i hate my friends..., Why am i friends with these people??? Options

[marielmussack]

Do u ever feel like u hate ur friends? Like u just dont understand why u hang out w them? See, the thing is, two and a half years ago i moved from connecticut to brasil, and that was awesome. I made the best friends and had the best time. Then my dad was relocated back to connecticut and we had to move back. When i got back, the friends i had before i moved accepted me back into their group at school. I guess i accepted becuase i thought theyd b the same,but they became b*tches. I guess i stayed friends w them because it was better than being alone. I dont know why im posting this, but i just need someone to tell it to. Anyway these´girls only care about guys, and impressing them. Theyree totally stupid, and are just sooo f**king SHALLOW!!! Does anyone feel the same?? HEEEELLLPPP!

[Joss-eh-lime]

yea i sometime feel that way. maybe they think "you think you can leave and just come back and be our friends again"

you could tell them you seem different then before i left. people change though...it happens all the time and it sucks

[PrincessAda]

Yes,sometimes I do..sometimes I think of them as the best though.

[iDecay]

Well, you know, if you hate them, I don't see why they are your "friends." I have had a lot of friends change. I just don't hang out with them. I started hanging out with other people..

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

Well, you know, if you hate them, I don't see why they are your "friends." I have had a lot of friends change. I just don't hang out with them. I started hanging out with other people..

i agree jus go and find other friends to hang out with..

[marzipan]

just find some other people to talk to. if they're going to act like that, then they're not your friends!

[Paradox of Life]

You probably have uber high standards. No one's perfect. There are things that you may not like about your friends, but seriously, you have to accept them for who they are. If you dwell on their imperfections, like you're doing right now, you won't ever find someone you don't "hate".

Focus on what's good about them. They're not perfect. Niether are you. So you just got to do your best to get along with everyone.

[blucheri]

my friends aren't that bad. but if u think about it. if u stayed there and never left those friends. u might have turned out just like them. OR....... probably find new friends anway.

[*Freaky Krazer*]

Obviously your friends changed over time. If you think talking to them helps the situation then talk. If you think you can't change them no matter what, just find different friends. I'm sure your town's population isn't down to 4 (or something lower than 10) <_<.

I hate hanging out with my friends too. But there are times and moments that make me glad I'm with them. My whole group is all different. One is overly dramatic, one is so god damn serious, one is an attention whore, the other's just quiet. I sometimes wonder how we all ended up being real close friends. But like I said, we have our moments.


By the way where in Connecticut do you live? I live in Connecticut too!

[whenshesdancing]

friends will be friends. if you ever feel lonely, could you not talk to your old friends in brasil?

i do feel reluctant towards my friends sometimes, but they're still my bests. talk to them, tell them how immature they are when they do something shallow.

it's easier to be angry somebody you trust because you know they will always love you.

make them realize that they have changed for the worse, hopefully that will change things for you. if they are still bizzos, then convince yourself they aren't really your friends, and find those who care about you.

[iminlovewithTomD...]

no, i'm the one who cares about boys the most :]

but yeah... i'm not like shallow and i don't try to impress them.

try making new friends while staying friends with them, then slowly drift from the friends you have now :]

[mrs_Havokxx]

Pshh....I know exactly how you feel.
My siduation is sortve diffrent though.
Like my best friend.....is my best friend
but i feel more fun and comfortable around my "just friends" who arent the good friends. And sometimes I dont know why I am best friends with her because shes sortve a wannabe and she annoys the shit out of me, but at the end of the day Shes the one I call to go to the mall :/

[*Kathleen*]

You all need to watch the movie Heathers.

[*Uronacid*]

LOL, i don't know if anyone noticed, but her name... "who gives a f**k"

thats so shallow....

[*Steph Chan*]

Oh man, I thought I was the only one. YES! sometimes i just wanna punch all my friends in the face, & i often say I don't have any.

