dilemma, gay drama Options

[Persona22]

So, there's this guy that I've been into for the past while, and I've come to the realization that he's been playing me like a frickin harp.

He and I met a long time ago, and from then on it was flirtation and the like, but he's ALWAYS had a boyfriend, and is not capable of staying single for five minutes without getting a new guy.

And, just recently, with his newest boyfriend not knowing, he and I have been hanging out, and getting a little hot and heavy. But then there's the fact that the only time he and I ever hang out is when he wants me to get him some music, a movie, help him with groceries, or some other shit.

And despite him telling me that he wants to date me, he is now in a quasi-cheating-relationship with two guys (a couple no less) totally disregarding me in every way.

Now, what I need help or advice in... is how I'm going to end my friendship with him.
I realize it's not healthy for me to be around him anymore, and have subtly hinted that I want nothing to do with him anymore, but he's never been a bright one.
And then there's dealing with the fact that he and I know the same people, go to the same places, etc... awkwardness.

Help anyone?

[*Uronacid*]

Ok... I'm not sure of this is a joke, but I won't treat it as one... >.> I'll let you know right now that I think homosexuality is wrong, but I will suck it up and do my best to give you the best advice possible :]

Look, you need to tell him how it is. If you feel that it's awkward to hang out in places where he is. That is your problem. Yes, I know it's unfortunate, and it sucks that he cheated on you, but you can't control his life either. Just because yoru relationship ended and he did all these wrong things doesn't mean that he shouldn' t be allowed to live his life the way he normaly does. I suggest that if you can't handle him being around. You need to find new things to do, and new people to hang out with for a while until you can get over him. I'm sorry for being blunt. I'm sure this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth.

P.S. you can still hang out with your friends, but if you can't handle things with him beign around. You could try doning one-on-one things with your friends for a while.

[Persona22]

Thanks for the advice. I'm probably just going to take a brief break from the places where he and I hang out. Best thing for all.

[*Uronacid*]

Thanks for the advice. I'm probably just going to take a brief break from the places where he and I hang out. Best thing for all.

Keep in touch with your friends tho... don't loose them over this whole thing ;0

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

Hm. I would just block off communication with him. Period.

[da_SALSA]

he's slow right? the straight up tell him that you don't want to deal with his bull--done! awkwardness? don't be! he treated you like that, so why should you be? just deal w/ it and it'll go away in due time! good luck!

[BonneVache]

Just tell him you don't want to deal with it. Don't turn it into "drama", and don't make it some giant issue that ripples on and forces you out of places you enjoy frequenting.

[*Kathleen*]

^ Yeah, I agree with that. And about your friends thing, I actually agree with Josh for once - perhaps just don't go out with them if he's going to be there? Just uhh make sure not to include him in things? I mean, I know it sounds a bit infantile, but if you see him again, chances are.. emotions and feelings are going to come rushing back that you would want to avoid. Mm. I like you - you type well.

[Persona22]

^ Yeah, I agree with that. And about your friends thing, I actually agree with Josh for once - perhaps just don't go out with them if he's going to be there? Just uhh make sure not to include him in things? I mean, I know it sounds a bit infantile, but if you see him again, chances are.. emotions and feelings are going to come rushing back that you would want to avoid. Mm. I like you - you type well.

And you have a Dir en grey icon. You get a gold star. ^^