Friends, have you you felt for a friend. Options

[cup_and_chaucer]

Ok, what would you do if your best friend is a member of the opposite sex, and you have recently began aquiring feelings for said best friend? Has this ever happened to you?

[*Kathleen*]

How long have you known him? Have you hinted at having these feelings towards him? Does he show any interest in you more than a best friend as well?

[pinayprincess]

my best friend used to be my boyfriend & then my ex way before he became a best friend of mines... it was way after we broke up [say about 3 months after] and then we started to be so close. it was my bad mistake to do that b/c later on we both started having feelings for each other [while i had a new boyfriend]; it was all screwed up but now me and him know that we cant like each other MORE than just friends b/c everytime we do, it just messes our friendship up

[edited] but we're still bestfriends

[*Uronacid*]

^I know that feeling...

If you like your best friend... hmmm, I don't know. It's your choice. You can either tell him and risk him telling you that he would rather just be friends, or you can keep your mouth closed and never know if he feels the same way... I would say this, wait see if you continue to feel that way. I mean if you're going to ask him. Don't risk it if you are only going through a small crush... If you still like him then bring it up whenyou two are alone...

[bballchick1]

I think maybe you should wait a bit just so that you know for sure that you really like him, and it's not just a passing crush that could risk your friendship.

[OhMyAnniee]

i would wait for him. wait for him to like you back. if you can't wait long then just stay best friends. i'm sort of in this same situation.. tough stuff!

[xforgottenlove]

well i would suggest that IF, and only IF, you have a very close and strong friendship with him, then you should go for it [: otherwise, just wait it out for signs if he likes you or not. good luck ! [:

[xo_lovalicious_x...]

just be like,

"umm, you know how we're best friends,

so we can tell each other anything??

well i really have to tell you something...

see, i have... liked you for a while

so do you want to go out with me?"

or show hints that you like him

[_sarcastic_]

tell him you like him.
but you've got to be sure that he can see you guys more than just best friends. cause it's happened to me cept he was the one that told me and i couldn't see us as more then best friends and it screwed up my friendship with him.

[PrincessAda]

You should wait and make sure your feelings are good enough for you to step it up because it could just be a little crush.

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

i use to like my best guy friend like a while back, butt he never knew cos i never tol him. i didnt tell him cos i didnt wanna lose him as a friend. He means so much mor too me, for me to go and tell him i liked him and have him turn away frm our friendship. its hard to find love butt its harder to find a TRUE friend.

[cup_and_chaucer]

Yeah.

He knows.

He's known for a couple months now.

[_sarcastic_]

then go for it.

[msladyliberty]

I'd drop a hint.

or a letter.

[teenprincess]

I had a huge crush on my best friend. He knew it too, but he had a gf at the time. So I liked him for months until we finally started dating. Our relationship lasted for a month and a half. After that, things were different. We stayed really close for a while but we ended up not even speaking anymore I miss him being my best friend.

If you want to take the risk of gaining a bf but potentionally losing a best friend. The go for it.

[*Uronacid*]

if he knows, and he is still your friend and has no problem liking you I don't see why you should have a problem dropping a few hints... I wouldn't run the gun yet tho... just make sure the feelings are mutual before you dive in...

[*This Confession*]

well if you like him enough that you want to be in a relationship with him then go for it, although talk to him about it and get what he thinks about it all. Some people are afraid to be in relationships with their friends because they think they will end up breaking up and never talk again, which usually never happens unless your both highly immature to not talk things out after you might break up.

[anfgirlco]

I was wondering if any of you guys fell for one of your best friends? I have haha. I don't know if I should tell him and take the change to ruin our friendship. '


here are some pictures of him....







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This post has been edited by Arjuna Capulong: Aug 3 2006, 03:21 PM

[Chii]

He's very good looking and has good looking friends as well

I've fallen for friends plenty of times. My new boyfriend started out as a friend...practically all of my boyfriends started out as my friends. If your friendship sours just because he doesn't have feelings for you back, then your friendship mustn't have been so strong to begin with.

But either way, you need to take risks to get what you want. Nothing is easy, if relationships were easy, they wouldn't be so desirable.

[Simba]

Moved to Relationships.

[happinessx]

Ah, well, he's very nice looking to be honest, and it helps that you have a close relationship so you know that he will/wont cheat on you, you know his character etc.
But it might ruin your good friend relationship?

[lyin_in_wait]

well if hes a best friend then there could to be some intrest. you run the risk of loosing a friend, but you also run the risk of missing out on a relationship w/ him.

