conversation starters Options

[mastashake15]

i have a girlfriend and she is really cool and stuff.
we've been going out since 04/04/06
we talk alot online and it goes really well.
but when we are actually together,
things get kinda quiet and she tends to go away
and hangs out with her friends.
she tries to start conversations
but without realizing it, i end it pretty soon
by giving simple and short answers.
i try hugging her and holding her hand
but she still walks around to her friends
can you help?
i need good conversation starters

[Paradox of Life]

I don't think you know her very well. You don't even seem like friends, much less more than friends.

[jue]

well; its still the begining of the relationship so maybe thats how it is when things first start out. Give it sometime.

and as for conversation starters. hm talk about the day? food? clothes? anything that can lead into other conversations.

[Gigi]

You probably just come off as a bit indifferent and...judgmental? When a girl talks to a guy that doesn't care about how stupid he sounds, and talks about anything and everything, she'll stop caring, too. Then the inhibitions disappear. I can say this because the guys I have the most fun talking to are the ones that can talk about anything, and in turn make me feel more comfortable when I talk about anything also.

So try to be a bit more talkative and try throwing in anything of remote interest into your conversations, no matter how random they seem. The girl will definitely appreciate your effort at making conversation.

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

A definite turn off for me is a guy who doesn't know how to start and hold a conversation. When you reply with one-sided answers, any girl will figure you really aren't interested in talking to her, or in her at all. So, here are a few things you can try:

1. ask her about her plans for the day
2. compliment her on her clothing, hairstyle, whatever
3. ask her about her hobbies and things she likes to do on her spare time
4. maybe even talk about what she wants to do with her life, if she's open

But the most key factor to holding a conversation is LOOKING INTERESTED, even if you actually aren't.

[shadowchild]

I'm having the same problem, except the reason I'm having this problem is because we've run out of things to talk about because we've talked soooo much.

Try to just talk about something random.

Ask about her day, or something as simple as talking about something that happened at school. Ask her what she has for homework, and compliment her (girls love that).

Sorry I can't be of much help, but like I said, I'm having the same problem.

[mastashake15]

oh yeah, I forgot to say that she's in my class
so im like with her everyday and
we know how each others day was

[shadowchild]

yeah, that's how it is with me too...

so I guess yeah, I wasn't much help, sorry.

[Chii]

I think you should actually take her out. If you took her out somewhere, it would be just the two of you. That way, she can't run off to her friends when the conversation dies.

Talk to her about whatever you can think about. Like last week, my darling and I were in the car and I saw a bilboard displaying an ugly green car and we talked for awhile about it and it branched into commercials, food, animals, pets, etc.

In class, you can talk to her about music. Today, this guy I barely know struck up a conversation with me about music such as Fall Out Boy (he called them Fall Out Boys), Mariah Carey, Kelly Clarkson, Kanye West, James Blunt ( ) etc. I kind of wanted him to leave me the hell alone at the beginning but as we talked I got into the conversation.

[mastashake15]

yeah
i took her out today and went to the mall
we walked around at least 10 times
we talked and held a conversation for very long
there was only one awkward silence
which lasted less that a minute