Cry if I died?, Our conversation... Options

[Just_Dream]

I often feel like my boyfriend, Tony, is slipping away. He doesn't seem to be liking any other girl, but I feel like all he cares about are cars. That he doesn't have time to think about me... Yesterday, i was talking to him at lunch time..

It goes something like this...

Christina: If I died, would you cry?
Tony: No
Christina: Really? Not even a tear?
Tony: I'll be sad, but probably not cry. I'm not that kind of guy. I wouldn't mourn. I'd be really sad though.
Christina: Really? I see... You don't love me enough to cry, huh?
Tony: I wouldn't cry if my parents died. I'd be sad but that's about it. I wouldn't feel like crying.
Christina: Meaning you dn't love me enough to cry.
Tony: ... Would you cry for me?
Christina: Of course I would. I'd even cry if we broke up. You know I would. I'd cry day and night because I'd miss you too much.
Tony: Aww... I love you.
Christina: ... But... what about if you crashed your car?
Tony: Hell yea I'd cry! I'd mourn my smashed car too.
Christina: I knew cars would always be first place...
Tony: ...
Christina: *teardrop* You once did cry for me... Not anymore.. *teardrop*
Tony: aww...

Today... (ewnt SOMETHING like this)

Christina: Really, what we talked about yesterday, you'd never cry for me?
Tony: Well okay, maybe a little but I wouldn't really mourn. Or maybe I'd mourn a little but not cry.
Christina: Oh okay... I see... And yet you'd cry so much and mourn for your car...
Tony: ...
Christina: ... I Love You. *hug*
Tony: I love you more so there.
Christina: Morest and mostest.

I don't know what's going on... =(

What does it mean? I really do care alot about him, I do love him (yews I do =P). I don't know what to think about anymore...

[Luster Soldier]

In my opinion, I think he loves you. Guys don't like to admit that they would cry. So I think you don't have to worry too much

[xtremeliquid]

He would cry over a car? I wouldn't.

[Just_Dream]

In my opinion, I think he loves you. Guys don't like to admit that they would cry. So I think you don't have to worry too much

Yea but.. usually he tells me the truth.. and when he lies, it's so obvious, he makes it obvious so I'll know lol. I'm just worried that he's not caring much about me anymore and that he doesn't care about where his life is headed anymore, except that he wants a car (evo 8? or whatever car he wanted) that he really really wants.

He would cry over a car? I wouldn't.

Yea,w ell, he is obsessed with cars.. and games lol.. Typical asian guy to me =X

[illuminessence]

Maybe he doesn't wanna think about it so he kinda jokes around? Death of a girlfriend of boyfriend isn't something you normally talk about. It'd make me feel uncomfortable, but there is no guy that does not cry. I think he's trying to keep his masculity in check.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Yeah, I think he would cry, he just can't imagine himself in a situation where you dies, or maybe he doesn't want to you know? No one would want to imagine their loved one in a situation. Hmm, I agree with illuminessence [forgot your name ]

[177emories]

hmmmm honestly i think he loves you lots and isn't slipping away, your just thinking tooo much. i think he would cry but at this point since your still here he can't imagine him crying.

yeah typical asian guy, my bf loves his car tooo...
hmmmm he didn't cry over his car when weeks ago it got majorly scratched all AROUND the car and sooo deep u can see black so its not JUST the paint coming of, its like he totally has to replace the doors and bumper and such... agggg what losers jealous of the car and scratched it and it was my friend's friends that did that tooo... we're sooo gonna get our revenge lol.

