going to a club every friday Options

[misfit]

My boyfriend goes to a club every friday night,would you care if your boyfriend did?I don't go because I am underage,but I turn 18 in August this year.My sister said she is suprised that I let him go out every Friday night..A while ago he said to me what's wrong with going out and dancing and drinking with my friends?Nothing of course..but I dunno?

[*mipadi*]

I don't see what your sister means by "I'm surprised you let him go out." You don't own the guy, so you don't let him do anything.

Does he spend time with you otherwise? If so, how often? It's important to let your significant other feel free to see friends. I have a friend whose girlfriend doesn't "let" him out often, and I only get to see him once a week or so, which isn't cool.

[misfit]

We see eachother every Saturday.We've been fighing for the last about 4 hours.Tiring.I wouldn't not let him go out..I ended up mentioning I want to spend the whole weekend with him once in a while...which is fair enough?And then he was saying well I should of said earlier that I wanted to but I said I don't feel like I can say that,because he goes out every weekend and he said he already might be going out this weekend so how am I gonna feel like I can say something?If he's already going out every Friday and stated that he might be going out this weekend and also said earlier on that maybe I could go Saturday so he can go out...

Then he was saying he wants to spend the whole weekend with me too and he said stop thinking of me and think for yourself.Coz I said yeah but dont you want to go out are you only saying you want to spend the whole weekend with me coz you feel guilty and he said aren't I allowed to want to spend the whole weekend with you?Gah all so confusing.I'm just really a negative thinker and thought well if he always goes out alreadyI dont want to you know spoil that..

[colleen92]

a lot of that i didn't follow, but i'll see if i can help. so your boyfriend thinks he should be able to go out with his friends every weekend. but i think what's bothering you is that you're underage and if he's going in a place that doesn't allow people under 18...it can't be all that great. i think you should tell him that you feel uncomfortable with him going to a club. you'd love for him to spend time with his friends, but you don't like the whole club scene.


at least i think that's what the problem is ...well i hope i helped good luck

[*Uronacid*]

yeah, um... look, "if you can't handle the heat... get out of the kitchen."

everyone has things that they do, and you cannot change them... if you can't handle your boyfriend dancing and rinking, then break up wih him. If you can handle it, then continue to date ;)

[*krnxswat*]

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horrible advice

[silver-rain]

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horrible advice

I kinda agree with that, because her problem doesn't really sound like she can't handle him going out clubbing, etc. In fact, I think that she is fine with it, and her problem was that she just wanted to spend more time with him over the weekends.

I think it's good that you're fine with it- it shows how much you trust him.

[Shahin]

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horrible advice

Honestly.

But yeah. Dudes gotta spend more time with you. I wouldn't let my girlfriend go clubbin every friday i'll give you that.

[*mipadi*]

I wouldn't let my girlfriend go clubbin every friday i'll give you that.

Why not?

[radhikaeatsraman]

Well, since you've talked to him about it, I say you try to plan something with him one weekend. And if it works out, try it another weekend.

If not, try going out with your girl friends and having fun with them. Who says you're not allowed to do that?

[oOKittyKatOo]

a lot of that i didn't follow, but i'll see if i can help. so your boyfriend thinks he should be able to go out with his friends every weekend. but i think what's bothering you is that you're underage and if he's going in a place that doesn't allow people under 18...it can't be all that great. i think you should tell him that you feel uncomfortable with him going to a club. you'd love for him to spend time with his friends, but you don't like the whole club scene.
at least i think that's what the problem is ...well i hope i helped good luck

^ agreed

personally.. i wouldnt like it at ALL if my bf went clubbing EVERY weekend... i mean.. what else goes on in clubs other than drinking and grinding.. i wouldnt like it if another girl was rubbing her butt against his..... yea.. anyway.. i would consider that cheating.. on a lesser degree.. it's.. just not right.. but then again.. im pretty protective with my bf.. but still i think it's dont think it's reasonable to not like him going drinking and clubbing every weekend... if you dont like it.. you should tell him.. 18+ club dancing can get.. very.. hmm.. intimate..

[*xcaitlinx*]

i wouldn't want my boyfriend to go clubbing without me, period..especially since i consider dancing with girls like that cheating. i mean it all depends how much you trust him and if you care whether or not he dances with other girls.

[PrincessAda]

Your sister probably think he does something else there? Thats probably why she`s surprised.But I don`t think nothing is wrong if you trust him and let him do things like dance or something with other girls.

