So she says we need a break..help me. Options

[upf147]

Ok, this sucks major a$$, my girlfriend said tonight after an argument, "I think we just need a break", she actually said this: "i can't deal with this right now... all we do is fight... and im tired of starting over.... so give me some time... i love you, and i know you love me... just give me my space for a little while" and she said she just needs time to think because lately we have argued a lot and it is getting old for both of us, we get along very well normally, but its just the weekly petty arguments we get into that bugs us both and the one we got into at a party this weekend just topped it off. And she obviously isn't going to leave me totally, she says it in a round about way, but in talking to her friend, we both figured, maybe it is for the best, she will realize more now how good of a thing we both have.

I know we will be back together, i can guaratee that but my question is, does the length of the relationship continue once you've gotten past your break? Example: We have been together 4 months, and we are on our break, so once we are back together, does that time still count?

By the way, we are both 18, we are not middle school kids, lol, so give me your views on the situation and what you think is going on, and also i was told i was smothering her lately but my excuse for that was because my mom just died about two weeks ago and my way of dealing with it was having her with me, so i was constantly trying to see her. help me.

[EyeOfTheTiger5]

I don't see why it matters if the time still counts; if I were you, I'd be more worried about making her feel like she's got just the right amount of space and finding out how she feels in a non-argumentative way.

But if the time thing does matter to you, then yes, it does, er... count. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 3 months or so and we had a break for 2 weeks or so at the end of the first month, but it still "counts" as 3.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I don't know.. me and my boyfriend don't count the three month break we had (well.. we were on and off constantly), because we were both stupid to do it.. It was my fault anyway. So we decided not to really count it, because we were still close during that time, even though we were seeing other people.

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[upf147]

no, she wont be seeing other poeple, see, its hard to explain this break, we wont be seeing other people, she just wants time alone....

[anoniez]

hum.. i don't know if a break is necessarily a good idea; the way i see breaks is just as a precursor to a breakup.. or if not that, a precedent. you know? like, the next time you guys start having a bunch of arguments her mind will immediately go to the break thing again since it mightve solved it before. i think its best for you guys to work through it, and she should really want to be there for you after your mom passed away.. =/

[*digital.fragrance*]

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that your Mom passed away - I'm praying for you.

[upf147]

UPDATE: our break only lasted three days, told you it was a different type of break, lol, and truthfully, our relationship is much better now than it was before, thanks guys/gals.

[Utish]

Have a break. it's wise decision.

[chasingvictory]

my [ex]girl and i are almost in the same exact situation. right now we're in break because of school and such. we used get in "little" fights here and there. there is nothing wrong with getting into fights. fights/ arugments are one way to know your partner better. when u have an argument its best to learn from it. so if your g/f needs a break, just trust her and give it to her. my g/f and i are on break right now and i trust her very much. she trusts me too. so yea.... to your question, i think that time still continues because your are tech. still together, you guys are just giving each other space thats all.

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UPDATE: our break only lasted three days, told you it was a different type of break, lol, and truthfully, our relationship is much better now than it was before, thanks guys/gals.

opps. i forget to read that post. thats good to hear that your relationship is better now.