[conster]

aww... sometimes ppl say they wont do things and stuff but then they end up doing it lol so dont worry about it.. i mean.. dont think too much and just be happy cuz u both love each other stuff =)

[XxKrNqTcUiTyxX]

In my opinion, I think he loves you. Guys don't like to admit that they would cry. So I think you don't have to worry too much

i agree i can tell he loves you, but guys dont usually like to admit that they would cry...and men do love their cars, but im POSITIVE not as much as their gfs i hope things go well for yu and yur boi

[angel-roh]

it's like he likes his car more than u christina and thats not a good thing... i think those kind of guys are not a good thing to date with... heh u like cars too, right? christina? hmm wait wat am i saying here haha i promise myself not to come to relationship hahahaha oh wells it's broken now newais ur guy was supposed to say "of course i would cry for you because i reallie love you so much" thats wat my bf said.. and i think if he said that to u. it means a lot. ay...christina i dont want to hurt u... but i gotta tell u that... isnt there any other guys out there who is better than ur guy? and u know? i bet hes gona cry when his parents die... hes jus want to talk like a man... cus usually all guys who loves car so much tells girls that they dont cry like a baby boy...they stand up for themselves...thats prolly it... and if u were to die the next day..... i dont know about it.... i mean i dont kno ur guy.. how about this...umm scare hiM!! haha scare him like calling him and saying "hey baby (or watever u call him^^) my.. (pretend to cry) arm hurts i dont know wats happening...can u come over here now"... is to see if he reallie do cares for u...thats wat my bebe boo says... even tho it's a scratch in ur finger, even tho it's something lil...ur guy always shud be there for u and be there for u and not waste their time on cars.... yeah. i know like above..wat i tell u to say... i think thats cruel.... if u want to try u can... but it might hurt? cus it hurt me...-_-;; my 2nd ex-bf... was like that... so i thot it was a good thing to break up. so yeah... and ask him "what if i say i wana broke up with u.... what are you gona do?" and carefully look at his expression...if he is sad.... or up to something... i guess u'll find out something bot his feelings toward u.
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ay... heh my bebe boo, justin....he likes car too, but he cares more about his girlfriend. and i think thats the best thing that a guy should do to their girl. thinking about their loved ones more than their cars, games, computers... it's like selfish. so yeah...i hope this helps, christina.. and dont say if u gona die and all ima gona be sad heehee^^
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btw to let u know... he cares about his car more than u...he loves his car more than u... so would u choose a guy who loves his car more than u. it's like loving his ex more than u. that hurts of course... i dont know if i shud say "break up with him" but wait til more... hehe jus wait lil more and lets see wat happens

[Just_Dream]

Yea.. well he did say that he'd cry a little... But well I don't know... Erg.. Last night I cried ALOT because I was looking for a silver turtle necklace he gave to me.. erg... So now I'm looking for it like crazy.. I feel so bad. I told him I couldn't find it he said he was mad BUT he didn't have much of an angry expression. Maybe becuase he'll KNOW that eventually I'll find it and for me not to worry.. But how can I NOT worry? That necklace means alot

Well he does care alot about his car but I mean, at least I know that he'll still choose me over his family.. maybe.. eep./ But he does really care alot about me and no one else.

[LatinaLady]

aww. maybe he is just exagerating. i dont know talk tohim about ti i would feel like crap if that were me. i am sorry hun.

[silver kiss]

well i have to disagree with anqel_r0h. Guys r not likely to admit their real feeling, they won't say they'll cry cuz it would made them look weak, and yet they just like us, we say stuffs but we mean the other ways. but then everybody's different so i dunno if he really mean it or not, sometimes it's good u look him in the eye and ask the question but then some guys would laugh it off sayin' us girl too dramatic or something.
anyway wow i can related a lot to this topic, my guy said his car is his wife n i'm his gf hmm arghhh he always have the tendency to make me mad

[Just_Dream]

Hm.. but usually Tony tells me the truth.. Hm.. maybe he was kidding.. I just wish cars and games weren't always on his mind.... Eh.. maybe over the summer I can hang out with him more so that I can get his mind off of cars.. It's just that he turned 16 on May 6th and.. well.. he got his license on May 14th and.. Ever since then, he's been thinking about what cars to buy, blah blah blah eep >_<"

[177emories]

hey how long have you two been dating? you two look grrrreat together =)

yeah i hate it tooo when they like their cars soooo much... its like their first priority or something... like they would kill if something happens to it, but would not if something happens to a family member...

