abortion ?, quick questiong Options

[crazi_in_love_08]

ok my friend thinks she is pregnant .. she doesnt want to tell her mom .. her boyfriend is 18 .. she said if she is pregnant she would like to get an abortion becuase she doesnt want to mess up her schooling .. would her boyfriend be able to take her and get an abortion without her parents knowing ??

[sparkling_tears0...]

I think the best thing would for her to tell her mom.

[crazi_in_love_08]

ok.. but would he be able to take her and get one without them knowing ?

[cheerbee07]

it depends on where your friend lives.

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also, how far along your friend is can also effect whether she can get an abortion.

i really, truly, think that she should tell a parent or trusted adult though. abortion is a serious decision and is often emotionally scarring or can even result in death if not done properly.

[silver-rain]

It depends. But yeah, first check if in your state you can have abortions without parental consent.
But, you said your friend thinks she's pregnant. She might not be; has she taken a pregnancy test and verified it? You can go to a Planned Parenthood and get one done for free, and they will also tell you your options if you are pregnant I think.

[anoniez]

if it was recent (within the last week), she can get an emergency birth control pill.. ("morning after" but it works up to 5-6 days after), check this out: http://ec.princeton.edu/

[*My Cinderella.*]

Has your friend taken a pregnancy test yet? If not, then I don't think she should rush into the abortion thing. She should find out for sure, and then probably tell her mother.

[Flavored Condom]

There are clinics in certain areas that allow kids who can afford it to have an abortion without their parents knowing. So yeah i think your boyfriend can help, but even though it's scary her mom should know about this.

[_sarcastic_]

check around, and double check again. just in case.
if she hasn't done a pregnancy test, she should do that first, just to clarify that she is pregnant

[Paradox of Life]

At 18, abortion is a major health risk. It's even worse if her parents don't know. She should definitely tell her parents. Is it really realistic that she abort a baby and her mom never find out? Her mom might even be supportive and help take care of the baby while the girl's at school. Who knows? You can't keep secrets like that from your parents though.

[Spec_R]

okay got a random question...what if she lives in a state that have a law to tell your parents and a near side state have no requirement. Could she go to a near by state and do abortion?

[Flavored Condom]

^She can do so, I think, but I think it's way safer to tell the parents. It'll get worse if they find out someday sooner.

[crazi_in_love_08]

how much does an abortion cost ? she hasnt take the test yet .. shes not 18 .. her boyfriend is .. shes 16

[silver-rain]

Well, I think she should get tested first before she even think of abortions, just to make sure that she is pregnant.
If she is pregnant, I think she should talk to a clinic (like Planned Parenthood) and they will discuss abortions with her, including the cost. I think it can get expensive though, but it might depend on how far along she it, etc.

[misoshiru]

how much does an abortion cost ? she hasnt take the test yet .. shes not 18 .. her boyfriend is .. shes 16

If she's not 18 yet, and her boyfriend is, things could get much worse if her parents found out afterwards. But he could get charged with statutory rape in any case.

And jeezus, just have her take the freaking Pregnancy Test already. If she doesn't know yet, then find out before considering abortion.

[Spec_R]

if her parents try to sue him but she said she love him and he didn't rape her.....I know he won't be going to jail but will he get sue and pay fines?

If he still does then i think it's wack! paying a fine because he love somebody?

[IceCream4U]

^The raping/sueing stuff isn't about this topic. This topic is for whether or not the maybe-pregnant girl should tell her mom or not that she's a non-virgin.

Well, I probably wouldn't do this - but your friend should tell her mom. Like what one person said - the mother might actually be supportive and be with her on the abortion.

It wouldn't hurt for her just to tell her mom. Even if she does get mom, her mom can't do anything about it. What's done is done - and sex most likely isn't going to ruin a mother daughter relationship, ya know? Hopefully your friend's mom loves her daughter enough to understand the situation she's in, and help her cope through it.

However, your friend can just go through with the birth, and give it up for adoption. I don't know, this is seeming a little close-minded. Either death or having to live with the baby. Which isn't true.

If she gives it up for adoption, maybe she can ask an aunt, older sister or something like that to adopt it, and once your friend is ready to have her baby back. Or, if she wouldn't feel comfortable with that - fine. At least she would be able to watch her baby grow. It's just her decision. But she really should tell her mother about this.

[marzipan]

yes, take the test before u even assume that she's pregnant

[REBELnDISGUISE]

Honestly... I'm against abortion. If your friend is like... real young... theres a chance that the baby can be born prematurely... She should definitly talk to her parents about it.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

Yeah, she can get an abortion without her parents consent. It's not illegal I read about it in a magazine, but I do think it's best if your boyfriend is there. Has your friend told her boyfriend that she might possibly be pregnant b/c I'm jusst waiting on my period. Don't stress about it.. b/c right now I think I'm pregnant, but then I jusst think about how I had safe sex && how even if I was pregnant I would talk about it with my boyfriend.. b/c my parents && then other people would treat me differently && I would have screwed up my whole life if I kept the baby!!.. But I think your friend should first take a at home pregnancy test && if it's positive I think she should go to planned parenthood care center.. && then after that she should tell her boyfriend that she is.. && ask him what he thinks about it.. I mean I know it's her decision && all but it's best to get the opinion of the person who helped you make it.. You couldn't have done it all by yourself.