[bballchick1]

Wow..that guy's pretty hott.

I had been friends with my current boyfriend since last October - he just recently asked me out & I had actually liked him for pretty much the entire time we had been friends.

I definitely hope that in case things don't work out, (which they hopefully will), that we can still be friends because he's an amazing guy.

[*This Confession*]

Yea, at one point in time of a friendship between a guy and girl. They end up falling for each other eventually. Sometimes its at the wrong time and sometimes it perfect timing, its life.

Really if you want a relationship to happen and you think it would go well then I don't see why you shouldn't tell him that you have feelings for him. If you both know each other really well and such. Do you think he has feelings for you as well?


PS - Really I don't think you should worry about if its going to ruin the friendship, anytime someone ever thinks that it the end their so paranoid about it happening that you end up ending the relationship because you were to scared for the relationship to get better and perhaps take the chance of getting in some fight or something and everything be ruined.

Honestly, take the chance if you really care about him and like him.

[*Freaky Krazer*]

my first real, deep, obsessive crush was in 7th grade with a guy friend *sigh*

[anfgirlco]

Thank you girls, I'm going tell him how I feel hopefully everything goes good. I've dated guy friends a lot too, it's just Ryan is like my BEST guy friend haha.

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

Yeah I've felt for one of my close friends within my group but since shes the only girl most of the guys liked her...so telling her wouldn't have much affect if every guy already told her...=/ that sucks..so I would rather like someone outside the group..

[*xcaitlinx*]

Yeah...i was also wondering if he's a model? He's cute...you should tell him how you feel because you never know, he might feel the same way about you!

[*liquidize*]

THIS IS THE STUPIDEST THREAD EVER CMON

WHY DID YOU HAVE TO POST HIS PICTURE?! GOD YOU MAKE IT SOUND LIKE ITS THE BIGGEST THING IN THE WORLD

Just kidding, You're a cheerleader ...wow make the football teamzor winz
Tell him tell him tell him tell him

[maguti]

You wont know what will happen until you tell him. I soo know how you feel. I had a crush on this kid and then we became best friends and my other friends would tell him that i like him and he'd just shrug it off. BUT, hey maybe this guys different.

ps- he's prettty

[anfgirlco]

THIS IS THE STUPIDEST THREAD EVER CMON

WHY DID YOU HAVE TO POST HIS PICTURE?! GOD YOU MAKE IT SOUND LIKE ITS THE BIGGEST THING IN THE WORLD

Just kidding, You're a cheerleader ...wow make the football teamzor winz
Tell him tell him tell him tell him

haha you got me on this one...I got really sad at first hahah

Ok, I invited him to come watch out cheer practice tomorrow and I'm going to tell him then. Hopefully it's not an awkward moment.

Yeah he's a model. He did the back to school hollister photoshot and we works at AnF.

[Dreamers]

i only fall for my guy friends! lol, tell us how it goes with your pal if you want!

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

ooo he is cute! well i ono my friend has told 2 of her past guy friends that she liked them and both ended up not talking to her that much its kinda of a risk just go for it!

[*liquidize*]

haha you got me on this one...I got really sad at first hahah

Ok, I invited him to come watch out cheer practice tomorrow and I'm going to tell him then. Hopefully it's not an awkward moment.

Yeah he's a model. He did the back to school hollister photoshot and we works at AnF.

dont forget to be preppy! ANd look good fasho fashoooooo

[SimplicityGirl]

I am currently crushing on a close guy friend of mine...and there are signs that he likes me too.....so I'm planning on taking things to the next level soon....after talking to him about it of course =]

If you really want to pursue a relationship with him, go have a heart to heart talk with him about it, and if both of you are really good friends, then even if he doesn't like you back or if things don't work out, you guys can still remain friends.

[smoke]

Oh yes. Yes yes yes, lol. I was best friends with this girl and I'd go over to her house and hang out and stuff and I liked her for over a year and she had no idea. I mean I was crazy in love, haha. We're still great friends today and it's like a brother/sister friendship.

I waited so long for her, but I knew it wouldn't work. I was like a brother to her. I'd rather have her friendship than nothing at all, you know?

[shynhuggable]

im in the same situation....&& i hate it. everyone says i should go for it and say that "omg u guys would make such a cute couple".....but i dont wanna ruin the friendship.

i always get crushes on my guy friends...ahh!!!

personally...i would make sure they like u back....then go for it

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

To tell you the truth, I do not have
many guy friends. In an all grils school
it`s a bit hard for me to meet guys. So
I also do not have a guy bestfriend. I have
guy friends from way back when but I do
not have crushes on them.

