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 Jul 27 2006, 12:28 PM
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Jul 27 2006, 12:38 PM
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actually, this guy found out that i liked him. and he was really sweet and everything. we didn't really talk for a day or two but then my best buddy (which is a guy) and him are like best friends. we still had fun and everything. you should just talk to him occasionally. like don't keep following him around but talk to him a few times. one of the girls i know liked the guy i liked so i let her talk to him too because it's not like the world is gonna end if i don't get him.
wow i just realized that i was in your same situation! |
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Jul 27 2006, 12:40 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ But I'm just wondering if I should tell V about how I feel.. or should I just get over him? Would there be any point in telling him? >.<
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Jul 27 2006, 12:46 PM
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well if he does mention that he has a girlfriend then i wouldn't tell him. but you could compliment him and sort of throw in that you kinda like him. if you tell him, it would make you feel better. but then you might feel bad for uh, Dan. i would ask around about this other guy first. just in case..
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Jul 27 2006, 02:21 PM
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try straight up telling him how you feel? worst thing that can happen is that he tells you he has a girlfriend and only sees you as a friend. besides, you said you probably wont see him again for a while, right? if you told him how you felt, he'd have that time away to think about your guy's friendly relationship and hopefully he'll realize how good of a couple you two would make? how long have you and dan been together though? its not a good idea to throw away a good relationship for something you're unsure of.
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Jul 27 2006, 03:07 PM
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First, you don't wanna hurt the guy you just left because you "wanted to think things over" about your relationship, you should of told him the real reason you wanted a break... An ex did the "I just don't love you anymore" &come to realize, he just wanted to be with a whore. It broke my heart, but thats not the point.
This other guy, V, I think you called him? You realllyy really care for him, yes? Who do you want more? The V guy right? Straight up tell him how you feel, who cares about the other girl? You want to know how he feels right? Maybe he felt he couldn't have you? So he took 2nd best? I'm trying to figure out how you should go about doing this. Okay, your next concert is the .. *scrolls up* on August 15th? You need to decide by then, who means more. If this V guy is perfect, then straight up tell him how you feel.. If he doesn't have the same feelings back, then he doesn't, but you should feel better about getting it off your chest. I recall telling a best friend of mine, back in 6th grade, that I liked him... He never treated me the same.. He didn't even wanna talk to me anymore v.v But not all guys are like that! &you don't know if this girl is his girlfriend, right? Chances are, it's his cousin or something. I'm not very good at being brutal am I? Haha. Anyway, just tell him, if it doesn't work out though, Will you take Dan back? It seems rather rude to him, but I'm just curious? |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:09 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:13 PM
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welll i think its more messed up to leave your boyfriend hanging like if V doesnt like you youll just end up going back to Dan again. i really think you should have told him the truth no matter how brutally honest and how much it would kill him.. i think you should tell V how you feel i know for a fact its horrible to end up with regrets over a guy that you really really like i mean in freshman year this really cute guy liked me and i never told him my feelings and HE LIKED ME BACK! but i never went out with him and 3 years later i still regret it. just tell him and GOOD LUCK!! =]
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Jul 27 2006, 09:23 PM
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Sorry =/
I didn't read any of the other replies. SO sorry if I repeat anything. During long distance relationships I think its just fate that people get thrown in to the picture of your relationship. And its kind of like a test? To see if you really are commited or not. Or maybe its just one of those learning relationships and you have to learn that theres plenty of other people out there. Also being in a long distance relationship you see how you can be in a relationship with someone so far away and that you don't get to see to much and then you see people in right infront of you that you could be attracted to and you start to think. So are you really commited into this relationship that you in now with Dan? OR do you see something more and better with this V guy? Maybe sort out your feelings and ask yourself that. I mean if you see something better with this V guy then maybe you need to end things with Dan. But you need to completely honest with him, maybe if you tell him what your going through maybe he can help and be supportive. He may be hurt somewhat but its nice to know then have stuff hidden. Since you took this break its a time to talk to him about your relationship with each other. Cherish that much of it. Talk to him about your feelings for this other guy, maybe hes confused with his feelings or somethings wrong, since you both have been getting into fights lately. |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:24 PM
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aww mann that's a hard decision. hmmm, i would suggest that you and your bf maybe just break it off for now. and just get your feelings straight. tell V and see what happens. after that, decide if you love/like your bf enough to go back to him [ that is if he's still willing to take you back ].
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Jul 27 2006, 09:32 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:47 PM
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Okay
well since you guys have cheated on each other before, i say you go explore in to new people. And go for that V guy. Seriously, I just feel like you should do that. I think you would be happier and he probably wil be too, its going to hurt at first and all. But you both will move on. Good luck. OH but still tell him all of this stuff and everything. |
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Jul 27 2006, 09:55 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
QUOTE(This Confession @ Jul 27 2006, 10:47 PM)  Okay well since you guys have cheated on each other before, i say you go explore in to new people. And go for that V guy. No no no we haven't cheated.. We never did! I'm really not like that :P We've just grown away from our relationship.. But I'll take your advice. |
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Jul 27 2006, 10:00 PM
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oh, lol.
Okay I was like  when i read the cheated part.
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Jul 27 2006, 10:02 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
HAHAHA man.. sounds funny. But no, our relationship isn't THAT weird :P
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Jul 27 2006, 11:41 PM
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I suggest that you determin what you truely want, and then act on it... don't leave this long distance guy hanging. If you really want to be with this other guy, and you know the long distance guy isn't what you want. Break up with the long distance guy... yeah, it's hard and you will probably crush him, but you need to be honest no matter how hard it is... letting him hang is even worse
I suggest that you determin what you truely want, and then act on it... don't leave this long distance guy hanging. If you really want to be with this other guy, and you know the long distance guy isn't what you want. Break up with the long distance guy... |
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Jul 27 2006, 11:47 PM
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^
 i thought you were going to sleep.