[demolished]

yeah, um... look, "if you can't handle the heat... get out of the kitchen."

everyone has things that they do, and you cannot change them... if you can't handle your boyfriend dancing and rinking, then break up wih him. If you can handle it, then continue to date ;)

that shows you're weak, careless, cheap, and worthless. Your example is more like ... getting away than to "solve it"..

[*Uronacid*]

that shows you're weak, careless, cheap, and worthless. Your example is more like ... getting away than to "solve it"..

look, one thing i have learned is that you can't change who people are by dating them... if clubbing and all that shit is part of who he is, then she should change him... its not about solving issues, or being cheap and careless... look, if i was out getting drunk every night and clubbing all the time and i thought it was fun and didn't see anything wrong with what i was doing, then holly wouldn't want to change me... athough i dont think she would have gone out with me in the first place... thats not what she looks for in a boyfriend... look, if this girl can handle this guys clubbing habbits, then let her have fun with the guy... APPARENTLY SHE CAN HANDLE THE HEAT THERE FORE I DONT THINK THAT ITS A BAD RELATIONSHIP

[Emma Sue]

that shows you're weak, careless, cheap, and worthless. Your example is more like ... getting away than to "solve it"..

^ not very kind.. I mean you shouldn't say these things about someone you don't really know.. Everyone here tries to help each other.. And it's not nice saying that he's weak, careless, cheap etc.. I believe he's not..



Anyway, I think that you should discuss w/ your boyfriend. Tell him you're happy he spends time w/ his friends but you also want to be w/ him..

And wait till your birthday.. then you'll be able to go w/ him at the club..

[*Uronacid*]

^sounds like a good idea XD

[pinacoolada]

every friday is a bit too much? My overanalyzing nature will of course not approve if I were in your shoes. But then again, I have no experience..

[demolished]

look, one thing i have learned is that you can't change who people are by dating them... if clubbing and all that shit is part of who he is, then she should change him... its not about solving issues, or being cheap and careless... look, if i was out getting drunk every night and clubbing all the time and i thought it was fun and didn't see anything wrong with what i was doing, then holly wouldn't want to change me... athough i dont think she would have gone out with me in the first place... thats not what she looks for in a boyfriend... look, if this girl can handle this guys clubbing habbits, then let her have fun with the guy... APPARENTLY SHE CAN HANDLE THE HEAT THERE FORE I DONT THINK THAT ITS A BAD RELATIONSHIP

of course you cannot change but you can improve in a positive way.

^ not very kind.. I mean you shouldn't say these things about someone you don't really know.. Everyone here tries to help each other.. And it's not nice saying that he's weak, careless, cheap etc.. I believe he's not..



Anyway, I think that you should discuss w/ your boyfriend. Tell him you're happy he spends time w/ his friends but you also want to be w/ him..

And wait till your birthday.. then you'll be able to go w/ him at the club..

uh ... i dont really mean .. directly "you".

[lyin_in_wait]

i dont think its the fact that he goes out, its just that he seems like he would rather go out than spend time talkin to you. plus she could think that its suspicious since a lot can happen at a club. but if you trust him enough, and your relaltionship is stable enough, then theres nothing wrong with it

[*Uronacid*]

look, she clearly statd that she didn't have a problem with it. She's just wondering if she should because her sister told her she should.

[*This Confession*]

I only read the first post and some others. I don't see any problem in it. If you trust the guy then I wouldn't worry about it. Unless your just worried if hes going to cheat on you or something. But other than that theres not a real big problem. As long as he doesn't go constantly and takes a break every now and then, its fine.

[*Uronacid*]

I only read the first post and some others. I don't see any problem in it. If you trust the guy then I wouldn't worry about it. Unless your just worried if hes going to cheat on you or something. But other than that theres not a real big problem. As long as he doesn't go constantly and takes a break every now and then, its fine.

Even if he doesn't take a break its ok... if he went to the club every frickin night it would be ok. as long as, you don't have a problem with it, but if you do you need to speak up.

[misfit]

um wow.i didnt even realise people had replied to it.Uronacid,that was uncalled for and no i'm not wondering if I should worry because of what my sister said.I think she was saying that because of what her boyfriend treated her like.He cheated on her,hit her and everything and she loved him that much that she kept taking him back.They have a kid,but now he is dead because he died from Cancer last year.I think she was just thinking back about it and thinking of me and hoping he's not doing anything.

