love problem!!!, =( Options

[rainie8847]

ok so i first started having a crush on this guy who's popular at my skool... we never reli talked much except that he wud look at me a lot... so i got confused... but now im even more confused. thers this guy i hav added on msn for a long time n we talk sometimes. but this past week, we've been talking more n more. he always makes fun of me about this guy who i dont even like so i make fun of him back by saying he likes my best friend b/c my best friend really DOES like him. so then one day, he gave me his phone # n told me to call him. i gave him mine. we talked on the phone for like an hour for that day. that happened just a few dayz ago. then we never talked on the phone but we wud talk on msn everyday and do webcam. but i alwayz hafta start the convo. it doesn't seem like he doesn't wanna talk to me cuz everytime i say hi on msn we talk for a very long time. so then how come he never says hi to me first? n y do i wanna see n talk to him so much? do i like him too? do i like the popular guy AND him??? i dont even have the popular guy's msn n we don't talk alot but i kno that i like to look at him a lot. maybe b/c he's good looking??? i can't like the guy i always talk to on msn cuz my best friend likes him!!!! wut to do wut to do... so wut i wanna figure out is, do i like the popular guy or the other guy? does the other guy like me? im confused n sad!!! =(

[pshaa.shauna]

To be honest, no one can tell you who you like. You have to figure it out yourself.

[mastashake15]

ooo very sticky situation
do you talk to the msn guy like face to face?
if you do, i think you really like him
and there is something there
but the popular guys is just good looking
i dont think you like him
just think hes cute

[_sarcastic_]

you probably don't really like the popular guy, i mean you just like to look at him and you don't even know him that well
but i agree with pshaa.shauna, you're the only one that can decide who you like.

[Chii]

Maybe you just like being friends with this guy. Or maybe, subconsciously you're jealous of your best friend for some reason and you like secretly hanging this over her.

Either way, just let things flow naturally. He's just a guy. You and your best friend shouldn't let something so stupid ruin your friendship. I think you should tell her about this though... Gently tell her that you've been talking to him as just a friend.

You'll never know if the popular guy likes you if you don't talk to him. Maybe he looks at you because you look at him first. People do that, when I feel someone's eyes on me, I immediately look back at them.

[loveandsins]

The msn thing i can answer. I asked a guy friend of mine why he never talks to me on msn, just like in your case only when i start the convo, and he told me it's strange to start a convo with some1 you aren't really close with..for a guy that is. idk why but i guess most guys don't want to come off desperate by always saying hi as soon as some1 gets online. Liking 2 boys at the time is very possible but i don't think you like the popular guy. You probably like him because of what he looks like and what the rumours are about him. Whatever ppl tell bout some1 doesn't mean they actually are like that. i think you should definetely tell your bestfriend that you started talking on msn and all but don't go rushing into stuff your bestfriend needs to come before that guy. That's all pretty much i have to say. i hope it makes sense.

[iminlovewithTomD...]

Well, maybe he doesn't talk to you first because he's shy? Just a thought... however, as pshaa.shauna said, nobody else can tell who you like... But just because you really enjoy talking to a guy it doesnt mean you have a crush on him. Maybe you just view him as a good friend, and feel comfortable being yourself around him. I don't know...
I hope I helped

[rainie8847]

ooo very sticky situation
do you talk to the msn guy like face to face?
if you do, i think you really like him
and there is something there
but the popular guys is just good looking
i dont think you like him
just think hes cute

Nope we don't talk face to face. we talk a lot on msn. well actually, we do talk to each other face to face. we take the same road to walk home tgt n thats basically the only time we talk wit each other... we aren't in the same class... n i kno 4 sure that he's a shy person.

[PrincessAda]

Well..you should think about it..ask yourself do you really like him? Or maybe he can be a friend.

[rainie8847]

thx for the advice ppl... =) im still trying to figure out who i like... is there any wayz to tell if the shy guy likes me or not? =T

[loveandsins]

I guess so but i wouldn't drag your bestfriend into that. I think it would hurt her if you ask if she thinks he likes you. Try noticing the obvious, does he talk to you alot, how does he look at you and etc.

[mylittleMiracle]

no one can tell you who you like,you have to figure out yourself.i think that guy is shy....?you and him talked alot in msn and phone,1.wanna be a close friend with you,2.he likes you. mybe you should ask that guy friends,because that guy may be tell them that who he loves or what,and you will get the answer.

[*Uronacid*]

for the pupolar guy:
Alright, you said this guy is popular... many times when a guy is popular he will be unattracted if the girl comes to him... It will make him bored. He probably gets attention for girls all the time, and honestly... if he really is that good looking you can't blame him... I personally believe that he liked you because you kept him wondering by catching him looking at you all the time. If you want to get with this guy.

-DON'T BE YOURSELF!!!

-QUIT TALKING TO HIM, AND LET HIM TALK TO YOU!!!!

