What age.., are u supposed to have a b/f? =/ |
What age.., are u supposed to have a b/f? =/ |
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![]() -->AZN L0SER<-- ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 444,985 ![]() |
My dad won't let me have a b/f until I finish college. That's just SAD. T___T
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*mona lisa* |
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Well... you're not supposed to have a boyfriend at a certain age. As in your case, many people are restricted from it by a parent. He's just worried about you, is all. :) If you find it sad and you think you would be able to handle this relationship, talk it out with your dad. If you know he won't listen, do it secretly or suck it up.
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WOW
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![]() -->AZN L0SER<-- ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 444,985 ![]() |
Well... you're not supposed to have a boyfriend at a certain age. As in your case, many people are restricted from it by a parent. He's just worried about you, is all. :) If you find it sad and you think you would be able to handle this relationship, talk it out with your dad. If you know he won't listen, do it secretly or suck it up. -sighs- i know I can handle the relationship.. My cousin's 13.. I think. >.O and she has a b/f. But she kept it a secret from her mom and dad. WOW ![]() Uh-oh.. that's trouble.. It sounds like your mom's cool but still, she over protective. |
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*WHIMSICAL 0NE* |
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Well I don't think there's a certain age you should start dating. Don't get me wrong, I don't think young people should be having sex.
When I was younger dating meant a different than it does now. When I was younger a lot of people just wanted a boyfriend or girlfriend just for the fact of having them... nothing special. I don't think there's anything wrong with a 13 yr. old dating, but parents automatically think that "dating" means the same to 30 yr old as it does for a 13 yr old. If you want to date someone, though, I don't think you should keep it from your parents. If it's not a serious thing and you know they're going to flip if you tell them, then dont. |
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 169 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 454,098 ![]() |
I dont think there should be a certain age that your allowed to have a boyfriend....I had my first boyfriend when I was 12 and it was a good experience...of course it never worked out but thats not really the point. But could your dad just be kidding, because I mean, after college you'll be in your 20's..so you you can date if you want since your an adult xD
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![]() -->AZN L0SER<-- ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 444,985 ![]() |
thx a lot.. =D And I'm going to college to be a nurse or a doctor.
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![]() live + laugh = life [[you don't need love]] ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 191 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 441,854 ![]() |
ya i know how asian parents (since your name is azn boo i guess your asian then) can be they're all looking out for their kids i guess but still if you want a bf then you should tell your dad i mean if you actually experience it now it'll be better cause later on when your in your in your 20s who know's what might happen then
but just incase don't feel sad cause my dad only let me have a "guy" friend |
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Todes ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 14 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,023 ![]() |
*shrug*
Personally I don't think you should date until you are old enough to realize all of the consequences that can come along with anything you do, I personally fully support not dating till you are at least in/finish college -.- I've ended up rather badly hurt by relationships, I'd gladly take them all back -.- Or, almost all |
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*salcha4u* |
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NEVER
Boys suck anyway. |
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*This Confession* |
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My parents never really gave me some age, one day I when I got this one fake boyfriend [long story] I told them I had one, and well they were like okay.
And then they teased me about it. And now I'm dating a 20 yr old..and they don't seem to have a problem with it.. |
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Hmm..I don't think there's a certain age.
If your dad doesn't want you dating until you're in college, you should probably respect that. If you really that you're mature enough to start dating, you need to convince your dad about that. |
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Hmm. Asian parents, huh? =/
I'm Asian too, but my parents let me date.. I just don't know what's wrong with some of them. My theory is that they think that when you have a boyfriend, you start to have sex. At least that's what my mom and her friends say. I convinced her that kids these days don't do that anymore.. You're not supposed to have a boyfriend at a certain age. You just have to wait 'til one starts liking you and asks you out.. Um.. Yeah. |
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Hmmm... Probably once you start highschool is the best time to actually date. My parents said they wouldn't let me date til I was 18 when I was younger, but I'm 16 now and they approve of my current boyfriend. *shrugs* So it'll come whenever, I guess ^_^
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![]() the bird and the bee sides! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,697 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 201,280 ![]() |
Around high school, when you're older and more mature. I just don't understand how 5th or 6th graders can be serious about dating. Even in junior high, I think you're still a little young.
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i dont have a certain age.... i had one in 2nd grade.. [[ which rlly didnt count bc i was so little ]] and my mom and dad didnt care
but then my brother had one in 5th grade and hes going into 6th and they didnt care.. they jsut wanted him to act nice around her and treat her good.. thats all they cared about |
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Cassie ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 143 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 459,516 ![]() |
My parents don't really care what age. I'm thirteen too.