[angel-roh]

Hm.. but usually Tony tells me the truth.. Hm.. maybe he was kidding.. I just wish cars and games weren't always on his mind.... Eh.. maybe over the summer I can hang out with him more so that I can get his mind off of cars.. It's just that he turned 16 on May 6th and.. well.. he got his license on May 14th and.. Ever since then, he's been thinking about what cars to buy, blah blah blah eep >_<"

heh usually wen guys get addicted to cars is like a long term... wow im kinda feel sorry for u that u are going out with a guy who loves car more than u O_O;; heh ur not the only one who is going through it...3 of my friends are going through... 2 of them cried cus their bf wont like be with them and one of them cries that she thinks that her bf loves car more than her... so she might dump him or something...cus she came to make her relationship fake and not playing around. so yeah.... heh
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u know he looks like the time wen my friend's bf who really loved cars and talk most about it... heh this happened to hmm about 8 ppls... hehe we were testing it out... it was me and my friends plan... to see IF HE REALLY LOVES U... heh well 5/8 guys... they saw a fake ghost, thought it was real... they ranned and leave their girl... ok to let u know my 8 friend's bf are same as ur bf. and 3/8 they stood up for their girl, so we knew that he loved her. 5/8 of my friends dumped their bf.... heh... sad but they dont want to have a whining boy in their relationship... haha. i heard that a lot of guys car... they are whining inside, but outside of them..they wana show tough and braveness to the girls only... it's reallie annoying wen they dont tell the truth about them... cus then like later on u'll find out that he is a chicken... that ruins ur relationship... ok i think this is a off topic... but im talking bot guys who likes cars... hehe^^ im not saying ur bf is a chicken... hehe but u know wat... i dont know? haha newais umm i think he cares about u... i was thinking it over lil bit... hey i care for my friend christina! hehe newais i was thinking that he does care for u i guess.^^

[cleec]

He'd be bawling and you know it!
He wants to come off as some tough guy that is incapable of human emotion!
Maybe he's just saying he wouldn't cry because he knows that will never happen

[illuminessence]

heh usually wen guys get addicted to cars is like a long term... wow im kinda feel sorry for u that u are going out with a guy who loves car more than u O_O;; heh ur not the only one who is going through it...3 of my friends are going through... 2 of them cried cus their bf wont like be with them and one of them cries that she thinks that her bf loves car more than her... so she might dump him or something...cus she came to make her relationship fake and not playing around. so yeah.... heh

I really don't think that's the situation. If they are in love, of course he'd cry. Why are you even talking bout death? It isn't a decent conversation. Your boyfriend probably just doesn't wanna think about it. I know if I had a boyfriend who brought that up with me, I'd feel uncomfortable.

[dat_da_busit_hai]

i'd cry over a car....cars are my life

but if i was lucky enough to have a girl like you, i'd cry.....

[Just_Dream]

i'd cry over a car....cars are my life

but if i was lucky enough to have a girl like you, i'd cry.....

all thanks



and to illuminessence, yea maybe it was a bad subject to bring up, but lol we were talking about when his dog might die and I told him to try to feed it more so it can live another five years, it's 14 years old in human years right now. Anyway yea he seemed comfortable talking about it. I was joking at first but yea.. maybe he was just pretending.. but I know for sure he'd cry for his car... He seems like that type of person. Not alot of things seem to anger him, liek he would get a little angry for maybe like a few minutes (but not yelling angry at all) and then he'd be back to normal. Yea he seems emotionless.


The only reason that he's SO into cars is that his brother owens one of those car accessory shops, that sells rims, tires, car parts, stereos, etc. And his brother has like the ultimate rx-7 car (*sweatdrop* >_<") and so when Tony as little, his brother took him to ALOT of car shows. And ever since then... erg.. that's been on his midn alot.. and he thinks about games or paintball... But that's about it. Oh yea, and maybe food lol.

