My friends are depressed., Are your's? Options

[Kontroll]

I don't understand. I have friends that say they are depressed. They have no reason to. Maybe if they were starving to death and lived in Africa, maybe they might have a reason, but they live a normal American suburban life. It's ridiculous. Does anyone agree with me, or no?

[*This Confession*]

hmm
i always say theres someone out that has it worst than you do,
and other things. Then i get told i should become a relationship counselor or any kind of counselor It bothers me when they say their "depressed" and their life is so much better and really good. It makes me want to go out and give them a reason to be depressed.


but yes i agree.

[imm]

Depression is not exclusively induced by emotions or stress and whatnot; it also has to do with biology (genetics, illnesses, etc.). Also, as many people do, your friends may have an inaccurate perception of what depression really is. With this in mind, I can't really say whether or not I agree. ^^v

[Gigi]

It's ironic how fortunate North American teens who are handed everything they need to flourish in life become depressed over small(er) issues, compared to your example of starving kids in Africa. But it makes sense.

We're so used to having our way for everything, and we've never been through any real hardship. The smallest things can make us depressed. A complicated lifestyle gives you complicated problems. And although those kids in Africa have much more pressing issues, they haven't been babied into it and are still make the best of life in spite of it.

Am I making too many generalisations? Sorry.

[-sincerely]

I agree. A lot of my friends either just got over depression, or are still 'depressed.' I am, too, but not serious depression, I'm just real sad. But I don't mope around about it, and tell other people. I just write down my feelings.

[Paradox of Life]

Maybe if they were starving to death and lived in Africa, maybe they might have a reason, but they live a normal American suburban life. It's ridiculous.

You dont' know how angered I am by this statement. It's not ridiculous. Kids starving to death in Africa aren't depressed because things can get better and it feels good when there's room to improve. When everything's done for you and you can have anything you want, you don't feel the happiness of "improvement". By nature, you will take things for granted. If a starving child in Africa could go to McDonalds and get a free meal or stay in a hotel, they would be ecstatic. But when people like you and me go there, it's normal. So we don't feel that kind of excitement. Depression is also a medical illness that can be inherited, and people can't help it. Do you think people want to be depressed? Don't say it's ridiculous if they're depressed. That's like saying someone's ridiculous if they have ADD or down syndrome. You don't want to have it, but you do and it's inevitable.

[Kontroll]

You dont' know how angered I am by this statement. It's not ridiculous. Kids starving to death in Africa aren't depressed because things can get better and it feels good when there's room to improve. When everything's done for you and you can have anything you want, you don't feel the happiness of "improvement". By nature, you will take things for granted. If a starving child in Africa could go to McDonalds and get a free meal or stay in a hotel, they would be ecstatic. But when people like you and me go there, it's normal. So we don't feel that kind of excitement. Depression is also a medical illness that can be inherited, and people can't help it. Do you think people want to be depressed? Don't say it's ridiculous if they're depressed. That's like saying someone's ridiculous if they have ADD or down syndrome. You don't want to have it, but you do and it's inevitable.

I never said the kids in Africa were depressed. I was using them as an example. I'm saying that we have nothing to cry about because we live so much better than they do. I think a lot of the problem is selfishness. When you think about yourself all the time, you're going to get depressed. I also feel that it is a lack of discipline. They don't know how to handle themselves. I'm so sick of the sh*t in today's society. Oh, I'm depressed because it was genetically handed down to me. Oh, boy. What will I ever do in life? BOO f**kin' HOO! I feel like sh*t everytime I feel bad because I know some person has it a thousand times worse than me. You know a good solution to not feeling depressed? Go help somebody. It will make them feel great and also yourself. Physcology is a f**ked up field today. It's just understanding the mind, and now they got it where we have to blame all our problems on some one or something else. Don't tell me that's not f**ked up. Cause it is. Why doesn't any one take responsibility anymore? Why is everyone so damn sensitive when it comes to other people? It's bull sh*t.

[priyas]

I don't understand. I have friends that say they are depressed. They have no reason to. Maybe if they were starving to death and lived in Africa, maybe they might have a reason, but they live a normal American suburban life. It's ridiculous. Does anyone agree with me, or no?