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![]() I love my babyboy ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,367 ![]() |
it's all about you, if you feel you can handle a boyfriend, then go ahead. Whenever you feel ready, and that doesn't mean that just beacause your friends all have boyfriends that you should have one too. Keep in mind, boys are trying, trifilin', annoying, some of them are backstabbers even the best, and if you're considering goinging out with a friend, think about your friendship first. Will you be able to be friends after, oh! and biggest of all. Keep your business to YOURSELF, and a small group of friends. Girls talk, and thats how DRAMA gets started. Also how fights get started.
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 169 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 454,098 ![]() |
Yup I agree with loveneko cuz that caused me and my ex bestfriend to get in a fight x.x was the boys x.x
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![]() -->AZN L0SER<-- ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 444,985 ![]() |
it's all about you, if you feel you can handle a boyfriend, then go ahead. Whenever you feel ready, and that doesn't mean that just beacause your friends all have boyfriends that you should have one too. Keep in mind, boys are trying, trifilin', annoying, some of them are backstabbers even the best, and if you're considering goinging out with a friend, think about your friendship first. Will you be able to be friends after, oh! and biggest of all. Keep your business to YOURSELF, and a small group of friends. Girls talk, and thats how DRAMA gets started. Also how fights get started. ![]() I guess.. I have to wait a little longer and wait 'til college. I think my dad's right. *sighs* -__-; |
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haha idk...my parents said i could have one after 18....-0-
but yeah,i dont need to boyfriend now.:) |
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my parents never really put a restriction on when i could have a boyfriend...they just set rules for other things like i couldn't be in a car alone with a guy until i was 16 and i'm still not allowed to have guys stay here if my parents are home and i'll be 19 in 2 weeks but i can go stay over there and what not...
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My parents wouldn't let me have a boyfriend until I was 15. Then once I turned 15 I wasn't interested in having a boyfriend. When I turned 16, I was a bit more interested but there wasn't anyone whom I was interested in. I am 17 now and have a boyfriend. We were friends for about a year before we started dating.
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I think it may be an asian thing. My parents are very intent that I don't have any "distractions" until I finish school/college and settle into a very successful career. They happen to like the guy they know I'm into and keep telling me that if he really likes me, he'll wait. What they don't know that we've already been dating for two years and I'm still rocking it :)
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I had my first boyfriend at 12 .. we were seeing each other for just over a 2 months.
I had 2 this year, my parents were okay with it as long as I didn't do anything I would live to regret. Because they were both older than me, my parents did worry a bit. My parents said I am allowed to have a 'proper serious' boyfriend this year, because next Feb, I'll be 15 and they don't want to 'lock' me down. They also go on about not letting a boyfriend distract me from my studies. I don't let him go that far into my head to be able to do that anyway =] |
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look for the stars as the sun goes down ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,963 ![]() |
many teens don't listen to their parents when i comes to that kind of stuff. u can't control your feelings. and if a boy likes you back you can't resist in having a relationship. well that's just me. XD
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[b]Im sorry about your dad. mine wont let me have a boy friend either. but he never really said when I could. but the weird thing is I still get boy friends. I just never let my parents find out
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look for the stars as the sun goes down ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,963 ![]() |
my grandpa is extremely strict. i underestimated him. he says "NO BOYS!!" and he definely means it. cuz i found out something horrible.he put a spyware in the computer to see who i talk to and crap.
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^
You can easily delete that, you know.. |
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There isn't a certain age. And usually, parents don't want you do date because they're scared it's going to influence your studies.
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My parents have never gave me the bf speech really but my sister has. she said i can't have one until after highschool and with good grades
i'm very doubtful i'll follow that lol |
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![]() I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 ![]() |
Yeah, there's no specific age, but IMO nothing under the age of 15 could be serious. I started dating when I was 14, and as long as you keep it casual until you're older, there shouldn't be a problem.
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![]() mon cheri amour x ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,349 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,530 ![]() |
There isn't a certain age. And usually, parents don't want you do date because they're scared it's going to influence your studies. exactly. we live in a modern world though, so obviously when you`re 12-13 you already have a boyfriend. might not be a serious one, but nonetheless, it`s a boyfriend. |
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my parents say i cant date till i am 16
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![]() chinky ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,566 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,437 ![]() |
I had a "sorta" bf before, but we never really hung out cuz we were like long distance. Other than that kind of "relationship" my parents won't let me date till my last year of high school.
