Daddy & Boyfriends, ... Options

[expoised]

Does your dad have any specific rules considering the boys you bring home?

My dad's pretty easy-going and incredibly asian, so he always jokes around whenever i mention any guy.

1.) "I am going to bring you to Taiwan to find a nice gentleman you can marry."

2.) "Every boy you want to date will be scored on a point system... 2 pts for coming from a nice family, 1 pt for every year he's older than you, 4 pts for having an SAT score above 2200, and 20 pts for being asian."

3.) "When you go to college, date 3 guys. Then, at graduation, I'll meet them and pick one out for you to marry."

It's pretty freakin' funny.

[lovescream]

My dad doesn't.. but he doesn't live with me. :p My mom's boyfriend doesn't either. This probably may be because I'm not his real daughter, but he'd joke the same way.

Me: I dont wanna smell like sweat after P.E.
Him: HAHAHAHA. Well, it's not like you're gonna be bringing home boys, so why should you even care?

I'm not sure if he was serious, or just pissing me off.

[_sarcastic_]

2.) "Every boy you want to date will be scored on a point system... 2 pts for coming from a nice family, 1 pt for every year he's older than you, 4 pts for having an SAT score above 2200, and 20 pts for being asian."

3.) "When you go to college, date 3 guys. Then, at graduation, I'll meet them and pick one out for you to marry."

hahahaha your dad is cool...

I am going to bring you to Taiwan to find a nice gentleman you can marry."

oooooooo my bf's taiwanese.

anyways, my dad is pretty easy going. he gets freaked out only when i go out late at night. (late according to him is after 5pm)
but yeah i'm just glad he really likes my bf

[*This Confession*]

I love your dad's rules [x]poised.

Sounds pretty neat.

My dad doesn't really have any from what I know of. My boyfriend is 5 years older and lives in another state, so when he actually came to my house in which was our first time meeting. he really didn't stick around while we were in the house. We didn't really have that much time alone in the house because we were usually going somewhere and stuff.

[alysaphobia]

yep, as mentioned above your dad's rules are loveeely.


my parents actually disaprove if the boyfriend is older than me though. (as in, not in my grade) apart from that they don't really have rules, just like, the guy can't be smoking pot and failing school.

[Laughsalot]

i live with my gradpa and he won't let me date boys or even GO OUT with them. which sucks. but nobody can tell me what to do. i do it anyway. my grandpa says that the vietnamese boys in Vietnam are incredibly nasty. he knows since he was a viet boy when younger and he remembers. like groping and other things...

[alysaphobia]

groping...

that reminds me of how in tokyo, on the subway cars, they have Women Only sections because a lotta cases of men groping women have been reported..... ewwww. but anyways. heh i'd go out with guys even if my folks wouldn't let me either.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

2.) "Every boy you want to date will be scored on a point system... 2 pts for coming from a nice family, 1 pt for every year he's older than you, 4 pts for having an SAT score above 2200, and 20 pts for being asian."

Now that's crazy.

My parents.. Don't really care that much. =/

[iDecay]

Hmmm, my parents are pretty ehh when it comes to guys. I can't even talk to guys.

"NOT UNTIL YOU'RE 18!"

Sound familiar?

[*Kathleen*]

My dad was in the Marine Corps for a decade. He doesn't like any of my boyfriends. I agree with Holly, though - your dad sounds hilarious.

[*mzkandi*]

poised' date='Sep 4 2006, 2:12 AM' post='2268995']

When my daddy was here (RIP <3) his policy was simply: No boys. Period. Not until I was 40.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

We've never really brought it up. My parent's are really old fashioned. My mom's really cool though, but she's easily pursuaded and my parents think that it's all sex
I have lots of guy friends, mainly because of my brother. My mom finds it necessary to interigate me about every boy I know.

[n_Oodles]

lol... Im not allowed to have a boyfriend until after college o.O

[*Kathleen*]

After college? Harsh. Granted.. I shouldn't be complaining. I probably won't be able to get a boyfriend until after college.

