HELP WITH PROM, please help me!! Options

[570L3Nxh34r7]

the guy i've liked for agesss just asked me to prom, and we both really like each other, so its really perfect and stuff

the only problem is, my parents won't let me go to prom. Their rationale is that my grades suck (which they don't, seeing as my parents are about the most stereotypically asian parents you will EVER hear about) and that prom will make my grades drop more.

how do i persuade them to allow me to go??
PLEASE HELP ME! Prom is in about two weeks, and i'm DESPERATE!

[msladyliberty]

that really sux!

I haven't been to a prom since....oh....4 years! But I know how unfair parents can be.

They may be under the impression that you're irresponsible in some way...just by judging on your grades...which sux.

So, maybe try to make them feel like you're a responsible person...try to gain their trust! That's how I worked my way around to getting what I wanted with my mom.

Try to do chores around the house (maybe a little more than you're used to), and vow that you'll truly do better in school and don't make them regret letting you go to prom.

Maybe hanging out after school for the next couple of weeks should stop for now. Just study and maybe that'll convince them that you are taking them seriously about what they said about your grades.

And if they want you back home right after the prom...don't push for a later hour, just going to the prom is good enough

That should do the trick!

Parents want to feel like their kids are taking into consideration of what they say. So making them feel like you agree and you're serious about improvement...then they'll be more easy about letting you go.

I hope that's a good suggestion.

[icecoldtears1234]

hey, your first chance at letting you go to prom is to try and make a really good deal with them, promise them (number one) that you will do your homework all the time ad it will be really good, or elce they can punish you...also let them know that you will do like extra chores around the house or something.........your second choice is well the very last resaort, if you are THAT desperate, get out somehow by saying you are doing something elce like sleeping over at a friends house, or goign to a gathering or party...or just tell themn that you will not talk to them for the rest of ur life lol, or you wil. dispise them....

LISABELLA

[priyas]

Tell your parents:

Mom and Dad, Prom comes once in a life time. I know that my grades are slipping, but it is the end of the year. I will study hard in the summer. Such as math. One night, will not hurt my grades. Mom and dad, i really like this guy. Please let me go.

I love you both.

That should work.

[msladyliberty]

^^ Awwwww...that's sweet

[570L3Nxh34r7]

(i forgot to mention) that i'm a sophomore, and he's a junior. ^__^ you're right, i do really really like him (for 8 months now! ) but my parents can't know that because they don't believe that i "like" boys.

=(((

[BryMonster]

Just tell them just this once. So that
you can experience prom, so that next
year, if you have the opportunity to go
you would already know what it'd be
like. Make promises to them about
grades rising and such. If your not
planning on partying that night, even
say that you'll be home at a certain
time.

[xTINAA]

I agree with what someone said earlier. Just try to show them that you are responsible and mature enough to go to prom. Honestly, I have an Asian parent too and sometimes she thinks of the stupidest excuses to not let me go somewhere, but it's just that, an excuse. Perhaps they really aren't worried about your grades but maybe it's because they think you're young. Maybe it's because they just don't like you going out. Maybe it's because they know it'll be expensive. Etc. But either way I suggest trying to almost prove yourself to them that way they'll see that not only are you taking what they say seriously but that you are showing them how much this matters to you. I don't really think making promises will help because if for some reason you don't keep your part of the bargain, they won't let it happen again. I think actions would speak volumes rather than promises or trying to bargain with them. Also, it is always very adult-like to sit them down and explain to them your side of the story and why you would like to go so badly, however, you just have to make sure that you keep your cool the entire time even if you think they're being unfair.

Anyway, GOOD LUCK.

[anoniez]

yeah, don't tell them that you want to go because of a boy. hello, they're asian =b
i think the best approach would be to act responsible and mature-- and keep asking them, not just the night before after you think you've acted responsibly enough-- make sure they know that you really want to go. get your grades higher, show them every 100 you bring home. beg and plead if you have to =b offer to do the dishes for an absurdly long time (ok, don't do that, they won't believe that you'll follow through) but yeah.. just.. wheedle and plead. thats what i do with my asian mom, and it usually works after awhile.

[PrincessAda]

Tell them its a very very very important night for a young girl,since it really is.

[Azn_Angel13]

oh i understand how asian parents are. they're so strict and always concern about how your social life is going to affect your grades. try to persuade your parents how important prom would mean to you and how it's one of the highlights of high school. Say you've studied hard enough all year, and it's not going to kill you to have fun for one night. show them your grades and tell them how great you are in class to prove to them that you're doing just fine. it's the end of the year, your parents should let you celebrate.

[emazing]

Awe, congratulations. Well, you might want to try to make a deal with your parents - if you study for ____ amount of time and if you set and limit restrictions to your hours doing other stuff [such as going on cB, watching TV, etc.] then hopefully in return they'll let you go.

.. There's another alternative - just beg and beg and beg some more until they give in, but that usually doesn't work.

[sayitaintso]

what a perfect chance!
i had a dream about that once,
my dream guy asking me to prom and we actually went together.
but no, that didn't happen.

ANYWAYS LOL,
well what usually works for me is telling my ASIAN parents that my smart ass cousin even went to prom himself... or comparing other smart kids even going to prom despite their grades and such. somehow telling that smart kids and close friends are going to my parents usually works.

[drums0210]

(i forgot to mention) that i'm a sophomore, and he's a junior. ^__^ you're right, i do really really like him (for 8 months now! ) but my parents can't know that because they don't believe that i "like" boys.

=(((

Ouch, thats bad. My parents are pretty stereotypical, but they did agree to let me go to the ball this year, but something else happened so now I cant go lol.

I cant comment on your situation as I'm a 17 year old guy, but just try and talk to your parents and tell them how much you want to go to the prom