Issues, well...DUH Options

[chinke3xcuti3]

I don't know if this really goes in relationship, but it does deal with my parents, so I guess I do. Well, this might be longg...just so you are aware.

Okay, my two main goals in my life is dancing and acting. I've already made a topic about acting (which really helped), so...I guess I'll talk about dancing now.

I've alwasy had a passion for dancing. It's really inspirational, and fun :] I used to take dance classes (jazz) when I was 5, but it was only during the summer (for like 5 days only though, it was one of those introduction things). My parents couldn't really support me with dance class that time, because of money issues. Well, now, I'm here, 13 turning 14, and I still love dancing. It's my way to pull myself out of all the stress I get, and so on. Well, now, I want to learn hip hop/breakdance. I already know one or two breakdance moves (six step and coffee grinder), but I learned those from my friends who actually take dance class. I never asked my parents..because of two reason:

1) They're really busy trying to support this family, and I can't take many activities out of school because I don't really have any ride (my parents are at work 5AM till 8PM), and plus, right now, my sister just crashed one of their new cars, so now we have to buy a new car, and get new insurances which cost a lot.

2) My parents don't like hiphop/breakdance...they don't really like rap, r&b, hip-hop, because they think it's a bad influence (the music videos on MTV and stuff).

Honestly, I'm a good kid (hahaha). I get straight A's, do my chores before asked (and I don't get allowance), and I try to help out in the house as much as I can. Most of the time I make dinner for the whole family (my older sisters are lazy bums). I never complain, and MOST of the time I don't ask for money (unless I'm going shopping for school supplies or new clothes). On fridays (at 8PM), instead of partying and hanging out with my friends, I go to chinese school (two hour class of chinese). On saturdays, I spend the whole day at church (catholic scouting, CCD--somewhat bible school, and then mass). Next year when school starts, on sunday I'll be going to confirmation class (in the morning for about 2 hours). So while most kids are having fun on weekends, I'm working my butt off for a better life. I don't ask for a lot, but I really love dancing, and I want to be professionally trained....but there's always something in my way.. I've waited for 13 years, but I don't know if I can wait anymore, I just feel the NEED to take dance class, because I really love it (my friends teach me some moves at times). I know people are gonna question me, "are you sure you can handle this"...and I am SURE I can handle it. I am willing to sacrifice and give up anything just for dancing.

my questions are:
-what can i do with the parent problems/money issues/etc?

I never asked my parents..because of two reason:

1) They're really busy trying to support this family, and I can't take many activities out of school because I don't really have any ride (my parents are at work 5AM till 8PM), and plus, right now, my sister just crashed one of their new cars, so now we have to buy a new car, and get new insurances which cost a lot.

2) My parents don't like hiphop/breakdance...they don't really like rap, r&b, hip-hop, because they think it's a bad influence (the music videos on MTV and stuff).

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-Is it too late to take dance class?!?! Because, most people take it for like, their whole life(since they were like, 2 or 3).

I know I sound whiny, I'm sorry. But I realized, I can't just sit here, and watch my life long dreams past by me, and not do anything about it.

Thanks.

[vn_cuti3]

1. well i guess the only you can really do is try telling your parents all these things you just wrote and hope that they'll understand. and like you can add that dancing can be good excersises for you.


2. i don't think its too late for you to starts dancing. you just need to work hard at it.


well that's all i can say hope that helps

[Shrapy_or_Delta]

[size=5]Well, the first thing I'd like to say is that you are never to old to do anything (unless you're like 60 or something), so don't lose faith in that.

When it comes to your parents though, you might want to lay it on in moderation. Which means, yes, I think you should tell them. It's obviously very, very important to you. Like I said though, try to bring it up at good times with suggestions that can help improve the circumstances for both you AND your parents. Maybe they'll make your sister take you for crashing the car!

I understand how important (or interesting) an artistic hobby like that can be. I've been in band at my school for about 5/6 years, and I've put a lot of effort forward, so have all my friends, and I can't imagine what my life would be without it. Don't give up on your dream, you might find something new.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

damn girl you do way to much and you really dont get some props from your parents so lemme take the moment and give you so props YOU GO GIRL!!

anywayz i think you should talk to your parents about everything you said and tell them to trust you if you were a bad daughter you wouldnt be getting good grades or going to church everyday or doing your chores and not getting any allowance <---- i think you should talk to them about an allowance.

i know how you feel because i looooove acting its like a rush and im so happy because im actually going to try out for a play that i really want to be in so you fight for what you want girl YOU CAN DO IT!

[angelrevelation]

well, if your parents can't support you cuz of money issues, they can't... but if you're willing to wait another year or two you can get a job of your own to earn your own money, at least during summer/christmas break (so you can still have time to help around normally).

good for you though... you should ask your parents to make your sisters share more of the work. reminds me of cinderella :P

[chinke3xcuti3]

Thankss

But nobody covered this part:

2) My parents don't like hiphop/breakdance...they don't really like rap, r&b, hip-hop, because they think it's a bad influence (the music videos on MTV and stuff).

sorry..thats somewhat important too

[stanzaonthewall]

there must be some sort of local dance teacher you can make soem kind of deal with.
YOu sound like a very responsible mature adult and you deserve to get something that you want. I think if you don't you'll prbably regrt it for teh rest of your life. Now that your fourteen you can proabably get some sort of job if not babysitting is always an option. If dancing is your true passion as well as acting i think you'll find a way.

Good luck!