Maybe its because they have something going on at home, and at school they try and be strong and smile. Maybe, its just because of hormones because of their adolescent years.

[Kontroll]

Maybe its because they have something going on at home, and at school they try and be strong and smile. Maybe, its just because of hormones because of their adolescent years.

She's 19 years old. It's got nothing to do with home. I talk to her. She loves her parents. We basically are the same person with different lives. Almost everything we like, or do is the same besides smoking and sex. Alright?

[nikkkkki]

I agree. But, everyone has their days when they feel like crap. The only thing that really gets me annoyed is when they say they're depressed and expect loads of attention.

[lyin_in_wait]

being depressed has nothing to do with your surroundings. its a chemical imbalance, no matter how much money you make or where you live. everybody has a story...a billionaire could be just as depressed as someone who has no money. it hurts worse when you are depressed and you have everything. do not state your opinions as facts, you have no idea where that other person is coming from

[shadowchild]

two of my friends are really depressed (cutting, drug overdose), but other than that they're all pretty happy.

[flc]

two of my friends are really depressed (cutting, drug overdose), but other than that they're all pretty happy.

..How can they be really depressed but pretty happy?

[ms. independent]

I have friends that are bipolar. they're depressed one moment, and fine the next. they're kinda hard to understand if you haven't known them for a while, but once you do they're great people to hang out with. :)

[Saeglopur]

Which probably explains why if I were uber-rich, I'd be depressed. No?

Anyway, only two of my friends are -- well, one of them just got diagnosed with manic depression. As for me, I only have anxiety issues... and probably something else... -shrug-

[much2muse]

Maybe if they were starving to death and lived in Africa, maybe they might have a reason, but they live a normal American suburban life. It's ridiculous. Does anyone agree with me, or no?

No. Anyone can be depressed. Even if they're the richest, best looking person in America. Maybe he/she's not depressed over materialistic things but it has to do with their emotions. Maybe they feel like something is missing in their lives or whatnot.

[Kontroll]

Yeah, I know everyone can be depressed. Alright? Do you think I was never depressed? Yes, I was and I got over it because I realized I was being selfish. And I'm not stating my opinion as fact, it's called common sense. When you see it everyday and how they talk, you can make some pretty good conclusions.

[lyin_in_wait]

sometimes its not as easy to just wake up one morning and realize that. you could have been going through a phase, everybody has one. but depression isnt a phase not is it a choice. why do you think that people have a higher risk of commiting suicide once they go off the pills?

[magicfann]

did u know those noobs that pretend to be depressed but arent

yeah uh those arent my friends

gg

[priyas]

She's 19 years old. It's got nothing to do with home. I talk to her. She loves her parents. We basically are the same person with different lives. Almost everything we like, or do is the same besides smoking and sex. Alright?

Probably wants attention.

[*This Confession*]

^hahah

[PrincessAda]

Yeah..they`re just depressed for no reason too..they`re also sometimes grouchy.

[imm]

Yeah, I know everyone can be depressed. Alright? Do you think I was never depressed? Yes, I was and I got over it because I realized I was being selfish. And I'm not stating my opinion as fact, it's called common sense. When you see it everyday and how they talk, you can make some pretty good conclusions.

You weren't going through depression.

[radhikaeatsraman]

Agreed, Stately Lover.

Depression is NOT just something you can just 'get over'--it's a psychological disorder. If you get over it after 2 days, it is not depression. It was just a stage of being sad. Depression is not easy to overcome, and to do so takes the help of trained psychologists and (sometimes) psychiatrists. Depression may or may not require medication, but it does require professional help.

Depression is a disorder. Sadness is an emotion. Get it straight, people!

[*mipadi*]

Also, remember that one's problems are one's own, and thus matter a lot to them, no matter how big or small. Other people may have bigger problems, but if those problems aren't affecting a person, he won't get that teary-eyed over them; however, problems that do affect him will naturally get him upset. And there's nothing wrong with that—it's our nature as humans.

