Isn't it hard to give space? Options

[Spec_R]

When you are really in love, isn't it hard to give your partner space? Like you want to be with them everyday. You want to talk to them even though you have nothing to talk about on the phone. You wonder what that person is doing currently at this moment?

when that other person told you to give that person spaces...how would you be able to do that? I mean yeah it's easy like okay I'll do my own thing but even though when you are doing your own things, u still think of them. This may sound weird but I love my GF tooo much and I want to lower it because I think it's unfair cuz i love her crazily and she's doing ok with me. How do I lower my love for her or maybe even stop? But at the same time I dont' want to break up with her... do I make sense?

[*This Confession*]

you actually make perfect sense
you remind me a lot of my boyfriend
i never told him to give me space.
but he just felt like he does so much for me
and i dont do as much, i have a horrible
deep emotional problem...
But really in the end if you back up and not
do the things you want to do
then your not being yourself
and if your not yourself then
you can't love someone......
because to love someone
so much you have to be yourself
and they have to be themself for you to love them as well.

Really to tell you the truth
you do what you think is right.
And don't leave anything from your gf.
the more important thing in relationships is trust
and communication
so don't leave her out in your thoughts


good luck.

[_sarcastic_]

you can't exactly stop loving someone all at once
i agree with This Confession, just be yourself, and do what you know and think is right.
it's alright to keep thinking about that person, heck. i do that too
just make sure i guess don't just stop and drop everything for that person unless well it's really necessesary.
it's good that you want to keep talking to her, i mean communication is really important in a relationship.

[Spec_R]

I think i have this problem of being in depression. Everytime i talk to her on the phone it's cool and stuffs but when we hang up, inside I get all sad and depressed. It's like I don't want to disconnect with her.

This may be out of subject but Like if I show to her that I love her a lot then she sees that then she will sometimes get annoyed. Should I act cold to her but sometime hug her and say I love you so she think Im not all over her? Also, when bad things happens I should try my best not to get mad about it. Because I want to act like I don't need her and so if I don't get mad that means i don't care and so at the end she will be like huh? maybe i should start treating him good or else he'll leave me? I don't know maybe that could happen what do u guys think?

[typh-a-knee]

I would be able to do it, but I would be extremely miserable until this whole "give me space" situation ended.

[flc]

Yeah, it's REALLY hard for me to give my significant other space. I'm just a clingy person, though. And what's nice is that I think it's hard for him to give me space too. ^^

I mean, when you really love the person, I don't think you should need space from them..unless it's affecting your relationships with your friends or family..

[misfit]

I find it really hard also, to give my boyfriend space.I wonder every day what he is doing right at this minute.I feel like if he broke up with me, i'd feel like I was nothing, that I had no one, that I couldn't be without him..
When he is around me he's really clingy but probably not as bad as me..
You obviously really love her a lot,as hard as it is,you have to give her some space,because if you don't she's going to feel sufficated and it will push her away and you might end up loosing her..Everyone wants to be able to have their own personal space and you have to except that she needs hers too,I know it's hard,but try give her some space,go doing something with your friends,to take your mind off it all,not her ingeneral,but the fact that you want to be with her all the time...Being with someone 24/7 can get a bit hectic...You both have your own seperate lives and want to spend it together,just make sure it's not way too often and your not over crowding her.
I mean in relationships I guess you shouldn't need space,but really your not one person,your two people,in love.That have their own seperate lives apart fom being together,who have thier own goals and everything,there's things everyone wants to do by themselves or with friends,it's part of life,as much as you'd like to be,you can't be attached to her 24/7.

Also,don't show her way too much affection,because it can get annoyin and don't sufficate her,show her you love her and don't show her that you need her,because then,she may feel like she can treat you like crap..I don't know if you see what I mean but yeah..And also because it can be a bit daunting someone obsessing over you..
You can't just tell your self to stop loving someone,it's what your heart feels.Why would you want to stop loving her anyway?
Maybe you feel that you have the need to be with her,do you actually want to,or do you just have this need?I really do love my boyfriend and I want to be with him,but it worries me that if we broke up,i'd feel so lost..And I don't want to be this attached,because i'd be the biggest wreck if it happened..So I have to withdraw myself from him a bit..

So if you want things to work out,just take things slower and do things you want to do,let her have some space and see eachother still,but not as much..you can't stop loving someone,tellinh yourself isn't gonna change how you feel in your heart.

Sorry it's long,just giving my opinions and advice :)

[GiggleBear]

I feel kind of the same way, if I get off the phone or they sign off or anything like that I get sad; I have noo idea why..I just feel like they don't feel the same way..

But now, I want *him* to give me space, I'm having a hard time with other things; That i can't really explain to him...
I can't even explain this..its difficult..
"love" is difficult.

[upf147]

damn, i feel the same way you do, lol, always want to be with her and cant stop thinking about her when im on my own, lol, and she wanted space, hahaha....