-Don't say hi for a while unless he says hi first.

-Play hard to get... he probably likes that. When you catch him looking at you... look back and give him an inviting look, but don't act on it.... it will make him nuts.

-Don't worry about your friend, if he choses you... thats not your fualt

-DON'T BE YOURSELF
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for the shy guy:
shy people are generally more attracted to people who are outgoing... and i don't mean bubbley and stupid. I MEAN OUTGOING! people who talk about things that matter and things that bring about fun. Many shy people are attracted to people that are out going simpley because they admire that quality and wish they had it themselves. If you like the shy guy:

-Be yourself

-Talk to him about your day, and ask him about his day

-GET HIM TO TALK!!!! do this by showing that you care about what he's saying... :)

-Ask him for his number, and talk to him on the phone... if you feel like hes borring and want to get off... then go! DON"T EVER STAY ON THE PHONE LONGER THAN THE GUT FEELING SAYS YOU SHOULD... ugh, i hate it when i do that...

-BE YOURSELF!!!!
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In many cases, popular people have so many options they don't know what they want... many times, mystery is what leads them to a relationship becuase they don't know what they want and they are trying to find it.

Shy people want attention, but they don't want pitty. Being yourself is what works best, but becareful. Shy people don't takl much, and you don't know what they could be thinking... O_O


p.s. To anyone who's talking about love in this situation, get real.... they all just met eachother!

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

well i would not like the guy on msn because if your best friend likes him then the only thing that can lead to is trouble. its matter to have your friend who will have your back then just have a guy for a couple of weeks. but no one can tell you who you can ..

[rainie8847]

for the pupolar guy:
Alright, you said this guy is popular... many times when a guy is popular he will be unattracted if the girl comes to him... It will make him bored. He probably gets attention for girls all the time, and honestly... if he really is that good looking you can't blame him... I personally believe that he liked you because you kept him wondering by catching him looking at you all the time. If you want to get with this guy.

-DON'T BE YOURSELF!!!

-QUIT TALKING TO HIM, AND LET HIM TALK TO YOU!!!!

-Don't say hi for a while unless he says hi first.

-Play hard to get... he probably likes that. When you catch him looking at you... look back and give him an inviting look, but don't act on it.... it will make him nuts.

-Don't worry about your friend, if he choses you... thats not your fualt

-DON'T BE YOURSELF
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for the shy guy:
shy people are generally more attracted to people who are outgoing... and i don't mean bubbley and stupid. I MEAN OUTGOING! people who talk about things that matter and things that bring about fun. Many shy people are attracted to people that are out going simpley because they admire that quality and wish they had it themselves. If you like the shy guy:

-Be yourself

-Talk to him about your day, and ask him about his day

-GET HIM TO TALK!!!! do this by showing that you care about what he's saying... :)

-Ask him for his number, and talk to him on the phone... if you feel like hes borring and want to get off... then go! DON"T EVER STAY ON THE PHONE LONGER THAN THE GUT FEELING SAYS YOU SHOULD... ugh, i hate it when i do that...

-BE YOURSELF!!!!
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In many cases, popular people have so many options they don't know what they want... many times, mystery is what leads them to a relationship becuase they don't know what they want and they are trying to find it.

Shy people want attention, but they don't want pitty. Being yourself is what works best, but becareful. Shy people don't takl much, and you don't know what they could be thinking... O_O
p.s. To anyone who's talking about love in this situation, get real.... they all just met eachother!

Thx 4 da detailed advice lol!!! n yea ur rite... it's not luv... i juz couldn't think of another title!!!! and the shy guy... he alwayz talks to me like it's not that he doesn't talk... but my best friend says he's shy so i believe he's shy... my best friend even once told me that she thinks he likes me but i doubt it cuz it's not like i was gonna say YEAH HE DOES LIKE ME!!! -.- eehh... n popular guy still looking at me... >___<

[magicfann]

just ask all of htem out

[JBenfante]

What you need to do is, not classify any guy (or girl for this matter) in to a group such as popular...ghetto...hot...ect. When you do this...your giving yourself stupid reasons to be thinking of the person. THese reasons can often come between you and your true judgement...True judgement meaning...being able to see the person for themself, or how they come across towards others. Always got to make sure there isnt too much of a difference with how they treat you and others...because if they are treating you like a God...and others like inferiors...this means A. They are unstable or B. They are only putting on a show for you, and thats not the real them.

Lastly, if your finding yourself liking more than one person. Stop likeing both, because niether will be someone you want to be with.


helping quotes:
-Looks good from a far, but is far from good.
- Don't go for the person you wouldnt mind being with, go for the one you cant be without
- if your ''gut'' is telling you something. its the truth.

[rainie8847]

Thx for the tip BENFANTE. =) I still need time to think it over... still confused... =.=

[n00b]

well
nobody can really tell you who you like...
does your best friend talk to the guy she likes alot?