[*xcaitlinx*]

ehh my dad's very protective of me but not to the point that it's unbearable. my boyfriend comes over atleast once or twice a week and he gets along with my dad very well. they actually have a lot of things in common and my dad likes him which makes it a lot easier. we started dating 9 months ago so my dad's loosened up and knows that i wouldn't date a boy who treats me poorly or disrespects me. he trusts me [most of the time] so i don't really have anything to worry about.

[xostolenkissezox]

my dad actually loves my boyfriend at the moment...but that's only because my boyfriend loves to hunt and all that outdoors stuff like my dad and while my dad has never been able to get me to take part, my boyfriend is....but other than the guy i'm dating, my dad has never really liked my boyfriends...so i think i'll keep this one around for awhile lol

[_sarcastic_]

^mine too. my dad never liked my exes
but my dad love my bf
so my bf now is definately a keeper

[demolished]

After college? Harsh. Granted.. I shouldn't be complaining. I probably won't be able to get a boyfriend until after college.

oh. trust me. it's not easy. you dont want to be like my sibling.



pretty tough to find one.

[Dazzle]

FCUUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK SAVE THE " MEET DADDY" THING FOR LATERRRRRRRR WAYYYY WAYYYYYYY LATERRRR LIKE DAMN " I AM HAVING SEX WITH YO DAUGHTER / M A R R IAGE ALETER"

[*Kathleen*]

oh. trust me. it's not easy. you dont want to be like my sibling.



pretty tough to find one.

How old is she? And I know it's not easy.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

I AM HAVING SEX WITH YO DAUGHTER

Um, you do realize that there are people who date but aren't having sex, right?
Haha. My mom will probably love anyone I choose to date. My mom's just like that..

[*mona lisa*]

My dad's rules are simple: No boys/dating whatsoever. So if my parents are going to arrange my marriage, that doesn't leave me a time frame within which to have a boyfriend.

[SarahxJoy]

My dad doesn't know that I have a boyfriend. He's never known about any of my previous ones as well. My dad's hella' strict, constantly telling me that he forbids me to date until I am out of college and financially settled. ...

My mom isn't as old-fashioned though, and allows for me to have a boyfriend.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

I think my dad would be surprised and mad if I told him I have a boyfriend.

[SarahxJoy]

I think my dad would be surprised and mad if I told him I have a boyfriend.

I'd be mad too Kevin.
I can't say I'm surprised though.

[breakingdawn]

My dad would say like "no dating until after highschool," but I don't care what my dad says. It's all up to my mom, anyway.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

I'd be mad too Kevin.
I can't say I'm surprised though.

[RxCore]

lol. i love the point system.

[troublemaker36]

my parents are actually really cool about that..they usually invite him to go somewhere with us before i do..so hes pretty much part of the family. the only rule he really has is hes not allowed in my room with the door closed..but other then that they dont really care..

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

Hmmm, my parents are pretty ehh when it comes to guys. I can't even talk to guys.

"NOT UNTIL YOU'RE 18!"

Sound familiar?

THATS JUST LIKE ME!! omigosh!, buttt luckie now im 18!! =]

[shinysparkle3]

my daddy is pretty cool when it comes to boyfriends...
he just doesn't want me dating 20 year old guys or druggies,
but isn't that how like all dads are?

[*My Cinderella.*]

Well, I've never really asked him and he's never really told me...all he says is no sex.

[*Kathleen*]

Well, I've never really asked him and he's never really told me...all he says is no sex.

Haha. Well at least your dad acknowledges the fact that you know about sex already. My parents haven't even giving me "the talk."

[SimplicityGirl]

My Dad doesn't have a say in this. My Mom's the one I have to get my blessings from if I get a boyfriend.

[elaboratedream]

I'm 16 and my parents still don't allow me to date.

but I do anyways.

[islandkiss]

so basically, I'm supposed to be dating until after college. Let's just say that I started ever since 6th. My parents don't know about any one of them. The guy that I'm with now stops by my house every week to spend time with me before my parents get back from work. (and no kids, I'm staying booty-free until marriage. woot woot). He understands the situation<3

[mznikki]

my dad's a traditional asain. he's like u can have a crush but no dating its not even serious till ur in college (which btw i am in now). all honestly he never wanted me dating until college but that dind't happen lol...so far he's hated all of my ex's and has said to me "i'd like you to marry a chinese man not filipno just chinese." (i'm a chinese filipina btw) even my family wants me to marry a nice chinese man lol.

funny story..my grandma met my ex who at the time was my bf and escort for my colliton (sweet 16 for filipinos) and she told my nanny that she wants me to marry him because he's chinese and filipino hahaha. i died laughing .

