a confusing love..., any help welcomed thanks |
 Aug 27 2006, 06:36 PM
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 cvchango  Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717  |
There's this girl that I liked for a while now. We are pretty good friends. I know for sure she USED to like me. Everyone thought that we were a couple but I never asked her out. I was stupid and never realized that she indeed liked me. I thought we were just really good friends, and that she would never go out with me. I finally got over the fear of rejection and realized how important she is to me, but I'm afraid that her feelings for me are gone.
Just before I went on vacation, it slipped out that I indeed do like her. We went to see a movie, and I didn't act so smooth. The I went on a 6 weeks out of the U.S. vacation. It killed me that the last impression I left wasn't so good. And I had to wait a whole 6 weeks to see her again. During my vacation, we talked online. Everytime she was the first to IM, so I thought she liked me too. I sent her a box of chocolates. Then I sent her a love letter (which I thought was a work of art) a week later. I had the perfect plan to ask her out when I returned from my vacation. I was going to throw rocks at her window the second I got back to give her flowers and to tell her I missed her. I threw rocks at her window, but just my luck I couldn't wake her up. They make it look so easy in the movies. The next day I asked her to come over and watch a movie, but she said she had to go to the mall. The next night she gets her friend to call me at 8 at night to go over to her house to watch a movie or something. I was tired, because I had not yet adjusted the 12 hour time difference. I was sleeping, and when my mom handed me the phone. I didn't even remember my mom giving me the phone, so I'm not sure if I said anything. So there's a chance that she thought I hung up or something. Two days later I wanted to take her to dinner, but she said she had to "buy school supplies and finish summer reading". I did not buy this excuse. Who buys school supplies at night and she still had 3 days before school started. I started to realize that she might be trying to reject me go nicely. But for some reason she still keeps on starting conversations with me online. With my unsmoothness and some pretty bad luck, I'm afraid I messed up my chance. I'm not really sure if she likes me or not. The sense in me tells me that she's rejecting me nicely, but something deep down tells me I have a chance. I love her more than words can describe. I do know that I will not be able to truely love another girl during my high school years(I'm in 10th grade). Should I keep on trying and risk our friendship or should I just back off? Does she like me or is she nicely rejecting me? What should I do? Do I have a chance? thanks for the help and sorry that was so so long |
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Aug 27 2006, 06:51 PM
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 blah! Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 440,368 |
just ask her.
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Aug 27 2006, 07:41 PM
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dude you seem soooooo nice but i think she is rejecting you in a rude way if she doesnt like you she should just say it and not keep you hanging. also if she ims you all the time it might just be as a friendship conversation and nothing more. after all the love that you showed her any smart girl will prolly get the hint that you like her, so i think she jus doesnt have it in you anymore. i kno a good way to get her to like you MOST (not all) of the girls who dont like guys its because they are lavishing in attention when you stop doing that they get all crazy for you. just give her her space and let things run smoothly dont call her all the time and when she im's you tell her that you are busy talk to her once in a while and not all the time. believe me she will start MISSING YOU!!
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Aug 27 2006, 08:46 PM
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cvchango Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717 |
QUOTE(Kirsti @ Aug 27 2006, 7:51 PM)  just ask her. I did. She said "I don't know". I'm not sure what that means. Her friends seem to hint that she does like me. I'm so confused. |
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Aug 27 2006, 10:26 PM
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<(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
QUOTE(cvchango @ Aug 27 2006, 8:46 PM) I did. She said "I don't know". I'm not sure what that means. Her friends seem to hint that she does like me. I'm so confused. it means she is not interested. if she liked you so much she would have told you because you like her back. her friend isnt her brain she might think that her friend likes you but does she really even know that? believe me girls arent stupid if a guy likes us and we like him back of course we are going to tell him we are not gonna give some lame excuse like "i dont know" but hey she could have mixed feelings for you but why not go for someone who is actually sure how much they like you? |
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Aug 28 2006, 10:09 AM
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Well, I think she's still intrested... maybe she's taken off guard by your infatuation with her... I don't know... maybe you should jsut lay low for a bit and continue to be friends... If you really want to persue this I would wait a month or two before asking her out again. If she really doesn't know then you need to give her some time to make up her mind. I would wait the full two months...
Make sure you continue to be friends tho.... :] |
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Aug 28 2006, 11:45 AM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
You asked what - whether she likes you or whether she'll go out with you? If she said she doesn't know whether she likes you, she's just confused.
How about you call her and say, "Ok, let's stop with the mind games. I like you, but I'm not sure if you like me. Can you just tell me if you do or don't so that I stop feeding off false hope?" Voila. |
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Aug 28 2006, 12:05 PM
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cvchango Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717 |
QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Aug 28 2006, 12:45 PM) You asked what - whether she likes you or whether she'll go out with you? If she said she doesn't know whether she likes you, she's just confused. How about you call her and say, "Ok, let's stop with the mind games. I like you, but I'm not sure if you like me. Can you just tell me if you do or don't so that I stop feeding off false hope?" Voila. I asked if she liked me. Ands thanks for the advice. I think I should be more demanding. |
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Aug 28 2006, 12:25 PM
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QUOTE(cvchango @ Aug 28 2006, 1:05 PM) I asked if she liked me. Ands thanks for the advice. I think I should be more demanding. yeah, dude... I thought you asked her out... |
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Aug 29 2006, 05:46 PM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 410,180 |
I say u keep trying... If u truely love her that is what u should do!!! good luck
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