Friends with Benefits., effff buddies. |
 Jul 24 2006, 01:12 AM
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 Yes, I do have an Abercrombie booty.  Group: Member Posts: 698 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,057  |
So what do you guys think about friends with benefits?
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Jul 24 2006, 01:14 AM
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 skaters gonna skate. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,861 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,336 |
lol. really, i'm not down to be anyones "buckfuddy"
even if he's the sexiest male in the world nope. |
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Jul 24 2006, 01:15 AM
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 sorry. i drowned your fish. Group: Member Posts: 1,485 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,683 |
i don`t think it`s right cuz i have this friend and she has a bf rite now and she makes out /etc.. wid this other 'friend' .. i personally dont think its right.
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Jul 24 2006, 01:18 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 39 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 443,008 |
my personal experiences make me say no. someone gets attatched (it has been me most of the time) and someone gets hurt
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Jul 24 2006, 01:20 AM
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 fizzy and fun Group: Member Posts: 405 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,469 |
i see no problem with it as long as you both are emotionally unattached.
break it off as soon as there are signs of jealousy. ive never had fwb before though, so maybe i should shut my mouth 
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Jul 24 2006, 01:37 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
if your gonna have a f**k buddy ; make sure you arent emotionally attracted to him/her .. b/c if you do, it just screws everything up. it either gives you or the person you're messing w/ the advantage to do it w/ other ppl and you really have no say in it [if you have a problem] b/c YOU GUYS ARENT TOGETHER !
TRUE STORY !!!
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Jul 24 2006, 01:43 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
i dont know. this topic makes me dhghjguuajdjhs. cus you know .. things get tempting. but yeah .. it's bad.
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| *liquidize* |
Jul 24 2006, 01:43 AM
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^ YALL HURD IT FIRST FROM HER!
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Jul 24 2006, 01:46 AM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
wait wait, say whaaaat?
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| *This Confession* |
Jul 24 2006, 02:40 AM
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Well I suppose its a mtter if you want to be in a commitment or not. I personally would never do it. You'll end up getting attached in some way that you really don't think you ever will and you'll get hurt in the end.
Why do you want to know anyway? If you want to do the things that fwb does, and not be in a commited relationship then I don't think your mature enough to even do the actions. |
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Jul 24 2006, 06:14 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 344,469 |
Personally? - I think it's disgusting v.v
IMO? It shows that you really don't have much respect for yourself >.< -Sorry, I'm one who believes that you have to be in a deepish relationship to.. even consider making love to another person >.> It's just my opinion though. |
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Jul 24 2006, 10:13 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
QUOTE How does it show you don't have respect for yourself? If someone is your friend couldn't you have a deep relationship with them? B/c its disrespect on your feelings; the more you have this 'friends with benefits' the more you are allowing yourself to get hurt. & if you were messing w/ someone who was JUST a friend; it isnt easier done than said to try to get with the person-- everybody is different so there are different ways they will react to it |
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Jul 24 2006, 10:19 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 344,469 |
Pretty much what she said ^
I didn't say you couldn't have a deep relationship, but FWBs? You're risking your life that they're only being FWBs with you.. They could have half the school, and end up with aids... & because you weren't just with that one person, in like a... Relationship bf/gf, lez, gay, or bi.. ( i think you get what i mean) If you're not in a secluded relationship, youre risking your life with just having sex with this person... Uh, just take the person above me.. what she said, it sounds more reasonable -- I'm tired, or I'd explain what I meant better... |
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Jul 24 2006, 10:29 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 344,469 |
Because later on you might regret it? Or they might move on to bigger and better things, and you felt kinda-sorta-maybe attatched to the person. Like I said though, It was all in my opinion.
&I don't take things way too seriously, I just think things through before I act. &getting aids, isn't on my to do list anytime in this lifetime. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 24 2006, 10:46 AM
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Friends with beneifits is a risk.. many times, even if the person you are doing it with tells you they have no feelings for you they are lieing about it. That sucks, my friend always pulls this friends with benefits crap... he always distances himself from the girls, but it seems like the girls tend to go along with it just so they can get closer to him... it sucks from him, because he has a girl on his hands that he has to clean up, and it sucks for them becuase them because they are emotionally attached... Ugh, either way I think it's wrong... I believe sex is a sacred thing that should only be shared between a man and a woman... I'm not a virgin, so I'm not looking down on you people who aren't virgins, but I do wish that i kept my virginity.
