arranged marriages, ? Options

[luvnhate]

yea i was just wondering what you guys think about arranged marriages? it doesn't happen as often ne more but in some countries they still do this
so what do u think about them?

[AngelinaTaylor]

Entirely wrong!!! Why not let people fall in love and marry for love?

Taylor``

[NinjaxMageLayout...]

Entirely wrong!!! Why not let people fall in love and marry for love?

Taylor``

I AGREE.arranged marrage is just retarted beyond all means.Because people should be allowed to love and be loved by the ones their heart desire.

[marzipan]

i think it's wrong. people should be able to choose who they love and who they marry.

[*This Confession*]

people can fall in love and get married exactly how they want. A lot of people don't want this whole orgainized thing with a lot of people at it. So their spontaneous and go out and have something like that.

[sw33t_rouge]

i think arrnaged marriages are not wrong or right. zome people who have arranged marriages grow to like each other,while some the arranged marriages didint run out to well..but it really depends..

[AngelinaTaylor]

i think arrnaged marriages are not wrong or right. zome people who have arranged marriages grow to like each other,while some the arranged marriages didint run out to well..but it really depends..

How would you feel if your mom brang a boy to your home one day and said "Congrats! You're getting married tomorrow!"? Especially if you already have feelings for someone.

They are wrong, but unfortunately, that's how some cultures do it.

Taylor``

[*Steph Chan*]

totally against them.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

How would you feel if your mom brang a boy to your home one day and said "Congrats! You're getting married tomorrow!"? Especially if you already have feelings for someone.

They are wrong, but unfortunately, that's how some cultures do it.

Taylor``

My cousin had her marriage arranged and she fell in love with her husband after a few days (so she says). I've never seen her happier before, and just months before she was crying about her life ending.

Not all arranged marriages fail. Most of the last generation in my family (the one before mine) had arranged marriages and they're all happy (except for two). It all depends on the person they got for you. If both are willing to cooperate in marriage then it will probably work and probably not. It's all in the chemistry!

To be honest I wouldn't mind an arranged marriage. I trust my parents. Although I would prefer to find one myself. get what I mean?

[AngelinaTaylor]

My cousin had her marriage arranged and she fell in love with her husband after a few days (so she says). I've never seen her happier before, and just months before she was crying about her life ending.

Not all arranged marriages fail. Most of the last generation in my family (the one before mine) had arranged marriages and they're all happy (except for two). It all depends on the person they got for you. If both are willing to cooperate in marriage then it will probably work and probably not. It's all in the chemistry!

To be honest I wouldn't mind an arranged marriage. I trust my parents. Although I would prefer to find one myself. get what I mean?

I'm not saying they don't always work out. I'm just saying it's wrong. At least in my view.

Taylor``

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

^Well there are many things wrong in the world. I only find arranged marriage wrong if it was done just to kick the daughter out of the house (to get rid of her) or if the parents knew the husband isn't really a good one =/

[NinjaxMageLayout...]

I agree with taylor all the way.Sure some cultures have that tradition (as some may recall it that way)and not all of the arranged ones are bad.But its wrong because you haveto marry them,its not like your parents (if they are the ones who arrange it)are giving you a choice.

[AngelinaTaylor]

^Well there are many things wrong in the world. I only find arranged marriage wrong if it was done just to kick the daughter out of the house (to get rid of her) or if the parents knew the husband isn't really a good one =/

The problem is, the parents might know he's a good one and he might be brilliant, but if the daughter doesn't like him, then what's the point?

Taylor``

[Ajmalhuuss]

I am pakistani and in my country over 80% of the marriges that take place are arranged marriges, my parents had an arranged marrige and so did most of my aunts and uncles. I don't think arranged marriges are wrong, they are just a matter of cultrual opinion, what is acceptable by your culture. I, myself, will not be having an arraged marrige but my sister and my cousin, Zo, will be. They don't mind it, they actually think it would be good for them.

[xmkaex]

what if you arranged to marry someone that you didn't love? and you fell in love with some else who loves you back?..

wouldn't that be complicated>?

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i read/heard that back in the day people use to have arrange marriages for the both of the families wealth and stuff like that. yeah i agree that over a period of time, some arrange marriages work out. people start to fit well with eachother and stuff.

if it were up to me, i'd pick who i would want to marry.

[radhikaeatsraman]

I agree with ajmalhuuss. I'm Indian, and I'll tell you right now, arranged marriages are NOT what they seem. Let me tell you how they work.

First, the parents look at some prospective males/females that they like, and they talk to the other families about that suitor and create an alliance. During this process, they also take their son's/daughter's prefs into mind.

Then, they have the son/daughter meet the prospectives and see who they do/don't like. They go from there.

(At least that's how it worked for my mom & dad)

In no way does it mean your parents pick some random dude/girl from the street and they make you marry him/her. Sheesh.