[HopeLessRomantic...]

Well personally I think it's a great idea to hook up with someone that has been your best friend. The reason I'm sayin this is from experience.. My friend introduced me to this one guy about a year ago.. he already had feelings for someone else but i really liked him at the time.. but then we became really good friends ... like the kind that you tell each other EVERYTHING. and then just three months ago we ended up hookin up... Dont' get me wrong it was weird at first. and the whole startin out part was weird cuz your so used to just friends... but it worked out great in the end and I am happier than i have ever been.

[blurrr]

actually yes...i fell for my friend...i liked him for like 7 months...then we started getting closer and it turns out he liked me for even longer!! we went out for a short while n then he found a new girl...a$$h0lE

[lollypop036]

i fell for a friend..but he's 17 and indirectly said im too young for him and he said dating me would be like incest lol..oh well

[artisticpariah]

Yea it happened to me... it ended up ugly... first i freaked out, and i couldn't handle the sound of her voice anymore cuz she kept insisting that i was "avoiding her" when only i was freakked... but a year later we talked again just like regular buds...

[goodcharlotte]

Liking your best friend.... It happens to the best of us...

[lilliannnn]

I had (maybe even still have) a crush on my best guy friend. He didn't know, it was all good. Then one fine day HE TOLD ME HE LIKED ME and that he wanted to pursue a relationship with me. At that point, I had a boyfriend of 10 months (now almost 1 year!), so I said no. Ever since then, he's been pressuring me to dump my boyfriend, and get with him. I keep saying no. Now, our relationship as best friends is kind of strained....


I guess what I'm trying to say is, tell him before you get a boyfriend or before he tells you.

[xnastyninjagrlx]

OH WOW :Mountain Vista Cheer: that guy is really HOT! hahah TELL HIM! haa j/k. but yah its a tough decision cuz if they don't feel the same about you then its all awkward, but maybe you can try to hint to that person that you do like him, cuz I've heard stories where couples have gotten together after the other confesses their love..just I guess just think it thoroughly and follow your heart!!

Personally I have fallen for my guy friend, I've told him and we're still really good friends, unfortuntely he didnt' feel the same for me, which is ok cuz now I got a b/f who I Adore

[Selv]

Yep we've been dating for almost 4 motnhs now =)

[angelrevelation]

i dont THINK i've ever had feelings for my guy friends... i guess it's cuz i always keep things strictly friend-ly, so i don't really see any chance of seeing their boyfriend-possibility side. if that makes sense.

[*Mandy Pants*]

I clicked on this topic because I too, had fallen for my best friend.

And, I think at first it might have been a little awkward [I don't remember too well, it was more then a year and a half ago]

But after a while it was an open subject, and I was comfortable with that he knew, and I think he was comfortable with it. We were still only friends, but I think we got a lot closer.

And then...one day he became my boyfriend. And I've never been happier.

I know it's hard though for best friends to become more because they're afraid of losing their friendship, but I really truely beleive that if we break up we'll still always be friends.




[Ironically, I clicked on this post, before know my boyfriend had posted to it too. See Selv above. Cute, aye? ]

[*Freaky Krazer*]

it happens all that time but I'm pessimistic about those things, so I just let the feelings fade away.

[Selv]

I clicked on this topic because I too, had fallen for my best friend.

And, I think at first it might have been a little awkward [I don't remember too well, it was more then a year and a half ago]

But after a while it was an open subject, and I was comfortable with that he knew, and I think he was comfortable with it. We were still only friends, but I think we got a lot closer.

And then...one day he became my boyfriend. And I've never been happier.

I know it's hard though for best friends to become more because they're afraid of losing their friendship, but I really truely beleive that if we break up we'll still always be friends.
[Ironically, I clicked on this post, before know my boyfriend had posted to it too. See Selv above. Cute, aye? ]

TO be honest with you i was absolutly fine with her liking me it didnt change a thing, if it does change a thing (in a bad way) then they really aren't your friend are they?

[turnupthemuzak]

I have. I fell for my best friend. I fell hard. He had a girlfriend that hated me at the time. But they broke up, he found out I had feelings for him. About a month or two after he broke up with his girlfriend, we started dating.

I had liked him for well over 6 months and now he's saying he's liked me for quite sometime, which I'm guessing is before his ex and him broke up.