What Should I Do About Him? |
 Apr 22 2006, 12:54 AM
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Ok so I've been in love with this guy for over a year and we've been going out on and off for longer, but everytime we start getting close, he dumps me because I'm "too psycho" or he "can't deal with" me. I don't get it because when he's around I'm happy and I'm not the jealous type so I don't really get how I could be psycho. & I wonder if it's just because he doesn't want to be close to anyone right now because he has a serious drinking problem and I just moved so he would never get to see me anyways.
If you have any advice .please.please.please. tell me. |
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Apr 22 2006, 09:23 AM
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 -Officially Insane- Group: Member Posts: 870 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,293 |
Fear of commitment perhaps?
Have you tried talking to him about it? |
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Apr 22 2006, 10:28 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
yeah why not talk to him
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| *My Cinderella.* |
Apr 22 2006, 10:40 AM
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May I?
 COMMUNICATION Have you tried talking to him yet? I think the only way he'll know how you feel is if you tell him. As him why he thinks you're psycho when you clearly have not done anything wrong. |
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Apr 22 2006, 11:02 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
nvm
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Apr 22 2006, 12:43 PM
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QUOTE(My Cinderella. @ Apr 22 2006, 11:40 AM)  May I? COMMUNICATION Have you tried talking to him yet? I think the only way he'll know how you feel is if you tell him. As him why he thinks you're psycho when you clearly have not done anything wrong. I agree. I also agree with the fear of commitment one. Anything is possible, so you really should talk to him and see how he feels. 
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Apr 22 2006, 01:03 PM
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 maybe it's just a dream Group: Member Posts: 117 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 394,421 |
talking… even if it's just over IM and not face to face. less pressure on you when you're talking through a computer.
 when I was going out with one of my friends that I didn't see that much, I'd talk to him over IM when I couldn't spend time with him for a while or call. we got close because it was easier to talk about things that way, so when we did break up it was easier. if you personally talking to him about it doesn't work, have one of your (good) friends ask him about it. (casually, of course… so it doesn't get suspicious) if both those don't work… then I'm out of ideas. 
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Apr 22 2006, 02:26 PM
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Thnx Peoples.
We have kinda talked about it but I do think it's a fear of commitment. Many thank yous for the advise. I dunno. He's weird. But I'm gonna marry this boyy:) Or do y'all think I should just give up on him? <3 |
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Apr 22 2006, 04:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 3,459 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,021 |
If you're not 100% comfortable with how he feels about you, or you have doubts, don't do it. It's as simple as that. It's fine not wanting to marry your boyfriend.
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Apr 22 2006, 05:16 PM
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 Hello There. Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 |
QUOTE(My Cinderella. @ Apr 22 2006, 8:40 AM) May I? COMMUNICATION Have you tried talking to him yet? I think the only way he'll know how you feel is if you tell him. As him why he thinks you're psycho when you clearly have not done anything wrong. I agree with My Cinderella. |
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Apr 22 2006, 09:21 PM
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Well I mean just overall giving up.
I have talked to him about it. He knows pretty well how I feel. Lol |
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Apr 22 2006, 10:55 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
Well...since you're only 15 I don't think it's too good of an idea to date someone with a drinking problem.
But it's basically up to you. It's just a priority thing. How big of a priority is the drinking problem, him not wanting to commit and the distance since you moved? If you feel that you can accept and make things work, you should stick with him. If you don't then...it's best to just get out of the situation. |
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| *x____duckii* |
Apr 23 2006, 01:06 PM
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QUOTE(xXxCoraHeartsYou @ Apr 22 2006, 3:26 PM) But I'm gonna marry this boyy:) Or do y'all think I should just give up on him? <3 Woman, are you serious?!?! Even you said it yourself, you guys have been going on & off on the relationship. I honestly wouldn't consider marriage if I were you. Have you thought of all the consequences? Look, you're only 15. You still have time to find some other guys. & the fact that he's an acoholic makes matters even worse. I honestly don't think you should even be w/ this guy. Period. I'm sorry if that came out harsh, but seriously. |
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Apr 25 2006, 12:20 AM
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Lol. Well all of this is the short version. If I gave the whole version it would be like 6 pages long and you'd see that he's not as bad as he seems here, but all of your advice has really helped <3
Thank you! |
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Apr 25 2006, 03:05 AM
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 in the reverb chamber. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,022 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 300,308 |
You say he thinks you're "psycho"?
Hmmm. Well, you are 15 and you are talking about marriage to a kid with an alcohol problem, with whom you have dated off and on for some time, and live a long distance from? Yeah, he's right. Psycho is the perfect word for it.
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Apr 25 2006, 04:34 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
Maybe you're too clingy.
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| *mipadi* |
Apr 25 2006, 09:50 AM
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Maybe you should just take it easy. Don't be so serious about the relationship. You're young; now is the time for having fun.
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Apr 26 2006, 11:40 AM
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Lol. I'm not seriously like Let's Get Married! I'll start the guest list! I'm just like I LOVE his personality if I end up getting married, I would like it to be with someone like him (minus the drinking) && I don't think it's really a serious drinking problem, it's just he's not old enough to be drinking in the first place so it's a drinking problem.
&I'm not clingy. Believe me. I'm the type of girl who lets guys go off with their friends when ever they want (unless it's like Ok, see ya next week! That's a pointless relationship). He didn't call me for 3 weeks and I was just like whatever, I guess we aren't gonna talk for 3 weeks. Lol. &He doesn't think I'm psycho, psycho. It's like and emotionally unstable psycho. Which I used to be but since I moved, I'm much, much better. & he wouldn't know if I was or notbecuase we hardly ever talked anyways. <3 |
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