I fu*ked things up again..., -_- Options

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Ok .. Ive known this girl my hole life.. she is my best friend but she has problem with her home life, drugs, drinking, and others. Her dad came over to my house to ask me questions about my friend.. and I said somthing the wrong way.. and now she claims that I " f**ked up her life".. " AGAIN " .. Its not like we never fought before.. and I have just known her for so long I know how to deal with her pissed off ness. This time I think I f**ked up for good. I told her I was sorry and I dont know what else I can do is pray.. yes im a prayer..

hears some one yell " CHURCHY " behind me..

Yes its true .. this is just one of the other things that she has problems with..

I love her and her to much to let 13 years go down the drain.. ( Im 15 )


Help please?

[*wind&fire*]

honestly what i think is the most powerful thing you can do is pray...

[SarahxJoy]

If your friend can realize that throwing a thirteen-year-old friendship away isn't worth over a misunderstanding, then I'm sure things will be fine.

I guess, it's all up to your friend.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Yeah I mean really she needs to get over her self .. even though I did kinda mess things up ..

Every one dose once in there life.

Right?

[[Mediocre]Artist]

All you can really do is explain to her that you weren't trying to get her in trouble. And don't be so self-conscious about praying =)

[silver-rain]

Yeah, just talk to her. Tell her that you didn't mean to get her in trouble, or that you didn't know that what you said would get her in trouble.

[illumineering]

Refrain from judging the events in your friend's life. You shouldn't feel guilty about relating factual information that can be verified. The judgement of her quality of life is unnecessary. I'm fairly confident that she knows she has problems. Judgement from you adds unnecessary weight and drama to the situation. Rather than helping, you'll create a distraction that will keep her from looking at herself. The issue will be shifted to your betrayl and only compound the issue.

You could offer an apology if you feel you were in error. If not, let it go. If this relationship is strong, there will be an opportunity to mend it in the future. Give your friend some space to deal with her issues. I wouldn't beat yourself up over something that doesn't seem to have been done intentionally or with malice of forethought.

[BryMonster]

As everyone has already said, tell her that
you didn't mean to get her in trouble. Her
dad probably misinterpretted the way you
put your words together. If she doesn't
forgive you, than she's just being silly.

You're 15 years old, you've got a long ways
to go. Who knows, you'll find someone along
the road.

[Paradox of Life]

She needs space. You need space. Don't consider her your best friend. Just .. a friend. Two friends should be bringing each other up, not down. Even after 13 years, it might be time to move on, but that is only an extreme. I think you should let things cool down before approaching her again.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Refrain from judging the events in your friend's life. You shouldn't feel guilty about relating factual information that can be verified. The judgement of her quality of life is unnecessary. I'm fairly confident that she knows she has problems. Judgement from you adds unnecessary weight and drama to the situation. Rather than helping, you'll create a distraction that will keep her from looking at herself. The issue will be shifted to your betrayl and only compound the issue.

You could offer an apology if you feel you were in error. If not, let it go. If this relationship is strong, there will be an opportunity to mend it in the future. Give your friend some space to deal with her issues. I wouldn't beat yourself up over something that doesn't seem to have been done intentionally or with malice of forethought.

I wasent trying to be judging because if I did she would have to slap somthing right back in my face..
for ex. She has a drug problem. I also did too in the past.. She would have somthing smart to say back to me.. See im not the fighting type.. I suck at combacks. ( Not saying that I would throw somthing back at her) See im the kinda hippie like person.. peace , love , and kindness.. there my guide lines of living.
She is the smartest person I know.. and she knows me inside and out. If I say somthing wrong.. she will have somthing " Smart " to say back..
I also dont fell guilty about this problem eather. Every thing I said to her father is true.. I tryed to help but it just came back and slaped me in the face.. which hurts really bad.
I did give her a apology she didnt want to take it because.. im not trust werthy?
-_-

[PrincessAda]

Seems like she needs space to calm down.

[*Uronacid*]

yeah, just chill... let it all die down, this will eventually fade out and if you r guys are really good friends then she will come to her senses

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

first of all if she really has a bad home life you should not have said anything to her dad or else it would be another fight. you should have told an adult who cares more about your friend and is more calm and able to talk to your friend and see a way to help her out instead of yelling at her yelling does not solve problems but creates more. because indeed your friend does have a problem and all her drug addictions and drinking problems is a cry for help from her parents and they prolly dont listen. i dont blame you because from the start you have good intentions to help out your friend. just give her time to cool off and find a way to help her out. a 13 year best friend relationship is really a waste to throw away over a silly fight. and if she does not see that then maybe you guys should give each other both some space to talk to other people and get more friends. good luck and dont be ashamed to pray show your faith out and dont care wat other people have to say.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

first of all if she really has a bad home life you should not have said anything to her dad or else it would be another fight. you should have told an adult who cares more about your friend and is more calm and able to talk to your friend and see a way to help her out instead of yelling at her yelling does not solve problems but creates more. because indeed your friend does have a problem and all her drug addictions and drinking problems is a cry for help from her parents and they prolly dont listen. i dont blame you because from the start you have good intentions to help out your friend. just give her time to cool off and find a way to help her out. a 13 year best friend relationship is really a waste to throw away over a silly fight. and if she does not see that then maybe you guys should give each other both some space to talk to other people and get more friends. good luck and dont be ashamed to pray show your faith out and dont care wat other people have to say.

Im sorry but he is the one who came to me asking me for help for her. Its not like I could just say nothing.. because my father was there to he wanted me to say every thing I could..
Not like I could stop right there with out getting yelled at for not telling everything. Her father also cares for her. Its her mom that is the problem.

[xmoon_lightx]

Just tell her it was a misunderstanding

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Today...

Things got worce... I was letting her go.. then her dad had to go and tell her that I said that she shoulden't hang out with the pot heads next door anymore.. ( He said that he woulden't say anything about the convo we had.) and now shes even more mad then she was before..

I dont know why but I really dont care if im friends with her anymore or not.. Im not sure if I found this out before or after she walked by where I was sitting and she waved her middle finger at me and called me a "snich"... maybe after.. who knows any more.

-_-