal. So yeah, I think it's dishonest.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

But it's less dishonest than calling a 180 LB person skinny, right?

[demolished]

Sort of ;[

Either way, it's dishonest. I perfer, skinny ;D

I think there's a nicer way to say it as a friend.
"Oh. i dont have a problem with your weight"

[starlette]

I'm know I'm fat. All my friends lie and say oh you arent you dont need to lose weight. But I'm fat. and I know it. I really hate it when people are like, oh I wish I looked like you, when they are like 3 sizes smaller than me. Just don't freakin lie. moo.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

Girls are insecure.

yeah. it`s soo annoying.

[teeners4]

that actually doesn't happen to me often, nor my friends. well i guess one of us would initiate it but we all say it as sarcasm. we're all the same weight and height, just different frames

but i can imagine how annoying it would be when a skinny girl says it and you're obviously the bigger one.

eck

[expoised]

I'm obese. ><

[AngelinaTaylor]

The main reason people say "OMG OMGOMGOMG I'm fat!!!!!!!1111111111" is because they love to fish for compliments. It's lame.

[shortiiex]

everyone has there own definition of fat
ppl say i'm skinny but i think i' m fat to..but i keep my mouth shut b/c ppl are going to be liek oh my godd you're not fat!

[Nymphetamine]

I am extremely thin but I think I'm fat. I put on weight few months ago but I lost 'em during the summer vacation.

Honestly, I don't think I'm fat per se, I just think I'm too big for my expectations. Bleh.

[Gypsy Eyes]

I feel like that too. I feel skinny around my friends and at school but when I get to dance I feel like a cow.

[angelrevelation]

Honestly, I don't think I'm fat per se, I just think I'm too big for my expectations. Bleh.

exactly what i was thinking.

[xwinnie]

Friend: I'm fat.
Me: Yeah, I know. Go on a diet.

Me: I'm fat.
Friend: No you're not.

-______- only one friend of mine says "yeah you are" @___@; lol.

Personally, I acknowledge my fatness, but I don't dish for things like "omg, no ur not!" and stuff :l.
Sometimes we compare fat +_+ lmao.

[kimmytree]

So many people make a big deal over their weight, when its really not something to worry about for most people. Unless, your obese.

Everyone's different. Some people are naturally skinny as a stick, and then there's some who are big boned and naturally a little more chubby.

I thought I was going to cry earlier in walmart... a little girl (5 or 6?) insisted that she was too fat to wear a princess costume in the toy department. When the girl was almost too skinny.

[vn_cuti3]

i think they're all just saying it cause everyone is saying it and now you're starting to say it too

[theINSANITYclaus...]

I completely hate when these little size 2 girls complain that they're fat. You know, the girls who are already 110 pounds and if they lose 10 pounds they'll disappear in thin air? It's like, if you're fat, then what the hell am I? A freaking apartment building?!

[Joss-eh-lime]

i think when people say they are fat, they mean they want to get into shape, like have a six pack and biceps haha well, maybe not that extreme,
but they do [or at least i do] feel like they want to improve their body.
just because someone's skinny doesn't mean they aren't insecure about how they look.

[monxcheri]

Shit, I rather be fat than skinny.

I don't see what the big deal is about being skinny. (I'm not skinny...I'm average or maybe a little smaller)

But anyway, skinny girls are just not attractive to me.

If I was a guy I'd prefer a thick--->big girl, over a skinny girl.

Yeah, it's those damn magazines.

.. but then again though, some people just like to be in shape because they wanna good look in their clothes. i`m not saying that bigger people don`t look good in their clothes, but i guess there are just more options if you`re smaller. that`s mostly my reasoning why i like to keep in shape.

[xklipse]

I used to complained that I'm fat, but I dont do that anymore because my friends would get mad at me. They think that they're fat and I think they're perfectly fine, but they think I'm skinny because I'm tiny.
There's a big diff with tiny and skinny, i'm 4'10-4'11 and almost 18 & almost 100 lbs, and I think I'm slightly overweight, and seriously goin on a healthy diet. Maybe your friends think like me.

so yeah, everyone has their own deffinition of fat. Esp. for asians, god, all my family think I'm fat, lol.

[monxcheri]

I used to complained that I'm fat, but I dont do that anymore because my friends would get mad at me. They think that they're fat and I think they're perfectly fine, but they think I'm skinny because I'm tiny.
There's a big diff with tiny and skinny, i'm 4'10-4'11 and almost 18 & almost 100 lbs, and I think I'm slightly overweight, and seriously goin on a healthy diet. Maybe your friends think like me.

so yeah, everyone has their own deffinition of fat. Esp. for asians, god, all my family think I'm fat, lol.

haha yes. that`s definitely a downside to being asian, especially filipino. everyone notices even a subtle change to your appearance.

[demolished]

Asian are good at judging people. Calling someone fat or skinny is quite common.