I admit I do get a bit shitty when he tells me his going out.I just worry about htat he'll end up with some girl.He says to me he doesn't dance with other girls he just dances with his friends(not dirty dancing though) and that's fine...but I still can't help but worry.We were fighting fora gs about a week or so ago now and it was a long weekend..I said to him heh stupid me for hoping we'd spend the whole weekend together.And he said who said I didnt want to?And I said you would of said if you wanted to...Then he said well if you had mentioned it then I would of said yes..And I said I shouldn't have to mention it..Anyway he said he wanted to spend the whole weekend with me.So we did.And we went to a party together on the Saturday night.
I just spose I have to learn to accept it..i'm just a bit insecure so i'm worried about the whole club scene.
I mean I found out that him and his riend met this rich girl and she bought them drinks and she hugged my boyfriend and said I like you.Even though she has a boyfriend and new that he had a girlfriend.And she said to him he was cute.They were just friends but how they met is that him and his friend were just asking them about something and the rich girl was with her two guy bestfriends and her boyfriend wasn't there.And so yeah they all ended up talking. I don't want him to see this chick again she sounds like trouble.

Sorry if that didnt make much sense,i suck at explaining.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

i wouldn't want my boyfriend to go clubbing without me, period..especially since i consider dancing with girls like that cheating. i mean it all depends how much you trust him and if you care whether or not he dances with other girls.

i agree..

[*xcaitlinx*]

um wow.i didnt even realise people had replied to it.Uronacid,that was uncalled for and no i'm not wondering if I should worry because of what my sister said.I think she was saying that because of what her boyfriend treated her like.He cheated on her,hit her and everything and she loved him that much that she kept taking him back.They have a kid,but now he is dead because he died from Cancer last year.I think she was just thinking back about it and thinking of me and hoping he's not doing anything.

I admit I do get a bit shitty when he tells me his going out.I just worry about htat he'll end up with some girl.He says to me he doesn't dance with other girls he just dances with his friends(not dirty dancing though) and that's fine...but I still can't help but worry.We were fighting fora gs about a week or so ago now and it was a long weekend..I said to him heh stupid me for hoping we'd spend the whole weekend together.And he said who said I didnt want to?And I said you would of said if you wanted to...Then he said well if you had mentioned it then I would of said yes..And I said I shouldn't have to mention it..Anyway he said he wanted to spend the whole weekend with me.So we did.And we went to a party together on the Saturday night.
I just spose I have to learn to accept it..i'm just a bit insecure so i'm worried about the whole club scene.
I mean I found out that him and his riend met this rich girl and she bought them drinks and she hugged my boyfriend and said I like you.Even though she has a boyfriend and new that he had a girlfriend.And she said to him he was cute.They were just friends but how they met is that him and his friend were just asking them about something and the rich girl was with her two guy bestfriends and her boyfriend wasn't there.And so yeah they all ended up talking. I don't want him to see this chick again she sounds like trouble.

Sorry if that didnt make much sense,i suck at explaining.

well i'm glad that you worked everything out with your boyfriend...but that whole "rich girl" thing is kind of shady. do you know whether or not he told her that he has a girlfriend..or did he continue to talk to her? if i were you, i'd find out the whole truth about that situation.

[Gypsy Eyes]

I wouldn't care if it was like once or twice a month.

[misfit]

yeah i get really worrtied too,he said to me that he'd never do anything sutpid because he said he loves me and he wouldn't wanna stuff up anything with me and i don't think need to find out about the rich girl coz she knew that my boyfriend had a girlfriend and she knew his mate had a gf and she had a bf herself.Prob just a skank haha.I dunno things are going well with my boyfriend but yeah I dunno the other day he said to me I spent the whole week with you why do I need to spendanother night with you..and he said he didnt mean it that way.I dunno what else to think he meant..I'd ask him but he'd just get annoyed and say forget about it..

And as a for the club thing well I do trust him,he says to me no girls come up to him and he only hangs with his friends..so yeah

[demolished]

look, she clearly statd that she didn't have a problem with it. She's just wondering if she should because her sister told her she should.

are you talking to me or someone else?

[angel-roh]

You're just worried he might end up in a bed with a girl next to him, huh?

I remember I had a boyfriend WHO WAS LIKE THAT AND IT DRIVED ME CRAZY -_-;; thats why it's not always best to date a guy who GO CLUBBING EVERY FREAKING FRIDAY. sorry i sound mad cause im so mad tired -_-;;; some stupid bet that i have to deal with -_-;;;

if you do turn 18. be a paparrazi and see what he does when he goes clubbin xDDDDDD. well like they say...all guys drink WITH a girl.... and a beer in their hand

*random thought: omg -_-;;;; i hate you shawn lim for changing the time -_-;;; and YES KYUNGHEE'S GRANDMA IS GONA COME TO HER HOUSE ANY MINUTE!!!! AND SHE HAS TO SLEEP BEFORE SHE COMES MWAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHA. it better be before 7:30am -_-;;*