Is it true that getting a new bf, helps u get over the old one? |
 Jun 26 2006, 10:29 AM
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 I have $20 yo.  Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 424,562  |
Is it true that getting a new bf helps get over the old one, because this guy just asked me out, and I have to get back to him with a yes or a no. But I just broke up with my bf last week.
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Jun 26 2006, 10:33 AM
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 swoosha Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 359,804 |
well . it does sometimes. but mainly if you like this new guy that asked you out. cuz if you like him. and obviously he likes you. then you if you have a good time hanging out with him then hed probly be on your mind alot more than that other dude.
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Jun 26 2006, 10:34 AM
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I have $20 yo. Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 424,562 |
probably. i mean, yes i DO like him...a lot... and my ex i still like a lot. but my ex is like...a b***h because hes so secretie around me. but then this new guy, he tells me everything. he tells me when hes mad, sad, happy, or just plain tired. he even tells me when he doesnt want to talk to me then...so should i say yes? or no?
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Jun 26 2006, 10:36 AM
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swoosha Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 359,804 |
if i was you i wud say yes.
1. you like the dude. 2. hes honest 3. you like the dude. lol |
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Jun 26 2006, 10:39 AM
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I have $20 yo. Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 424,562 |
kk. thanks much! im off
off to tell him yes i mean...LOL! im confusing....sometimes...LOL |
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Jun 26 2006, 10:40 AM
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swoosha Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 359,804 |
lol.
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Jun 26 2006, 12:44 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,025 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,051 |
Not really, the only thing that can really help is time.
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Jun 26 2006, 01:05 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 91 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 420,727 |
I guess having someone else to think about would prevent one from constantly thinking about one's ex. I'm just a bit concerned because you just broke up with your ex recently. :/ I'm not saying that going out with the other guy wouldn't work out, though. If you feel ready for it, I hope things turn out fabulously.
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| *This Confession* |
Jun 26 2006, 04:07 PM
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well usually i think you should get over the last boyfriend before getting a new one. I think you just getting a new bf to get over the other is really just using someone and that just falls under do unto others as you would want them do up to you..0_O something like that.
SO you using someone, would you want someone to use you as well? |
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| *ECD & C0* |
Jun 26 2006, 04:12 PM
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yeah because you forget and meet someone new who you could end up really liking
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Jun 26 2006, 07:33 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
No, no it's not. I've seeeeen so many cases like these.
I've seen cases when people go into another relationship trying to get over their ex & even end up having a kid with somebody thinking they're in love with the new person. However, they realized that the feelings for their ex has not gone away. & what happens? They leave the new one ... I think time is the only way to get over somebody. |
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Jun 26 2006, 07:45 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
If you're going into a new relationship to get over the old one, that's not really getting over it. It's called a rebound. And rebounds don't work. If you want to get over your ex, give it at least a month or two before you get involved with another guy...or you'll end up hurting the new guy.
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Jun 26 2006, 07:57 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 82 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 190,340 |
that depends on:
1. the guy 2. the reason ur dating him If you are dating him just to specifically get over someone else then u probably shouldn't be dating him to begin with. & if the guy is a jerk it is pointless |
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Jun 26 2006, 08:20 PM
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 lx Group: Member Posts: 300 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,440 |
for some people that may be the case.. cause the person might become really possessive and clingy...
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Jun 26 2006, 09:11 PM
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s w e e t e s t Group: Member Posts: 808 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,149 |
My friend has tried that .. liked a guy for like 6 months. Gone out with 4 guys that really liked her. She .. I think purposely went out with them to get over her ex boyfriend. And what was the result ? She didn't get over him. She still liked him and no matter what - she kept on talking about him and saying things about their past.
If you think you can get a new boyfriend and try to get over your old boyfriend ; go ahead and try. I won't stop you. Just think about how hurt your boyfriend will be when he hears that you use him to get over your ex. |
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Jun 27 2006, 12:34 AM
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 i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
No.
