Does he REALLY want her, things don't add up |
 Jun 22 2006, 09:02 PM
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My friend01 is 17. And this guy who is now her boyfriend is 25. He's a business man/producer. Living in a Bronx apartment. He goes on Trips to Japan and L.A.
Recently he told her he was going to Japan. And told her not to call him for a month. He told her he'd be SSSSSSSSSOOOOO busy. well TTTTTTTTOOOOOOOOOO busy to talk. Well funny. When my other friend02 called him he picked up his phone like everything was normal. Then we realized a couple of reasons why he can't be in Japan. And she then wanted to see if he was still here in NYC. So today we went to his apartment. And she called him and from what I heard "Its me, your girlfriend" how you not recognize your girlfriends voice And he wasn't in Japan he went to L.A. Also I asked my other friend02 if she found it weird that My friend01 always had to be alone, or had to talk to her boyfriend alone its like my friend01 has something to hide. And I found it weird how the whole time we chilled with my friend01 and her boyfriend they barely touched. And when it was time for us to leave he was playing around with his cell phone. She needed time alone to say goodbye to him.  (BULLSh!T)I'm so sorry. But what does a 25 yr old guy want with a 17 yr old. And my friend01 ain't no supermodel material either. And please don't say "they can talk" because she said the same thing. Yet the man is a music producer and my friend01 didn't know the difference between Tupac and Big Pun. Something is sssssssssoooooooo wrong. Can u people PPPPPPPPPLLLLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSEEEEEEEE help. |
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Jun 22 2006, 09:04 PM
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 Krista. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 |
well...i don't really know what to tell you. i'm trying to understand this - so you're worried about your friend?
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| *This Confession* |
Jun 22 2006, 10:31 PM
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well i'm 14 and my boyfriend is 20
I'm not some supermodel material either.  Okay I'm 15 pretty much since my birthday is soon. I want to say its not exactly your place to judge it all, because it really isn't. But you are worried about your friend and her relationship because you care? You need to talk to her about it be very understanding and make sure she knows that you care about her and don't want her to get hurt or something. It sounds to me hes trying to avoid her and that hes not very "into her." I mean they very well are just not comfortable in front of other people. I don't know though. Do you have any other information that would put something to this. I mean what do you think their doing? Why are you so concerned and stuff. I did think that you may think hes like cheating on her. I mean sayings hes going to be here and hes somewhere else completely and then telling her not to call him for a month!? Wtf. If you don't want to talk to your own girlfriend atleast everyday or every other day or something close to each other but one whole month is kind of eery. |
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Jun 22 2006, 11:14 PM
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 none of it seems real Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 |
Why would a 25 year old producer want a serious relationship with some 17 year old. Especially if she's not legal and it would be bad for his representation.
He is probably using her and doesn't care much for her. |
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Jun 23 2006, 08:56 AM
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QUOTE(Skyline Drive @ Jun 23 2006, 12:14 AM)  Why would a 25 year old producer want a serious relationship with some 17 year old. Especially if she's not legal and it would be bad for his representation. He is probably using her and doesn't care much for her. oh thank u. i heart u so much. ur the only one who completely got that message. And u know what. She never has anything to show for it. It flashes all his gadgets infront of her and what not. And never gives her anything. Like if u saw them together u wouldn't even guess they're were going out. I'm not saying money giving is an issue. But my friend needs to be taken care of and he doesn't do that. And all these trips all over the place. He never has anything to show for it. No t-shirts from Atlanta, and L.A. Nothing. See something is wrong. |
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| *Steph Chan* |
Jun 23 2006, 09:03 AM
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^ but why would he bring home t-shirts & stuff if he was busy with his business & all. don't get me wrong i think this situation is sketchy & all, but there's got to be an explanation behind all of it. maybe theyre not really going out but have worked out some sort of secret deal? who knows..
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Jun 23 2006, 11:12 AM
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They are trying to fool the world into thinking they are going out. Maybe she is black mailing him or something.
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Jun 23 2006, 07:55 PM
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GANGSTA-FIED Group: Member Posts: 464 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,643 |
Naw i don't think she is black mailing him. The deal is. This is her FIRST BOYFRIEND. Her first hope out of a lotta thing.
The only people she really has in the world is ME, FRIEND02, ANOTHER CLOSE FRIEND OF HERS, AND THIS GUY(HER BOYFRIEND). He was her FIRST. And its like shes gonna try her hardest to make this last. She knows some dude like him isn't gonna come her way in a long time. And I know she'll hide his flaws. For example. I found out he has a 4yr old child. YES. So he's had his experiences b4. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jun 23 2006, 10:59 PM
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man, i don't think that you can so anythinga bout the situation... if she asks for your opinion give it to her... but she will really only take your advice if she wants it... this may be a situation where she needs to learn that he doesn't like her on her own...
really, it sounds like he's just using her as something on the side.... express to her that you care about the situation... thats all you can do... other than that, you're just an out side viewer so you really don't know whats going on within the realtionship... doesn't mean you can't ask tho :) |
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Jun 24 2006, 12:42 AM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Maybe they have a special feeling about eachother.
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Jun 24 2006, 05:10 PM
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well dont pressure her into anything and dont tell her what to do because shes 17 and she should be old enough to know what she is doing..i think the more you might bug her about it the more she is going to be obsessed with staying with him I agree with uronacid she really needs to find out on her own that he doesnt love her..thats the only way she will move on. you seem like a really cool friend jus be there having her back and if she asks for advice be honest and supportive that since its her first boyfriend she might do anything that is possible to stay with him. GOOD LUCK! =D
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Jun 24 2006, 05:12 PM
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Dont worry about it its her life let her live it the way she wants to.. She has to learn on her own.. just make sure your there for her every step of the way..
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Jun 24 2006, 05:13 PM
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Krista. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 |
like uronacid said, she's going to have to learn on her own. it's just one of those things...she'll learn from her mistakes, i suppose.
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Jun 24 2006, 07:44 PM
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 ˇAye, que rico! Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 416,365 |
Hm, look at it this way. Does the 25 year old know your friend's parents? Does he have a problem w/ people (especially the parents) knowing that they're dating & pretty much keeps it a secret that they're dating? If the first answer is no & the second is yes, then he's most likely using her for sex, & that's not good.
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Jun 25 2006, 01:14 PM
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QUOTE(jackbutt @ Jun 24 2006, 8:44 PM) Hm, look at it this way. Does the 25 year old know your friend's parents? Does he have a problem w/ people (especially the parents) knowing that they're dating & pretty much keeps it a secret that they're dating? If the first answer is no & the second is yes, then he's most likely using her for sex, & that's not good. He doesn't have the gucks to meet the parents. Wants nothing to do with the parents. He really didn't want to me her TWO best friends.... (Me and Friend02) A guidence teacher asked my friend "If he so in love with you. Why don't he be a man and come up to your parents and say I love her. And blah blah blah" She never answered back to that question.
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