I hate her!!!!!! She finally found a way to make me break up w/ Ralph.., ...... I'm so depressed! Help! Options

[Emma Sue]

Hi guys.
Well that girl I told u about, u know, that threatened me to break up w/ my bf didin't stop at bothering me.
Now she says that if i don't break up w/ Ralphn or I tell him she's gonna tell to my brother's coach that he smokes and drinks. To be honest my bro used to smoke a bit and he drinks whenever he goes out. His coach is dead strict and I'm sure he won't keep my bro if he finds out about him drinking. Logan (my brother) is the best player and he adores his team.

I tried to tell Ralph but she told him that she finds me wonderful and now Ralph is so happy that I get on well w/ his friends. He just thinks that it's impossible for someone to hate me.
I told my oldest brother and now he worries too coz the girl has got all the evidence she needs to destroy my brother.

Guys I'm desperate, I can't find any solution.. the situation is too painful. I love my brothers more than anything else in this world but I love Ralph too. I guess I'll have to break up w/ him so my bro is Ok. I cry every day, please help a bit if u can. Thanks.

[lyin_in_wait]

you really need to talk to ralph...maybe you could tell everybody yall broke up and keep your relationship to yourselves. cuz this chick is on some psychotic terms now

[*mipadi*]

Why don't you tell a trusted adult?

[waccoon]

Don't let her control the situation. Your best bet is to tell Ralph, and then your parents. Forget everything she said about telling Ralph - he should trust you. Talk to your guidance counselor at school. If she's that twisted, she obviously needs some help.

[Emma Sue]

I see my parents twice a year: X-mas n Easter.
I told my oldest bro- he worries too about Logan coz she's got evidence.
Ralph thinks that his friend gets on well w/ me. He is so happy that I just can't find the right time to tell him. Everytime i'm ready to tell him sth happens or she arrives at the place we r(even at my house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ) n I just can't tell him.

[priyas]

I agree with mipadi . Tell an any adult that you trust. Or tell Ralph what she is doing.

Use something against her just like she is doing to you.

Priya

[*mipadi*]

I see my parents twice a year: X-mas n Easter.
I told my oldest bro- he worries too about Logan coz she's got evidence.
Ralph thinks that his friend gets on well w/ me. He is so happy that I just can't find the right time to tell him. Everytime i'm ready to tell him sth happens or she arrives at the place we r(even at my house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ) n I just can't tell him.

Well, you've got some adult taking care of you, don't you? So tell him or her.

[LiSFORLiNDA]

ugHhh...
Well confront the physco & ralph together with you. See what happens. Her & ralph are friends..right? Then she couldnt denie it in front of him. &if she denies it & he believes her then obviously he doesnt trust or believe you..& trust is very important in a relationship. Yup thats all i got to say

[Shahin]

Damn, what a hoe.

But I agree with STFULinda above me.

[SarahxJoy]

This only worked once for me (well, I only tried it once), but it could help if you want:

How often does this girl threaten you, telling about the things she'll do? You should..get a tape recorder or something, and carry it around with you when you think there's a possibility you might run into her. Then when she threatens you, you can record it and show it to Ralph.

I wouldn't recommend using the recorder on your cellphone though, if it has one, 'cause to fully hear what she's saying you'd have to have it right in front of her face. Or unless she just speaks really loudly.

Sounds a little complicated, but it can work. 'Cause then, you'll have proof of what a pathetic person she is.

[Paradox of Life]

Tell the counselor at your school, the principal, your older brother, one of your teachers. Don't hold it inside. If more trusted people know it's a lie, the girl will be outnumbered and probably realize she can't pull off the trick. But if she has real real proof that Ralph is doing something wrong, then she has a right to tell.

[_sarcastic_]

you should really tell ralph about it, see what he can do to help
she has sunk so low this time as to drag your brother into this.
yeah i agree with everyone else, you really must tell an adult you trust.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

geez if i were you i would kick her a**. but i think you should go the smart way and tell some trusted adult about wats going on. dang your boyfriend seems very....oblivious to whats going on (kinda slow). but your dealing with some psycho so good luck and tell someone about it. if your brother doesnt drink or anything you shouldnt have to worry just say that he changed and he dont do that no more.

[Emma Sue]

The trusted adult is my older brother Alfie and I have already talked with him. But he doesn'e know what to do. In fact she came yesterday again to our house and Alfie was so mad that almost slapped her.. He was like: don't ever talk again to my little sister, leave her alone!

But she doesn't seem to worry. Logan, my young brother, used to smoke and drink.

