To be Single? Or not to be. Options

[*Steph Chan*]

Sometimes I say that being single is better, funner, etc.. but at the end of the day I sometimes find that my only reason for saying so is to make myself feel better.

[*mipadi*]

I've found that, no matter what people say, most people would rather be in a relationship than not—with the exception of people who are freshly out of a long relationship.

I also don't think that being attached means one cannot have a good time, unless one's definition of fun is sleeping around with as many different people as possible.

[*My Cinderella.*]

I'd rather be in a relationship. Sure - it's nice to have the freedom of being single. But without a relationship, my life would feel pretty empty.

[lyin_in_wait]

it depends, i love my boyfriend. but sometimes the drama we go through makes me wish i was single. but i like being in a relationship because it makes me feel wanted, i always have someone to come home too.

single has its advantages because then im free to say what i want, and do what i want. but it still sucks around valentines day when i would see the happy couples....warms my heart but didnt stop me from wanting to through a rock at them

[me1issaaaa]

Being single is easier - you can flirt and talk to as many people as you'd like without having anyone be jealous or get upset or anything. I, personally, would much rather be in a relationship. Not with just anyone, obviously, but it's nice to know that you have someone watching out for you and having somebody there for you no matter what. It's nice to be protected and know that someone cares for you unconditionally.

[da_SALSA]

Being single...there's nothing bad about it. It only makes you feel bad since today's society pushes people to be w/ someone (ex: online dating). Don't push yourself, alright? The person for you will come around--so enjoy yourself while you're free! Being attached isn't all that great! You have to deal w/: drama, fights, disagreements, jealousy, etc...

[shadowchild]

I feel much better IN a relationship than I felt out of one. But it may just be me. I hated being lonely, but I guess now I feel a bit too obsessed.

[PrincessAda]

I`d rathe have someone in my life then to flirt and stuff with other guys. I would want someone by myside.

[*This Confession*]

It differs from person to person. I mean you have some people that don't like to be tied down in a relationship and then you have your others that are complete attention seekers and need to attention constatnly of the one they can find out of a bf/gf in a relationship. And then they love being in the relationship.

[*Steph Chan*]

Even with the fact that everyone's opinion is different.. I feel completely lonely. I guess you could say I'd prefer to be single, because it's easier (& I'm also pretty young, 15), but I still would prefer to have a companion, someone close to keep life interesting.

[*Uronacid*]

being single is easier... thre is a difference between better and easy

[JBenfante]

Well, in all honesty, being single is actually good and bad. Being single enables you to enjoy things such as partying, seeing others ect. But this can often lead to bad things like: immaturity, lack of responsibility ect. This often leads you to wanting more, and less at the same time..

On the other hand. A relationship has many benefits, such as a stable enviorment, always someone to lean on or talk to. A safe sex? partner. Trustworthy friend. Which leads to maturaty, building of responsiblity....and so on and so forth.

conclusion: Single-Fun,reckless, and yet empty
Relationship: Fun, Stable, meaningful, helpful, safe

[SimplicityGirl]

Both has its benefits really. Being single allows you to experiment and to be free to do whatever you like. Being in a relationship allows you to learn how to love, and be loved in return. Being in a relationship teaches you how to appreciate another human being in an intimate way. Being single allows you to meet different people and choose the type that works thebest with you.

To me, I'd rather be in a relationship than not. I'm insecure and I like to have the security that you get from relationship. That is not saying that I don't enjoy being single. I've been single for over 1.5 years and I'm having fun being just friends with guys.

[Huggable4Aj29]

uhh.. its a hard question.. my advice would be wait until your older.. though i am in a serious relationship and have been for a little over a year and i'm young.. i wouldn't trade it for anything.. but the truth is it's hard.. boys will be boys... no matter how great you think he is.. he's going to make you mad sometimes.. i've never had a really big fight with mine but i guess i'm just blessed with an awesome relationship and a awesome guy who i love so much.. but if you get lonely easy i would totally not date right now.. because he isn't always going to be able to be there for you when your so young..(with having so many rules and such from his parents right now) he'll be more avalible when you get older.. also if you can't see your self marrying this guy.. then why date him and get your heart broken.. save your tears and wait for the right guy =D

[radhikaeatsraman]

I've never been in a relationship. So as of now, I'm perfectly content with being single.