---Yet ANOTHER downside to being Asian. I'm starting to wanna become white ._. |
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![]() HILLARYious ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 82 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 245,200 ![]() |
my mom won`t let me have a boyfriend till i finish college also. but whatever i guess. i don`t want a boyfriend right now. i think when your 16 or 17 or a good time to have a boyfriend. people that are just 12 don`t know what it means to love yet.
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![]() Being happy...is all that matters ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 ![]() |
Hm..no age that you're "supposed" to get a bf. I had my first "real" bf when I was 16 and needless to say, didn't work out right. So I went off guys for a while....and now I have a boyfriend...a little bit more serious than the last one I must say and we're both 18.
So what I'm saying is, no certain age where you're "supposed" to get a bf. It's not school where you're "supposed" to be in a certain grade by the time you're a certain age. Just be yourself, and when the right guy comes, you can be involve. As for asian parents...ehehehe...I'm dating behind my Mom's back even though I'm allowed to have a bf. Just don't want her to give the speech on how I should FOCUS on school and not the bf and blah blah blah. |
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Genin ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 196 Joined: Oct 2006 Member No: 471,009 ![]() |
I have asian parents...and they never told me about "oh, you can only have a boyfriend when you're...."
My parents are weird though[they act like teenagers -.-], so it really depends on the parents. But I think the best time you should date is in high school. People have more sense during those years[or I'd hope so]. It's up to you really. If you want to have a bf and go behind your parents back, do it. If you want a bf and confront your parents about it, do it. If you want to do what they say, do it. It's all up to you. |
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I can have one now... its just a matter of if my parents approve of him or not...
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![]() Photoshop Mii Life(;* ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 236 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 489,110 ![]() |
same here. my parents dont want me to get bf until after college. my mom is like don't start meeting boys.
my parents dont' want me to get distracted; buh i kno i won't be. the computer distracts me. |
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![]() i'm maggie =] ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,607 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 361,616 ![]() |
theres no certain age on when you're suppose to get one.
youre lucky. my dad wont allow me to date until im done with college. but i plan on sneaking behind his back. |
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My parents wont let me date until I'm in highschool,so next year...but that doesn't mean I haven't had boyfriends before...they just didn't know...
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My parents said I could date at 16.
But I have a boyfriend now anyway and they dont really mind. |
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![]() my michelle. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 792 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,094 ![]() |
they've actually never talked to me about it.
but i think up to college / after college is really overprotective and really really far. i think high school is just fine although there is no set age. it's just when you feel you're ready to understand and have commitment and everything to be in a 'real' relationship, not just a really short childish middle school like one. |
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i understand. my dad doesn't really want me to have one either.
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You don't have to have a boyfriend by a specific age. It's just whenever you find someone you want to date and who also wants to date you, you start going out with them. Don't feel worried about finding one so soon.
It sucks about your dad, but sometimes it's better not to have to worry about dating until you're older. Really. |
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I'm Cattt. :] ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 ![]() |
There isn't an exact age. I'm asian but I don't know if my parents allow me with dating because I've never wanted a bf. A lot of guys asked me out but I turned them all down.
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![]() Get wit it bitches! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 137 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 496,883 ![]() |
i had my first boyfriend in PRE-SCHOOL. lol.
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![]() BABESTARR ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 600 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 442,634 ![]() |
i had a bf, but my dad went ballistic, right now i dont have one, but we didnt break up because of what my dad said...i think the age, should be bout....15? idk...LOL
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My mom is a little too protective i am 14 and she won't let me have a bf i thinks it's because she's afraid i might get pregnant at his age since she was pregnant at this age. the hard thing is that when i am dating or some reason i always end up fallin in love i only got hurt once nd i coldn't tell my mom anything. But on the plus side my dad is cool with everything so i can tell him everything now. i'm currently in a realtionship it's going soo great and i can tell my dad but my mom is just gonna explode if i do tell her what should i do Esspecially if i'm in love Do i tell or don't tell????
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If you want to date someone, though, I don't think you should keep it from your parents. If it's not a serious thing and you know they're going to flip if you tell them, then dont. if you're gonna date someone anyway; don't try and keep it from your parents. they're eventually gonna find out and when they do, you'll probablly lose a lot of their trust and that can't be good in helping the situation |
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my dad says i cant date will my wedding day. which is stupid, so i go 'do you want me to marry some hobo off the streets?'
hes stupid. if i do get a boyfriend, I wont tell him. Most guys arent really mature till about highschool. All guys in middle school are soo immature. |
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in university or after graduate from university...they want me to concentrate on study more first.
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