telling somebody you like them., =) Options

[-sincerely]

i really want to tell this guy i like him. some days he acts like he likes me, and others he doesn't, so i'm not sure how he feels about me. but i have to tell him. and i can only tell him online, don't see him in person cos its break, and i dont have his phone number, only his screenname. but he's only on for like two seconds when he gets on, and i'm a real shy person. so i need something short and sweet to tell him. i'm not the type of person that i can just go up to a guy and say HEY I LIKE YOU. thanks tons. [=

i also dont want to ruin our friendship.

[fathomlessdame]

alright....maybe write him a note? just tell him how you feel. how soon are you getting off break?

[*My Cinderella.*]

Well telling him online would reduce the pressure. You won't be as shy. But you also won't be able to see his reaction. Is there any way you guys can hang out with a group of your friends together? That could be a good way to tell him. How close are you two as friends? In my opinion, I would just tell him how I feel.

[*SuzieRawkSoxx*]

Online it would be MUCH easier to tell him specially if your a shy person, i suggest you spit it out at ones right when he signs on wait 30 seconds and IM him just start off i really have to talk to you... then just let it flow.

[-sincerely]

alright....maybe write him a note? just tell him how you feel. how soon are you getting off break?

i have a week and a half, and today was my first day.
i can't write him, i don't see him in school anymore, only during the play i did. =( thats why i have to IM him.

Well telling him online would reduce the pressure. You won't be as shy. But you also won't be able to see his reaction. Is there any way you guys can hang out with a group of your friends together? That could be a good way to tell him. How close are you two as friends? In my opinion, I would just tell him how I feel.

hmm, when you ask how close .. ummm on a scale of 1 - 10 close? lol.
well we only knew each other for three months, but whenever we were at play practice we always were together. lol. and then whenever we did do a few group things, our friends and us, we were always together. ummm 1-10 can i say a 9 1/2?

[-sincerely]

more comments welcomedd.

[imnoxonesmemory]

ahh i have this problem too..
well... i think telling him online would be good, just let him know you're a little shy. if he really is a friend he wont be "mean" about it.
or. like someone else said, you could write him a short note.

[-sincerely]

thankssss. i hope you conquer (probably spelled wrong?) the problem soon, too. [=

[Chii]

I think the guy likes you, just hang out with him and tell him in person. Things like this should be said face to face. I got really embarassed but I still got it out and now we're a bit serious.

[misoshiru]

Online is usually the worst ways to tell someone you like them. First of all, you can't see their reaction. And second of all, they might not take it too seriously. I mean, online shows a lack of personal feelings. How do I know? Because I come from a school where we supposedly "know" someone online, but not really in person. A question I want to ask is, do you mainly talk to him online or in person? When you're online, it seems easier to say something because you're away from them. But, this also makes the other person avoid the topic easier. You can tell him online, but it's always better in person.

[-sincerely]

I talk to him more in person, but I don't see him in the hallways anymore, it was just during the play I saw him, and the play is over now. =(

[-sincerely]

ah, he was just on, which he never is, so i talk about vacation.
i'm soooo shy i can'ttt. =( i mean i was about to, but he always gets off so fast.

[anniepiee]

Hint it out to him
Or make it serious, grab his attention, and tell him.
Best wishes

[JustAnotherTeena...]

You say he signs on/off really fast...are you sure he doesn't just go invisible?

[seremela_culnamo]

Never tell someone that you like them online. If the guy's a jerk, he will just go offline or simply pretend he's not there. Believe me, I have been through that when I was back in grade 9.

I can't say much because I never told a guy I liked him. Well except for that time in grade 9. Then the one now, he figured out that I liked him weeks before he forced the truth out of my best friend. Then stuff happened and whatnot, with me not knowing because my best friend didn't tell me that she told him until I read this poem out loud that was dedicated to my crush. Imagine how embarassing that was! It was in front of the entire class, too. Anywho, whenever I was confused about it, I would write a note to him. The first note, I wanted him to read it. But the second, I didn't. My friend convinced me to give it to him and whatnot.

Anyway, I won't go into detail. It depends on whether or not you want to see his reaction. So either give him a note or call him. After doing either those two or whatever you want to do, it's up to you. Please don't run away though. Don't be like me. I would run away after I got my friend to give him the note in front of me. Or if he calls after something happens, I will tell my mom to say that I'm not home. Or if I pick up, I will say I'm really busy and have to go.

Good luck. But don't rush into anything. Tell him if you think that he will stay friends with you after you tell him, in case it goes all wrong. Luckily, my crush and I are still best friends. Well, at least that's what he thinks. I don't know anymore. Meh. No point of mentioning it here since it's not my thread.