[lovescream]

Out of all the girls I know, I'm the only one who calls herself skinny, also, the only one who wants to gain weight.

[Laughsalot]

those type of girls that think their fat but indeed are skinny and try so hard to make themselves skinny cuz they see themsevles fat are stupid balimics

[Nymphetamine]

Shit, I rather be fat than skinny.

A skinny girl can actually put on weight easily but a fat girl can't lose weight that easy. I'd rather remain skinny than be fat any day.

[KissMe2408]

I think you are always harder on yourself then you are on your friends.
When you look at yourself in the mirror you notice every single flaw.
And when you look at your friends, you tend to look past a lot.

Plus, every single girl in the world is insecure about some part of their body.
If some girl gains more weight in her thighs then everything else, she would say, "oh god, i'm fat", and not be looking at the rest of her body, but just her thighs. Or she'll look at one fat roll and figure that that makes her fat.

I don't know, every girl is different and all, but we are all faced with pressures of being really thin. So you're going to hear "i'm fat" from a lot of your friends.

[bamababy89]

[font=Comic Sans Ms]
you're exactly right.
i have friends that are thinner than me,
they weigh anywhere from 10-30 lbs. less than
me, and they say theyre fat. even w/o
an ounce of fat on them!

how is that supposed to make the heavier person feel??
DONT SAY YOU'RE FAT IN THE
COMPANY OF THOSE LARGER THAN YOU!!
just dont do it.

[bamababy89]

also, i know why im overweight.
[notice im not using the term fat]
i like FOOOOD! for the love of God!
i LOVE it. dont we all? I can sit down and
enjoy my meals, and not feel guilty.
Im in good shape as far as athleticism goes.
Ive got lots of muscle underneath my curves.
Ive got a little more fat than i'd like around my middle,
i hate sitting down and seeing the stuff on my stomach
turn itself into a lil jelly roll. it drives me plain nuts
sometimes! lol. but arent we all like that?

i honestly dont see anything wrong with my shape.
the doctor says i've got somewhere around 20 lbs.
of extra weight that could come off. sure, i'd love to
lose it, but i dont think i'd be happy. like i said,
i've got more weight on my stomach than i'd like to,
but i've also got a big booty and the
guys seem to be perfectly fine w/ that. i fill out my clothes.
so what? im not itty bitty like some girls. would it be
nice to be in a size 5? probably. and i can see some of
you girls out there who think that would be aweful.
but guess what! im a size 9/11. *gasp!* but i think im still sexy.
(im probably going to pay for saying that later haha)

but still. if you're unhappy about your weight, whether you're like the
girl who says she's 4'11 and almost 100 lbs, and her family says she's fat;
or whether you're tall and weight 175, you've got to learn to make yourself
happy. dieting is tough, i KNOW. like i said. i looove my food ha.
but i get excercize. find something fun to do that burns calories.
i play soccer. its the biggest rush for me. just try something new.
if you arent interested in diet or sports, just learn to be happy with yourself!

and the next time one of your size 2 friends says she's fat, tell her if you can
be happy with your body, she can live with hers.

[expoised]

^ I heart you...

It's so great to see somebody comfortable in her own body and not constantly wishing to be someone else.

I think everybody should think like that.

[lightsabersavvy]

i know im overweight, but not really. i think i weigh around 155? yeah. its not too bad. but sometimes when i look at other girls i think, man. does that make me look like a whale? but ive learned to really love the way i look.

some people are just curvy and it makes them look fat, which theyre really kind of not.

[blurrr]

ach i have the same prob...im 5'2" and wiegh 120...which is average...i used to be alot heavier ...but then idint care about weight...and everytime i heard ppl complaining about weight i was just like shut up and eat another cookie lmao urnot fat! now...i'd probly stillsay the same thing but ihave issues with my weight...im very happy with the number on the scale...but my body is kinda shaped a weird way lol and i look fatter than i am! i dunno how to describe it! ach lol

[Kagome]

i guess it depends on who you`re comparing to but every girl is insecure

[*My Cinderella.*]

I agree with Suzzette. It is those darn magazines. "Lose weight now!" or "Oprah's diet!"

[*Libertie*]

It's not that I think I'm fat (oh god no), I just think I could lose weight in a couple of places. I don't go broadcasting it though! Like, I don't blurt out with a group of friends that "OMG I need to lose weight," because for one it's rude and annoying, and for two you basically ARE fishing for compliments. I mean, what do you expect them to say? "Yeah, you're right, wow.. You're really putting on the pounds." If you did expect them to say that, you wouldn't have said anything in the first place.

[LaLaLaLie]

well i say im fat and people say im skinny and yet i so dont do that for the complements because im just unhappy with my body like me a lot of girls are self concious.

A skinny girl can actually put on weight easily but a fat girl can't lose weight that easy. I'd rather remain skinny than be fat any day.

true that.