I think it's because I have this notion that they really really don't like me, & talk crap about me. I think they call me the 'man stealer'?

[xXYouMeBedNowXx]

Yes. I'm sorry, but the friends that I want to have as friends shouldn't make me feel horrible whenever I'm around them. I remember having the feeling of constantly going to the people I started grudging against, simply because I felt obligated to come to them. It wasn't until recently that I found out I could break off and search for better. There are other people out there that can care for you, you should know that without anyone having to tell you ;).

[demolished]

same here.

i had exactly same experience as you



except impressing part.


for me, i didnt do anything about it.

i was unhappy and ... sort of depressed about it.

i took sort of took disadvantage of these people.

i used them for money, buy me stuff, and get my food ;]

and when i moved to H.S, i stop hanging out w/ em. i didnt care about them. i move on with my life and be real. i'm changing and i'm proud of having a whole new friends. they really made me feel happier than the shit friends.


i may sound like a total ass.

but they deserved it.

they took advanatage of me too. they even thought i was stupid.

but i was the wise one.

i know what and when to use them for my resource.

i took them for granted ... and i'm darn proud of it.

i'm sick of these retarded people.

what i can tell you now ... is make more connection with friends that arent in your group.

next year, dont hang out with the stupid people. hang out w/ the people that you made connection with.

it's a way to take good advantage of knowing more people.

[KELLYYY]

I feel the same about one of my best friends. She's bitchy.

[*jooleeah*]

I used to feel like that in seventh grade. I hated all my friends--they were fake people who was just backstabbers and trashtalkers. I finally just broke it off and found friends who I didn't feel like I hated and life became better =) I think that's what you need to do. Find a group of friends that suit you.

[DivineFox]

At times I feel apart from my friends and there are some with whom I can actually connect with. The others talk too much shit behind everyone elses back and sometimes they act without thinking, which I kinda dislike.

[nettynono]

Some people don't find their best best best friends till their 30!!! I had a group of friends from the time I was 11 right up to 18 (give or take a few people in our circle). One of my friends got married when she was 18 to a Turkish guy and I was the only one in the group who couldn't afford to go to the wedding and this was the first holiday they went on. Since then things haven't been the same and I've now through lack of effort on both parts somehow slipped out of the group. Fortunate for me I was the only one who had friends outside the group and people I've grown up with. You can never have to many friends! Something I've learnt. That way you also know who's best for particular qualities and know who to trust more etc.

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Well why are you friends with them ?
If you hate them so much...find new ones ?

[xlilaznchickx]

Obviously your friends changed over time. If you think talking to them helps the situation then talk. If you think you can't change them no matter what, just find different friends. I'm sure your town's population isn't down to 4 (or something lower than 10) <_<.

I hate hanging out with my friends too. But there are times and moments that make me glad I'm with them. My whole group is all different. One is overly dramatic, one is so god damn serious, one is an attention whore, the other's just quiet. I sometimes wonder how we all ended up being real close friends. But like I said, we have our moments.
By the way where in Connecticut do you live? I live in Connecticut too!

i feel the same way with u about..the thing about we have our moments

[*Statues/Shadows*]

You all need to watch the movie Heathers.

Haha

Mm, I went through that phase once, but got over it because it was stupid. I came to accept some, and some I just don't talk to at all anymore. It's that simple. If you aren't happy with the sort of friendships you have, do something about it.

[*baby_in_blue*]

i agree jus go and find other friends to hang out with..

that`s so much harder than it actually sounds. going to an all girls school, you`re either that, or you`re not.


i feel the EXACT same way, although i didnt move. anyways, im just waiting for graduation so i dont have to see them anymore.

the truth is, i dont hang out with them during the weekends...[ or ever ].... and yet im still included. but it`s not about feeling included.

if you`re about to graduate than thats better news, but if you`re stuck with them for a while longer, try and avoid them. hanging out with yourself is cool.

i do it often; it ROCKS.