[*Uronacid*]

Agreed, Stately Lover.

Depression is NOT just something you can just 'get over'--it's a psychological disorder. If you get over it after 2 days, it is not depression. It was just a stage of being sad. Depression is not easy to overcome, and to do so takes the help of trained psychologists and (sometimes) psychiatrists. Depression may or may not require medication, but it does require professional help.

Depression is a disorder. Sadness is an emotion. Get it straight, people!

i know the person he's talking about, and she is clinically depressed... when you talk to her about it she basically tells you that its her own fualt for being depressed. she makes all the wrong descisions in her life. if she did the right thing for once she wouldn't feel depressed...

depression is not easy to over come, but you can overcome it. you don't need the help of professionals, you just need someone who cares about you and knows how to tell you that you're being stupid in a way that you will understand.

[*mipadi*]

i know the person he's talking about, and she is clinically depressed... when you talk to her about it she basically tells you that its her own fualt for being depressed. she makes all the wrong descisions in her life. if she did the right thing for once she wouldn't feel depressed...

That's exactly what a person who is depressed would say. Many depressed individuals resort to blaming themselves for their state—but that doesn't make it true.

depression is not easy to over come, but you can overcome it. you don't need the help of professionals, you just need someone who cares about you and knows how to tell you that you're being stupid in a way that you will understand.

Depressed individuals are not "being stupid"—they are suffering from an accepted disease. Having caring friends and family helping is definitely a good thing, but they shouldn't just tell the person that they're "being stupid". Many times, depressed individuals have just reached such a state of despair that they are under the impression they can never overcome their problems.

Sometimes they do need medical attention, too. Depression is often caused by chemical or hormonal imbalances. At any rate, a trained professional is often needed to help depressed individuals.

I think you're confusing "depression" with "being a whiny teenager". There's a difference. Some teenagers are just whiny; some are actually suffering from depression and need help.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Just because they live "normal" lives doesn't mean they don't have anything to be sad about. True, there are tons of people who have it way worse, but not everyone can be happy with what they have. Right now, your friends need someone who understands them. Maybe they'll feel a bit more...understood...if you listen. instead of you just assuming nothing's going on that maybe they're not telling you. And I get the feeling they're just dissatisfied D:

[*krnxswat*]

I'm so sick of the sh*t in today's society.

Then just go kill yourself.

Why doesn't any one take responsibility anymore?

Don't you feel as if you're generalizing a bit too much? Because of those who surround you are irresponsible, doesn't mean you can conclude the same for everyone else. Please.

You know a good solution to not feeling depressed? Go help somebody.

Why don't you go tell that to your friends?

[Heartless Hero]

hey what can i say...

ppl are weird.

theres always at least one time in your life that for no reason you

might feel like crap. it happens.

and about the african starving children...

well you cant compare them to that cause theyve never been is a situation like it XD

[WolFii]

haha, sorry to say i use to be one of those depressed kids too. and for no apparant reason as well. since i was very well. i guess its just a way of logical thinking that people have. as well, in a very small portion, for me i would think i just feel relieved wen people tell me not to be depressed or something like that. but in whole its just a feeling of worthless in life and that ther is no meaning. however, i think if you find a purpose in life, which i have done (my wife<333) then the depression feeling will go away. however you have to keep in mind, that if that "purpose" in life suddenly somehow disapears, the feeling of the world crashing down on you will be horrible

[*This Confession*]

Agreed, Stately Lover.

Depression is NOT just something you can just 'get over'--it's a psychological disorder. If you get over it after 2 days, it is not depression. It was just a stage of being sad. Depression is not easy to overcome, and to do so takes the help of trained psychologists and (sometimes) psychiatrists. Depression may or may not require medication, but it does require professional help.

Depression is a disorder. Sadness is an emotion. Get it straight, people!

i don't think you need psychiatrists to get over depression..
People can overcome anything if they really want to.

[*mipadi*]

i don't think you need psychiatrists to get over depression..
People can overcome anything if they really want to.

People can theoretically get over a bad case of pneumonia or the Asian bird flu by themselves, too, but sometimes it does help to have intervention from a trained professional.