[_sarcastic_]

tell them what you told us, let them know that dancing is very important to you.
as for them not liking rap, r&b, hiphop...show them that some music videos/songs aren't bad, they might realize it's quite catchy.
you'll never be to old to start dance classes.

[blacknailpolish]

If it's a matter of whether your parents can afford it right now or not, you may have to put your dreams on hold for awhile. If you really want this as much as you say you do, you can wait just a little while longer. Maybe you could get a job and start helping to pay your way or start saving up for lessons. That will show your parents how much you want this.
As for your parents not liking the music, tell them that you respect that fact, but you like the music because of the beat and the danceability, not always because of the lyrics. Tell them that the lyrics have no effect on you, and you just want to dance.

Hope I helped!

[PrincessAda]

You should raise up your own money.There are jobs for teens out there.Explain to them the reasons you told us and I`m sure they`ll let you dance.

[chinke3xcuti3]

I have another question...since I'm kind of a beginner dancer..would I have to train with little 5 year olds..and in general..little kids?

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

I have another question...since I'm kind of a beginner dancer..would I have to train with little 5 year olds..and in general..little kids?

nah i dont think they would actually do that. they would most likely put you in a class with other begining dancers your age or older.

[Gypsy Eyes]

Try earning some money yourself, and join with a friend so you can carpool. Maybe they will be ok only driving one way? And usually, if your teacher is nice you can work something out with scholarship dancing. That usually means helping with the younger classes and helping out with bookwork stuff.

As far as starting so late, it depends on what type of dance career you are interested in. For a jazz, ballet, lyrical career unless you are absurdly gifted it really is too late. The muscles you need have to be built up from an early age, and you have to have a specific muscle/body type to even be considered in most professional auditions. For breakdance and hip hop it may not be. It depends on how talented you are and if you have natural rythm.

2) My parents don't like hiphop/breakdance...they don't really like rap, r&b, hip-hop, because they think it's a bad influence (the music videos on MTV and stuff).

Maybe have them watch a show or class, to see if they agree. Most breakdance classes use music that isn't racy and is clean.

I have another question...since I'm kind of a beginner dancer..would I have to train with little 5 year olds..and in general..little kids?

It really depends on the studio, look for one that has adult classes.

[*Freaky Krazer*]

Thankss

But nobody covered this part:
sorry..thats somewhat important too

Well I think your parents should trust you enough that you won't get all provocative like the other artists. They should at least be supportive, ya know? and I suggest the same advice most people gave here. And it doesn't matter if you're too old to take lessons, as long as you get them, right? never too late to learn.

[demolished]

I pretty much supported you for your passion.

Cant you pratice dancing at home? try to learn new moves? Maybe, you want to correct your dancing skills? increase dancing speed?

having no dancing classes doesnt means you cant continue with your passion.

you can also check on the search engine to look up, "breakdance tutorial" and etc.

maybe, check out viedos about breakdancing and etc.

i think, this is the time for you to be creative in dancing. try to "think out of the box".

remember, there is no right or wrong way to dance.

dancing is a form of art and creative to expressed yourselves.

i think, it's best to start dancing now. you have a growing strong body. you'll learn better at this age.

dont quit. find a way. dance for life.

[chinke3xcuti3]

I pretty much supported you for your passion.

Cant you pratice dancing at home? try to learn new moves? Maybe, you want to correct your dancing skills? increase dancing speed?

having no dancing classes doesnt means you cant continue with your passion.

you can also check on the search engine to look up, "breakdance tutorial" and etc.

maybe, check out viedos about breakdancing and etc.

i think, this is the time for you to be creative in dancing. try to "think out of the box".

remember, there is no right or wrong way to dance.

dancing is a form of art and creative to expressed yourselves.

i think, it's best to start dancing now. you have a growing strong body. you'll learn better at this age.

dont quit. find a way. dance for life.

^Well, I could try of course..but I don't think I'd have money to buy videos. But, as a dancer, don't you need to like..have really good memory (you know how somebody shows you the dance moves ONCE, and you have to nail it after that)...well..i dont think i can really do that..dont you have to be trained for that kind of stuff?

Well, today I "popped" the question with my dad..but like, not the whole thing. Well..actually..barely. We were at dinner, and I was like, "what do you think of hiphop/breakdancing?"...and he answered, "Well...I don't really like it because...well.....the way they dance...I don't have a problem with breakdancing..but hip hop is a whole different story."....so I continued to ask him, "What if I was interestead in taking hip hop dance classes?"............and sadly..he replied, "Well, I wouldn't want my daughter to go to some class just to learn how to shake her butt, and wear skimpy clothes. It's bad enough that they have those kind of music videos available for kids to watch, why try to learn those dances moves? I would probably disencourage, and be VERY disappointed (yes, i told him to reply HONESTLY)."..... eh..I guess he could kind of get the hint that I WAS interestead in taking those classes..

I just really wish I could proove him wrong. But, the truth is...well..there ARE a lot of music videos like that..>.< It'd just be HARD to proove him wrong..have any suggestions?

[Gypsy Eyes]

The truth is, a lot of hip hop dancing involves shaking your ass in some way.

[chinke3xcuti3]

The truth is, a lot of hip hop dancing involves shaking your ass in some way.

^Yeahh. so how can I get my parents to accept this type of dance...I mean, I really want their support too. (read previous post)

[ItsAMansWorld]

sometimes you just have to do things for yourself

[chinke3xcuti3]

sometimes you just have to do things for yourself

^Um...you do know I'm only 13...I kind of NEED my parent's support....plus, I don't have money (read my two previous postt)