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Jul 24 2006, 10:48 AM
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Hmm... well i completly disagree with it, if your gonna have sex with someone, your gonna have sex with them for the love in it, just getting off with people because you can isnt really like... i dunno... right lol. well thats my opinion anyway, if your gonna have sex with someone make sure its the right person for you. i dont see the point in just going around and stuff, its just completly pointless. and as crys said up there abit you really have no respect for yourself and for others doing it. so im against lol.
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Jul 24 2006, 10:52 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
QUOTE How is it disrespect to your feelings if it's consensual? And if you both know that s/he maybe be sleeping around with other people too? -b/c you are risking your feelings of getting hurt -b/c few allow things to happen [to continue] after messing [to say if the person you were messing w/ was messing w/ another person and you got attacthed to him?] ^^really long explaination to it but i dont feel like typing a lot |
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Jul 24 2006, 11:04 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 344,469 |
That's not what she was getting at.
She's merely stating why she believes what I said... People do get hurt in fwb situations, they realized they had feelings they really didn't think they had... Etc. We just think that a person should be in love with another person before having sex with them, thats why we say what we have. |
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| *Weird addiction* |
Jul 24 2006, 12:01 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jul 24 2006, 9:40 AM)  Why do you want to know anyway? If you want to do the things that fwb does, and not be in a commited relationship then I don't think your mature enough to even do the actions. What do YOU know. That's all you do, talk crap. Anyways, it's a dangerous game, be careful. |
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Jul 24 2006, 12:05 PM
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 CB's Official Ninja Group: Member Posts: 709 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,477 |
Some people can do this some people can't. Lots of people I know have these kind of relationships where them and some friend just mess around and they are still great friends. I mean it depends on how you grew up and what your beliefs are. Everyone is different. I personally can't do this because I would be way to attached to a girl. But yeah if you can emotionally not get a attached to a person go ahead pimp on.
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Jul 24 2006, 03:12 PM
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 peace&love, earth flower Group: Member Posts: 651 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 398,938 |
I personally wouldn't do it becuase I know I'd probably get attatched, but then again I've never been that strong when it comes to resisting temptation. Plus one of my friends was fwb with two of her friends and I really didn't like the image she was putting out (but then again she was putting out a lot as she made out with them in the halls).
So yeah...erm..no. Just no. I know how easily attatched I can become.. |
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Jul 24 2006, 03:59 PM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
I do believe, to a certain point, that you should be in love to have sex, but sometimes you just wanna have fun.. And there's nothing wrong with that. As long as you don't end up regreting it. But having sex with someone you love is much, MUCH better (pleasure-wise) than having sex with just a friend.
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Jul 24 2006, 05:59 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
my bf and i kinda started being friends with benefits, but of course we didn't have sex and neither did we make out....
i'm not sure if that's even fwb but what the heck.i don't think it's a good idea though, you'll usually get attached |
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Jul 24 2006, 06:06 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ I don't think you were "friends with benefits".
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Jul 24 2006, 06:31 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
uhm...not really. if your benefits with them then theres obviously some chemistry goin one way. but in the long run, what if he gets a gf? your left in the dark. and if he still wants to continue with the fwb rituals.....would you really consider messin with another persons life? or what if you get a bf, and you leave him....
theres *always* strings attached no matter what...so no i dont like them QUOTE(brownsugar @ Jul 24 2006, 11:24 AM) How is it disrespect to your feelings if it's consensual? And if you both know that s/he maybe be sleeping around with other people too? because it shows (to me) that instead of taking the time to get to know a person and actually want to be in a relationship for the better, you just pick and choose who you wanna f*k just because the feeling is there. it is a big risk too because almost 45% of all teens and young adults are infected with at least one STD by their mid-twenties. and those 45 dont go to a certain school, nor to they have HIV stamped on their forehead. plus, why risk your rep when you get tied to a player, or being known have consensual sex time and time again...but thats just my opinion |
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| *RiC3xBoy* |
Jul 24 2006, 06:38 PM
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QUOTE(lyin_in_wait @ Jul 24 2006, 4:31 PM) uhm...not really. if your benefits with them then theres obviously some chemistry goin one way. but in the long run, what if he gets a gf? your left in the dark. and if he still wants to continue with the fwb rituals.....would you really consider messin with another persons life? or what if you get a bf, and you leave him.... theres *always* strings attached no matter what...so no i dont like them because it shows (to me) that instead of taking the time to get to know a person and actually want to be in a relationship for the better, you just pick and choose who you wanna f*k. it is a big risk too because almost 45% of all teens and young adults are infected with at least one STD by their mid-twenties. and those 45 dont go to a certain school, nor to they have HIV stamped on their forehead. plus, why risk your rep when you get tied to a player, or being known have consensual sex time and time again...but thats just my opinion But technically, if you are friends and one decides to stop, shouldnt the other understand, thus no one is hurt? |
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| *Freaky Krazer* |
Jul 24 2006, 06:41 PM
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It never works. The other would want to stay friends (with benefits) and the other would want to take the next step.
