straight guy or not?, aprroaching him |
 Apr 7 2006, 12:04 AM
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 cheeeesy like theres no tomorrow  Group: Member Posts: 3,316 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,142  |
Well I have had this crush on a guy since I was a sophmore and now I am a senior. I have always been friends with him and before junior year he got a girlfriend but they dont seem together as much anymore. He has several indications that he might be gay or bi atleast its just i dont know if i should approach him. You know when you have such a crush on someone that it urks you. Like i am not very feminine, i doubt that if i were friends with any of you, you would think that i was bi or gay. But i dont know, Am i just second guessing myself but i dont know what to do.
Should i approach him and tell him? or should i just drop it and not risk losing a friend? If any guys are reading this how would you respond. Please respond i wanna see how you would react. negative or positive. |
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Apr 7 2006, 12:25 AM
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what indications made you doubt his sexuality?
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Apr 7 2006, 06:23 AM
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Are you a guy or a girl
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Apr 7 2006, 02:44 PM
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cheeeesy like theres no tomorrow Group: Member Posts: 3,316 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,142 |
QUOTE(TearsOfAPhoenix @ Apr 7 2006, 12:25 AM)  what indications made you doubt his sexuality? He cares about his appearance, he is basically a metro. He dances very well, and other things but i dont know if they are just typical traits that anyone could have or if it is just me being paranoid. oh yea and he also struts his ass kind of like its weird lol, i know i sound stupid. I am a guy. |
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| *My Cinderella.* |
Apr 7 2006, 03:12 PM
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QUOTE(pandamonium @ Apr 7 2006, 3:44 PM) He cares about his appearance, he is basically a metro. He dances very well, and other things but i dont know if they are just typical traits that anyone could have or if it is just me being paranoid. oh yea and he also struts his ass kind of like its weird lol, i know i sound stupid. ^ Hmm...that would fall more into the metrosexual category in my opinion.I guess it depends on whether how you think he'll react to it. Do you think he'll freak? Or will he remain your friend? I don't mean to ask you so many questions but, how close are you two? |
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Apr 7 2006, 04:34 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
So a person is gay when they care about their appearance, can dance and strut? Lots of guys are like that!
Just go for it, you've both been friends for awhile so if he's gay and not interested, he'd tell you. You can still be friends if the feelings aren't mutual. |
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Apr 7 2006, 06:39 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
Ask him if he's bisexual. You guys are friends, right?
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| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Apr 7 2006, 07:31 PM
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Well if you see him checking out a guy the way a girl does or harass a guy...there's your deal getting sealed.
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Apr 7 2006, 09:07 PM
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i think you should get a girl friend to ask him...it wouldn't seem as obvious then.
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Apr 7 2006, 10:37 PM
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^ Good idea.
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Apr 8 2006, 09:11 AM
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The safest way to ask is to get a girl friend to ask. You're scared of ruining your friendship so that would be the safest thing. It isn't the best solution because its only a bandage. If he is gay or bi you'll still have to reveal your feelings to him. So there really is no way around it, but don't worry if yall have been friends for a while it shouldn't be a problem. True friends understand that friendship means more than a broken crush.
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Apr 8 2006, 03:38 PM
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cheeeesy like theres no tomorrow Group: Member Posts: 3,316 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,142 |
QUOTE(je like french @ Apr 7 2006, 9:07 PM) i think you should get a girl friend to ask him...it wouldn't seem as obvious then. I did ask my bestfriend to ask him, he said "nooo" and then like a couple of months later he got his first girlfriend. which was kind of suspicious. you know what i mean? like he got a girl after. We arent that close but i have known him for a while. he is a little more than acquaintance but we arent that great of friends. |
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Apr 8 2006, 04:39 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 979 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 205,020 |
those 2 actions aren't necessarily related, though. a couple of months is a long time in this situation. get another girl friend to ask him, maybe?
then again, if he was freaked out when a girl asked him, he might be even more freaked out if you, a boy, asked him even if you guys are good friends. does he know you're gay? |
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