[JTHMjulia]

my dad jokes a lot about this topic. He's big on hunting, so we have some deer heads mounted in my den...so when I bring a guy over for dinner....my dad brings them into the den to chat...and he makes sure they see the thing over the fireplace.....its this this empty plaque mounted on the wall that he made with a sign that says "boyfriend" on it. It's so embarrassing...but they all seem to get a kick out of it

[expoised]

^ Haha... That sounds so funny.


It's like when my uncle threatened my cousin's boyfriend... He's a surgeon and he told him "If I ever catch you touching her in my house, I will personally cut off your balls and hang them up in my office. Are we clear?"


He's a little scary.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

.. No one black. I am white.. How agay right..


Sorry Kc :-(
I cant be with you.


Sush.. we just wont tell anyone. O_-

[radhikaeatsraman]

My dad's rule is basically no boyfriends period until after college. Which is retarded, but it's not like I'd be able to get one before then. My mom's just this huge worrywart who thinks if a guy even comes remotely near me, he wants to bang me. It's retarded.

[da_SALSA]

LMAO! My dad finds out whenever I have a boyfriend, which is fine with me--he has two rules: 1) Maintain grades and keep up with chores 2) Follow the other rules...which are a lot of rules!

[demolished]

How old is she? And I know it's not easy.

26 Recently, she found her 2nd boyfriend ... online.



Actually, she meet this guy through her friends. Then, she started talking to him online more than face to face.



yes, she seem to be an inexperienced person.

[*suddenly she*]

kiera and tina - let's start a club.
my dad = no boyfriend until you're settled down with a >$100k income.

oops

[smileeetina]

Lol "Not til your 18!" Yeah, my dad's like that.
My mom on the other hand, says...
"No baggy jeans, that boy better be nice, does he have good grades?!, you dating a fool?!, he better not be one of those gangsters, that valk like they got something stuck up they hiney..."
Well, you know the story. But my dad doesnt really seem to care.

[expoised]

^^^ x2
Haha. My dad can't wait to marry me off.

My mom on the other hand, thinks like that. "Melissa.. no boys until after medical school and you're a well-known surgeon"

HOKAY, mommy...

[_sarcastic_]

surprisingly my dad's never told me not to date till i'm in college.

[Trinie]

poised' date='Sep 3 2006, 10:12 PM' post='2268995']
Does your dad have any specific rules considering the boys you bring home?

My dad's pretty easy-going and incredibly asian, so he always jokes around whenever i mention any guy.

1.) "I am going to bring you to Taiwan to find a nice gentleman you can marry."

2.) "Every boy you want to date will be scored on a point system... 2 pts for coming from a nice family, 1 pt for every year he's older than you, 4 pts for having an SAT score above 2200, and 20 pts for being asian."

3.) "When you go to college, date 3 guys. Then, at graduation, I'll meet them and pick one out for you to marry."

It's pretty freakin' funny.

ahahah thats way too funny! love ur dad! he is one cool guy. my parents are pretty easy going, they don't care anymrore. they used to when i was younger.

[me1issaaaa]

When my boyfriend came to pick me up on our first date, as we were leaving, my dad said, "I'm not afraid to go to jail... again". It was SO funny.

(Sidenote - he's never really been to jail, but he definitely wouldn't hesitate to do any damage if anyone ever hurt me)

My dad's becoming more laid back, though. He actually encourages us to go out on more dates

[_sarcastic_]

^ haha, i like that

my dad did something like that, my bf was pulling up on our driveway when my dad saw him and my dad was like "where's my shotgun"

[nilee08]

no...i dont live with my dad

[cassjamminx]

well, my dad isn't alive anymore, but i remember him telling me that "School comes before boys." i'm sure he'd approve of the boyfriend i have right now though

[loveTWOhateTWO]

20 points for asian? well if that isn't racism, i don't know what is.


but hmm... i dont know. the situation hasn't arisen yet.