[Gypsy Eyes]

During the summer it's much more fun to be single.

[jennyjenny]

that's why there's myspace!

and eHarmony

[doork]

I`m single. At times its a good thing you don`t have to worry about another person feelings, you can do anything you want without having to worry if the other person is going to approve of it. But the bad thing is, you need someone to cuddle with, you miss the feeling of being loved... thats why i perfer "friends with benifits". You`ll get the cuddling you need with no strings attached.

[Smoogrish]

If you're happy, it's all good.

[*Programmer*]

^

[*AngelicEyz00*]

I PREFER NOT BEING SINGLE. I LIKE TO BE LOVED

[sheepy]

i guess i'm okay with both, but i prefer to be in a relationship since i am in one. i guess you get more of the real thing instead of..just flirting and everything imo.

[nyCzxfOx]

I enjoy being single then i want relationship.


But when your in a relationship more people like you and shit

.. Then when your single no one wants you!


well my case its like that.

but now i want a relationship but meh

[Paradox of Life]

There are pluses and minuses of being single, and when you're in different moods, you can feel lonely or you can feel free. Depends on how you look at it.

[pinacoolada]

rather be taken..it's so much fun..it adds so much color to your life..well I guess it depends on the person

[*Steph Chan*]

In my case, it's not that nobody likes me..
Plenty of guys like me (not to be conceited), it's just that I'm searching for a boyfriend who I can talk to like a good friend, & at the same time be intimate. I can never seem to be able to mix those two elements.

[Ruler Face]

Sometimes I say that being single is better, funner, etc.. but at the end of the day I sometimes find that my only reason for saying so is to make myself feel better.

Trust me, I know how you feel.
I'm the exact way.
And the only reason I say
this is to make myself feel better
and so my friends get the impression
that I'm just waiting for the right one.
Even though I have this majoy crush
on one of my closest guys friends.
Yeahhh. >_____>

[AngelinaTaylor]

Honestly, you're not missing out on anything. Don't even feel sorry for it. You don't need all the bullshit, the heartbreak and the frustration that "dating" brings. Most of it is one big avalanche of crap. Just focus on school, friends, fun and all that.

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

Honestly, you're not missing out on anything. Don't even feel sorry for it. You don't need all the bullshit, the heartbreak and the frustration that "dating" brings. Most of it is one big avalanche of crap. Just focus on school, friends, fun and all that.

Taylor``

Just out of curiosity, are you seeing anyone right now?

[AngelinaTaylor]

Just out of curiosity, are you seeing anyone right now?

Haha.. yes, but it's an actual, serious relationship. Believe it or not, I do hate dating..

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

Haha.. yes, but it's an actual, serious relationship. Believe it or not, I do hate dating..

Taylor``

I don't mean to single you out, of course, but I do find that most of the time, the people that say that dating and relationships aren't anything special are people who are currently in one.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I don't mean to single you out, of course, but I do find that most of the time, the people that say that dating and relationships aren't anything special are people who are currently in one.

So I fit the category? And nah, don't get me wrong - a meaningful relationship is a good thing, but these days teens don't really get into those (it's just rare). It's always the puppy love type, or the "f**k me/leave me" situation. And in both cases, it's just plain stupid.

Taylor``

[REBELnDISGUISE]

I think its fine being single... though it sometimes makes me sad to see other couples and how cute they are together...

So I fit the category? And nah, don't get me wrong - a meaningful relationship is a good thing, but these days teens don't really get into those (it's just rare). It's always the puppy love type, or the "f**k me/leave me" situation. And in both cases, it's just plain stupid.

Taylor``

and i totally agree with that... I wanna be in a "meaningful relationship" but its hella hard to find someone who want the same thing...

[*Steph Chan*]

I think its fine being single... though it sometimes makes me sad to see other couples and how cute they are together...
and i totally agree with that... I wanna be in a "meaningful relationship" but its hella hard to find someone who want the same thing...

It's VERYY hard.

[*mipadi*]

So I fit the category? And nah, don't get me wrong - a meaningful relationship is a good thing, but these days teens don't really get into those (it's just rare). It's always the puppy love type, or the "f**k me/leave me" situation. And in both cases, it's just plain stupid.