I was sitting w/ Ralph at the park and I had started telling him all about her and she came w/ two other girls and started crying in front of him and telling him that I was so mean coz I WENT TO HER HOUSE AND TOLD HER THAT SHE'S SO FAT AND UGLY THAT NO BOY will ever make out w/ her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's a lie!

But the girls started saying that they were at her house too and then Ralph was like:
Darling you are extremely beautiful but you shouldn't tell to other girls that are not like u. It's not kind u know.
He actually sort of believed them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Later he told me that he's sure I didn't tell her anything like that but he didn't want to fight w/ them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All this threaten thing that now involves my brother is too much 4 me guys !!! I'm gonna break up w/ him no matter how much i love him... I just can't live like this anymore I cry alll day..

[chasingvictory]

don't let her see that she's affecting your life. be on top of the situation, not her. there are many ways to get around the problem. yea things right now seems like its impossible to do any but sometimes the only way to find a way out is to pull yourself together. like everyone here, i would recommend to tell trusted adults [in private]. have you mentioned this situation to your bro's coach? so yea.... everything will be fine only when you have things (emotions) under control. when your emotional, many times you miss the oppertunity to solve the problem. well I hope everything goes well.

[Your pain is not...]

If you give up Ralph, the girl will just think she's won, and will take Ralph for herself. And you'll just keep on crying. Dont' give up. Talk to Ralph privately in person. Acknowledge the trust between the two, and slowly tell him what the girl has said/done to you.

[*Uronacid*]

Shes all talk... people like that are so stupid.

HOW TO SHUT HER THE f**k UP!!!!

- don't be worried
- Your brother isn't going to get kicked becuase he smoked or drank once while he was on the team. Unless, you're caught smoking or drinking on school property or arrested and they see the police report in the news paper hey rarely do anything about it.
- Shes just threatening you, and she hasn't done anythign about it.
- Shes a stupid bitch
- Stand your ground
- Don't fight her or say mean things to her, just tell her truth. Like, say things like, "If you do do somthign like that, i will be forced to do somethign about it. I just don't want that thing to happen to you."
- Cope an additude that shows her messing with you is not in her best intrest.
- Be true to your word
- im not suggesting you fight her or swear and cuss, but i am suggesting you don't take sh*t like you have been. she knows your afraid, you need to be strong. if you say something stick too it or she will think your a liar.

god, i deal with people like this all the time. By the time im done with them, they are literally appologizing to me.... if you want to talk about it message me... give me some situations, ill show you... message me ;)

[starlette]

report her to an authority for blackmail. You cant blackmail people. And shes a whore. Id stab her. seriously. Just take a knife walk past her and jab it in her ribcage. damn whorebag. I hate people who try to control others. BURN HER AT THE STAKE!!





dramatization. do not attempt.

[*This Confession*]

^well i wouldn' exctly do that ..

that shouds a tad painful
Just tell the truth to everyone.
So what ever she says won't even matter.
your brother drank and stuff a few times
I'm sure hes young enough to that people try out things
people make mistakes
were not perfect.
the other girl needs to get over herself.
Just ignore her.
yes i know its hard
but just do it

[*Uronacid*]

accually what i said before... scratch it... i a have way that you could make your boy friend listen to you, and make her lose.

here's a fantastic plan:

-Talk to the girl: Tell her you're going to give her a chance with your boyfriend. Tell her you will give her 3 months to get with him, and if they don't get together she loses and you go back out with him.

- Break up with your boyfriend: he's not listening to you right. well, explain to him the whole situation. tell him that the only reason you need to do it is becuase that whore is threatening to rat off your brother, and he doesn't believe you but its really going to happen. Make sure he realizes that you care about him, and that you like him. Tell him that you're going to go back out with him in three months(or some set period of time).

Ok, this plan is awsome and Here's why:

- You get to find out whether you're boy friend likes you are not. If he decides to go out with her, then you know he's a crappy boyfriend. If he decided to continue to stay with you then your relationship will only grow srtonger.

- You can realy put that girl in her place. If she loses, then she had a chance and she lost it.


the only bad thing would be if that stupid jerk kept doing it after the 3 months were over... but at least then your boyfriend would tell her to "shut the f**k up"...

just remember:

- This plan will only work if you are completely open and honest with your boyfriend.

- this plan will also only work if you let things be for the 3 month period. If treat her the same way while shes trying to get at your boy then the whole thing will turn sour and you will end up looking like an idiot.

[nikkkkki]

She is such a Bitch ! Smack that Hoooe . Tell her to grow her ass up & find her own guy .

Or, Talk to Ralph & her . Straaaight upp . Be like, that Bitch is being, well, a phsycotic Bitch .

[PrincessAda]

Talk to Ralph!