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So here is the story...

I went to college this past year, as a freshman, and met this great girl named Amanda who was a sophomore. She had a lot of walls put up; she didn't really want a relationship because of it being college and everything. Well, I stuck around, met her parents and everything...told them, and her, that I felt like she was worth waiting around for.

Turned out, she was. We started dating about 2 months after meeting each other, she hung out with my friends, I loved hanging out with her and her friends, and even her friends from home for the first couple months of summer, I got to hang out with them. It seem like I fit in and everything was going good, except the whole distance problem. We lasted for about 8 months. Keyword, lasted.

Basically, she broke it off with me for the summer because:

1) She got into a car accident and didn't have a car to drive to come see me (about an hour away). She also said she hated how I had to come up there all the time, and she couldn't come see me.

2) She pays for her own schooling, so she usually works double shifts everyday, so basically from 11:00 am to 11:00 pm nearly everyday.

3) Literally all of her friends from home (I've met them) go to NC State...a college that is about 3 hours away from our college, so she never really gets to see them except on occassions when she goes up there or during the summer. So in accordance with reason number two, most of her free time was with these friends.

So the problem? I move up back to school come the 19th, and we're thinking about maybe going back out again. She says she doesn't know what she wants right now because she's not up there, but once she gets up there, she says she'll be able to figure stuff out better. Im afraid that if we do go back out, it won't be the same, and I'll have to start over again from the beginning as if we didn't have what we did have before. And I can't do that. This summer has already been hell, I'm literally a borderline alcoholic from all this crap and my summer has been basically just working and drinking, I don't even have a concept of where it has all gone.

If you've read all that and have made it this far, lol, I'm just basically asking ya'lls opinion on the situation. I really believe her reasons for the break-up; I don't think it's someone else in her life or anything, mainly because I had to fight so hard to go out with her, she doesn't just let people in eaisly.

[*Kathleen*]

Aww. Wow. I usually don't get through reading most topics in this forum, but I lasted through yours due to your ability to spell correctly. So kudos for that. Anywho, I feel really bad. But my advice is to go out with her again, if the opportunity comes along again. I mean, you say that you feel it might not be like what you had before, and that you don't want to start over. I say give it a chance - you never know. Even if you do have to start over, it'll be worth it because it's her, right?

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Yes and no, but first thank you for noticing that I am a Communication major with a focus in Print Journalism (aka. the correct spelling, lol).

I say yes, because that's how I have been looking at it: I don't want to go through life thinking "Wow, what if I had only given us one more shot". I live my life with no regrets, so I don't want to start a reputation for having any.

I say no, because it would hurt me so much to be in a relationship with her and have it as it was in the beginning. I would know that we were, at one time, so much more then what we are and that would be a lot worse for me then just having to move on.

[goodcharlotte]

Well I would honestly say take the chance. Show her how much she means to you. Start over even if you don't want to because these chances don't come too often. If she means so much then I guess everyone will have to make sacrifices but in the end you have to make the decision. Either way you can get hurt but what has the greater reward? Are you willing to take a chance for it or would you rather move on and forget what you once lived for?

[*Kathleen*]

Oh really? *Gasp* Then I must talk to you more - I'm really interested in majoring in a related field, but I honestly don't know any good colleges, or where I'd want to go. Anywho, aww. Hrm. I've actually been in a similar situation. We did have to start over almost, but I think in the end, it was worth starting over. I mean, we're not together now, but it was really good when it lasted. I think you're going to really regret it if you don't at least give it a chance, you know?

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Yea, what you guys are saying makes a lot of sense. Especially what E-Man said about which has the greater reward. You're right, both choices are going to have a rough path to follow, but the destination in the end is what matters...

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

Aww. Wow. I usually don't get through reading most topics in this forum, but I lasted through yours due to your ability to spell correctly. So kudos for that. Anywho, I feel really bad. But my advice is to go out with her again, if the opportunity comes along again. I mean, you say that you feel it might not be like what you had before, and that you don't want to start over. I say give it a chance - you never know. Even if you do have to start over, it'll be worth it because it's her, right?

What Kathleen said exactlyyyy.

[OhMyAnniee]

All I have to say is..

If she was worth waiting before, why not wait for her now?