eenie meenie minie moe =\, i dont dunno how to explain my situation in one sentence but i knoe i |
 Jul 3 2006, 04:14 PM
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xLilSwtPiNaix  Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,527  |
*sigh* guys...why do they have to be so complicated? okie...how to explain my whole situation??  i knoe ill explain it in a story  just hopefully you guys will understand it to give me a little advice.characters: me = me (durrr) T = bestfriend E = my bf A = ex bf sooo it all began when my ex bf, A... just dumped me. since i liked A very much...obviously i was sad and i turned to my bestfriend, T... fer some moral support. After 2 -3 weeks after the break up T and i became "more than friends." we both liked each other but we never actually got together b/c i was uncomfortable about the whole idea just going to some new guy right away and it was almost the end of the year and i might not see him during the summer. 2 weeks before school ened...T wasn't showing up at school. so i was wondering where the heck is he. then one day i called him....and i found out he got a brain tumor and he wont be there fer the rest of the school year.so then i got all sad but when he told me he'll be alright i was like "okie" but in my head i was thinking "god please dont let him die....hes my bestfriend i just love him very much and i HATE it if i lost him". when he wasn't at school fer those 2 weeks...i kinda sorta  started to like this other guy, E...then after i went to one of my friends gradution party..thats when we got hooked up. when T got out of the hospital and he got back home. and started to talk online, i told him i was going out with E. when i told him the whole story. he just sed"well as long as your happy im happy =D. yea...my head hurts a lot right now. ill talk to you later. bye" he told me that exact words. when he sed that i knew he was lying and he was hurt. i was upset too b/c i knew i should have waited before i started going out with E, b/c I KNEW i liked T, A WHOLE lot more. after that conversation he just stopped talking to me.  2 weeks after that conversation. he IMed me seeing hows everything going. then i told him eveyrthings all good blah blah blah. then he was like "its weird talking to you now" then he told me about WANTING to ask me out but his whole surgery got in the way and that he was upset when i told him about E and me we going out. and that he liked me soo much and that he just cant get me out of his mind and all he wanted to do while he was at the hospital was talk to me but he couldnt call b/c of his parents. and a WHOLE LOT of other things. then when he told me that...i was like...crap. i dont want to break up with E b/c its ONLY been a week but i knoe i like T a lot more.  so now heres the big problem should i just break it off with my bf?? or no?? just to remind you... T is my bestfriend...always been by my side since...the beginning of the year. E is a guy who asked me out, whole i barely even talked to during the year, were not even the close of friends. okie. if you guys need more infomation just ask me... plz help. im so confused
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Jul 3 2006, 04:24 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
I think the choice is obvious. I think you should break things off with E, because like you said, you barely talked to the guy during the school year, and you two aren't even close as friends. You'll feel bad for breaking up with E, because you now realize that it all went by too fast, but you'll feel even worse for hurting your best friend and knowing especially, that he's the one you've got wayyy more feelings towards.
So, bottom line: Break up with E, mend your friendship with T, and see if you two can go in the direction the both of you seem to have wanted, and possibly still want. If not, then you two can still remain good friends after fixing things. Good luck. 
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Jul 3 2006, 09:13 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
If you don`t even barely see/spend time with T..then theres no point in being with him.Mind as well find another man.
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Jul 4 2006, 12:16 AM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
All I'm going to say is listen to your heart. Seems to me you're more..compatible with T...and if you and E weren't even friends to begin with..there shouldn't be a lot hard feelings if you break it off. Remember, love starts with friendship, so I say give T a chance.
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Jul 4 2006, 07:01 AM
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nicorie Group: Member Posts: 196 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 394,679 |
no hard feelings but man it would suck to be in E's position. thats what sucks about a boyfriend/girlfreind relationship, no real committment-- anyone could break it off at anytime. but anways, think about it first. how much does E mean to you? He must mean a lot since that you guys are going out, unless you used him to feel happy at the period of T's illness. That would suck for E and I've I experienced that feeling to too. I would say if you have no choice, its better to have no boyfriend at all and give yourself space for a certain time, and then you can go out w/ T.
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Jul 4 2006, 08:47 AM
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 cool by default. Group: Member Posts: 147 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 392,925 |
the answer's obvious. break it with E and go out with T. you'll be alot happier with T. i mean, from what you said at the end, you&E seem barely know each other. it shouldnt matter that its only been a week. since you guys arent even that close of friends, the break up shouldnt affect you guys that much.
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Jul 5 2006, 11:26 AM
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 fifteen...there's still time for you... Group: Member Posts: 59 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,028 |
i agree with everyone else. the way you told your story, it's pretty obvious that you like T more than E. and you said that he's always been there for you. even if it's been only one week, that doesn't matter. don't feel like you have to stay with E. nothing is holding you down. but always remember, that in the end, it is your decision and if you do decide to keep E, then T should understand, although it must be painful for him. and if you break up with E, then yes, it will be hard, but it will be worth it!
