halfway across the country with nothing to talk about Options

[jennyjenny]

So it's like this,
it's my freshman year so obviously i'm going to make friends. so i did around december and this girl was in my history class but we never really talked. she invited me to her birthday party and then we got to know each other and stuff and started hanging out on weekends and stuff.

so two weeks ago we hung out for three days-- straight. we hung out because she skipped school that thursday and she didn't want to go home because she thought she would be in trouble. when she got home on sunday she called me, said her mom gave her a dirty look for being out for 3 days, and then she went up to her room. her mom was supposed to go to california that saturday for this thing, but i guess she didn't go. we were talking on the phone about how her mom might take her to california. she already tried it back in the beginning of december, but i didn't really know her so i didn't really care. but the first time her mom begged her to come back after like a week and she did.

my friend didn't go to school on monday and i kind of got worried that her mom would do something like that. i lost my cellphone but i found it afterschool and she had sent me a text message saying her mom told her to pack at 5 in the morning and she told me the combination to her locker because i had some stuff in there.

i cried about four times that week, and it hurt even more to know that i would never see her again. it hurt to know that i hung out with her for three days and then she's just gone. she moved to my town half into 8th grade. she didn't really know anyone here. well, she did, but i don't think she hung out with a lot of people over here. so it's like whenever i talk to someone from our school about it, they were upset but i don't think they were as upset as i was about this.

it's been two weeks and everytime we talk on the phone it seems like we have nothing to talk about anymore, but it's like i want to call her and stuff, but we have nothing to talk about so it's like weird. i've gotten over it a little, but i still miss her. it made me realize about my friends, old and new, and how i never realize what i have until it's gone. am i just being over-obsessive? should i just forget about her and just not talk to her and not talk about her and just pretend she was never here or something?

[*My Cinderella.*]

I don't think you're being over-obsessive. It's normal for you to miss her and want to keep in touch. Maybe you should limit the phone call and call her on days that something interesting or funny happens so you can tell her. That way, you have more anxiety to talk to her and you'll have more to talk about. Do you have her address? Try sending her letters and little gifts and stuff. I know how you feel. A best friend of mine moved away to Florida and we still mail each other and talk on the phone. He even surprised me when he came to visit! I hope it all works out.

[silver-rain]

You shouldn't forget about her; she was a close friend of yours and shouldn't be forgotten.
I think you should ask her about her live in California, her school, etc. And maybe limit calls to when something exciting happens. I agree with My Cinderella. Perhaps you can talk online, or write letters to each other and mail gifts, etc.

[_sarcastic_]

it's alright to miss her alot. i missed my friend a ton when she moved away. yeah i agree with My Cinderella. talk go her online, on the phone etc. just make sure you guys keep in touch