[-sincerely]

Today, for the first time ever, he IMed me first. He said yo, so I said hiya. haha. and we were typing at the same time, but his came out first, and he said, "gotta go." and i didn't see it yet, so i accidentally sent him, "i have to tell you something, but it's really hard for me." he got off, so next time he's on, i guess i'll update you guys. (=


I can't call, I don't have his number. =(
I also don't see him in school anymore, it was only during the school play I did, so I have to tell him online. Thanks for the advice, though. I appericiate it mucho. :D

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Do that 3-way call thing they did in Mean Girls. If he has a girl-friend (not girlfriend) that you are a bit close to, have her do a 3-way while you listen and she ask the questions

[-sincerely]

Haha, that's a really good idea. If only I knew how to 3-way with my phone. :( Because he does have a friendgirl who I'm friends with. =o

[-sincerely]

Now I can't use that person, she can't keep secrets, spread some of mine around, so I can't do a threeway. =( yesterday I started telling him, but he had to get off.

[Paradox of Life]

If you don't feel comfortable telling him you like him to his face what makes you think you'll be comfortable in a full-blown relationship with him?

[*chaneun*]

"I'm trying to ask people I don't really know to the movies, so I can bond more with them. Do you have the time to go?"

Then after a few times of hanging out with him, you should be closer to him, much closer. So when you feel more open with him, just tell him. "I really like you, as more than just a friend."

[bumbumx3]

Ahh. I feel the same way. Like right now. Whoa. I think it`d be best to tell him like after break. In person. I think if you really want to be with this person, telling him face to face would be the best. Even though he might not feel the same way and you`ll get your heart cracked a bit, it`ll help you in the future. So. But whatever you do is you. Good Luck.

[seremela_culnamo]

I agree with x0x_kisses about telling him after the break. Why? That way if it doesn't go well, at least you don't have him the next day or over a short period of time to recover from it.

[-sincerely]

hehe. Thanks guys. :)

If you don't feel comfortable telling him you like him to his face what makes you think you'll be comfortable in a full-blown relationship with him?

It's not that, it's just that I never see him anymore in school, it only has to be online now.
Sorry, that was a little attitudish. I just had a fight with my friend, so I'm all
It's just because in my opinion, of course, the hardest part is telling somebody, and once you get through that I think you can get through most relationship problems.

[purrfecto]

you should say it in person. it will be much more meaningful to both of you, and perhaps he will even be impressed with your bravery. if you really don't see him as much, try to find out his schedule from his friends or something so you can find him. haha, that's my advice

[-sincerely]

thanks. yeah going off to guidance (the people who handle the schedules) to ask for some guy's schedule would seem awkward haha.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

tell him :-)

[-sincerely]

hehe, i hope i can.
the thing is, i think he's ignoring me now.
we were typing at the same time, and his g2g came in first.
and then came quickly along my, "i gotta tell you something thats kind of hard for me to say."
so, i'm not sure now. =\

[iheartsimba]

k so..i don't know that over AIM is the best approach to an I like you, thing. I think..you need to start talking to this boy on the phone! that's how i always do it =] eventually maybe you could start talking on a daily basis, and it's reeeally easy to tell them then. just ask question sort of leaning toward an "i like you" but not entirely..like "what kind of girls do you like" i usually fall for guys like you" it's a lot easier to come out when it's more indirect until you can get to it directly. then if he keeps talking to you and giving you similar messages back..it's so much easier to tell him you like him if he's giving you the same idea back. just i wouldn't let it be a shock to him, because sometimes people freak out when they are rushed into deciding if they might feel the same. so yeah, that's my thoughts

[-sincerely]

Thanks. It's his birthday today. heh. I was about to ask him if he wanted to hang out because he has no birthday plans, but his mom was yelling at him. Its so hard to find the right time with him. Maybe I'll ask my friends for his number.

[seremela_culnamo]

I don't know your crush, but if he's similiar to my crush, it's somewhat a good thing. Meaning he can read people easily. Not good when you want to shy away from him, but good when you want him to know something is up. Anyway, my crush found out that I liked him when I didn't even want him to know that I like him. Like I said one simple sentence and he kinda guessed it was true. This is what I said when we were alone in his car when he took me out to buy some stuff, "I was worried that you liked -my best friends name-". I said that when he asked me what type of guys I liked, when we talked about my best friend who likes this jerk. So yea, from that, he guessed. It was a slip, but then I seriously didn't think he will take it more than anything and would read it wrong (well, wrong in the sense that it allowed him to know the truth!). Eventually he forced the truth out of my best friend, so yea.