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Jul 5 2006, 11:33 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,614 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,903 |
I would talk to the dude that you never talk to and tell him your feelings for the other dude. I hope everything works out for you.
Sorry for useing dude.. hAHA |
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Jul 5 2006, 05:01 PM
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 another victim of love Group: Member Posts: 91 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 409,214 |
Well it seems like you like T alot more then you like E. & its better to break it off now then wait longer when you or him is deeper in the relationship. Like you said, you barely talk to E.
Just think about what you said... QUOTE T is my bestfriend...always been by my side since...the beginning of the year.
E is a guy who asked me out, whole i barely even talked to during the year, were not even the close of friends. |
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Jul 5 2006, 09:35 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,015 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 193,600 |
QUOTE(tainted_angel @ Jul 3 2006, 2:24 PM)  I think the choice is obvious. I think you should break things off with E, because like you said, you barely talked to the guy during the school year, and you two aren't even close as friends. You'll feel bad for breaking up with E, because you now realize that it all went by too fast, but you'll feel even worse for hurting your best friend and knowing especially, that he's the one you've got wayyy more feelings towards. So, bottom line: Break up with E, mend your friendship with T, and see if you two can go in the direction the both of you seem to have wanted, and possibly still want. If not, then you two can still remain good friends after fixing things. Good luck. i totally agree with tainted_angel....on how to break up with E and yea... |
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Jul 5 2006, 10:25 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
Eenie Meenie Minie Moe how many bitches from the club wanna goooo.
Yeah break up with E . |
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Jul 6 2006, 02:42 AM
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QUOTE(SimplicityGirl @ Jul 4 2006, 12:16 AM) All I'm going to say is listen to your heart. Seems to me you're more..compatible with T...and if you and E weren't even friends to begin with..there shouldn't be a lot hard feelings if you break it off. Remember, love starts with friendship, so I say give T a chance. agree. |
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Jul 13 2006, 12:10 PM
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 hi, i'm pathetic Group: Member Posts: 71 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,232 |
i think you should keep dating E! And leave your BEST FRIEND T heart broken and mad at you. And you would feel constantly guilty about doing that to T all the while you are dating E. Well at least E, the guy you hardly talked to all year would be happy. but then again would he? He would probably pick up on how you weren't really in to him anymore and how you were just pitying him. Then he would be annoyed and break up with you. Then you wouldn't only be boyfriendless you would have one best friend less because T would still be upset that you would chose E over him. And he would feel 'weird' talking to you. Anyway what does it matter? You already turned your back on him while he was in the hospital. You hooked up with E the moment he wasn't in your way to make you feel bad. Hey, had a possibly terminal illness, why would you want to go out with someone who could be dying? Anyway then you would probably feel alone and like everything was your fault, and it would be. Wouldn't that be lovely?
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Jul 13 2006, 03:29 PM
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 the most flavored one Group: Member Posts: 132 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,593 |
GOSH! there's just something about this that tears me up inside! LOL! But...for you to say:
QUOTE so now heres the big problem should i just break it off with my bf?? or no?? just to remind you... T is my bestfriend...always been by my side since...the beginning of the year. E is a guy who asked me out, whole i barely even talked to during the year, were not even the close of friends. It sure sounds like you like T a whole lot more. For you to be so distracted by him and for you to be hurt he hasn't talked to you--says a lot more. If you can't hear what your heart is telling you, you should think of the way you're reacting to things =) it looks like T is never out of your mind. |
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Jul 13 2006, 08:03 PM
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hhaha yeah that'd suck for E, but uhh i definately think you should go out with T...
maybe you should tell E what happened with T? ...either way he'll get a little hurt - if he likes you. |
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Jul 14 2006, 02:58 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
 that was a LONG story! lolit honestly wouldnt be right to end your current relationship with your bf [i shouldnt be talking] but i think whats best is to EXPLAIN to your bestfriend how you feel, and better tyet to know what YOU want for yourself.. do you want to be with him? or your boyfriend? |
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Jul 17 2006, 06:10 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 21 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 423,058 |
t seems like a really sweet guy so go with t and break up with that other guy since u dont even know him well...
most guys wont even say stuff t said...so...ur choice...choose it well... |
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Jul 17 2006, 06:27 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 96 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 395,907 |
QUOTE i dont want to break up with E b/c its ONLY been a week i dont really think it matters how long you two have been together. its not right to have feelings for two guys. and plus, you said you liked T a whole lot more. why be with E if you have stronger feelings for another man? tu comprehendo? =p |
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Jul 17 2006, 06:50 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
i agree with the person above. it doesnt matter how long its been.. if you dont like the guy then it should end. it cant be that hard since it doesnt sound like you guys are that close ;x
i say go for T! |
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