[*ECD & C0*]

In no way does it mean your parents pick some random dude/girl from the street and they make you marry him/her. Sheesh.

haha yeah THAT would suck

[Paradox of Life]

I don't think marriage may be forced in America... but if it's religious and a tradition that's gone on for decades and decades, just marry the man and make the best of it, I guess.

[NinjaxMageLayout...]

I don't think marriage may be forced in America... but if it's religious and a tradition that's gone on for decades and decades, just marry the man and make the best of it, I guess.

But that is so damn disgusting and utterly rude.so what if they say "my daughter/son,you make me proud,your getting married to your cousin today,congradulations"What so thats cool too?!Thats just nasty,My brothers friend had to marry his cousin which is just nasty ew.Arranged marriages are wrong i say.WRONG!!

[radhikaeatsraman]

^dude, wth. did you even bother taking the time to read my damn post? i've already provided a definition of what an arranged marriage should ideally be. the debate is based off that definition.

[smoke]

I think it's wrong but I'm sure the ugly guy who'll never have a wife on his own doesn't mind

I'm glad I don't have to be forced to marry a girl I don't love.

[NinjaxMageLayout...]

^dude, wth. did you even bother taking the time to read my damn post? i've already provided a definition of what an arranged marriage should ideally be. the debate is based off that definition.

Yeah and your point?Not all of them work that way,You provided a definition partially based on how it worked for your parents.That doesnt escalate to every other person who had an arranged marriage.

-I read it clear what i just quoted as well and thats what YOU think it should be.Yes some of them are like that not all.I still say on my behalf thats its just disgusting in my point of view.Not even if they pick up a guy or a girl off the street but its still like doing so because the person who is having the marriage arranged doesnt even know the guy or girl they are getting married to.Even if they do meet at a point when its being arranged,its not like they know their whole life or anything.To me they just see them as a person that they are being married to and explained who the person is.Nothing else.

And btw you only posted up twice,this one im quoting and the definition,nothing really to take time to read,but i read so dont sound so dramatic.

[Paradox of Life]

But that is so damn disgusting and utterly rude.so what if they say "my daughter/son,you make me proud,your getting married to your cousin today,congradulations"What so thats cool too?!Thats just nasty,My brothers friend had to marry his cousin which is just nasty ew.Arranged marriages are wrong i say.WRONG!!

Are you even aware of what you are saying or how ignorant you sound? You think that arranged marriages are "rude". Well, I think your respect for religion (or lack thereof) is "utterly rude". Do you think that arranged marriages were created to make peoples' lives miserable? No, because that's how they parents were put together, and their parents' parents. So respect that some people have different ideas of what is "right" or "wrong". And not everyone involved in an arranged marriage dislikes it. Yeah, like Brenden and Ajmalhuuss said ().

But if they do dislike it, it's their decision within their family, and whether or not it can be negotiated just depends on how strict they are. And it is not anyone else's business.

[NinjaxMageLayout...]

Are you even aware of what you are saying or how ignorant you sound? You think that arranged marriages are "rude". Well, I think your respect for religion (or lack thereof) is "utterly rude". Do you think that arranged marriages were created to make peoples' lives miserable? No, because that's how they parents were put together, and their parents' parents. So respect that some people have different ideas of what is "right" or "wrong". And not everyone involved in an arranged marriage dislikes it. Yeah, like Brenden and Ajmalhuuss said ().

But if they do dislike it, it's their decision within their family, and whether or not it can be negotiated just depends on how strict they are. And it is not anyone else's business.

Ok do you know how stupid YOU sound,
-One you said its no one elses buisness,so why get into it?why not go away and mind yours?
-Also you may think my respect for religion is utterly rude,religion or not,having an arranged marriage is sick and disgusting,Yes other people have different outlooks on whats right and wrong but overally religion is still an opinion and their opinion to me is just EWWWWWW.And not everyone HAS to be in the arrangement to have to dislike it,it doesnt matter on anyone others feeling it depends on he/she is being forced to be married.

-Plus,it wont matter to the parents really because all they will discuss is finding a new person.Which still doesnt change the fact of how he/she feels.

WHAT if he/she was lesbian or gay then what? Let them be able to marry who'm they want to and be able to love who they want to especially if their sexual orientation is not straight but homosexual.

-So basically to me what you said about what i said,is like you saying its all good to marry your own cousin?!If you are saying that then i believe you need help,correct me otherwise if im wrong if your not saying that.

[smoke]

"my daughter/son,you make me proud,your getting married to your cousin today,congradulations"

Before I reply to your last post, I'm still trying to figure out where in your ass you pulled that out. Who said anything about arranged marriages being incest?

And like it was stated before, they don't just pick a random person. The parents pick who they think you'd like based on your opinions and likes/dislikes.

Now, some parents just choose for status. Say, they pick a guy with tons of money to raise their family's status. I don't agree with that at all.