[Joss-eh-lime]

hahahaha your dad is cool...
oooooooo my bf's taiwanese.

anyways, my dad is pretty easy going. he gets freaked out only when i go out late at night. (late according to him is after 5pm)
but yeah i'm just glad he really likes my bf

he gets freaked out only when i go out late at night. (late according to him is after 5pm)
haha that made me laugh.

i have no idea what my dad will do i keep my guy friends away from the house. no boyfriends though..he'll no about those.

[*chaneun*]

i want white parents :(

my parents dont care though.

[orgasm]

20 points for asian? well if that isn't racism, i don't know what is.
but hmm... i dont know. the situation hasn't arisen yet.

It's not racism. He's not hating on any race, is he? He's Asian, for godsakes. Asian parents tend to want their children to marry asian kids. That's not being racist...

[cutey2kc]

my dad. sigh. is the epitome of strict when it comes to guys, or even being around guys period. i just wish he'd trust me more, and he really doesn't get it.

i kno he's only looking out for me, and i acknowledge it, its just that.. one day he's gotta let me grow up and be my own person for once.

he doesn't know i have a boyfriend..and probably wont until i see that he (ironically) is mature enough to understand me. :/.

[*xcaitlinx*]

It's not racism. He's not hating on any race, is he? He's Asian, for godsakes. Asian parents tend to want their children to marry asian kids. That's not being racist...

how is that NOT being racist? that's like white parents saying that the don't want their kids to date black people...

[nikkiSLUT]

Im not allowed to have a boyfriend till like im 18 or after college.
cause they want me to have an education first.
But i still have boyfriends.
and i still get good grades.
I HAD like 07667890987678909876567890987656789x already.
and they dont know.
well maybe they do but deny it.
they just dont want me o be a slut.
but too bad.

It's not racism. He's not hating on any race, is he? He's Asian, for godsakes. Asian parents tend to want their children to marry asian kids. That's not being racist...

No My parents dont want me dating asians.
my mom wants me to marry a white boy with blue,gray or green eyes.
But cuirrently dating a mexican cAuse i like them too.

[orgasm]

^^ that's funny. My mom doesn't want me to marry an Asian but my dad does. My mom's always like "I married one and look where I ended up..."

how is that NOT being racist? that's like white parents saying that the don't want their kids to date black people...

First of all, he was being funny. Second of all, racism is the belief that one race is dominant over another. My father's not racist... he's the least racist person I know. First generation Chinese people and Asians are known for the way they stick together because they understand each other better. It's not that they think others are inferior, it's just a cultural bonding that they have, which is why he wants me to marry an Asian.

If I ever came home with a white or black man, he would NOT discriminate and he would NOT be dissappointed.

Almost like how I have an Indian friend who's parents are arranging his marriage to some Indian girl. It's not racism, it's keeping up a tradition.

It's also kind of like the father Bernie Mac played in the movie Guess Who. He just wanted his daughter to marry a nice black man because that's what he's comfortable with. His "racism" wasn't based on him thinking that others were inferior... it was based on what he was used to and who he could identify with.

[*sofakinglazy*]

My mom's always like "I married one and look where I ended up..."

Ex Dee Ex Dee.

[orgasm]

Haha... So once again my dad told me he wanted me to marry a nice Chinese boy. This time, I was like "why?"

And he was like "Didn't you know? In Eastern customs, they MAN's family pays for the wedding. If you were a boy, I'd tell you to marry a white girl!"

Ahh... My dad's so funny.

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

That's so funny! You're lucky your dad is pretty laid back... lots of my Asian friends have families that are pretty damn tough on them. I guess it's an Asian thing. Anyway, both of my parents just want me to be happy, they don't really have a preference. Obviously if I bring home a junkie they'll have something to say, but anyone else is [hopefully] fair game.

[Stefanny]

Wow, your dad's exactly like mine! Btw I'm Asian too, and I've heard that Asians tend to be stricter than other races, not to be racist.

[JenxCrazii]

poised' date='Sep 4 2006, 1:12 AM' post='2268995']
Does your dad have any specific rules considering the boys you bring home?

