bah, relationships are confusing Options

[purrfecto]

alright, so i'm in this relationship with a guy. and we've been at it for a year and a half. the only thing that bothers me is that he rarely shows much affection. i mean, we talk to each other and stuff like that, and we've gone on a couple of dates. the only "intimate" thing we've ever done was hug and give a few gifts to each other. but sometimes he's so confusing. it seems as if he ignores me at some points, and i'm always the one who makes the first move to do something. my friends even went to verify whether or not he still likes me because they weren't sure if he did. but he still does...

ahhh. anyways. i really like him alot, but he's the most confusing, somewhat shy guy i've ever met. what should i do? it's so awkward to keep asking him out on dates and stuff since he's so...shy. and it's kind of embarassing to ask stuff like this on some forum with people you don't even know. but that can sometimes be a good thing...

[BryMonster]

Maybe this is new to him and he
doesn't know what to do, so maybe
that's why he's having a hard time
expressing himself to you.

[LadyXTor]

I'd talk to him about it, maybe ask him to be more aggressive?

[Looow]

finally, a girl who posts a topic about her relationship without saying " and like i really really love him n sutff .. "




i say you talk to him about it. i mean. you;ve been together for a while. i;m guessing u can talk about these things.

[Chii]

You need to ask him what he wants and tell him what you want. You can't keep that kind of stuff bottled up hoping that he will find out on his own. Guys don't work that way, or rather people don't work that way. If you want something done, you have to do it yourself.

I was shy but I got over telling the guy I'm seeing that I wanted more. Things are great now and I got more =]

[SarahxJoy]

I think that maybe in the beginning, he wasn't sure of what to do, and now that you two are so into the relationship, he's gotten used to being the submissive one. But you need to explain to him that a relationship is an equal partnership, so he needs to take charge every once in a while, instead of leaving you to be the one to take care of things.

Just have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.

[msladyliberty]

hee hee hee that's so cute!

It reminds me of the time I dated this "shy guy," who turned out to be my highschool sweetheart of 2 1/2 years!!

Yea, it's hard to figure shy guys out! My patience ran out!! 'Cuz I hated it! I'd always have to *guess* what he wanted to do...or how he feels.

Well...communication is the most important part of the relationship. If that is well maintained...then there shouldn't be a problem.

BUT...from what I read...it looks like there isn't a stable communication between you two. If it were me, I'd tell the guy to "man-up" and give me the time of day...for my sake!

[_sarcastic_]

talk it out with him and tell him what you want from this relationship.
he's probably just not sure what to do but if you want more in this relationship, you've got to voice out and tell him that

[*My Cinderella.*]

In my opinion, he seems like a shy guy. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel about this, other wise he'll never know.

[PrincessAda]

Umm..I would talk to him..ask if straight up if he like you or not.

[purrfecto]

well i know he likes me because he said so before...

anyways, thanks for all the advice. i guess i'll just have to talk to him about how i feel and such. and communicate. that's almost always the answer to these relationship questions...for example: "omg, my boyfriend isn't talking to me? what should i do?", "does he like me?", "he's avoiding me! oh no!" haha...