wtf, get over yourself..., .. Options

[expoised]

So there's this guy that I've liked on and off since freshman year.

Mixed signals EVERYWHERE, and so much emotional rollercoastering that it could make anyone dizzy, but that said...

I'm finally over him.

I finally see him like I see all my guy friends, and I'm finally beginning to accept him as just a normal everyday friend, when ALL OF A SUDDEN, he starts telling all his friends that I like him and blah blah blah blah blah.

So, I'm expecting all this stupid drama to go away, right?

And when it's almost about to... he starts getting all "oh yeah, i'm the man" and everyone's asking me "YOU LIKE HIM?" and I'm like "NO!" and they don't believe me because "Come on, you've always liked him!"

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I'm angry.




Now I'm fairly certain that I hate guys. I despise them. Them and their stupid f**king egos.

(Except for you, Johnny Depp and Christian Bale. Nothing can be wrong with you guys...haha)

[goodcharlotte]

Hm. Well as far as egos go. Some of us aren't as cocky as others. Also he is a jerk. A flat out jerk. Confront him and tell him off.

[xforgottenlove]

yah you should confront him about it. like seriously let it all out on him. and after that, just let everyone think what they want. cuh YOU know what the truth is ; and that's all that matters [:

[*x1227x*]

^ agree. how can you be told that you like him when you CLEARLY know that YOU dont? tell them to back off and that they dont know the facts and what is happening. that guy is a total b*tch and you should confront him and tell it straight to him that you no longer have feelings for him and that he shouldn't be spreading things that aren't true. (which are rumors) even tho they happened in the past, it's the PRESENT & he needs to get over it cause if he think he all cool cause you like him, well he needa think again. =] (REALITY CHECK PLEASE!)

[scottypottyboi]

go kick his ass!!!!!!!!! <<< and use that face

[demolished]

dont be his friend anymore. he's taking disadvantage of you.

[*mipadi*]

Christian Bale was excellent in American Psycho.

[*Uronacid*]

Honestly, I would call him up... tell him exactly how you feel... don't cuss at him.

Here is what I would do:

Sit down and write out sentance by sentance exactly how you feel. What you wright may look something like this:

- I feel like you dis-respected me. By talking about me behind my back.

- I don't like you in the way that you have expressed to others, and I'm not even sure I want to be your friend anymore.

- I feel that being a friend doesn't entail going behind my back and spreading rumors about me through-out the school.

- I feel disrespcted when I hear that things are being said about me that arn't true.

Organize your thoughts, and eliminate things that that look like accusations.
Example: "You're a jerk because you did this or that..."
Accusations will only make your situation worse.

Take key pionts and expand upon them. (Key pionts: are things that you feel especially strong about.) Tell him what he did to make you feel that way. He cannot avoid the facts, and it gives him the ability to for a rebuttle if you were mistaken about the reasoning behind the things that he may or may not have done.

Then Call him calmly and say something like this:

"Hey, I have to talk to you about something. If you're too busy or you cannot talk right now. I would like you to call me back when you get a chance, but I don't want to talk to you about it in front of anyone else or when anyone else is around."

He'll probably ask you why (with a sarcastic a-hole additude), but you need to ignore it.. and calmly focus on the fact that you want talk about it now or have him to call you back when it's most convenient for him later in the day. If he decides that he will call you back (which he probably will do, because most people aren't willing to face conflict) and doesn't call you back when he says that he will give him a message on myspace, or send him an email (make sure you tell him that you are still expecting him to return your call in the email). DO NOT CALL HIM OR TALK TO HIM IN A PUBLIC PLACE. IT WILL PROBABLY MAKE YOU LOOK BAD, AND HE MAY NOT RESPECT YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT HOLDING TRUE TO YOUR WORD IN ALLOWING HIM TO CALL YOU BACK.

When you do talk to him, whether you talk to im in writing or by word of mouth. You only need to convey how you feel. No threats and no cussing. Just tell him exactly how you have felt about him, and how you feel now. Be honest. Use what what you are written as a guide, and don't stray from it. Don't loose your temper. Keep calm, and stay in control of yourself. You can't control him. There is a high risk that he will probably say somethings that really piss you off, but you have to give him the same respect that you expect from him even though he doesn't deserve it. You can't expect him to be dumb founded by what you say. You also may be surprised if he appologizes for everything. Either way, you have to understand that people won't always see you eye to eye and in many cases there is nothing you can do about it.

When all is said and done. Come to a conclusion. You may even find that you don't want to be his friend anymore. You may find that it will strengthen your friendship. Who knows, just don't expect anything. You make the descision. If you want continue to be his friend, then continue to be his freind. If you don't want to be his friend. Tell him that, and tell him why you have made your descision so that he can better himself for the future.



Good luck, you don't have to take my advice... this is only something that I have done... it generally works... it's great because it gives you the ability to express exactly how you feel, and control yourself while doing it. I hope for the best.