My dad's pretty easy-going and incredibly asian, so he always jokes around whenever i mention any guy.

1.) "I am going to bring you to Taiwan to find a nice gentleman you can marry."

2.) "Every boy you want to date will be scored on a point system... 2 pts for coming from a nice family, 1 pt for every year he's older than you, 4 pts for having an SAT score above 2200, and 20 pts for being asian."

3.) "When you go to college, date 3 guys. Then, at graduation, I'll meet them and pick one out for you to marry."

It's pretty freakin' funny.

lolz. that is funny. at least ur dad is not like mine. he doesn't even talk about guys areound me and he doesn't want me to have a bf. at least yooh have someone who approves yooh of having a bf.

[xhidethedetails]

Nah if he meets him and doesnt like him..I think thats where the problem starts.

[breakingdawn]

hahaha, my dad was driving me to the movies the other day and he told me to be "picky picky picky about the boys I date" and then I started laughing. And then I guess he got the point and turned the radio up.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Boyfriend.. Dad? AHAHAHA. Right!

My dad hates all my brother in laws
(guys that married my sisters)
he'll say no to any guy, the darn picky old geezer..
He most definately have rules for "the boyfriends"

the rule is
1) don't get one
2) obey rule 1

[lalalaLANUH]

I'm not allowed to date until I get a doctorate in something my parents approve of. So that basically takes care of anything for a couple years xD

[ksoyeah]

My dad's actually super cool when it comes to me and guys.
"Hey dad, a guy asked me out to a dance."
"That's good. Are you going?"
"No, mommy wouldn't allow it. I won't even bring it up."

xDD

[Anal]

My daddy is pretty cool about me dating :)

I mostly have long relationships anyway

[mmhmichelle]

Hmmm, my parents are pretty ehh when it comes to guys. I can't even talk to guys.

"NOT UNTIL YOU'RE 18!"

Sound familiar?

HAHAHAHA. Okay i shouldn't even be laughing because me..?

" NO DATING OR CELLPHONE UNTIL YOU ARE 21 ! "

so yeah.

[cutey2kc]

HAHAHA,
20 pts for being asian, that's freakin hilarious.

[RAWRstephishere]

Yeah..
My dad and my brother's dating rules: Date no one that they haven't hand-picked.

Same thing.

But they wont pick anyone.

[arghrawr]

my dad is like
NO BOYFRIEND TIL AFTER "COLLAGE"!

Mine too.
No dating until you get your degree missy.
"Alright, if you don't want to know what's going on in my life..."
We kind of have this don't ask, don't tell policy.

[Becks539]

My dad pretty much has no say.

Both my parents don't really care. I've been dating since middle school and now am a sophomore in high school and am on my 4th boyfriend. I have never had a "dating age" (like "no dating until you're 18") and I don't even have the open door rule when we're in my room, they really don't care.

My dad couldn't stand my ex but he never really said anything. He tried to accept the fact he wasn't going to change anything.

My current boyfriend (of 6 months so far)they both absolutly loved right away. All our family events, they just assume he is coming too. Sometimes my boyfriend will just sit and watch tv with my dad and talk to him.

And about the whole Asian parents wanting their daughter to date an asian...I'm white and even though my parents have never just came out and said they wanted me to date (and someday marry) a white man, I'm sure that's what they want.

[RAWRstephishere]

how is that NOT being racist? that's like white parents saying that the don't want their kids to date black people...

Their dad never said dont date white/black/or anything else, they just said they get 'points' for being asian.

[ThatMcFLYGirl]

lol... Im not allowed to have a boyfriend until after college o.O

Lol I can't date at all. Or well I dont really want to..I like being single =]

My parents are Indians, so like they're so protective of me from "american boys" and everyother guy. Both my parents are also Catholic, but my mom's more strict in faith so I'm scared of her ahah. lol But I love them =] They just want me to be protected? lol They say they're going to get me an arranged marriage =p ahahaha. But people don't know that arranged marriages arent like that bad; I get to pick whoever as long as my parents approve. But yeah I probably will find someone who my parents would approve of.

My parents always say, "Okay You are going to marry a nice Indian Catholic boy who is smart, handsome, etc"
ahah it's always wonderful to hear what they have to say lol