All I'm trying to say is that if you want him to know, say it casually as if it's not on purpose. Only if he can read people well though! But since you actually want him to know, I suggest casually telling him, but not so indirectly like the way I did.

I hope you get what I mean. It's kind of confusing to explain the suggestion I'm trying to provide you with. Best of luck =) I will always stop by to see how it's going. It reminds me a bit of myself.

[-sincerely]

Heh, thanks. :) I'd rather indirectly tell him, then directly tell him. Well, it doesn't really matter, actually. It's just the approach I'm bad with.

[seremela_culnamo]

I get what you mean by approaching him is hard. I find it hard to approach my crush, especially when he wants to talk. I just found out awhile ago how he's always asking my friends about me.

By the way, do you think there's any chance that he might have a feeling that you like him? It's nothing big, I'm just asking out of curiousity.

[-sincerely]

Some days you can really tell, and some days you cannot, but overall I think he does.

[babiexmuii]

personallyyy i go for the timid innocent girl approach
likeee the way i did was just "i think i kinda like you"
so its straightforward no doubt but its sweeet.
or just be like.
hey you're cool im cool lets get together mannn

haha idk just flow with it

[-sincerely]

rofl the, "hey you're cool i'm cool let get together, man" thing made me laugh. I'm just really scared to see what he says, I guess.

[GREASEbaby]

Just be friendly. Invite him places, and just HANG OUT. Ask him out, it's not as hard. Remember me? The shy girl? I asked a guy out (who was a VERY close friend of mine, on a scale of 1-10, 9 1/2, btw ), and it actually turned into a two+ month relationship. Just go for it. I believe in you And you may be wondering where you say, "hey I like you". That's the awesome part - you don't have to say those words. He'll eventually get the hint.

[-sincerely]

Thanks.
I'm so bad, hehe. I'm not going to be here tomorrow, and I slept over my friends house a few nights ago. I gave her his sn, and I told her to IM him when he signs on and say something like, "this is Ashley's friend. Her sn was still linked so I got her sn. You know she really likes you?" she's going to then call me to tell me what he says, and we'll play it by ear like that. ;) Once he knows, I'll have more confidence in asking him out, I think.

[seremela_culnamo]

Hmm, are you sure about this? I got my friend who didn't know my crush to tell him for me on MSN about me liking him (back in grade 9). All he did was tell her that he only liked me as a friend. Any more than that? Nope. He didn't say anything important to her after that. So regardless of whether or not he likes you back, he's not really going to open up to your friend. It's really unlikely he would, because it will be a total stranger and he doesn't know who she is. So for all he thinks, he might be talking to some girl who he might not be able to trust, since she might take things the wrong way. I hope you get what I mean. If you really want a friend to tell him for you online, get someone who knows him. Or at school.

[-sincerely]

Hhmmm. You have a point. Now I'm not sure if I'm going to have her do that. I won't be online at all tomorrow, and I do want him to know before break ends... =\

[seremela_culnamo]

Hmm, I know it's really hard, scary and uncomfortable to talk to a guy you like about anything that's related to you liking him. Is there no way that you can't reach him on the phone or something? If you really want him to know, you can always write him a letter. I'm that type of person, though people really think I should confront and talk things through with my crush (he knows though, and he's doing the pursuing, if you read my latest thread). Anyway, if you do, and you want to give it to him personally, but you can't, you can always get a friend who will be seeing him to give it to him. But since it's the break, he's probably not always around. So if you really want, I think it will be really cute if you write him a note, go to his house when you know he's home, drop off the letter and ring the doorbell. Then run for it & hide in the bushes to see whether or not he got it. Or even better, he opens it! Okay, I was just kidding about the bushes part, I think. But if you ever do something like that, there's a chance of someone from his family getting to it first. Unless you write something on the envelope about being directed towards him and nobody else. & if you're scared that someone will read it and know it's you, which I'm sure you will sign with your name, is there a nickname he has for you that nobody knows? Or anything that will give a dead on clue that it's you, but nobody in his family would know of?

[-sincerely]

If I knew where he lived, I'd be probably the happiest person ever. Haha. See, I don't want people knowing I like him until he knows first, unless its a close friend of mine. Infact, only two of my friends know, and one friend blabbed it to somebody on accident, but the person she blabbed it to is my friend, as well, and she promised to keep it a secret. I really have to tell him the next time he's on.

"Do you promise we'll always be friends?"
"Yes why...."