[aubbob]

here in hawai'i there are many overweight girls, and they know it.
at least 30% of the girls in my school are overweight because of the
cultural foods because here, our races are so diverse and we have so many
kinds of food that we are told is "healthy" but it really isn't.
when i was in 5th grade i used to be really chunky.
i lied about my weight i said i was like 15 pounds lighter than i was
just to make it like i was like the other girls. it really hurt though
lying about my weight to make others think i was something i wasn't.
i learned my lesson, and i don't try to mislead or impress people
to make them think were all like each other.
i hope that made sense. ha

[loveTWOhateTWO]

i have a friend just like that. im a little chubby, and she has the PERFECT body.. like... PERFECT. and she thinks she's fat.

i guess it's just perception. people think about you differently than you think about yourself.

[cutey2kc]

i feel ya.

i know im sort of skinny.. but, it always seems that in order to measure up to all my friends who are fairly skinny.. i gotta keep up with them..and that's the only way i feel like im pretty. :/.

and no, i do not say im fat for compliments. its simply just my vague perception of myself. no one else can see what i see about myself, but me.

[Laughsalot]

i would like to lose a couple of pounds. i'mnot saying i'm fat. i'm 5ft2 and weigh 92-93lbs. i want to be 90lbs. so only 2 pounds. *shrugs* it's not that big of a deal. i go walking like every day. for like 1 or 2 hours.

[lojay]

I think it's alright to say that you want to lose weight, because majority of people do.. but excessive "i am fat" when you really aren't and comments like that gets rather annoying, and most people get tired of hearing it.

Honestly though, if someone has the nerve to call themselves fat, then instead of giving them compliments about how they really aren't and how beautiful they really are, then why not just say "then do something about it".. i mean.. if you don't like how you look, work harder to look how you want. as long as its in a healthy way.. i know from experiance =/ one of my best friends recently was put into the hospital as an in-patient for anorexia. she just wanted to get skinny and everytime we told her she looked so good and she was losing so much weight it just motivated her more to lose more weight. its horrible seeing what people do to themselves. i dont think i'll ever be upset with my average body ever again after seeing other patients there.

oh. btw. i think i heard my dad talking to his friend the other night about how parts of europe doesnt want skinny girls anymore because they are "too skinny" and some designed did a line of clothes for a 200 something pound woman and made her BEAUTIFUL. that kinda makes me happy.

[alysaphobia]

i've heard a ton of people who are of average weight complain out loud, "i'm fat" or "i want to lose weight". to be honest, being skinny isn't like great or anything. sometimes it's really hard to find clothes that'll fit just right, and also you just don't look great in a strapless dress because your collar/shoulder bones can protrude, plus your arms are like, stick thin.

i'd rather be average weight. guys prefer average weight girls to skinny ones, i think.

[JTHMjulia]

I'm 5'11 and about 180 lbs. I know I'm chunky, And I know I need to lose that waeight. Yeah, my problem is food. I LOVE food! I love to eat all the time!!!!t he funny thing is is that it doesn't go to my thighs, it really all goes to legs and stomach. I hate it. I hate walking around with a spare tire. I'm just lucky I'm tall, because I can carry the weight really well. Then all these little skinny or average girls go around saying they're fat, and I have to slap them. Like seriously, if you're fat, that makes me a whale or something. It really annoys me, and makes myself esteem go even lower. I have a friends thats skinny, but she knows it...she doesn't go on the "woowoo I'm fat" train...she was HAPPY when she put on a couple of pounds. I don't mind being around her. I just wish girls could be a little more secure about them selves...myslef includedd

[Stefanny]

^^ Hekk yes! Food is a problem for me too. I'm like 5'2 (I know I'm short; asian, 13 years old...) and like 115-120. Problem for an asian. But yeah, I agree. Girls should feel more secure about themselves, including me.

[-sincerely]

eek, i hate when people put pics of them, wherever it may be, like myspace or whatever, and they're just like 'i'm fat.' you aren't fat, because if you really thought you are you wouldn't be putting those pictures there. eh, jmo. sorry had to get that out lol i had that in me for a while.

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

There are many ways you can be honest with an overweight friend without being mean. If they call themselves fat, tell them that they should do something about it if they feel that way. This way, you aren't openly saying, "Yep... you're fat!"

I feel this way most of the time about myself, and only this past year have I taken the inniciative and done something about it. I used to be INCREDIBLY self-concious, but I've come such a long way! I've lost some weight and am getting a personal trainer this week to give me some motivation!

There is always something you aren't going to like about your body. I don't believe anyone is fully, 100% comfortable in their own skin... but you learn to accept your flaws. Flaunt it while you have it, girl! :D

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I do this tp piss off my boyfriend sometimes.. I know I'm not fat and he knows im not fat and some people on here that have seen my boney ass in pictures of the past know that I am not fat eather.. He getsssss so Pissed off. I haven't said anything about the way I look for a long time. Maybe its because I don't really care. If people don't like the way I look, fine, f**k them.. I don't need'em.

Hows that for a post.