[Kontroll]

I wasn't just depressed for two days. IT is something that you can get over. I've known people that were depressed for a long time and something changed in their lives, and they were a completely different person. Yeah, it's Psychological and chemical, but it's also your feelings and thoughts, which we control. Everything is chemical if you think about it. Your stomach tends to digest slower when you are sad. So, you can't blame depression on a chemical imbalance. I say it's selfishness because all you are doing is thinking about how much your life sucks, and all the problems within it. Yeah, they might think about other people but it's usually how that other person affects you. There is a bunch of crap that has happened to me. Why am I not depressed? Because it's how the person thinks.

You don't need professional help. You might go to counciling and that might help a little.

Wow, I got all these hippy ass sons a bitches trying to pull this psychology sh*t on me. Grow some balls people. Stop thinking about yourself and grow up. Think about other people for a change. It helps. Trust me.

Many times, depressed individuals have just reached such a state of despair that they are under the impression they can never overcome their problems.

If you say something enough times you will believe it. A lie told enough times will stick in your head and you will believe it as it is a truth. She believes she is basically a piece of crap. Why? Because she's been telling herself that she's nothing.

[*mipadi*]

I wasn't just depressed for two days. IT is something that you can get over. I've known people that were depressed for a long time and something changed in their lives, and they were a completely different person. Yeah, it's Psychological and chemical, but it's also your feelings and thoughts, which we control. Everything is chemical if you think about it. Your stomach tends to digest slower when you are sad. So, you can't blame depression on a chemical imbalance. I say it's selfishness because all you are doing is thinking about how much your life sucks, and all the problems within it. Yeah, they might think about other people but it's usually how that other person affects you. There is a bunch of crap that has happened to me. Why am I not depressed? Because it's how the person thinks.

You don't need professional help. You might go to counciling and that might help a little.

Wow, I got all these hippy ass sons a bitches trying to pull this psychology sh*t on me. Grow some balls people. Stop thinking about yourself and grow up. Think about other people for a change. It helps. Trust me.

You clearly have absolutely no understanding of depression or psychology. Many psychologists do attribute at least some forms to a chemical balance, and while it is possible to get over some cases yourself, many times professional intervention is helpful or even necessary.

Again: there's a difference between being a mopey teenager (which is also likely attributable to a change in hormonal balances, but that's of a different type), and being depressed. You're confusing the two.

[Paradox of Life]

I never said the kids in Africa were depressed. I was using them as an example. I'm saying that we have nothing to cry about because we live so much better than they do. I think a lot of the problem is selfishness. When you think about yourself all the time, you're going to get depressed. I also feel that it is a lack of discipline. They don't know how to handle themselves. I'm so sick of the sh*t in today's society. Oh, I'm depressed because it was genetically handed down to me. Oh, boy. What will I ever do in life? BOO f**kin' HOO! I feel like sh*t everytime I feel bad because I know some person has it a thousand times worse than me. You know a good solution to not feeling depressed? Go help somebody. It will make them feel great and also yourself. Physcology is a f**ked up field today. It's just understanding the mind, and now they got it where we have to blame all our problems on some one or something else. Don't tell me that's not f**ked up. Cause it is. Why doesn't any one take responsibility anymore? Why is everyone so damn sensitive when it comes to other people? It's bull sh*t.

You want to help someone feel great and also yourself? Stop getting mad at kids with depression and start trying to help them. And how about you start by keeping your mouth shut, not jumping to conclusions and thinking it from the perspective of someone with depression.

Edit// Oh, and just for the record, I've had depression for 4 years now, so if you want to know why I'm upset, that's why. I dont' want to be depressed. I do have a "perfect" suburban life. Something most kids would wish for, but I don't think I'm selfish. I do volunteer work, I do chores around the house, I do as much as I can, but I'm still suffering from depression. I'm also studying psychology. Depression has nothing to do with your surroundings as someone said before. It's an incurable mental/physical problem that is treated like anything else. It's just a different type of problem that can only be "helped" by counseling or medication. Getting out of depression is something you have to do on your own.