Not for me, anyway. |
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Jun 28 2006, 12:28 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Sometimes..depends how the new guy is.
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Jun 28 2006, 05:20 PM
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Yes, it does, but it isn't right... I mean you are using someone
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Jun 28 2006, 06:21 PM
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 You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
Yes.
But I don't think I'm a credible source. |
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Jun 30 2006, 06:59 AM
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 Love is a flame that can't be tamed Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 396,304 |
QUOTE My friend has tried that .. liked a guy for like 6 months. Gone out with 4 guys that really liked her. She .. I think purposely went out with them to get over her ex boyfriend. And what was the result ? She didn't get over him. She still liked him and no matter what - she kept on talking about him and saying things about their past. If you think you can get a new boyfriend and try to get over your old boyfriend ; go ahead and try. I won't stop you. Just think about how hurt your boyfriend will be when he hears that you use him to get over your ex. I completely agree. Distracting yourself from a problem isn't solving it. Sure, it works. But I don't think it's right. It makes you dependent on those guys/any guy. In xxaznxgurlxx's story, that girl was probably constantly being reminded of her relationship she was trying to move on from. So it was probably back-firing what she intended to do. |
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Jun 30 2006, 08:47 AM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
Well not always -_-;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;
But sometimes it works all the time. But sometimes it ends up like YOUR OLD BOYFRIEND >:O -_-;;;; But really, do you like the new guy you're thinking of dating? if you don't....don't hurt the guy who just asked you out -_- |
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Jun 30 2006, 10:55 AM
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 unrequited love Group: Member Posts: 1,007 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,788 |
i say would you ever want to forget the one person you once truly cared about? its hard to forget someone who once was a part of your life emotionally and physically. sure getting a new boyfriend might make you forget the old one . but then there might be times when you compare the two. and from the old boyfriend you can learn new things on how to keep the relationship stronger with the new one. don't live with regrets. take each step of life. DEEEEEP! ahaha
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Jun 30 2006, 11:55 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,614 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,903 |
This is just me. I dont think I could get a bf right after we broke up because it would remind me to much of my last one. :-)
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Jul 2 2006, 11:43 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 432,561 |
umm... getting a new bf doesnt mean you'll get over the old one.. the feelings you had for ur old boyfriend will come back eventrually if you still like him so much. and if you get a new bf just to get over the old one.. then you are somehow..using ur new bf? well iono.. its just the way i see it. i've had those before. they suck =[
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Jul 2 2006, 12:45 PM
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 ♥ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,066 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,393 |
That's pretty much... having a rebound. Which is also using the new one so you can lie to yourself and say that you're over the old one, when you're really not. No good can come out of dating someone to get over someone else, that's just sloppy seconds.
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Jul 2 2006, 12:49 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,614 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,903 |
QUOTE(xoxo_koala_kisses_ @ Jul 2 2006, 1:45 PM)  That's pretty much... having a rebound. Which is also using the new one so you can lie to yourself and say that you're over the old one, when you're really not. No good can come out of dating someone to get over someone else, that's just sloppy seconds. Agreed. Sloppy seconds.. no good. |
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Jul 3 2006, 09:44 PM
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 [BRITT;;] Group: Member Posts: 764 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,210 |
Sometimes. But I'd hate to think someone was going out with me just to get over their ex.
Get over your ex take some time & then think about it if you're ready for a new relationship and old feelings will not get in the way. Guys are really weird about stuff like that. |
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Jul 3 2006, 10:42 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Human Posts: 2,817 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 381,065 |
ughh
no i always find a way to be with him again.. lol |
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Jul 4 2006, 11:59 PM
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 CB's Forum Troll Group: Member Posts: 926 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,142 |
lol the internet
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Jul 5 2006, 05:05 AM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
If the guy is better than the old one. Well it also depends on the situation.
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