Really confused .. Options

[AzNxBaBi]

Hi ..
I guess the title says it .. I'm really confused. I've been posting in "A message to anyone" for awhile now. I was hoping it would help get my feelings straight. But it's gotten worse.
I like this guy, he seems to show some affection or thoughts towards me. But i found out a couple of days ago that he likes his friend. Could he possiblely like me too? I don't know if i'm just getting my hopes up because I broke up with my boyfriend awhile ago. And the guy who i like, about two days ago, we hung out at this school thing .. He could have stayed with his buddies but instead he return to school and hung out with me .. When these guys asked where my boyfriend was, they don't know we broke up but anyways .. he looked at me pulled me away from them and slowly gave me this hug .. Does that mean he just cares? or does it mean something else? He's not the guy that opens up a lot, but 3 weeks ago he said i'm not than just an average friend to him, could it mean i'm just a close friend. He told me his bestfriend was the only girl that is close enough to happiness next to his ex. I don't know .. I like him .. I don't want to be the girl he comes to when him and his "bestfriend" are argueing .. I don't want to be her replacement. But hes been showing me he cares ..or least by his actions .. he's giving me mixed signlas .. am i just a friend or more? ..

[*Steph Chan*]

Wow you got me in a fix here too. Well if you feel that he is actually showing that he cares for you.. a lot.. often times that means that a guy likes you. But that could just be my opinion. Maybe there are some guys out there who just want to care for a girl like she's his little sister? (i've never seen anything like that though)

[*mona lisa*]

It may take some courage for you but ask him what his intentions are. If he's giving you mixed signals, he may really like your or he may be playing with your feelings. You won't know until you talk to him about it or you may remain confused for a while.

[AzNxBaBi]

I don't want to ruin our friendship though ..i know why ask this when I don't wany anything to go wrong. It's jsut he's really important to me right now. There are moments where he makes me feel like i'm the special one and there are moments where i'm just second best to him .. I would ask him ..but i don't want to be like the other girls who had liked him or still does. Where he shows no affection at all ..

[*Uronacid*]

look, tell him what you just told us here on the boards... if he likes you, he likes you for you, and if he doesn't like you, then you don't have to worry about it... why would you want to like someone that doesn't like you for who you are... :)

also, if he's really your friend. he'll stick it out, and be your friend... :)

[*mona lisa*]

I don't want to ruin our friendship though ..i know why ask this when I don't wany anything to go wrong. It's jsut he's really important to me right now. There are moments where he makes me feel like i'm the special one and there are moments where i'm just second best to him .. I would ask him ..but i don't want to be like the other girls who had liked him or still does. Where he shows no affection at all ..

But in the end, if he's toying with your emotions, you'll feel more torn, er - confused, than you are right now. If he actually likes you, then you later might feel as if you wasted time waiting for something to happen when you could have actually been with him.

[AzNxBaBi]

I don't think a guy who loved his ex for about a year and half after they broke up will toy with me do you?

[*mona lisa*]

I think he would. How long ago was that? You sure he's not trying to make his ex jealous, however lame that sounds?

[AzNxBaBi]

He still love his ex after a year and a half. He hasn't dated since, now i think he's falling for his bestfriend? .. and yeah </3 I don't think he would play aroudn liek that :/ .. I mean he doesn't seem like the type. He's really geniune and very understanding.

[*This Confession*]

He needs to get over his ex before ever getting into other things. After being that single and maybe still not over her, he may think going out with other girls and such will make him get over her quicker then what it is going. If he likes you then maybe he is over her and he really likes you for you. Its a matter of trust and how much you really want to put out on the limb.[sp?]

Sorry i never read the first post. It gave me a headache to keep up with it all, sorry.

[Ajmalhuuss]

The best thing you can do is ask him.

[AzNxBaBi]

how would i ask that?


Go up to him and ask him do you have feelings for me? ... :/

[*This Confession*]

no,
Just start normally talking to him, and when you both are comfortable and stuff in the conversation tell him you got a question and ask him.

Don't just walk up to him and go " do you like me?!"
thats just scary.

[PrincessAda]

^^Yeah.Just start to talk and then move on to the subject of feelings. Sort of talk about some sort of intrest.Like school or work or something.

[Melissawilson5]

Wow he must like a little bit...Hmmm maybe you should ask him and hint to him that you have feelings for him....well I hope things work out!!

[nikkkkki]

Are you normally a person that assumes things? You could just be feeling something false. You're getting mixed signals from the guy, talk it out.

[AzNxBaBi]

^^ I guess I am .. It could be false. But why? He doesn't care .. he hasn't spoken to me for about 3 days now .. I guess he doesn't have anything to say to me. I guess things changed .. I'm sorry for posting this topic, i should've seen this coming .. Thank you for the advices.

[nightowl89]

no wait, if he's pulling away...isn't it time to act? dont give up too quick and regret it later. guys are tricky...esp the shy nice ones.

[AzNxBaBi]

:/ But it seems like he's really ncie to a lot of the other girls.
Guys are wayyy more complicated than girls -___-;

I wanna act upon this .. just not sure if it's the right time.

[demolished]

he's treating you like a sister.

because i do treat my female friends like sister. AND I KNOW THEY LIKE SOMEONE.