You're probably thinking of people who are in depression but just complain and don't do anything about it, and I'm there with you on that one.

[*anubis*]

maybe you just make emo friends.

[Kontroll]

Nevermind. I must be saying my statements very unclearly.

maybe you just make emo friends.

Pretty much.

[*incoherent*]

http://www.thefunny.org/emo.mp3

if that song describes anything about them, theyre emo.

[*This Confession*]

blah sterotypes.


emo is a genre of music that stand for emotional punk music.
sterotypes are for idiots that can't understand diversity.
so oh well.

is that the adam and andrew song above?
the page wouldn't load o_O

this seems like its just going to end up being a big debate

[*incoherent*]

^
i dont know who sings it, but you can just download it on limewire

[*This Confession*]

hah don't use limewire..

i'm sure it is
if it has

I'm an emo kid, non-conforming as can be
You'd be non-conforming too if you look just like me
I have paint on my nails and makeup on my face
I'm almost emo enough to start shaving my legs
Cause I feel real deep when dressing in drag
I call it freedom of expression, most just call me a fag


or something like that

[Kontroll]

hah don't use limewire..

i'm sure it is
if it has

I'm an emo kid, non-conforming as can be
You'd be non-conforming too if you look just like me
I have paint on my nails and makeup on my face
I'm almost emo enough to start shaving my legs
Cause I feel real deep when dressing in drag
I call it freedom of expression, most just call me a fag
or something like that

I have that video. haha.

http://www.filecabi.net/video/be-emo.html

You have to watch it.

[*Uronacid*]

i effing love this song :D

[tanichick]

Sometimes... usually I'm the one who's depressed :P

[*incoherent*]

this confession --

yes, that is the song.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

hah don't use limewire..

i'm sure it is
if it has

I'm an emo kid, non-conforming as can be
You'd be non-conforming too if you look just like me
I have paint on my nails and makeup on my face
I'm almost emo enough to start shaving my legs
Cause I feel real deep when dressing in drag
I call it freedom of expression, most just call me a fag
or something like that

cuz our dudes look like chicks and our chicks look like dykes
Cuz emo is one step below transvestite
Stop my breathing and slit my throat
I must be emo


yeah...sang by adam and andrew..or something like that

[jenn_jenny]

i had friends like that

[Kontroll]

Haha. Depression is funny. Oh, I bet I struck a nerve there. HAHA. My mom was depressed when my dad died, but she isn't anymore.

[imm]

Haha. Depression is funny. Oh, I bet I struck a nerve there. HAHA. My mom was depressed when my dad died, but she isn't anymore.

You drive me nuts. Absolutely fricking ridiculous lmao.

[*This Confession*]

then just drop it.

[LittleFlyingCow]

I agree just a bit, but not totally. As far as I'm concerened the only thing (almost) that matters in life is being happy. If someone is not happy, that doesn't mean that giving the "african kids have it so much harder hten you" speech is going to make them feel any better. Who cares if they have the greatest life in the whole universe? if they're not happy than obviusly they don't. You say tons of kids would love to be them, well I don't tihnk tons of kids would "love" to be depressed all the time.

It's probably just those teen hormones (or w.e) kicking in, or maybe friend problems? girlfriend/boyfriend problems? parent problems? There are all kinds of things that can make someone depressed, and almost all of them are in their mind. You could suggest going to see a phsychiatrist if they're depressed allll the time, and it's getting serious. Or maybe yoga, or just walking on the beach or something. I've been depressed before and sometimes it only takes little things to make you happy again.

Other than that I don't think there's much you can do, or say, that'll make them less depressed, so I'd just let time take care of it.

And ya, I have some friends who are depressed all the time, and I have some who are happy all the time, just depends who you're born to be. Just be glad you're not one of the depressed ones

[angelrevelation]

lots of my friends go through problems, the usual like stress, boy/girl problems, etc. and i guess they get depressed for a while cuz of different problems that pop up, but they're never (i think) truly clinically depressed. they get better eventually, just by themselves. it's normal

[Something Vague]

Unless you have a disorder, you're brought up in an abusive family and you're being abused in any way, or you live in a poor country with no food and no water,

concider yourself lucky.