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Jul 27 2006, 11:55 PM
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haha, well... um...
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Jul 28 2006, 03:22 AM
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Tsk Josh!
Okay, uh... The year and a half (?) thing... I know how that goes, it feels like you've lost the ... er "passion" or something, right? I've been in a relationship w/my bf 17 months.. It gets rougher the further along it goes, it seems you really care for him, but the fighting is driving you bonkers. I still tell this V guy how you feel, and explain to Dan what you're going through, and how you're feeling... So he doesn't feel lied to, or betrayed (like i did)... "I suggest that you determin what you truely want, and then act on it... don't leave this long distance guy hanging. If you really want to be with this other guy, and you know the long distance guy isn't what you want. Break up with the long distance guy..." Yeah.. that ^ |
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Jul 29 2006, 12:42 PM
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Tell the "V" guy..so you wouldn't wonder "what if" anymore..and so that you can enjoy your current relationship.
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Jul 29 2006, 01:17 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ I'm telling the V guy, most likely, but I'm breaking up with Dan. It's not just because of the other guy, there are other major issues involved.
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Jul 29 2006, 03:09 PM
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How sure are you that it was V's girlfriend? Were they kissing?
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Jul 29 2006, 03:24 PM
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I think you and your bf should break up.Its good your telling the v guy.
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Jul 29 2006, 03:39 PM
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Jul 29 2006, 05:22 PM
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Might be a long shot, but it could be possible that she was his sister/cousin/close relative. But really, its beside the point. If I were you, I'd just tell him and see what his reaction is since you will regret it later on if you don't tell him.
Topic closed by request. This post has been edited by Kathleen: Aug 17 2006, 11:51 AM |
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Jul 29 2006, 05:25 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
Yeah you're right.. I probably will. Unless I freak out.. haha I'm such a coward when it comes to these things >.< I've never had to tell a guy I liked him (they always did it first)
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Jul 29 2006, 05:33 PM
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In that case, I would go with the "Tell him outta nowhere." You could lure him over and talk about the piece you are playing and then BAM, hit him with it.
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Jul 30 2006, 06:44 PM
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do what your heart tells you
or you'll regret it for the rest of your life you'll always be thinking "what if I did" like you I'm facing pressure to do something or I'll regret it |
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Jul 30 2006, 07:43 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ What are you facing?
By the way, it's over between me and Dan.. for now anyway. I was honest.. so it's all good. I'm so scared about telling the other guy though.. and I thought it would be easy! |
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Jul 30 2006, 08:39 PM
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awe well
 eh that was odd, and i'm to lazy to go back and erase it. But just build up some confidence and go tell him. I don't like it when people say listen to your heart  They don't explain why to do that and why it such a good thing, although there can be a bad side to listening to your "heart".Anyway how did he take it? If you would like to share? |
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Jul 30 2006, 08:42 PM
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We are going to have to wait till the 15h for those answers.
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Jul 30 2006, 09:31 PM
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Jul 30 2006, 09:48 PM
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hmm,
He didn't sound like he was to much of a happy camper. but i suppose I don't blame him, although he didn't have to say then why are you telling me. Hope things go well. |
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Aug 2 2006, 08:51 AM
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first confirm whether that was really his gal friend.
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Aug 16 2006, 10:41 AM
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Aug 16 2006, 11:41 AM
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QUOTE(cvchango @ Jul 30 2006, 7:44 PM) do what your heart tells you or you'll regret it for the rest of your life you'll always be thinking "what if I did" like you I'm facing pressure to do something or I'll regret it OMG I hate people who say this... you are so ignorant... NEVER EVER JUST DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU! Ugh, I always say this, and I'll say it again... your heart is self... your heart will only tell you what you want to hear or what will make you "feel good". It will NOT what you need to hear. If everyone listened to their hearts desires , this world would be in a whole pile of shit. This doesn't mean that your heart is always wrong. There are times when it is correct, but your heart cannot make descisions like this. Your heart is a feel good tool. Your brain is for thought and descition making. You are young or immature just for saying that, and I'm only telling you this so that you will understand. Although I want you to realize that telling someone to follow their heart is wrong. I don't think you will understand until you truley sit down and take the time to think about what I'm saying. I guess I could never really understand the situation. My feelings for Holly get all mixed up in my thoughts when I think about this... I guess I feel that if Holly ever liked some guy I would want her to tell me. I feel that she would be loving me by telling me... :] Allowing me to get over her as quick as she possibly can by telling me the truth. I would be sad yes, but at least she owuldn't be letting me hang with feelings towards her hoping that we would be back together again. She wouldn't be letting me put my life on "pause". I always see people putting others in a situation where they have hope, but there really isn't any... Dan was in a situation where a break would have given him hope. Hope that after the break things would work out, but in reality you already had made up your mind about him. Why let Dan sit and wait for you when there is no reason for it... Why should you allow him waste his time having feelings for you when he could be out finding the love of his life. I'm so glad you told him the truth. Good Job. |
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Aug 16 2006, 11:52 AM
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^I agree, I had this post written but this computer doesn't like createblog and erases all my posts and tells me theres a server problem.
Anyway I'm glad you atleast told him the truth. Perhaps you'll find someone new and get your life back together and put more effort in to something new and exciting. Have fun in Italy when ever you go. Other post was a lot better than this
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Aug 16 2006, 08:38 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
Yeah.. I agree with the whole heart/brain thing. Anyway.
Can I request this to be closed? |
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