Then I tell him. Does that sound, idk, childish or something?

[QUELZ]

If you reaaaaaaaly like someone never ever ever ver tel that person by emial trust me on this one i did it and it wasnt a fun experiant

[seremela_culnamo]

That can be a way to tell him, about asking him that you guys will always be friends first. It will sound more natural that way, but if you do start things off like that, you musn't chicken out. If you do, he will know something is going on.

Good luck with that =) Hope all goes well!

[-sincerely]

Thanks. (= I think starting it out like that will make the words flow more natural for myself.

[-sincerely]

Cupid (12:59:49 PM): Cupid Strikes! hisscreenname guessed correctly that you sent the IM crush. Surprise other friends with an IM crush by typing crush now or type menu for more fun.

[-sincerely]

Ok, so after that he signed on then off really quickly, do you think he is ignoring me now?

[AznChollo15]

i think, online chat would be way easier, smoother, and releases alot of tension. goin up 2 him n tellin him how u feel. i began a relationship by jus hangin out with her n we started 2 talk on the phone, we became very good friends and then it became official,(relationship), im so happy. i hope u will be 2. good luck. i hope im not 2 late replying

[AzNxBaBi]

Wow, so you guys met at a play thing? Oh dear that's exactly like me. I know for sure the guy i like likes me back. But like stupid me I want him to make the first move and i'm not sure if i'm ready so yeah. And i've only met him for about 3 months too. Lol Anyways back to you, face to face approach is best but it's hard right? I mean to look at someone and tell them you like them is weird. But On AiM that's just kind of awkward but it's better if you are a shy person. I think the guy you like seems to be a very busy person. So if you by chance tell him when you see him "i need your help on something get online today" or something. But don't make it so obvious cause like he probably avoid if you think he is ignoring you.

I'm still dealing with mines, he wants me to tell him who i like but i'm like ahhh. Lol
Just take your time, there is no reason to rush. Don't have doubts like me and don't let yoruself get pressure because of a crush. :] Best of luck.

[-sincerely]

i think, online chat would be way easier, smoother, and releases alot of tension. goin up 2 him n tellin him how u feel. i began a relationship by jus hangin out with her n we started 2 talk on the phone, we became very good friends and then it became official,(relationship), im so happy. i hope u will be 2. good luck. i hope im not 2 late replying

Thanks. You aren't.

Wow, so you guys met at a play thing? Oh dear that's exactly like me. I know for sure the guy i like likes me back. But like stupid me I want him to make the first move and i'm not sure if i'm ready so yeah. And i've only met him for about 3 months too. Lol Anyways back to you, face to face approach is best but it's hard right? I mean to look at someone and tell them you like them is weird. But On AiM that's just kind of awkward but it's better if you are a shy person. I think the guy you like seems to be a very busy person. So if you by chance tell him when you see him "i need your help on something get online today" or something. But don't make it so obvious cause like he probably avoid if you think he is ignoring you.

I'm still dealing with mines, he wants me to tell him who i like but i'm like ahhh. Lol
Just take your time, there is no reason to rush. Don't have doubts like me and don't let yoruself get pressure because of a crush. :] Best of luck.

Haha what a similar situation.
Well, I know he knows I like him. I sent him a crush with the AIM bot Cupid, and he guessed it was me. And the weird thing -- you only get a limited amount of guesses. So idk if the clues gave me away, or if he wanted it to be me, or whatever. So next time he's on (I was in the shower when it happened, so when I returned to the computer he was off) I guess I'll talk to him about what happened. Tomorrow's school, I hope he doesn't tell anybody.

[-sincerely]

Eh. Problem resolved. I hate boys.
He doesn't like me. My friend over AIM told him. And then he was like, "really? I can never look at her the same again, I'm never talking to her now." So I called my friend up on the phone and I was like, "say it was a joke." So she told him that, and now we're talking and we're friends again and we're talking, but I think he thinks that she was telling the truth and trying to cover me up, but he said he's going to try to make her feel bad, so I don't know if he seriously thinks that or whatnot.

[-sincerely]

Can somebody delete this?

[seremela_culnamo]

Oh no!! I'm sorry to hear that ashopely =( I was rooting for you the entire way.

Sigh* At least you know the truth right? I wish I knew the truth about my crush. If you want to read about it, you can swing by my site on my profile. It officially sucks o.O

I don't even know if I can talk to my crush. I just want to scream at him.

[-sincerely]

Thanks. Just to let you know -- my name's Ashley. =D

Why do you wanna scream at him? D: -too lazy to go to the site- heh.
PM me.