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post Jul 17 2006, 11:52 PM
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Which is better? To keep loving someone you can never have, or stop loving and walk away?
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 12:06 AM
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Not stop loving and walk away, but stop loving that person and walk away. To stop loving entirely is ... horrible. I'd rather walk away from the one I love and devote my time and energy to getting over him and finding someone to love me the way I love them, than pining over someone I already know I have no chance with.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 12:08 AM
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stop loving that individual and walk away. But somtimes if the person really means somthing to you it's hard.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 12:09 AM
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oh wow.
i don't even want to think about that.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 12:37 AM
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to not stop loving and walk-away ....yeaap .
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 12:40 AM
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stop loving only that person isn't a choice for a reason.

because it's pretty hard to get over something like that. i mean, you didn't even get to love and lose, you just lost.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 01:07 AM
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Oh then that's a harder decision.

But I'd choose loving someone I can never have, but be really good friends and I'd work my way into being his best friend. It would hurt seeing him love others, and knowing all his secrets and how he feels about other girls but as long as he is happy, I would be content with that even though I know I'd be lost in a love that I couldn't find a way out of. Because eventually I would fall out of that love, if that's an option.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 01:39 AM
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Not stop loving and walk away, but stop loving that person and walk away. To stop loving entirely is ... horrible. I'd rather walk away from the one I love and devote my time and energy to getting over him and finding someone to love me the way I love them, than pining over someone I already know I have no chance with.


i totally agree.... its better to walk away from the one you love than NOT to love at all... i did that to my ex.. i still love him no doubt about that; we both know we arent at the right place/time to be together [again], though even if we arent together we still have a bond - connection [sounds chessy] but he still my love and i am for him happy.gif
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 01:58 AM
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I was in a situation where I had to decide that exact same thing.
I honestly did want to walk away and to stop loving entirely. I didn't want to go through something like that again, especially believing that only the same will happen again.
Of course, I wanted to become cold and to not emote any longer.. which I guess I still do.

I haven't exactly walked away, though. I continue speaking to this person, and I am trying hard to only want them as a friend and not care for them in this way--but at the same time, I want to stop feeling this way and to not let it happen again.
God this is hard.

Well, I'm walking away and giving up my feelings for them and any chances of ever caring for someone else, so I guess I'll pick the latter.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 09:04 PM
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uhm. well you can love them from a distance and act like you walked away. but if its an unhealthy love then i say move on completely and find some one new
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 09:24 PM
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To be honest, I'd rather stop loving at all & just walk away.
Yes, it might sound cold-hearted & selfish, but I have my reasons.
Whenever I DO love someone [not as in a guy or w/e], the person either turns out to be taking advantage of me or doesn't really love me back.
It really hurts, & if I don't love at all, this wouldn't affect me in any way.
But if I stay loving someone I can never have, I probably won't be able to move on since it hurts me so much & therefore will pretty much fcuk up my life.

If I stopped loving altogether, yes, it would hurt those who really care about me, but atleast I'd be happier.
But if I stayed loving that person, not only would I be getting hurt, but those who really care about me will also be getting hurt w/ me in the process, so it all evens out.

Gahh, actually idk what I'd prefer. mellow.gif
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 10:16 PM
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Stop lovin all together. I wouldn't be able to take the girl i loved cupcakin with other dudes.
 
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post Jul 18 2006, 11:48 PM
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stop loving that individual and move on..
which is hard for me because I feel like I should wait for him to come back. So I'm stopping myself from completely moving on.
 
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post Jul 20 2006, 10:33 PM
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stop loving and move on because its harder for me to know everyday that i love that person and i know that they can never love me back it would be like constant torture! =(
 
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post Jul 20 2006, 11:15 PM
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I`d say stop and keep walkin`..someone who makes you wait..ain`t worth it.
 
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post Jul 20 2006, 11:32 PM
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Do I want to keep killing myself, clinging on to that non-existant hope that one day I'll be loved back? Yes.
 
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post Jul 20 2006, 11:41 PM
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Keep loving, even if it hurts. If you walk away it will hurt twice as much.
 
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post Jul 21 2006, 10:52 AM
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to keep loving but can't have that person
 
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post Jul 21 2006, 05:32 PM
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keep lovin`.
 
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post Jul 25 2006, 01:03 AM
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Not stop loving and walk away, but stop loving that person and walk away. To stop loving entirely is ... horrible. I'd rather walk away from the one I love and devote my time and energy to getting over him and finding someone to love me the way I love them, than pining over someone I already know I have no chance with.



yeahhhhh what she said :)
 
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post Jul 25 2006, 05:00 PM
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Well, you should love everyone... If you mean love someone boy-girl relationship-wise. Then I would suggest that if you know for a fact that it will probably never happen. You shouldn't waste that on someone who will never feel the same way about you. You should still love them, but not in that way. There are so many different kinds of love.
 
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post Jul 25 2006, 05:49 PM
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stop loving that person and move on. the longer you like them, the more and harder it's gonna hurt and move on later
 
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post Jul 25 2006, 06:29 PM
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keep loving...to stop is even harder.
 
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post Jul 25 2006, 09:28 PM
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I agree with Bella. To stop loving that person and walk away, but not give up entirely on love.
 
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post Jul 26 2006, 03:12 AM
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If you really do have feelings/love that person, then you can't just immediately stop loving them and walk away. I think it's better for you to keep on loving that person & just continue with your life. thumbsup.gif Distractions can be swell.
 
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post Jul 26 2006, 04:15 AM
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i read this again, and now i dont know..
 
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post Jul 26 2006, 07:42 AM
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to quit loving that person and walk away.

You can always learn to love another. And why stick with someone who will never share that same feeling with you. Find someone else that you can charish it with.
 
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post Jul 26 2006, 09:43 AM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jul 26 2006, 8:42 AM) *
to quit loving that person and walk away.

You can always learn to love another. And why stick with someone who will never share that same feeling with you. Find someone else that you can charish it with.


nicely put :]
 
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