The problem with people is that you're so god damn ungrateful, and their are levels of depression. People are feeling alot worser than you are.

Tell your friends to suck it up or spit it out. It creates a horrible atmosphere for others and it's just irritating.

[*mipadi*]

Unless you have a disorder, you're brought up in an abusive family and you're being abused in any way, or you live in a poor country with no food and no water,

concider yourself lucky.

The problem with people is that you're so god damn ungrateful, and their are levels of depression. People are feeling alot worser than you are.

Tell your friends to suck it up or spit it out. It creates a horrible atmosphere for others and it's just irritating.

What's with this mentality that others have it worse, so one has no right to be sad? By that logic, only one single person in the world—the "unluckiest person in the world"—has a right to be sad. And that's ridiculous.

[Something Vague]

I've had crap thrown at me from every direction, my whole life. In conclusion, I have Borderline Anorexia [which has pretty much killed me off as a person, and I've formed into the disorder itself.] Now I have a heart condition. I'm 16 years old, for goodness sake.

Other kids my age are complaining about relationship breakups and when I have these people crying on my shoulder, how do you think I feel? It magnifies my problem by 10, because these problems are just so pathetic. It might not seem like it at the time, but it is. Because eventually you move on.

This is just an example,
but that's what I find ridiculous.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

^just because you're close to death you're saying YOU're the only one who deserves a right to be sad? Only those who are dying are the only ones who deserve a right to be depressed? We're human beings for god's sake. And I find it completely normal to be really upset about relationship problems. It's not easy to move on. People will need help. You can't expect someone to cope in a second or bottle it in. That will worsen their condition D:

Who are you to judge what they go through?

[Something Vague]

Who am I to judge what they go through? Someone going through something a little more serious than a stupid breakup.

Who are you to judge me about what I'm going through?
I used my problem as an example. And a breakup problem for a pure example of something to shut up and get over [becuase you just do. You have to eventually move on].

[imm]

^^^ Basically, don't judge anyone's problems. Not everyone realises that high school breakups aren't the end of the world. Different things take different tolls on different people.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Who am I to judge what they go through? Someone going through something a little more serious than a stupid breakup.

Who are you to judge me about what I'm going through?
I used my problem as an example. And a breakup problem for a pure example of something to shut up and get over [becuase you just do. You have to eventually move on].

I never said yours was an easy problem. In fact, not every problem is easy. Break ups and bitch fights are hard to go through if the person you had it with is very close. No can adjust in a single snap. And yes people do have to move on but bitching about how your problem is worse won't help now, will it? People take pain differently than you do. And don't say "break ups don't cause pain at all" because that's bullshit. Especially if you really cared for the person. Just like how "small things" can make people happy, small things can also make them sad. And if it is easy to move on from silly relationship problems then why won't you help them move on (in a kinder way)? Stop comparing yourself to others.

[Kontroll]

Unless you have a disorder, you're brought up in an abusive family and you're being abused in any way, or you live in a poor country with no food and no water,

concider yourself lucky.

The problem with people is that you're so god damn ungrateful, and their are levels of depression. People are feeling alot worser than you are.

Tell your friends to suck it up or spit it out. It creates a horrible atmosphere for others and it's just irritating.

I LOVE YOU!!!!! HAHA.

^^^ Basically, don't judge anyone's problems. Not everyone realises that high school breakups aren't the end of the world. Different things take different tolls on different people.

We need to judge others or no justice will be served.

[imm]

^^^ Basically, don't judge anyone's problems. Not everyone realises that high school breakups aren't the end of the world. Different things take different tolls on different people.

Reread what I wrote.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

I LOVE YOU!!!!! HAHA.
We need to judge others or no justice will be served.

I would LOVE to see you guys fall in love and get your hearts broken. I seriously would. Don't talk shit about how weak people are when you don't even understand what really goes on in other people's minds. Just because some have it worse doesn't mean we have the "perfect" lives. Everything is far from perfect.