do you think its posible, to force yourself to like a guy? Options

[drummergirlmarim...]

do you think its possible to make urself fall in love with a guy?
because i gave up on A because he wouldnt even talk to me and the only time he ever acknowledged the fact that i even existed was when he said "hey, lisas back" back on monday, when i came back from an fbla state competition (which, btw, was AWESOME!). i figure that i want to like one of the guys that like me (J, H, K, VW) oh yeah, VC stopped liking me ... or so it seems.. i want to like J because hes REALLY REALLY nice and sweet, but hes a senior.. im a freshman... and if he goes away to college i NOE im gonna miss him like crazy. or H because hes nice too, but i can only think of him as a big brother, or K .. but well, hes not exactly the nicest guy to H... and idk if i can keep up with hosility.... > <" ... and VW is just out of question........ there are more guys that "like" me but i just wanna stay friends with them for now, since they havent told me that they like me.. their friends did....

[aznxdreamer]

it depends i guess. you could think that you like him because you posioned yourself to. you could call that liking him but thats debatable.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

my friend thinks that she did. 'cause she thought that she had a crush on this guy 'cause she was shy whenever she was around him. and now, she thinks that she never liked him.
but you can't really make yourself love a guy. love takes time to develop. you can make yourself like a guy though.

[colleen92]

if you spend time with a guy, you'll almost always find something you like about them. that doesn't always mean you'll fall madly in love with them, but usually if you hang out with someone, they become your friend (or more). i guess if you spend enough time with the guy you choose, you'll start to like him. it depends on what you feel if you like him as a potential boyfriend or something.

[-sincerely]

yes, i believe that it is very possible. i also believe people can force to to like a guy, and people can force you not to like a guy. i've been forced by the entire school indirectly not to like a guy. you hear it so many times it drills into your head and you think you're the one making the decision, when its really somebody else, in my case the school. i've also gotten my friend to like somebody. now, she doesn't, and i'm kinda working on getting her to like somebody else. well, we think he likes her, and she's not even giving him a chance, so i'm working on that, lol. but i don't let people force me to like who i like, and i also don't like the guy that everybody else likes. if i like somebody, i have my reasons for it, not because the whole female population likes him, or because he's cute or something. of course, thats always something nice added on. lol

[*Uronacid*]

right, the best thing you can do is let emotions die and then get to know him without all the pressure

[ms. independent]

they did it all the time to other people back in the old days. I don't see why you couldn't do it to yourself... even though it seems kinda odd. ;\

I mean, if you have to force yourself to like a guy, that doesn't make sense. just let yourself go with the flow until you find someone you like because forcing yourself doesn't really seem like a good idea.

[Chii]

It's very possible but it doesn't seem like something that should be done. Why would you force yourself into liking someone? Just for the sake of having a boyfriend? If so, that's horrible.

Don't force yourself into anything. Let things come naturally.

[msladyliberty]

I don't know about "forcing" yourself into liking someone. I think it's possible. Well..to me...it's either you like the guy or not. If you mean..."liking him more than friends," then I think spending more time with him and finding out more things you like about him is a way to "LIKE" someone more than just a friend. you can try that maybe...

[Sparkle09]

I do think it's possible to force yourself to like guy.
If you just focus on his possitives and flirt with him, i think it's possible.
But I think you shouldn't force yourself to like anyone.
You should like who you want to like, not someone just because they like you.

I hope that helps =]

[lit0chinagirl]

yeah, like they all said. if you spend enough time with a certain guy and you talk to him enough, there's a good chance that you'll develop feelings for him. that is, if you're attracted to him, too. your friends can play a big part in influencing you, too. if they mention him enough and get you talking and thinking about him, it's bond to happen. oh yeah, most importantly, you have to be willing to accept the fact that you're starting to like them. no use in denying it.

[*My Cinderella.*]

I don't think so. You can't feel something that's not there. As chii said, things come naturally.

[PrincessAda]

I agree with Chii..You shouldn`t force yourself into liking someone..

[drummergirlmarim...]

thank you all, but im not trying to like someone because i want a bf or something shallow like that... im just tired of having feelings for someone that wont ever love me.

[*My Cinderella.*]

So basically, are you trying to get over him?

[*mipadi*]

Few months ago, I met this girl. She was very nice, and fun. She was in my calc class, but we were also in a club together. She's a physics major. I'm comp sci, but I like most of the natural sciences, so that was cool with me. It made sense to try to go out with her sometime. She was interested (as the events of one party showed—but that's a different story), so it could've worked out. Maybe would've even been fun. The problem is, I wasn't attracted to her. She made a lovely friend, but I wasn't seriously interested in anything more than that.

Which was weird. She was cool. We had a lot in common. She was nice-looking. She wasn't seeing anyone. I wasn't seeing anyone. I had nothing going on. It made sense—except I wasn't interested.

Now, admittedly, it had been a long time since I had meant anyone that really attracted me for any sort of longer-than-short-term relationship. But I still remembered what it felt like to like someone. And that's the point of my anecdote: You'll know when you like someone. You'll get that feeling.

So no, I don't think you can truly force yourself to like someone. And unfortunately, you can't force yourself to get over someone, either. It just has to happen on its own. You get over someone by finding someone even better. Sometimes it takes a while, but it'll happen—and when it does, you'll know.

[LittleFlyingCow]

I don't think so. but you might find someone you think you don't like but then when you talk to them more you realize you really do...

I had the opposite. I liked someone but the more I talked to him the more I decided I didn't like him in that way, but then I started liking him alot as a friend. It's weird, and kind of wrong, because then he started liking me, but now I'm totally over him and I just can't like him...I just can't. When you like someone it really hits you...everytime your around them all you can think about is them,and it just...it feels special somehow.

[*This Confession*]

don't force yourself to like anyone
like them for being them
so get to know them a little bit more
and once you know what you want in a relationship and such
and the one that fits it the best
and if you like them then yea
go for it.

[misoshiru]

Why do you want to force yourself to like someone anyways?

[AZN_DRAGON]

It is possible, but it wouldnt work. Take this advice from me, i've been through it.

[xmoon_lightx]

The more time you spend with them the more you'll learn to like them

[drummergirlmarim...]

well thanks you all bunches. nope im already over A, i just dont want to get hurt again. ive nvr had a bf yet before, so idk wat to look for in a relationsship.

[emazing]

Nope. If he doesn't show any interest that he likes you soon, then I suggest you not waste your time on that guy.

[drummergirlmarim...]

okay thanks to you all :] hmm yup. i think i like a guy. that i wasnt expecting to like @^_^@