I just wish sometimes.. I could be first priority to him. Maybe I'mc aring too much for him... I do want to get good grades (no, NOT to please my parents, not even please myself) but to please him so that I can go and become a pharmacist, and then make lots of money, so I can even help pay for all those cars he wants and to save up money so we can retire together. LoL I know it's crazy to plan so far ahead in the future, but that's the life I want.. and I want him to live a life without worries, without his family manipulating him so much... Eh.. maybe I should just get over this... IDK anymore...

[Tung]

I think tony needs to see other people, like me.

[vintage-toile]

im a little confused why you asked him in the first place!
but he seems to really like you
and how can he predict his reaction if it hasnt happened yet? people react to death so differently to what they "think" they are prepared for..

don't be so harsh on him!

[datass]

^2004.

christina has gone over it and has been having lots of sex since then.

[brooklyneast05]

i'll cry if you die christina

[vintage-toile]

^2004.

christina has gone over it and has been having lots of sex since then.

wow this is old.
well im sure there might be others feeling like this.
its still an odd question to ask someone.

[illriginal]

How are you gonna ask, "you don't love me enough to cry about my death"? You do realize there's people out there that actually praise someone's death because they've entered a new realm, they've left the physical plain and entered a spiritual one. You shouldn't be upset because he told you he doesn't cry over death.


Last person I cried for when they died was my cousin, I've lost a few friends and family members after him but I didn't cry for them, doesn't mean I'm cold hearted, just means I accept death as part of life. I don't let death bother me nor should it bother anyone else. We're not immortal.

[misoshiru]

i'll cry if you die christina

[tokyo-rose]

Christina, do you want this closed? People are still replying to it even though it's so old. You and Tony have been together for five years now, anyway. xD

[Tung]

^ quit being a party pooper.

[illriginal]

Seriously... mods need to close the old threads. This is a waste of our time. I've already posted in like 6 old ass threads for nothing, EFFING NOTHIN!!!

[tokyo-rose]

Not our fault if you don't look at the date when the topic was originally posted.

[Joss-eh-lime]

he is just to prideful to say that he really would cry.

[Just_Dream]

How are you gonna ask, "you don't love me enough to cry about my death"? You do realize there's people out there that actually praise someone's death because they've entered a new realm, they've left the physical plain and entered a spiritual one. You shouldn't be upset because he told you he doesn't cry over death.
Last person I cried for when they died was my cousin, I've lost a few friends and family members after him but I didn't cry for them, doesn't mean I'm cold hearted, just means I accept death as part of life. I don't let death bother me nor should it bother anyone else. We're not immortal.

You do realize that I posted this shit almost 4 years ago, right? I was naive though, I admit. Well my boyfriend has changed his mind anyway, as I've bought this up before. He's broken down his emotional barrier shortly after this thread was made anyway, so we're cool. I totally understand that we're not immortal, but I'd like to know that at least he'd be sad that I'm gone. Are you saying that if I was hit by a car and died, that he should be happy? There's different kinds of deaths, but they all lead to the same outcome.

Plus, I'm not into that spiritual stuff, so I'd rather not get into that. I still totally understand where your coming from, but my values are different from yours.

Anyways, wtf Tung stop bumping my topics, lol.

And at least I won't pretend to tell people that I died just for people to cry for me, or tell people that my sister died. But that's sweet of you two, JC and Yanlin, if you guys really mean that.

[misoshiru]

I DOOOOOOOO.

[illriginal]

Close old threads... or at least ask for the thread to be closed -.-
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[brooklyneast05]

maybe you should go there and stay there with the real mods, if cb isn't good enough for you

[illriginal]

maybe you should go there and stay there with the real mods, if cb isn't good enough for you

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[heyo-captain-jac...]

He was obviously joking about the car thing. I think he really loves you but hes shy about it.

As a guy I can tell you that %90 of guys will not admit that they would cry over somebody.

[tokyo-rose]

Closed because it's so dated.