Does it make sense that I feel this way?, I'm confused Options

[sarangxai]

My bf doesn't want me to go to this place where my "ex" (I don't really call him my ex because I don't look back on it as an actual relationship) works... because he says my "ex" is a bad person.

This is somewhat true, because he used to be somewhat of a player that hit on girls that he should't have, including me and one of my bf's friends.

However, he has honestly changed as a person and finally grew up and is doing alot better for himself.

So, I found enough in me to forgive my ex for what he did.

I've found enough courage to go to the place where he works because that place where he works is a place where I can participate in a sport that I am really passionate about. I quit going because I was once upon a time very angry at him, but now that I've found peace, I'd really like to start going again.

I'm not going to let my "ex" stop me from doing something that I love.. especially now that I'm over it and very neutral about him. I don't even talk to him.

However, my bf said he would be hurt if I went. If I went, he said he wouldn't want me to talk to my "ex", even if he just said "hi" and I said "hi" back.

Doesn't this sound kinda controlling?

Edit:: Part of me thinks my bf is the one that hasn't let the grudge against my ex go... cuz they knew each other before I even knew my bf... and they were not on good terms then because my ex tried to date his friend and alot of people think he just wanted sex.

[femmefatale4160]

Yes, it does sound controlling. You're right, your ex SHOULDN'T prevent you from doing what you love. You need to make sure that your boyfriend understands that, and he also needs to know that he can't tell you who you can and can't talk to.

[blacknailpolish]

Just let him know that everything between you and your ex is ok now, and he can't hurt you anymore. You've moved on, and (you should really tell this to him) you appreciate him looking out for you and having your best interests at heart, but there is a fine line between protecting and controlling, and he's crossed it. It's not a big deal if this is the only thing he's trying to control, as long as he stops it now.

[_sarcastic_]

if you think your bf is stopping you from going/doing something you like then talk it out with him
he's just afraid that your 'ex' might start hitting on you, since he has a tendency to do that.