I think I lost my friend.. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Options

[molly_lullaby]

Hi guys! Here’s my problem:
When I finished primary school I went to a different school and actually all my classmates went to different middle schools so we were “separated”. I went to my new school with my friend Sarah.
In primary school I had many guy friends but now I don’t have coz my new classmates are jerks..
But I keep in touch with my old classmates and I remain close with my guy friends. I call them, we text each other and sometimes we go out. Every year in June, we meet altogether and we are together for the whole day. This year I was looking forward to going to this meeting, as I would have the chance to spend time with my best guy friend Ross.

But this year he wasn’t like he’s always with me.. We cuddled a few times but he chose to be with Sarah all the time. Sarah’s cousin goes to the same school Ross goes so I guess they had things to discuss but I really can’t explain Ross’s behaviour, as we always used to talk about everything.. Plus Ross has a girlfriend, so he wasn’t talking to Sarah because he likes her or something like that.. and they r not friends at all.

Ross and I used to have a really special friendship. We cuddled a lot, I knew all his secrets, he knew mine. He would call me and talk to me for everything he wanted for hours. About Harry Potter or about how he could approach this special girl he liked. We were like siblings. He knew exactly what to do to cheer me up, we went to the movies and he would even help me with my chores. Our friendship was magical the most perfect friendship ever!!!!!! He would protect me and fight with anyone that made me sad. We continued being super-close friends for the first year of middle school. But then Ross became extremely popular and I believed that I was happy with my new friends(actually I hate them now, they make me sad). So we started losing touch..

Now, we only text each other and most of the times he doesn’t reply to my messages. We meet at this meeting every summer I told u. And this year he acted the way he acted. The thing is that I felt so left out at the meeting.. I tried to get into their conversation but it was impossible. So I spent my time with my other old guy friends. I must admit that I felt a bit jealous but I felt even more depressed. I know I shouldn’t but it was tough.

The basic thing is that Ross has probably moved on. He got new friends and a new best female friend(that makes me sooooooooo sad..). But I DIDN’T. I DON’T LIKE MY NEW FRIENDS. I STILL CONSIDER Ross as my best guy friend but he doesn’t fell the same. So:
-What can I do to become again super close best friends with Ross? What can I do so he wants to be again best friends with me and he miss me tlike I miss him?
-Wdut of all this I told u? Any conclusions?

Please guys don’t say that he isn’t nice because he’s a great guy. And don’t tell me to move on and get a new guy friend. I love Ross so much and I miss him, HE WAS MY CLOSEST FRIEND. Gimme some advice I want so much to be again best friends with him. Thanks a lot!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Molly

[Vera]

Hehehe, sounds to me like you have a small crush on him. Well, you can't really change the fact that he's becoming popular. I'm terrible with advice but the way I would deal if I was in your place is to just confront him about it. Communication is the best way to get to someone. Good luck!

[*AngelicEyz00*]

I think you should really talk to him about this and tell him how you feel. It seems like you two used to be able to tell eachother everything, so why not tell him now how you feel about what's happened.

[lyin_in_wait]

theres really not much you can do unless you talk to him about it. explain your problem but dont expect him to come around open arms and everything. he seems like he sorta wants yalls relationship to end and if you try to move yourself in you run the risk of being labeled a stalker....maybe you should just move on. act like you dont need him its gonna hurt specially since its like you did nothing wrong but people change...maybe its for the better

i went through the same thing, though i cherish the memories we had. doesnt help that i miss him, but its just life. take the good with the bad

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

it really sounds to me that you might like him and thats okay to admit that you do like him but it sounds like he is ready to move on and your not. See when guys get older they want to hang out with more of their guy friends and hang out with diffrent people. they dont want to get labeled as being a wimp for having a best friend thats a girl..guys change personality because they want to fit in. sorry but the same thing happend to me but i admit that i liked my guy friend and we "cuddled" but i never thot of him as a brother because thats jus gross if you go and cuddle with someone you think can almost be like your brother..but yea try talkin to him but dont expect much because he really does seem like he wants to move on

[PrincessAda]

Seems like you need to talk to him about it..

[JTHMjulia]

Ok, to reiterate what everyone else said: talk to him, DAMMIT! lol. I know from experiance that the only way to figure out whats going on between yous guys is if you talk to the guy. You guys sound a lot like me and my best guy friend, whom I love like a brother. If you guys were truly that close at one point...then you should still be able to talk to him. I reread your post...and since ross has a girlfriend...maybe he's afraid to talk to you anymore....perhaps because he thinks something would happen....look I don't know I'm just making a hypothesis....but seriously, call him up and talk to him

<3Julia

[jenn_jenny]

chat with him.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Give it time.

[xdreamerr]

it sounds like you guys had an awesome friendship. but i think you should talk to him about this. tell what`s going on your head. it`ll take some time. but it`s always worth it in the end

[magicfann]

Hi guys! Here’s my problem:
When I finished primary school I went to a different school and actually all my classmates went to different middle schools so we were “separated”. I went to my new school with my friend Sarah.
In primary school I had many guy friends but now I don’t have coz my new classmates are jerks..
But I keep in touch with my old classmates and I remain close with my guy friends. I call them, we text each other and sometimes we go out. Every year in June, we meet altogether and we are together for the whole day. This year I was looking forward to going to this meeting, as I would have the chance to spend time with my best guy friend Ross.

But this year he wasn’t like he’s always with me.. We cuddled a few times but he chose to be with Sarah all the time. Sarah’s cousin goes to the same school Ross goes so I guess they had things to discuss but I really can’t explain Ross’s behaviour, as we always used to talk about everything.. Plus Ross has a girlfriend, so he wasn’t talking to Sarah because he likes her or something like that.. and they r not friends at all.

Ross and I used to have a really special friendship. We cuddled a lot, I knew all his secrets, he knew mine. He would call me and talk to me for everything he wanted for hours. About Harry Potter or about how he could approach this special girl he liked. We were like siblings. He knew exactly what to do to cheer me up, we went to the movies and he would even help me with my chores. Our friendship was magical the most perfect friendship ever!!!!!! He would protect me and fight with anyone that made me sad. We continued being super-close friends for the first year of middle school. But then Ross became extremely popular and I believed that I was happy with my new friends(actually I hate them now, they make me sad). So we started losing touch..

Now, we only text each other and most of the times he doesn’t reply to my messages. We meet at this meeting every summer I told u. And this year he acted the way he acted. The thing is that I felt so left out at the meeting.. I tried to get into their conversation but it was impossible. So I spent my time with my other old guy friends. I must admit that I felt a bit jealous but I felt even more depressed. I know I shouldn’t but it was tough.

The basic thing is that Ross has probably moved on. He got new friends and a new best female friend(that makes me sooooooooo sad..). But I DIDN’T. I DON’T LIKE MY NEW FRIENDS. I STILL CONSIDER Ross as my best guy friend but he doesn’t fell the same. So:
-What can I do to become again super close best friends with Ross? What can I do so he wants to be again best friends with me and he miss me tlike I miss him?
-Wdut of all this I told u? Any conclusions?

Please guys don’t say that he isn’t nice because he’s a great guy. And don’t tell me to move on and get a new guy friend. I love Ross so much and I miss him, HE WAS MY CLOSEST FRIEND. Gimme some advice I want so much to be again best friends with him. Thanks a lot!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Molly

i know a guy called ross, he used to know a girl called molly but then he met me and we played cs