No matter how selfless a person can be someone would always get hurt. You can sugar coat how a person feels about staying friends as much as you want, but inside it's just another painful rejection |
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Jul 24 2006, 08:33 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 2 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 443,270 |
I agree with Freaky Krazer...IT NEVER WORKS. All F.W.B. gives you is instant gratification for the pleasure you want. Once you get tired of always putting yourself in a certain situation with your "friend," you WILL get tired of it after a while and what next? You cannot just go back to being the great friends you USED to be. If sexual ties are what is HOLDING ONTO your "friendship" then it isn't a friendship at all.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 24 2006, 09:45 PM
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It doesn't NEVER work. It does work, but only if borth parties see sex as just something you do...
 Because this rarely happens, many people see this as something that will not work...
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Jul 24 2006, 10:35 PM
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 <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
well personally i dont like friends with benefits because its like alot of what people said that you eventually get attached to the person. so if they go out with someone you start missing having "fun" with them and you cant technically say anything because you were just "friends with benefits" and not the girl/boy friend.
and people talk and say hecka rude things behind peoples back i knew this girl who was just flirting around with guys and people were already calling her a slut and she really is not. i could imagine what they would say if she had a friend with benefits. |
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Jul 26 2006, 02:32 PM
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as long as you guys aren't emotionally attached and won't be jealous of each other
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Jul 26 2006, 02:32 PM
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Plain old no..
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Jul 26 2006, 03:27 PM
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Tempting, but in the long run, nothing good will come from it. Emotions, ugh.
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Jul 28 2006, 11:56 AM
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 the most flavored one Group: Member Posts: 132 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,593 |
^ so true...the damn emotions get in the way! and plus over time u get attached
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Jul 28 2006, 02:30 PM
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QUOTE(anqie @ Jul 23 2006, 10:14 PM) lol. really, i'm not down to be anyones "buckfuddy" i completely agree. ONLY if its cristiano tho. even if he's the sexiest male in the world nope. 
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Jul 28 2006, 03:50 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
like most people said someone usually gets hurt.
id say no... |
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Jul 29 2006, 03:38 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
I wouldn`t do it..
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Jul 29 2006, 06:44 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 99 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,520 |
It depends. It is hard for people to do that without getting somewhat attached because it is human nature. A lot of people figure, well if its just lust and we're just friends and you can't really build a relationship if we don't mesh well, that it will work. But I promise you that in almost every situation someone always ends up feeling closer to the person if not 'attached'.
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Jul 30 2006, 06:07 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,597 |
i think its retarded and people that have are sluts
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Jul 30 2006, 10:08 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 195 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 212,369 |
i wonder how this whole FWB thing started :O
Anyways no, you either commit or you don't. You can't just play and not pay the price :] There isn't really a free meal in the world :D So if you can pay then go ahead x.x |
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Jul 31 2006, 10:01 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 344,469 |
^ i agree, minus the meal free.. because you can pick apples off a tree :)
---wait, i already posted in this, har. i still agree anyway. |
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Jul 31 2006, 10:06 PM
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 stephanie .. Group: Member Posts: 1,965 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,529 |
I wouldn't want a friend with benefits...but it'd be fun ^_^ lol
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| *disco infiltrator* |
Jul 31 2006, 11:30 PM
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Heh, I sort of have a "friends with benefits" thing going on right now even though I think that's an awful term, and there's no sex involved. More of kissing and cuddling. Just, my friend and I like eachother, but he doesn't want to be with anyone right now (and I don't blame him).
I don't think friends with benefits works out if you don't actually like eachother or something though, because one of you is going to end up liking the other and get hurt. I guess it's ok if the situation is understood though. |
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Aug 1 2006, 12:26 AM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
I have/had a friends with benefits. We just you know a few times and then he said he couldn't anymore because it was making him think too much and I peaced out on that. Every once in a while I still catch myself texting him to
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