Taylor``

Dating's a beginning phase to many relationships. It's hard to get anything really serious going without that part of getting to know each other.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Dating's a beginning phase to many relationships. It's hard to get anything really serious going without that part of getting to know each other.

Yup.. but I can't help hating beginnings. Mostly, because they rarely really develop. But that's me :)

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

Yup.. but I can't help hating beginnings. Mostly, because they rarely really develop. But that's me :)

Taylor``

Well, not everything develops into a deep, meaningful relationship; in fact, in theory, only one relationship should develop into a deep, meaningful relationship.

[*Uronacid*]

Well, not everything develops into a deep, meaningful relationship; in fact, in theory, only one relationship should develop into a deep, meaningful relationship.

this is one of the very few things i have ever heard you say that i accually agreed with... >.>

[AngelinaTaylor]

Well, not everything develops into a deep, meaningful relationship; in fact, in theory, only one relationship should develop into a deep, meaningful relationship.

You mean marriage? I don't think so. I'm in a meaningful relationship right now, and I'm not married :)

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

You mean marriage? I don't think so. I'm in a meaningful relationship right now, and I'm not married :)

Taylor``

Well, yes, but in theory, only one will last.

[*Steph Chan*]

Well, yes, but in theory, only one will last.

By only one, do you mean once you find your soul mate?
-I don't believe in soul mates, I think thats a big load'.

[*mipadi*]

By only one, do you mean once you find your soul mate?
-I don't believe in soul mates, I think thats a big load'.

Yeah, neither do I. I'm just trying to make a point.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Well, yes, but in theory, only one will last.

Well, in theory, 50% of marriages in the U.S. end up in divorce. A lot of people remarry after that, right? So I guess it's more than one.

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

All the more reason why people have to start a serious, meaningful relationship somewhere.

[AngelinaTaylor]

All the more reason why people have to start a serious, meaningful relationship somewhere.

I'm not saying they don't. I'm saying that wasting your time on "dating", heartbreaks and all that shit while you're a young teenager is insipid.

Trust me, even I sometimes think it's something that I shouldn't worry about so much.

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

I just see the "perils of dating" as a part of life. You can't expect to go through life without disappointment or heartbreak. Dating while a teen allows teenagers to make all their mistakes before they really matter.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I just see the "perils of dating" as a part of life. You can't expect to go through life without disappointment or heartbreak. Dating while a teen allows teenagers to make all their mistakes before they really matter.

It shouldn't be a main focus.

Taylor``

[*mipadi*]

It shouldn't be a main focus.

Taylor``

Certainly not, but I didn't think it was said that it should be the primary focus of teenagers.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Certainly not, but I didn't think it was said that it should be the primary focus of teenagers.

I know. I also never said that you can't expect to go through life without disappointment or heartbreak :)

I just can't help but notice that teens are "oh-so-stressed" about "relationships", while it's not very wise to do so. There are so many more things to enjoy.

Taylor``

[xFaith]

Im single. Its good & simple , but also very empty.
I like it most of the times. But on the end of the day i kinda wish i had somebody to love..

[*Weird addiction*]

I used to hate being in a relationship because it always hurt at the end. The dating was fun, of course, but at the end, my heart was broken into pieces. Now I'm in a meaningful relationship, we've had our ups and downs but damn it feels good to be loved.

[*mipadi*]

I used to hate being in a relationship because it always hurt at the end. The dating was fun, of course, but at the end, my heart was broken into pieces. Now I'm in a meaningful relationship, we've had our ups and downs but damn it feels good to be loved.

How true.

[*Programmer*]

being single is fun....but at the end of the day....you have no one but yourself...it get's boring to say the least... i was once ina two year relationship...man did that rock.... leaves you empty when you have no one at the end of the day....

[*Zatanna*]

Well I'm sort of in the weird position because *points to self* mom. Having said that, I LOVE being single. I have major commitment issues and I'm really particular about who I hang out with (I can't bring myself to saying "dating" LOL).

Part of this might be that both my mom and my sister always had this incessant need to be in a relationship. I never understood it. I love my freedom, I need my freedom. I look at it this way.

And back to my first sentence, the "weird position". Well, as a single parent, I feel expected and/or obliged to *have* to be in a relationship. As if it's a societal mandate.

Still single, still loving it. Mandates schmandates. :)

[*Uronacid*]

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